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Tame Egoism

Laitman_514.02Question: The evolution of our soul goes through the comprehension of egoism. So only when our ego is at the point of self-destruction can we fully become self-aware and switch to the side of light?

Answer: No. We do this long before that. It is a gradual, step-by-step development of a person, when he realizes his egoism and understands that by applying it, he comes to nothing. However, he should not get rid of it. Egoism cannot be destroyed; it is a force of nature. We only need to change the purpose of its application.

Question: You said that Kabbalah teaches a person to rise above egoism. The bigger the ego, the higher he rises above it. So this is his evolutionary growth.

Is the correct cognition of egoism one of the elements of our development when you increase it, artificially or under control, and you give it an altruistic inclination?

Answer: Yes. You tame it like a wild animal and it becomes more or less tame.

Question: It turns out that you do not need to fight it, but you need to understand it?

Answer: That’s right! Manage it correctly. Then it will be your assistant.

Question: So it is not a struggle, but rather an immersion, knowledge, and use of this inner power where you begin to realize an altruistic impulse through your sense of happiness, and transmit this state to the world?

Answer: Yes. For you, altruistic impulses are actually the best. In principle, in our world, altruism is understood as giving something to someone for free. No! You just see that by this you are beginning to interact with the greatest forces of nature. This is good.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 5/24/20

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What Is The Wisdom Of Life?

laitman_232.06Question: How do you deal with egoism if it suddenly pops up in your life?

Answer: It does so constantly, at every second. Egoism overcomes me at every minute and throws me into various thoughts. But this does not mean that I want to steal, deceive, or do something harmful to others.

Egoism is what commands us at every moment in the smallest of actions, for instance, in the way we sit, get up, and walk. It manifests itself in everything: in thoughts, feelings, intentions, words, and actions.

The choice of one or the other, the way we speak, and our behavior is explored by egoism from within, and we must study it all and gradually correct ourselves. However, it is an interesting task.

Question: Do I need to ask myself every time, “Why am I doing this?”

Answer: No. If you study Kabbalah, you will not ask yourself questions because you will be affected by the upper light, another energy that is not egoistic, but altruistic.

Both lights influence you. They will guide you and lead you forward like how a rider controls a horse with two reins. Also, you will feel which of the forces currently leads you, with which and how you should progress, and how to balance them with each other. In principle, the whole wisdom of life is to balance both forces correctly.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 5/24/20

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Between Egoism And Creator

laitman_608.01Question: When a person rises above egoism, does he see that there is no egoism?

Answer: On the contrary, he sees egoism and how he rises above it.

It is impossible without the ego, which does not disappear. We simply balance it with the good force of nature, the Creator.

The Creator created the opposite force, egoism. In order to balance the ego, we need to reveal the Creator and attract Him.

We will then exist between egoism and the Creator. We will begin to see from one end of the world to the other; everything will become absolutely clear to us. And everything will be fine, balanced, and perfect.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 5/10/20

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Who Disrupts The Integral Connection In Nature?

Laitman_707Baal HaSulam, “The Freedom”: It is worthwhile taking some time to grasp such an important thing, meaning how we exist in the world as beings with a “self,” where each of us regards himself as a unique entity, acting on its own, independent of external, alien, and unknown forces, and in what this being—the self—becomes revealed to us.

We need to make great efforts and spend a lot of time in order to understand where we live, what affects us, and what we can do with ourselves. First, we need to deal with this problem, and then how to solve it.

It is true that there is a general connection among all the elements of reality before us, which abides by the law of causality, by way of cause and effect, moving forward. And as the whole, so is each item for itself, meaning that each and every creature in the world from the four types—still, vegetative, animate, and speaking—abides by the law of causality by way of cause and effect.

We are in a system that develops according to the law of cause and effect, a clear and accurate law, just like all of nature’s laws. We need to learn and observe them, and try to see how to implement them in practice in order to resemble them.

By learning and exploring the laws of nature, we begin to understand that we are completely opposite from them. By revealing the laws of nature, we see that there is absolute interdependence of all the different components in the system. The levels of the still, vegetative, and animate nature are absolutely tied to each other. Although it may seem to us that there is a struggle between them and mutual destruction, there is actually harmonious interdependence between them.

This is what we should speak about, discuss, and understand, but this is the situation. There is a precise clear integral connection between all the parts of nature. Only the human goes beyond this framework with his egoism.

The reason we are an exception to the integral nature is our ego. This is the reason we do whatever we like. We want to manage our lives by ourselves. How should we dim our “self” so that on our human level, we will also exist absolutely integrally like all of nature? This is the question that we need to ask and to scrutinize.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 11/17/19

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How Does Natural Egoism Differ From Human Egoism?

laitman_608.02Question: How does natural egoism differ from human egoism?

Answer: Human egoism is natural. We have nothing of ourselves. We are set in motion by nature and there are no other qualities, feelings, actions, or forces in us. The only problem is how we manage them.

Question: So egoism is a natural phenomenon; therefore, we can’t talk about destroying it. But how do we use it correctly?

Answer: Build above egoism, in contrast to it, the quality of bestowal and love.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 4/30/20

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Individuality And Interconnection

laitman_557Question: Biologists have found that many living organisms can make collective decisions. For example, in some bacterial environments, uniformity is achieved by the release of a specific chemical. It may be a sign of danger that they are communicating to each other in this way.

A school of fish recognizes a predator faster and more precisely than individual fish. While separate people, even the most intelligent with a high IQ, still cannot solve the problems that a team solves. That is, there are clear manifestations of the collective mind.

But there is a paradox here: On the one hand, nature develops our individuality throughout history. On the other hand, we observe that it is not the strongest who survives, but the one who is more adapted to cooperate. How can this paradox be resolved?

Answer: Individuality should not be contrary to integrality, reciprocity, or the right connection with each other.

There are separate elements in any system. Each of them is very important and perfect in its own way. But the interaction between them must be calibrated so that in their feelings, influence, and combinations with each other, they feel that they are guided by their common interconnection. Therefore, one does not contradict the other.

On one hand, we would like to gather a team that would consist of genius and extraordinary people. On the other hand, there must be absolute interaction, connection, and integration between them. Otherwise what good are these individuals?

Question: So natural selection and coevolution seem to exist together?

Answer: The fact is that evolution is given to us by nature. But along with evolution, or perhaps in some ways contrary to it, nature requires us to unite and become more interconnected with each generation. We have not done this for many generations, and therefore, we suffer greatly.
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The Growth Of Egoism Determines Evolution

115.06Question: What is the reason that people have lost touch with each other, are afraid to unite into families, and can’t find a partner?

Answer: Egoism. There is no other force that counteracts all our supposedly good intentions and impulses. It is only our ego that makes us want more than others, in spite of others, against others. We can’t do anything about it. Fighting it is useless.

Therefore we need to know how to receive the upper force to balance the ego. This is the method of rising above egoism, which allows you to use it for the benefit of yourself and others in order to reach the level of the Creator.

Our entire evolution is the growth of egoism in us. For thousands of years, every day, egoism in humanity has been increasing more and more.

The science of Kabbalah explains how we can apply it correctly. In this we are helped by the innermost, most powerful upper force that controls everything and teaches us how to see,  evaluate, connect with everything, and use the egoistic power correctly. By acting this way, we basically change our fate.

Question: Our egoism, in fact, grows with evolution?

Answer: Of course! It is the growth of egoism that determines evolution.

Question: Where does this lead us?

Answer: Either to destruction or to the correct use of egoism.

Question: How can we make sure that this does not lead to our destruction?

Answer: Everything is already laid down in the program of nature. In the end, we will not die and will not disappear. At the last minute, our egoism will turn into the opposite of itself. It will see, feel—but this is at the very last stage—that if it does not take this step, it will perish. This will egotistically lead it to the opposite action, to a contradiction with itself.
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If We Change, Nature Will Change

720Question: The need for social connections is given to us from birth. Anyone’s brain will react to social isolation as to physical pain. People who are isolated are more likely to die from various diseases.

Good social connections bring more satisfaction than money. Experiments have shown that trust at work between employees is equal to the enjoyment of a 30% pay rise. In other words, cooperation produces more results than competition.

There is a paradox: We understand the importance of social connections, but we do not care about its development at the level of the individual or a country. In no country is there a national program about rapprochement between people, about the establishment of sensory social connections, there is no explanation of how much they affect our physiology. What is that?

Answer: It is the same egoism. Perhaps we would like to, but at the same time there is a so-called “evil nature” in us, meaning egoism, that does not let us treat each other positively. On the contrary, it puts us in opposition to each other and forces us to be in a constant fight.

In our nature, there is initial data that we cannot just bypass despite the fact that good relations in society could bring it huge profits, dividends, and give an incomparably greater level of development and security. Imagine if we treated each other as one family and freed our resources and forces from the arms race, we would live in a paradise!

Question: And maybe none of this is necessary because it is against nature? We should live by egoistic laws, the laws of the jungle?

Answer: We are now living by egoistic laws. But we can’t live by the laws of the jungle, or we will kill each other. Therefore, there are certain regulations on where and how we can allow the use of strength. These are criminal codes and all sorts of other frameworks in which we try to co-exist.

But in general, humanity is unhappy. Today we are reaching the conclusion that we cannot escape from our connection. It is necessary, important, and increasingly demanded by nature to be global, integral, and mutual. On the other hand, egoism does not let us do it.

Question: But you always say, we must live according to the laws of nature. And in nature everything is based on natural egoism, and each devours the other. Is this how we should be? We are an extension of nature.

Answer: No. What happens in nature is a reflection of human society where everyone devours each other.

The fact is that the higher level of nature affects its lower levels. Therefore, a human society built on egoism has the same effect on lower levels. Because of this, the wolf cannot live next to the sheep, and the little boy cannot walk with them.

Everything depends only on the relationship in human society. If we change, all of nature will change.
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Man Is A Social Animal

laitman_423.02Question: How do you understand the definition that man is an egoistic social animal?

Answer: Egoism is given to us by nature, and in order to realize the ego, a person needs society. Therefore, he is a social creature.

Question: There were cases when a child was raised by a pack of wolves or other animals and later could not return to life in society and become a full-fledged person. What is special about our environment that makes us human?

Answer: In the human environment, from generation to generation, we develop new laws of commutation and begin to transform ourselves so that we become a product of society.

Since this is an artificial product of our condition, animals cannot enter our community. They can live next to us and somehow understand their place, feeling by their small egoistic level what is beneficial for them and what is not.

However, a person who is accustomed to perceive the environment as an animal community because he was born or raised among animals loses the ability to adapt to human society. Therefore, he must be brought up by people.

Instincts derived from nature cannot make up for contact with the social environment into which he later falls. No matter who he may be by himself, if he did not develop social contacts literally from birth, feeling his mother, family, and so on, then he will not be able to compensate for them fully.
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Evil, Hell, Love

laitman_628.2Question: This is the case that took place in Japan: a person who was infected with COVID-19 and clearly knew that he was ill went out on the street, to public places, began to hug people, even came to his family. Then he came home and died some time later. This serves as a moral example. Is there a so-called upper court when a person intentionally goes to do this?

Answer: Undoubtedly, this court exists at the level of the forces of our world, this does not disappear anywhere.

The fact is that we are connected to each other into one common whole, into an integrated system. If a person supports this system and wants to bring it to an integral form, this is his merit.

And vice versa, if he breaks the chains of good connection between everyone, then this is his loss, punishment. So, of course, the person has done himself a lot of harm. He brought evil between us by his actions, spread evil, and then this evil continues to work further.

What are the consequences? The fact that he has delayed the whole system from moving toward integrality, toward connection, toward love—all this is on him.

Question: Is there such a direct connection that you can say that this is all on him?

Answer: Of course. Now his desires became much more egoistic. When he died, he got rid of the body, of the manifestation of this desire on such a low level, but which still was ready for the correction.

Now he cannot correct himself biologically. And how can he correct himself spiritually, if everything in him is so egoistic, and now it is unknown when he will get the opportunity to start his correction and in what form.

Question: Does this apply to all evil in the world? To all bearers of evil?

Answer: Yes.

Question: People immediately remember the terrible executioners, murderers, and so on. Does this apply to them?

Answer: Even worse. A person who does not allow others to live, does not give them the opportunity to correct themselves normally with at least some freewill, creates huge problems for himself.

Question: Why is this given to a person? Why is this implanted into him by the upper force, the Creator? Why set a person up like that?

Answer: All evil must be revealed. It has to be! Therefore, those souls who have done such terrible things in the past receive an extra load in order to bring them down to such a low from which they can begin to rise. Since if they are somewhere between bad and good, they do not feel themselves as bad.

Therefore, they need to be given an additional surplus of evil, then they understand that this is how they really are and that they need to be corrected.

Question: You are saying that absolutely everything is directed to correction, to good, to warmth, to love. And we have to go through these terrible states and see these terrible people, and hate them, and sentence them to execution, to death. Should all this be on the path to love, on the path to good?

Answer: I do not want to say that execution and death should be done at all. It cuts off a person’s ability to correct himself, and everyone should correct themselves. So I am not in favor of the death penalty.

However, it is necessary to put a person in such circumstances where he would definitely want to correct himself, by any means! Literally, let the eagle peck at his liver!

Question: What is correction?

Answer: Correction is the realization of your own meanness, insignificance, harmfulness to others, corruption. It is the desire to become useful and see how harmful you have been.

The realization that you were unfit for human communication, harmful and evil compared to the way you see now, this is the state of hell. This is hell.

The death penalty, however, does not correct anything.

Question: How can you bring a person to such a state?

Answer: To do this, you need to work on him. To do this, there must be educators and those who lead him precisely to an individual definition: Who in fact is he?

Comment: In other words, educators should not hate him, but rather should understand that this is a way of correction.

My Response: Yes. They must show him love. This is worse than death for a person. That is, the educators love him but in such a way that they seek methods to bring him to the recognition of the evil in himself.

I hope we will see more of these things when people start to change like this.

Question: When will people begin to understand who they are, and that they are murderers from this hatred?

Answer: Yes. They will wander the streets like the dead rising from their graves and will search for ways to correct themselves.

Question: Does this require educators who will show them what true love is? Will they be looking at them, hating them, and changing to fit them?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 5/11/20

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