Entries in the 'Egoism' Category

Whose Life Is More Important?

laitman_546.03Question: Why do we consider the lives of some people to be more important than the lives of others?

Answer: It is because we fail to see the whole picture, the general mechanism, the common system of our globalization. We belong to a single system, we are all, in fact, one body.

Each one of us is like a cell in a single body that has to care about the well-being of the whole organism. If we see that humanity, in its final analysis, is one person with certain organs and body parts, then we will surely understand that each person matters.

Even if one cell in the body becomes cancerous… And this, in essence, is the specific quality of egoism: it starts engulfing others. At this point, we all resemble cancer cells. This now becomes revealed to us: we all exist in the universal human system, which is ill with general cancer.

If we reveal this, then we will certainly understand that everyone has to be healthy, that is, renounce their egoism, renounce using, engulfing others, and switch to bestowing to them.

Having discovered this, we will see that life consists only in advancing everyone in their development, in their contribution to society. If we encourage society to give everyone values that are directed only at this, we will, of course, be obliging people to be useful to human society. Then everyone will be equal. Also, then the life of one cannot be more important than the life of someone else.
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The Round Table of Independent Opinions. Berlin, 9/9/06

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The Culture Of The 21st Century: Dogs Replacing Children

laitman_571.08In the News (CNBC.com): Why companies are offering ‘furternity’ leave to new pet owners”

“…one marketing firm in Minnesota has started offering ‘furternity’ leave for all new pet moms and dads.

“The policy is part of a growing trend in pet-friendly workplace policies and a way to offer workers flexibility they might not have otherwise. …

“A number of companies already offer pet-friendly offices. At Amazon’s Seattle headquarters, the company says more than 6,000 dogs share the workspace with employees. Dogs enjoy a floor designed for pet play in one of the company’s buildings and the company even opened a special dog park that’s also open to the community. …

“At Minneapolis marketing firm Nina Hale, furternity leave allows new pet owners to work remotely for a week after adopting a pet. The policy gives pet parents the opportunity to bond with their furry friends as they acclimate to new surroundings. …

“Pet friendly benefits like pet leave, pet bereavement and pet health insurance are growing in popularity, Steven Feldman, an executive director at Human Animal Bond Research Institute (HABRI), tells the Society for Human Resources Management. It’s a “signal you’re looking at the employee’s entire family,” he adds. It’s also a way to entice young workers, the largest pet-owning generation.”

Comment: They have pet strollers, pet coloring, dog therapy, dog aromatherapy, dog church, and dog pools. It looks like we are moving to a culture where dogs replace children.

My Comment Yes. However, on the other hand, humanity has not stopped feeling the need to take care of somebody. Do you remember the Tamagotchi toy? It had to be constantly fed and taken care of.

We need to understand that human nature demands attachment. One is still bound, unwittingly, to his or her apartment, to smells, to everything! I see this as a huge internal, but not yet conscious, longing for communication between people, which, unfortunately, does not receive its normal expression, its release.

We therefore replace people with animals. Actually, it’s not that far off.  People feel that their dog is their friend, and the dog feels a friend and a master in their owners, and we are mutually devoted to each other.

Practically, we know people who have pets that eat from the same plate with them. They feel no difference between them because such contact occurs at the animal level. It does not need any major expressions, achievements, tensions and participation. I lower myself to the level of an animal; I reach out to him and he responds back to me, and we are both content.

Let us hope that this period will pass, and it certainly will pass because humanity is evolving and we will have to achieve contact with each other. Then all that contact with the animals will disappear. Like any other part of evolution and movement toward the lower levels, it will eventually die out. We will not have much interest in cats, dogs, parrots, hamsters, etc.

Question: Will we get such a yearning for each other? Will we uncover and reveal it?

Answer: We will understand that we still lack communication. Phones, virtual communications, dogs, lonely apartments, empty benches in public parks, and so on—it will all go away because we are changing, whether we like it or not. Let time do its work.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 8/27/18

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Is Human Life More Important?

Laitman_709Question: Do we have the right to perceive human life as more important than other forms of life?

Answer: First of all, we need to realize that the general system of nature is built in the form of a pyramid. It is based on an inanimate level: the whole universe, all inanimate matter, the stars and planets that exist in it. This is the bottom of the pyramid.

Then comes the vegetative part on Earth, and then higher than it is the animal part on Earth, and the top of the pyramid is occupied by the speaking level. Humans are not the animal part, not our body, but the speaking, human level in us.

Therefore, of course, human life is more important than all other forms and levels of nature, not because we desire this egoistically, but because we include all other forms of nature. If we treat nature correctly, we will correct ourselves, as well as all of nature in general.

All global natural disasters and problems—tsunamis, droughts, the harm that we inflict on nature, environmental disasters—are ultimately nothing more than a phenomenon projected onto nature by the person. Therefore, definitely, human life and its role in nature is most important.

We will find that by our own egoistic attitude toward ourselves and nature, we cause all disasters and all misfortunes both in human society and at other levels of nature: animate, vegetative, and even inanimate. If we change ourselves, then we will certainly change nature as a whole.

Therefore, we need to understand that the environmental disasters breaking out in the world today and the new ones still ahead of us depend solely on a human’s attitude to the world. They do not come because nature is suddenly out of balance. We cause imbalance in nature with our thoughts.
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The Round table of independent opinions. Berlin 9/9/06

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About Life With Dolls, Utter Loneliness, And Workaholism

laitman_543.02Remark: In Japan people spend a lot of time at work. And people there are substituting dolls for real people as partners.

Someone, after the death of his wife, began to collect dolls that imitate a person. Another one grew cold to his wife and bought a doll. That is, people are replacing people with dolls. They take care of them, wash them, etc.

And this tendency is observed both in men and in women. Women also buy dolls, live with them, talk to them. Some wear doll masks to be perfect beauties. Absolutely absurd!

My Comment: A man hates his appearance, wants to abandon it and enter the world of feelings, the world of inner, non-external communication—not between bodies, but at a higher level. He feels that he is not in demand and does not know what to demand from others. Therefore, an artificial substitution takes place. What can be said about this?

We are in a transition period, and not only the “unfortunate” Japanese but everybody else too. I do not think that the era of dolls will come and replace husbands, wives, children, or even pets. This all is no more than games. In fact, there can be no substitute.

I hope that the current big crisis, like a tsunami, will sweep away all this dirty industry, including all the excessive things that a man invents and produces. It will all be swept away and only the essentials will remain.

Everything else other than essentials would be spiritual, i.e. whatever we use in order to rise spiritually. This can only come up from the correct communication among people, when a state called “spirit” arises among them. People will then rise together in this spirit: “I cannot live without you and you cannot live without me.”

I do not mean men and women. I mean everything. Such mutual addition gradually elevates us higher and higher. This is the spiritual elevator. This is what we must come to.

This is what the science of Kabbalah teaches. I hope this is the solution to the whole problem. This is how it will be.

As for plastic substitutes, they are temporary toys. It is precisely because we do not find the right combination, the right connection between us.

Question: Researchers claim that people are driven by fear, by their desire to be safe. How can you overcome this fear?

Answer: They will not find this in each other either.

They will find this only if they correctly connect with each other, and in this connection, they will suddenly reveal the upper power that created them, keeps them, and on which they completely depend. Then the fear will disappear.

What fear can there be if you are in contact with the upper force that determines everything: how you were born, how you exist and die, and after that, you will again be in other different states! When you are in contact with the upper force, there is no fear.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 7/31/18

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The Ego Cannot Be Destroyed

laitman_566.02Question from Facebook: Does Kabbalah suggest destroying the ego?

Answer: No. Kabbalah is a method dealing with how to correctly work with egoism and fully use its power. This is why it is called “the wisdom of Kabbalah” (“Kabbalah” in Hebrew means “reception”), from the word “LeKabbel” (“to receive”).

Question: So it is impossible to destroy egoism?

Answer: It is both impossible and unnecessary.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 4/10/18

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The New Age Of Adolescence

laitman_622.02In the News (BBC): “Adolescence now lasts from the ages of 10 to 24, although it used to be thought to end at 19, scientists say.

“Young people continuing their education for longer, as well as delayed marriage and parenthood, has pushed back popular perceptions of when adulthood begins. …

“There are also biological arguments for why the definition of adolescence should be extended, including that the body continues to develop.”

My Comment: I think we are faced with the phase of the inhibition of human development. Society has embraced an atmosphere in which people do not want to grow. They are comfortable without growing up; they want to remain as children.

We are on the threshold of a new world. The former incentives no longer work: a professional career no longer entices us and robotics threatens to end many specializations. In the coming decades, educational institutions will head into the virtual space, production will be automated, and the delivery of goods and services will be transferred to a network platform.

As a result, only a small number of people will be able to be engage in creative activities, developing something new. And what will happen with everyone else?

Adolescence can be extended up to the age of 40. What’s the difference? When a person finds something one can be useful at, then a person matures. And if not, then one will remain in their teens at a minimum wage.

Until recently, the age of active life lasted from the age of 15-20 years to 60-70. And now we have a long childhood and a long old age.

This is natural. When egoism grows, it is very difficult to exit it, to start doing something and somehow working with it. It is much easier to be absorbed with yourself through a computer and a smartphone, spending hours in your small room, knowing that your mother will cook something for you.

What is the solution?

The way out of adolescence is a desire for accomplishment. But in the modern world, this desire is weakening. For many, virtual reality toys are enough. People do not have any reason to grow up even in a simple, material sense.

On the other hand, they have time and the opportunity to understand that they are prisoners of their own egoism. It distracts them from what’s most important—the opportunity to rise above the ego’s operating system, to take control into their own hands, and find their purpose.

By discerning this, a person will finally come out of the kid’s room and find one’s purpose.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/23/18

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Competition And Hatred

laitman_547.05Question from Facebook: Human history is built on competition, which often turns into hatred. It is genetic. Do you really hope to change all that?

Answer: No. Competition is necessary. It is a very good tool for progress.

Question: And hatred?

Answer: Hatred depends on what it is for. Why would I hate my competitor if he helps me advance?

Everything depends on the goal. If the purpose is not to crush my competitor but to reach the goal, that is, the third party, and I only use the competitor to move forward, then he becomes a helper, a partner. It all depends on how we use the competition.

Nothing in the world is created needlessly. All qualities that in us are necessary and only for reaching the right goal in the right way.

Americans introduce competition in their companies on purpose because it facilitates various thoughts, gets people to engage, to not fall asleep, to search, etc. If everything were just fine, then it becomes “decaying socialism.”
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 5/1/18

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Two Vectors Of The Universe

Laitman_168Question: How are egoism and altruism defined?

Answer: Baal HaSulam defines egoism as self-love, when a person wants to fill himself as much as possible in spite of all others, without reckoning with anyone.

Altruism is a desire to fill another person, giving away everything you can, in spite of yourself—not to please yourself, but to please the desire of a friend.

There are only two vectors in the universe: a force directed either toward oneself or toward others. Their combination generates everything that exists in nature at all levels: inanimate, vegetative, animal, and human.

Question: Why was such a multi-level system created?

Answer: Four levels of nature personify the four stages of the development of direct Light. Inanimate, vegetative, animate, and human nature correspond to the first, second, third, and fourth levels of desire.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/4/18

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Connection Without Smartphones

laitman_623In the News (BBC): “An app that rewards students for time spent away from their phones is being released in the UK. …

“It has proved popular in Scandinavia, with more than 120,000 users across Norway, Denmark and Sweden. …

“Students will accumulate 10 points for every 20 minutes that they do not use their mobile phone between 07:00 and 23:00 every day of the week.

“Points can be exchanged for goods and services within the app’s marketplace, with brands such as Caffe Nero, Vue cinemas and Amazon signed up.

“To earn two free coffees, students will need 300 points, which equates to 10 hours on the Hold app. For free popcorn at the cinema, they will need to spend two hours to accrue 60 points.

“Students can also exchange their points for books and stationery which are donated to schools via Unicef.”

My Comment: I am not sure that smartphones will be around for too much longer. Why do we need useless conversations that come from our inner worries, from misunderstanding what is happening around us and in the world? And when a person finds an answer to this and starts to hold on to the essence of what is happening, one will not need small talk, uselessly filling the air.

Judging by the intensity with which smartphones are used today, I think this will subside soon. Desire will vanish.

Question: Does that mean that the desire for physical communication will reignite?

Answer: No, it will be on a different level—internal. Other desires will appear, different goals. People will try to find an inner layer of nature in their relationships. This layer will attract them, carry them away, fill them up. They will seek this.

Question: What layer is that?

Answer: Information about our world, but more profound, hidden within nature. This is information about what happens in nature itself manifests in each of us and in the connections between us. This source will be very interesting to us.

All the rest, what we are still looking for today, is only an unconscious connection with the same source. We do not need anything else. This is exactly what we always want to find.
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From KabTVs: “News with Michael Laitman,” 3/13/18

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We “Outgrew” Clothes

273.02In the News (Bloomberg): “The Death of Clothing”

“The apparel industry has a big problem. At a time when the economy is growing, unemployment is low, wages are rebounding and consumers are eager to buy, Americans are spending less and less on clothing.

“The woes of retailers are often blamed on Amazon.com Inc. and its vise grip on e-commerce shoppers. Consumers glued to their phones would rather browse online instead of venturing out to their local malls, and that’s crushed sales and hastened the bankruptcies of brick-and-mortar stalwarts from American Apparel to Wet Seal. …

“Apparel has simply lost its appeal. And there doesn’t seem to be a savior in sight. As a result, more and more apparel companies—from big-name department stores to trendy online startups—are folding.”

My Comment: The point here is not at all in fashion and not in the fact that there is a large amount of affordable goods. It is just because our egoism, our desires, outgrew clothes. Today you are not judged by your appearance. People are looking for something internal, something more elevated. The superficial things are gradually receding and these changes come from within.

Over time, only the good, correct attitude of a person to others will be appreciated, when he understands that he exists in a uniform society where all people are united and equal for the attainment of the next degree of our development.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 3/13/18

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