Question: If you had the opportunity to go out before all of the people of Israel, for example, through the newspaper or television, so that everyone would be able to read or listen to you, what would you want to say to them?

Answer: I would say to the people of Israel that in our world there is a special faucet in the hands of every person.  Ae person can open up the tap and get the upper force from there which will begin to work on him.

This faucet is Channel 66 [in Israel, kab.tv on the Internet] that can be turned on by his regular television remote. He could open this faucet, connect himself to this source, and he will get nourishment day and night. And then he will see how this will begin to influence him.

And likewise, if he has the possibility, then he can participate in our activities, in unity workshops, and discussion circles. Nothing more is required.

Question: This means that it is an opportunity to go to the “Kabbalah for All” centers that are scattered throughout the country or to connect to Channel 66? Suppose that I clicked on Channel 66 with the remote and opened this faucet to the upper force: What next?

Answer: Next is that the force found on this channel would begin to work and influence you. I don’t have anything more to add. All the rest the person will get from this channel. Nothing is demanded of him except for pressing on the two buttons: “6-6” and that’s all. We hope that he will at least do this. For indeed it is said: “What the mind doesn’t do, time does.”

Question: But to wait until time will do this, this means to go on the path of suffering? We don’t want to wait until the person suffers enough and will then come out of desperation!

Answer: What else can I do? I invite and explain. Absorb everything that comes out of this channel and you will see how you will begin to see what is happening. And as a result of this understanding, meaning from the inner change, an external change will happen in the world.

The way of correction is like this and in a this way you will feel how you realize the Torah, not that Torah that you are used to thinking of but the true Torah.

I wish for all the people of Israel to advance by the good way of the Light, the way of “I will hasten it” (Achishena) and not by the way of suffering and wars. In any case we must advance forward and make sense of the world, there is no doubt about it. We must be the adapter that connects between the upper force and the nations of the world; this has been known since the days of Abraham.

There is no choice, we cannot flee from this task. So we hope that we can realize our mission in the good way of the Light. “So let there be Light”!
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From KabTV’s “The Mission of the People of Israel” 7/8/14

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Question: In a corrected society when someone harms me must there be a judge to whom I can turn with my complaint?

Answer: No, I must sit together with the one who harmed me and scrutinize the incident. It might be necessary to invite additional people so we will have ten people in a circle. The problem is not that he did something bad to me; rather it is that we have done general harm to everyone.

The dispute between us is not a private problem between me and you. Through it we have harmed the entire society and so it is up to us to solve it in a general way, with the participation of the society. There is nothing to be ashamed of and hide here. It is very important to scrutinize together with everyone how we can correct this defect. You did not hurt me personally; rather through me you hurt the entire society. This approach is absolutely different from that which exists today. So all of us must scrutinize what the damage is, why this happened, and correct it together.

Basically, it is up to us to acknowledge that we are guilty that you committed a transgression. This is because for us as a society there wasn’t a strong enough influence to keep you on the right track. This means that the person who committed the transgression is not guilty; rather first of all the society, his environment is guilty of not investing enough in him and making it possible for him to behave this way. This is a much more global problem than how it seems to us today.

Question: In a circumstance like this, what is the role of the judge?

Answer: The judge only helps us to reach clarification; he explains to us that the problem is not in an isolated person, rather in his environment. The person is a product of his environment. He is born with us and was always among us. We are familiar with him, where he studies, his workplace, his family. So what happened all of a sudden that we didn’t succeed in holding him to higher morality? Why did he suddenly fall? Apparently he lost the connection with us, and so we are to blame!

Question: It is logical that the judgment is not only in regard to the perpetrator, but the entire society?

Answer: As is understood, the judgment is not in regard to him at all. He is a product of the society, so all blame is on the environment.

Question: If so, must we scrutinize all of the minor controversies here and there between one person and another together with the entire society from morning to night?

Answer: It could be that this is so. But through this all of us advance. We discover the places where we have not worked enough on the connection between us making it possible for us to influence each other. In this way the entire society will rise. Newer and newer problems will be revealed, but they will strengthen the unity in a society all the time until it becomes like“one person with one heart.

Question: This is completely different from our attitude today where there is the accused and the accusers. Today the court determines who is right and who is to blame. And in a corrected society, individual guilt doesn’t exist at all and all scrutiny happens on the societal level?

Answer: Indeed even today the perpetrator asks the court for a pardon, justifying himself by saying that he grew up without parents, outside of the home, in a bad environment, was expelled from school, and lacks education. He also comes with claims against the society.

But we are not ready to hear these claims; instead we simply send him to prison for ten years. But maybe it is worthwhile to listen, could it be that he is justified? But the society is not ready to hear this.

The court system in the corrected society is found in the hands of the people and the nation judges itself. Through this it rises all the time. This is what meant, (Deuteronomy 16:18) “You shall set up judges and law enforcement officials for yourself in all your cities….”
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From Kab TV’s “A New Life” 6/17/14

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Question: We are in the midst of a very dramatic situation these days. Three boys were kidnapped in the Hebron area: one 19 and the other two 16. The military and police mobilized to search for them. The discovery of their murder outraged the Israeli people and led to a retaliatory murder of a Palestinian youth by Israeli extremists. Rocket assaults from Gaza have ensued as the hostilities have escalated.

These situations usually invoke a desire to connect and to unite among the people. People express love, concern and empathy with regard to bringing back the boys safely. What was actually happening in our country?

Answer: I can only say one thing: We have already been in such situations several times, when we had to unite under external pressure, and it didn’t bring us to anything good. This is how the nation reacts instinctively. Even animals unite when they encounter enemies. Therefore, I don’t see anything special about that, just an instinctive animal desire to unite in time of danger or when facing a common problem.

Why doesn’t this lead to any positive results, especially when we look at what happens when the danger is gone? The general awakening takes place under the pressure of negative forces that threaten us.

If the desire to unite, to complement one another, and to feel everyone as having one goal stemmed from the people themselves, it would have had a great positive influence, since it would be our desire to unite without the negative external effects that force us to unite. Therefore, I don’t see anything especially positive in the burst of the current unity. We have already been in such situations many times in the past. The impression of our current unity at the moment is meaningless. The Russian nation united during WWII and today we also witness the unity of both positive and negative forces in many countries. This isn’t the unity I would like to speak about.

The Israeli nation was created as a result of its unity around an idea to become one nation, as one man in one heart, to be in one desire, so that everyone can be equal and good to one another, so that everyone would feel others and stop feeling himself in this unity. It is as if a person moves to another dimension, feeling and measuring everything not inside him but on the outside. This is called love thy neighbor as thyself.

In this case we acquire the feeling of a totally different existence and begin to evoke the influence of the immense integral, global force of nature upon us, which at the moment is revealed in humanity as a negative force because we are not compatible with it and don’t advance towards connection among us. If we began to advance towards unity, we would resemble the one general nature and would reach a totally different existence, our people and also all of humanity. Then all the conflicts and problems in the world would disappear.

Question: Why is it wrong that the tragic kidnapping and murder of the three youths has united us?

Answer: It is wrong because we advance towards unity under the influence of negative forces. This is a sign from above that we are not doing the right thing, and nothing more than that.

Everything will quiet down as usual and we will all go back to our normal life where no one cares about others, and no one wants to be connected to anyone, each one living alone, proud of his ego, of his uniqueness, of being detached from others.

This state of general empathy is natural for any nation. These states don’t lead to correction and don’t bring our ascent to the next level.

Comment: But there are no examples in history of people who united when things went well. It only happens when there are troubles.

Answer: That’s true, but we have to understand the essence of unity and why we advance that way. There is a reason. The global crisis is an indication that we are in a certain field that manifests itself as increasingly closed and unified. It has general laws, and humanity is incompatible with them. The whole world around us—the still, vegetative, and animate levels of nature—is in a single development and a clear mutual interdependence.  And people are not. It is as if we enter nature tear it to pieces by our egoism instead of ascending above it and connecting between us to bring ourselves and nature to an even greater ascent.

Many scientists speak about that although no one operates that way since it is against our egoistic nature. We should understand that meaning of the ego, which was given to us so that we will ascend above it and thus ascend to the next level of our evolution.

We have passed the egoistic phase of our evolution. We have used our ego for ages to its fullest and during the last century it has grown exponentially and reached a dead end. We have nowhere else to grow. We are in a serious crisis.

We can interpret the crisis as a fall and also as the point of the birth of a new world; the word “crisis” in Greek means birth, solution, a turning point. We can continue to ascend from this point, but in order to do that, we have to understand the meaning of the crisis and the reason for it. Its essence is in the fact that we cannot continue to develop egoistically, separately from one another. We will be able to keep on developing only if we are connected to one another and thus resemble nature.

We mustn’t look back. The past is over. We are at a crossroad where we have to change our attitude towards ourselves, towards life, and understand that nature requires us to become one whole. Just as the still, vegetative, and animate nature are connected, humanity must also bring itself to the same state consciously so that we are connected correctly.

Professor V. Vernadsky speaks about that as do many other researchers, scientists, and philosophers. But we must carry it out! How? There is a method of connection for it.

Therefore, I think that we have to take advantage of the current situation in order to guide people to the right connection. When we connect people, we will show them the power in such a connection and how this power is expressed immediately. This is the first thing.

Second, we can do a lot even with small forces. When people connect correctly, when they are equal to one another, they invoke inside them the revelation of the positive integral force of nature that influences everything and corrects everything.

We don’t need to correct anything or do anything except make integral circles, where people come together and have special discussions and clarifications on the principles of equality and unity. Currently, I would ask all our friends in Israel (thousands of people) to try to organize workshops wherever they think is right: in parks, cafes, or workplaces.

We have to discuss two things only: First we have to discuss how we can reach a state where everyone sees the others as equal. This means that no one should see himself as superior or inferior to others. We are all equal. Then we should discuss what we should do so that all the people around me will be as dear to me as I am to myself, which means to connect with everyone into one.

When a person tries to combine these two means, he reaches a very interesting point in which he loses himself and begins to feel everyone as one and a certain force is invoked internally. After all, we are all inside this one force of nature and it is being revealed in us. It is as if we move our ego and create a small special volume between us in which this force can be revealed and take the place we have arranged for it.

Thus we begin to feel that we can go through life feeling totally differently, on another level of relationships between us. The main point is that by allowing the general force of nature to fill the distance between us, we enable it to operate. It begins to curb, tone down, and arrange everything; we can actually observe these effects.

There is no need to do anything else except for connecting systematically and, at the same time, clarifying different problems. But all these questions have to be focused on one thing only: on the connection between equal people who want to become one, and as for other things, let the one force of nature act.

Question: Can a person change so radically? After all, people only understand power. We need an army here.

Answer: It won’t help! The world doesn’t even understand power anymore. What I suggest is the only possible solution. We have already seen how different forces in Russia, the US, and China operate and today even in the Ukraine, everywhere. And all this, in the end, does not solve any problem.

We don’t know what to do, what will happen tomorrow and how everything will suddenly change to the opposite direction. We see that the world is totally unexpected and that the only thing we can do is to enable the positive global force to act inside us.

This is the force that gave birth to us, developed us, and went with us through all the phases of evolution. This force caused the Big Bang and then developed the universe; it gave birth to matter and developed it from the level of the still nature to the vegetative, the animate, and the speaking. This force is unique and it sustains everything.

The levels of the still, vegetative, and animate nature of matter are similar to the integral force of nature and carry out its orders and laws instinctively, but man is different. He is in an egoistic state so that he would resemble this force consciously. Then he will ascend to the level of this force, his eyes will open, and he will enter the upper world, which means that he will begin to feel and understand this force and the whole operating system.

This is the state we have to reach and towards which we are advancing. Therefore, our situation today is special and we can ascend to the next level; we have been given all the means to do so.

Question: How frequently do we have to participate in integral circles in order to feel this force?

Answer: You will see the gradual changes: in yourself, in your family, in your friends, at work, everywhere. If you don’t change people, you will not be able to change the world!

Start! That way you will draw the upper global force into our world. You are already drawing it. We are connected in this net, and if you draw this force to you, it begins to spread among everyone through you. There are hundreds of thousands of people all over the world who are ready to help us do it.

We should understand that it all is happening only because we have missed an opportunity for correction. So at the same time military actions are underway, we have to organize roundtables everywhere.

Question: Does the unique integral force of nature think?

Answer: This force created the whole universe including you, and it determines every step that you make. It is the mind of the universe, the thought that sustains the whole universe.

If you resemble it, it reflects its attributes on you. If not, you become more and more opposite to it. These are the law of physics! I can express it all by formulas.

The law of equivalence of form: The more you resemble general nature, the more you benefit from it. What do all the laws that we study aim at? At becoming more like nature in order to benefit in any technical, chemical, technological, and other processes.

Question: You say that during the workshops at the roundtables we should regard everyone as equal, but the word “equal” scares people.

Answer: Equality is necessary in order to connect! I am not saying that we should impose equality on the world. I am saying that being equal is a precondition for connection during the workshop. After all, people who are not equal cannot connect.

If you feel that you cannot do it, we will teach you. Imagine that you are the greatest, that shouldn’t be difficult. Then try to imagine that you are inferior to everyone else. Finally try to imagine that you are equal to everyone else. Try to do something with yourself! Start working with your attributes a little!

Question: But what does that have to do with the kidnapping and murder of the boys, the rocket assaults from Gaza, and the missile attacks from Lebanon and Syria?

Answer: It has to do with everything that happens in the world. This is why we have to constantly work on it. Now we have a reason to do so because we are in a tragic situation, and it is much easier to make a person see connection as the solution to all the problems in a tragic situation.

We have a universal remedy for all the problems and all the illnesses: to connect in a circle, and then draw the Upper Light that works out everything in the world. When I draw it into this world, to our level, I become the conductor for this Light that can be revealed and can correct everything.

Question: Suppose people gather at a roundtable in a certain neighborhood; the deputy minister comes out of one house and from another a store owner, and then a chief engineer, and so on. You place them all at a roundtable and tell them that our goal is to connect on an equal basis so that there will not be a deputy minister, a store owner, or a chief engineer, so that we can all open our hearts and feel one another.

Will people who feel good and who don’t feel any special pressure do that?

Answer: We are all equal with regard to the general upper force of nature. A person wants to draw it so that it will be revealed in us, and it is revealed when we connect into one whole, when the connection, the glue, among us resembles the upper in its attributes.

Question: But what would be the deputy minister’s motivation to sit with everyone and to become one whole with them?

Answer: He cannot be drawn into the circle, of course, if he has no motivation. Therefore, we have to draw his attention somehow. Find out what he deals with, for example. But if you can’t, then just leave it.

In any case, everyone will feel it because everyone is connected by innumerable hidden strings. He will begin to feel it and will become interested in joining us. He will understand that there is an incredible opportunity for change here and no matter if he is a minister, a store owner, or an engineer, he cannot fulfill it by himself: not by himself, not with his children, not at work, not in any way!

What has a person got to lose if he sits in a circle for an hour and feels how he changes and becomes more refined? After all, people know nothing about this force, which is concealed from them. This is why we use these tragic circumstances in order to summon them to a collective discussion. If we try to solve the problem only by corporeal means, it will lead to nothing, and everyone is aware of that.

Question: It turns out that the solution can come only from the point of connection between us.

Answer: No, you don’t find the solution by connection, and you don’t have to look for it. It is enough to draw the force that will appear and correct everything; it isn’t our business how it does it.

Just as water fills all the cracks, so does this force correct all the defects. In some places it may seem as good and in other places it may seem as worse; we may think that things would be corrected here a bit and then there. This is because we don’t know how all the parts of creation are connected and it seems that one thing has to be done first and then another.

But the system is built differently than what we imagine, and so just as water rises gradually and fills everything, the parts of nature that seem irrelevant, redundant, and unimportant will gradually be corrected.

Therefore, equality and connection are two states from which we have to start the work in the circle. Then we can bring in different questions for discussion.

Question: Suppose I am the deputy minister and I have decided to make an effort to sit in a circle and start working, will I begin to believe that this force really exists in the process? Will I begin to feel it; is it proof that the upper force exists?

Answer: Yes. And you will begin to feel a certain warmth and closeness between you and the other people that is created among you, but you have to cultivate it.

Question: Does that mean that you believe that all that can lead to the restoration of peace in Israel?

Answer: I am saying over and over that we cannot influence anything. We can only draw the Upper Light and it will correct everything. This means that I cannot promise that that the moment we organize an integral circle or a thousand such roundtables all over the country that peace will prevail immediately. I want to be completely honest with everyone. It isn’t my invention.

Question: So what is this invention?

Answer: There is no special invention. The wisdom of Kabbalah said this thousands of years ago.

I want to explain to everyone that the wisdom of Kabbalah is totally logical. It isn’t mysticism, holy water, or red strings. It is a science of the general force of nature and of how we can use it,

Comment: This means that we don’t solve a specific problem like people are doing now: they want to solve the economic crisis, the assaults in Israel, etc..

Answer: We see that all the problems in the world connect into one global problem. It makes no difference which string you pull, everything revolves around our egoism and what then? Everything falls apart in every direction.

We need the general force, not our own minds, to arrange everything; we see that we are only capable of corrupting things. Everything will work out by the unique force of nature! But only man can allow it to enter the world. He is like a cork that blocks its way and doesn’t let it be revealed on our level.

But when this force is revealed, we will feel an ascent to another dimension, to other values, to different states, and to different relationships between people, the world, life, and death. You will begin to feel that there is a different attitude to the world, to life and that we can organize everything nicely among us in our corporeal existence.

This is something we should think about since it is the remedy for all our individual and general problems. We should do our utmost to patiently and consistently explore this means and learn how to use it.
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Question: What exactly gets connected during the workshop?

Answer: The desires that are ready to bestow unto one another.

Question: But do strangers who are not friends connect?

Answer: We sit and talk without arguments and each one annuls himself a little in order to connect to others in mutual bestowal. To the extent that we annul our ego and connect, we invoke a certain force that is concealed inside, the force of connection.

This force exists in nature. It stems from the same source that the first spark once broke out from and from which the universe developed. This is the force of unity because all of creation stems from one spark.

As a result of this spark infinite universes and galaxies were created, but that doesn’t matter. If we connect as one man like the source the universe was created from, then it invokes this unique force in us. It is in nature and sustains nature.

Let’s try it and you will see what confidence it gives each one, what a feeling of a new life, of peace. It can even heal us and correct our connections. Let’s use this force of connection which exists only in the unity among us.

The more we manage to connect and the more deeply we annul our ego, the more we will discover the force of connection and with it we will be able to perform miracles. It will affect all our problems and heal all the illnesses. Let’s pull it out of nature and learn how to use it practically, creatively, just like we use nuclear energy, which we didn’t know about before.

This force is in nature; it can be called the Creator because the universe begins from it, but it doesn’t matter what we call it. It is in nature and we can use it like all the other forces. We call all of humanity to do so, because this force is the solution to all our problems.

This force is the source from which two forces later emerge: plus and minus. But the source itself is one, and if all the opposite forces are balanced inside it, it can solve any problem since it integrates these two opposites inside.

By using it we can fix everything. One may want money, another health, another respect, and another peace at home and with the children. So let’s be cured of all the illnesses and all the evil. “He who makes peace in Heaven will make peace upon us with his mercy and upon all of Israel,” he who makes peace under Heaven, which means balances the negative and the positive forces, will also make peace among us.

If you wish, let’s start, if not, then you don’t have to, but you should know that we have a universal means. We only need to invoke this force and receive from it like from a power plant, but in order to do so, we have to connect since it is revealed only when we connect.

If you are connected and this force is revealed among you, start working together and you will succeed in everything that you want! After all, you will have the source of the force, like a container of fuel that can be used as you wish: you can use it to make plastic and you can burn it for fuel.

You can use this potential force anyway you want, as long as it is not to hurt anyone! This is the force of connection and if you want to abuse it, it will disappear immediately. We must use it only for connection, only for the good.

It is very simple and we have to explain this to everyone. It has nothing to do with any religions and there are no mystic forces here.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 6/8/14, Writings of Baal HaSulam

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Question: Without a doubt many couples think that they are conceding to each other, without understanding that they are not doing this for another person but for themselves so that they will be left alone in peace. So what concessions should be made?

Answer: True concession is when I rein myself in, even though at that time I am ready to explode because I think I am right, but I begin to react to my partner according to how he or she would want me to respond. This means I am “clothed” in the other person.

This system should be developed and necessarily requires the support of the environment. Married couples must talk about these situations all the time and practice them in order to reach a state where habit becomes second nature.

Suppose the house is a mess. Why should you scold each other and say something superfluous? Go immediately to common ground, which is reciprocal and good. Begin to hug and kiss in the middle of this mess.

The main thing is that you should feel well. For with a feeling of happiness and love, you won’t even want to change anything and you will live in serenity all your life in the middle of this mess.

Sometimes you go into some apartment and everything is clean and spotless, but there is no warmth. Whereas at home, with you, there is warmth from an atmosphere of love, reciprocity, and  inner contact.

In a Japanese couplet it is written: “The child dies; how cold it will be at home; there is no longer someone who will pierce a hole in the window paper.” This means that as long as the child played pranks, warmth prevailed at home. Now the child is no more, and it will be cold.

That is how it is here also. Everything depends upon the feeling. This is the main thing to be done.
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From the program “A New Life” 5/28/2014

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Opinion (Olga Lukina, psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Director of the Institute for Integrative Psychotherapy and Coaching, Moscow): “In today’s society, the key life values are devalued: the value of work, the value of deep professional knowledge, honesty with oneself, self-esteem, willingness to do good, and responsibility.

“Instead, there are important values of a neurotic society: status, money, superiority in competition, aggressive force.

“Young people are particularly vulnerable. They swallow these ‘values’ without censorship; they have no immunity to them. Striving to meet the expectations of this society, they lose touch with their authentic selves. Only those who have healthy orientations and strong support of the family can withstand.”

My Comment: No doubt, without integral education, the young generation will lose itself completely.
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Question: We see the changing seasons, day and night, and the changes in life in nature. Is this an objective understanding of time or a totally subjective feeling?

Answer: There is no objective understanding of any kind. If I perceive something as a spectator, it cannot be objective in any way. Even if someone tells me what he sees, but I am the one who hears what he says, I perceive and feel it in my own way.

There cannot be any form of objectivity. If a person perceives only his own feelings and knows nothing of what is going on other than that, there cannot be any form of objectivity.

This is especially true when it comes to the perception of time, place, and motion, which exist inside a person. A spectator with different senses would feel a totally different world. We know that our senses perceive only a small part of reality.

However, we perceive something that cannot be perceived despite our subjective, individual reality. There is actually a certain range that we don’t perceive even in our subjective perception, but we understand that we cannot perceive it.

We have no idea what else can exist except for that. It is because we cannot rise above our mind and know something that we have never felt. We can feel it only if we change our senses.

But even if we have new senses, who can guarantee that we will perceive an objective picture? After all, it is also depicted only in our feelings.

An objective perception of reality can only be attained when we exit our senses. We don’t need to change them, but simply to rise above them to something that is absolute. In order to do that, we need a special science and this opportunity comes only from the wisdom of Kabbalah.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 4/17/14

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Opinion (Olga Makhovskaya, PhD, Institute of Psychology of the Russian Academy of Sciences, fellow of the international scientific programs in Russia, USA and France, bestselling author for parents): “Despite the fact that formally the standard of living grows, its quality is not increased. Such ‘orphan’ regulation, which provides that that the child is nourished and has clothes, remains the main reference. From the point of view of psychology, it is the minimum task. A child becomes primarily an expense.

“Therefore, many children grow up with an orphan complex, emotionally hungry. Childhood itself became longer. Giving birth to children, we think that the main thing is to bring them to 18 years. But now adolescence is delayed until 25-27 years. The emancipation of children now is provoked mainly by parents – we start to ‘push them out’ of the nest …

My Comment: Previously, the family was a “natural” environment, with grandparents, games in the yard, hiking, and closeness to nature. In the 20^th century, we broke away from nature and family. In the 21^st century, we are confused and have lost our landmarks.

After all, the family is something very natural, as if formed by itself. It is necessary to build a new format of the family and society on a new level where everything is built from the union with and similarity to nature.
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Opinion (Nina Erofeeva, Ph.D. Education, Professor of Udmurt State University, Russia): “The learning strategy at all levels of education is designed more for girls. One of the main reasons for this is a higher percentage of women teachers, and women’s type of thinking is different. Pedagogical collectives are feminine in organizational culture.

“The following qualities are dominant: the desire to be ordinary (the desire to be the first dominates in masculine culture); interest in problems directed at using new (and not at creating new); more attention is paid to the opinions of others (rather than facts); care about people (not success) is valued more; intuition and consensus (rather than decisive actions) are taken into account in decision making; relationships are more important than results (and not vice versa).

“School lessons are mostly verbal, oriented to the left hemisphere. Girls do well with typical tasks, requiring the algorithm to solve them, and boys do well with creative tasks. Most often, there is only enough time during the lesson to solve problems with the algorithm, but not enough time for creative problems.

“A lack of teaching methods to children of both genders facilitates girls’ education. Boys begin to feel unlucky, do not acquire key skills, and lose interest in learning. The educational system makes it impossible to realize the research potential of the stronger sex.

“Men teachers, teaching mathematics and natural sciences, teach their subjects in full accordance with the structure of their male brain, so the girls who study math and science in high school are behind their male classmates. The structure of men’s speech is a logical chain of three parts: introduction, content and conclusions.

“The woman’s speech is multifaceted; it can lead multiple storylines and even intervene simultaneously in other people’s conversations; men cannot keep track of its structure and lose interest. When a woman teacher teaches a lesson, she simultaneously hears students talking. Commenting on them, she departs from the topic of the lesson; boys immediately lose the storyline and find it difficult to return to the topic.

“A woman teacher can start with one subject and jump to another in mid-sentence, then back to the first, mentioning something extraneous. Such diversity tires boys, whose brains can only look at one line at a time and process information only on one subject.

“The information flow between the right and left hemispheres of the female brain is more powerful, so girls can talk and listen simultaneously. Boys can either speak or listen, but cannot do both at the same time, thus it is difficult for them to write dictation. For them, the text needs to be first read and then dictated.

“The basic assumptions for the introduction of separate education:

• Most of the educational methods and techniques are designed for an average person.
• The education of boys and girls of the same age, but of a different psychological age (due to the difference in physical development), brings a negative impact on the culture of their communication;
• Contrary to the popular belief that co-education helps them build optimal interpersonal relationships, it is not so. Interpersonal relationships between boys and girls in traditional education are extremely limited.

“These factors do not allow them to find understanding in family relationships.”

My Comment: According to Kabbalah, men and women are so different that they should be separated at the age of two, and children raised by same sex caretakers. Only then will we all be able to fulfill our mission, which is to achieve likeness with the Creator through our correct connection: “A man and a woman and the revelation of the Creator between them.”
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In the News (from Scientific American Blog): “Childrens’ literature and movies are rife with talking mice and ducks who wear clothes (even if they’re occasionally portrayed without pants) and dogs that range from, well, dogs, to dogs that might as well be people.

“Stories are one of the main ways that our species understands the natural world. Giving human attributes to animals is by no means a recent phenomenon; ancient gods were often hybridized human-like animals (or animal-like humans). In the classic story illustrated above by Arthur Rackham, three bears sit at a table and eat porridge, like humans.

“Given how ubiquitous these anthropomorphic animal-people are in our culture, University of Toronto psychologist Patricia A. Ganea wondered how those sorts of representations influence the way that young children think about real animals.

“Young children already have a hard time distinguishing reality from fantasy, especially before they reach their fifth birthday. And while most children can distinguish reality from fantasy when it comes to visual representations of animals, that distortion can also be reflected in the content of the story itself. ‘Human consciousness, knowledge, abilities, purpose, and intentions are often attributed to animal characters (e.g., seals solve mysteries, cats build houses, and mice drive cars) and even to inanimate objects (e.g., lamps have faces and dance the tango, trains strive against all odds to achieve impossible goals),’ Ganea writes.

“Together, the findings show that language matters more than illustration when it comes to learning about animals’ biology and psychology. Even when the stories were accompanied by realistic images, if the language was anthropomorphic, the kids transferred that false knowledge to real animals.

“More importantly, it isn’t just that the kids failed to learn true facts when exposed to the anthropomorphic stories; those stories actually made it harder for them to learn, teaching them falsehoods rather than facts. They were even more likely to think of animals in human-like terms after reading the books than if they had never seen the books at all!

“Do children transfer the fantastical abilities of non-human animals in their storybooks to their real life models? If so, then those sorts of stories could seriously impede kids’ ability to learn and remember true facts about real animals, or at least to distinguish fact from fiction. That would be especially true for children in urban and suburban areas, who have few opportunities to regularly interact with actual animals, at least compared to their rural counterparts. ‘Presenting animals to children in ways that are similar to how humans act and behave is likely to be counter-productive for learning scientifically accurate information about the biological world and to influence children’s view of the biological world,’ she says.

“The problem is actually more pervasive than it sounds: human adults, at least in the US, are also highly likely to imbue non-human animals with human-like emotions and motivations. It’s a tricky line to navigate. Research is increasingly revealing the fundamental similarities between our species and the rest of the animal kingdom, but there are also aspects of human culture that are, indeed, unique to our species. Is it reasonable to suggest that an animal can feel something complex like pride or embarrassment? We are poised to attribute a similarly complex emotion, guilt, to dogs, but a deeper look reveals that while dogs indeed have a ‘guilty look,’ they probably do not actually realize that they’ve transgressed. If children are routinely exposed to these sorts of anthropomorphic representations of animals, it is no wonder that they grow up to become adults who look at non-human animals as if they are people wearing animal suits.”

My Comment: By the way, in Judaism there are no tales of human-like animals, and if the Torah speaks about a talking donkey, it happens at God’s command. Kabbalah in general looks at the texts of the Torah as secret, the meaning of which is revealed only to one who has attained love of friends.
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