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Don’t Work In Vain

Laitman_524.01Rabash, The Social Writings, the article “The Agenda of the Assembly 2”: When one exerts, he should make certain that it is not without reward. It is as we say in the prayer, “And came unto Zion,” “Lest we touch in vain.”Rather, when one goes to an assembly, he should acquire nourishments there so that when he goes home he will be able to see if he has something to put in the Kelim. Then he will have the nourishments to feed himself until the next meeting.

The fact is that the forces that a person can allegedly pull out of himself and from the surrounding nature by his own efforts, are not a spiritual result. A spiritual result can be obtained only when a person in a group, in connection with his friends, achieves a common desire with them, and from there draws strength that enables him to advance.

It turns out that all his spiritual work takes place at the expense of the power that he absorbs at the assemblies of friends—from assembly to assembly.

Question: It is written: “when one exerts, he should make certain that it is not without reward.” Should a person take care that he is paid for the effort that he makes?

Answer: Can it be that he works for free, that is, without visible, tangible results? Then he will be unable to understand whether he works or not.

There are people who are ready to do everything and somehow do not think about a reward. They believe that this speaks of their spirituality, although in fact it speaks of their levity. You need be very clear about what efforts you make, what you strive for, and what result you expect.

Question: That is, when we say, “like an ox under the yoke and a donkey carrying the load,” this does not mean that a person simply decided, “I invest and don’t think about a reward; I just follow this track”?

Answer: There is nothing praiseworthy in this approach. A person by nature cannot help but think about a reward. In this case, he should think about how to achieve the revelation of the Creator, that is, the revelation of the properties of bestowal and love in himself.

Question: Is this the intention that a person must go with to the assembly of friends?

Answer: Indeed. Otherwise, what is the meaning of his existence? Each of us must reach the highest state.

Question: And what do I give from myself to my friends?

Answer: You give them your participation, your strength, your spirit, and they give you theirs. In this way, when everyone is recharging from everyone, it turns out to be a very serious feeding of the whole ten, and everyone can do the work for the ten. This is how the goal is reached.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 6/27/18

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Time Of Joy

laitman_938.03Rabash, “The Agenda of the Assembly – 1,” Article No. 17, Part 2, 1984: Hence, after all the calculations comes the time of joy and love of friends. At that time, everyone should feel happy, as though one had just sealed a very good deal that will earn him lots of money. And it is customary that at such a time he gives drinks to the friends.

If a person has sincerely invested in spiritual work, he will have absolute satisfaction that everything ended well. When you expect special conditions, it means that you are neither in bestowal, nor in prayer, but just in your egoism.

Question: How should I feel when I leave the gathering of friends?

Answer: As if you remain at least at the same level and now you advance. Friends gave you an elevation and you received strength for further advancement.

Because now he is happy, he wishes his friends to feel good, too. Hence, the dispersion of the assembly should be in a state of joy and elation.

Joy is a sign that the gathering of friends went correctly. You are glad that in this way you performed a certain spiritual action, practical work.

As much as a person can keep himself in a state of excitement, this is progress.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 6/13/18

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Why Is The Importance Of Friends Necessary?

laitman_938.02Question: When one talks about the importance of the society and friends, is it already a connection of the points in the heart?

Answer: The importance of the society and friends is necessary in order to simply know that it is your soul. One can even imagine it purely egotistically that there is nothing else beside the inclusion in them. Everything else is pure illusion. We do not understand this.

The soul is your inclusion in others. This is where you begin to truly live outside of your present self.

Question: Is this the connection of the points in the heart?

Answer: It is achieved through the connection between us.

Question: Should I come to lessons and gatherings of friends with this preparation?

Answer: Yes, during the whole time that you are not in connection with your friends, you should think about it, that this is actually the way you want to realize yourself among them.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 6/6/18

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“The Scornful”—Internal Obstacles In A Person

laitman_528.01Rabash, “According to What Is Explained Concerning ‘Love Thy Friend as Thyself’”: “However, after all the meetings, everyone calculates and sees how much they have received from the association for the self-love, what the will to receive has gained by that, since they invested time and effort to benefit society. So what have they gained by it? One could probably succeed more if engaged in self-benefit, at least the part of his own efforts. But, “I entered the association because I thought that through it, I would be able to gain more than I could gain alone. But now I see that I have gained nothing.”

When someone wishes to say that love of friends should be engaged in for the purpose of bestowal, that everyone should work to benefit others, everyone laughs and mocks him. It seems to them like a kind of joke, and this is a seat of seculars. It is said about it, “but sin is a reproach to any people, and every grace that they do, they do for themselves.” Such a society detaches one from holiness and casts him into the world of mockery. This is the prohibition of the seat of the scornful.”

As a person advances, his egoism grows, and he suddenly feels that he is starting to disregard and sneer at the organizational principles of the Kabbalistic group. This emerges from within a person and he needs to work with such disturbances correctly, turning them into help.

Everything is only about internal work.

Question: What if a person feels that his ten suddenly turned into a gathering of the scornful?

Answer: This also requires inner work because everything that appears to him as happening outside actually takes place inside of him. He sees his own internality.

Question: So he must continue to work in the group?

Answer: A person leaves the group only if the entire group thinks that it does not need to follow the path of connection. Other than that, he needs to start with the fact that everything he sees he observes through his own egoism.

Question: And how does he work with this? By elevating the importance of the goal?

Answer: First and foremost, he elevates himself. This is how he checks himself. If he changes himself and sees that the group has changed, it means that these were his personal leads.

Question: And if he sees that he is now the scornful: he is sitting and inside of him laughing at everything? What can he do to rejoin the friends?

Answer: Let him ask for help. He may even explicitly turn to the friends to help him.

Question: Is it possible that the Creator brings people to the group and at some point it turns into an assembly of the scornful?

Answer: Everything is possible. Therefore, it is necessary to discuss it all and mainly engage in Arvut (mutual guarantee). If a group works correctly, then the scornful are only internal disturbances in each member relative to others.

Gradually, a person begins to feel that there is nothing external. He sees everything in front of him, including the Creator, and everything that he can imagine, as existing inside of him.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 4/18/18

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A Successful Gathering Of Friends

laitman_942Question: Is there a difference between a lesson and a gathering of friends?

Answer: The gathering of friends is the means to reveal the Creator, not the revelation itself. We learn how to approach each other so that in our rapprochement we begin to uncover various spiritual phenomena.

In the lesson, however, we are talking about the revelation of these spiritual phenomena: how they are revealed, what they consist of, what they depend on, and so on.

Question: What can be called a successful gathering of friends?

Answer: A gathering of friends can be called successful when we feel that we have advanced in connecting our desires to the state of merging them into one collective integral desire. An entire network of communication arises between us in which we experience a multitude of various combinations and movements. As a result, they create a feeling of the upper force.

From the behavior of the network of connection between us—how each of us changes relative to others, what changes we undergo in our relationships—we begin to feel the gradual revelation of the Creator.

Question: When we read The Book of Zohar we constantly think about unity. For me, it is more powerful than a gathering of friends, where we sing songs and embrace each other. Can one replace the other?

Answer: Not really. We must correctly prepare for connection. But it comes gradually. At first, we act like children to whom you say what to do and they do it, and only later they begin to understand what inner feeling lies in their actions.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 6/6/18

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“With Love To See Only Good Things”

laitman_938.05Rabash, “Concerning the Importance of Friends”: [If a person] “works on himself to love him [a friend], then it is natural with love to see only good things. And even though there are bad things in one’s friend, he cannot see them, as it is written, “love covers all transgressions.”

A person feels that other than himself, everything else is the Creator’s actions, who controls and launches everything. Therefore, he cannot attribute personal actions, thoughts, and impulses to the friends. It is all the Creator.

Also, the Creator gives him a little freewill: how to relate to it, transform, and come closer to Him. And he already looks at his friends as if they are in full connection with the Creator.

Question: When it is said that “love covers all transgressions,” are the transgressions in me?

Answer: Of course. All selfish tendencies regarding the friends are covered with love. And one builds on top of the other because the Light comes that shows you everything. Since it was not there before, you saw everything negatively, and now, you see everything positively.

Love is an attitude toward others when you do not see anything wrong with them. You just love them. They are more precious to you than yourself.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 5/30/18

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“Everything Will Be With Love, Friendship”

Laitman_524.01Rabash, “Concerning the Importance of Friends”: But with love of friends, when friends bond to create unity among them, it explicitly means that they are equal. This is called “unity.” For example, if they do business together and say that the profits will not be distributed equally, is this called “unity”? Clearly, a business of love of friends should be when all the profits and possessions that the love of friends yields will be equally controlled by them. They should not hide or conceal from one another, but everything will be with love, friendship, truthfulness, and peace.

It seems that this describes the ideal states. But it is impossible to fulfill them if the friend and I are not connected through the Creator. Only thanks to the fact that we are connected with each other in Him we can behave this way. Only this can obligate us.

Question: What kind of profit is there?

Answer: It does not matter. Profit can be material or it can be spiritual. The main thing is that only contact in the Creator can obligate us and force us to accept the conditions of mutual guarantee, unity, and other requirements.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 5/9/18

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Two Paths Of Spiritual Work

Laitman_524.01Rabash, “Concerning the Importance of Friends”: But how can one consider one’s friend greater than himself when he can see that his own merits are greater than his friend’s, that he is more talented and has better natural qualities? There are two ways to understand this:

  1. He is going with faith above reason: once he has chosen him as a friend, he appreciates him above reason.
  2. This is more natural—within reason. If he has decided to accept the other as a friend, and works on himself to love him, then it is natural with love to see only good things. And even though there are bad things in one’s friend, he cannot see them, as it is written, “love covers all transgressions.”

Question: What is unique about each path: working with friends in faith above reason or by natural development?

Answer: Faith above reason appears when a person receives a force from above to see others as greater than himself, closer to the Creator. Therefore, he starts treating them with more respect and care, becomes more cautious, as if in similarity with the Creator.

Gradually, acting on the basis of the fact that the Light obligates him to do so, his attitude toward his teacher and his friends, toward everything that relates to his spiritual advancement, becomes his permanent state.

A person changes, and the influence from above that he felt before seemingly dissipates and becomes integrated into his life.

Question: Should we not concern ourselves about these two paths?

Answer: We should only be in anticipation, in anticipation of receiving the upper Light, the force of bestowal. Our work consists of us wanting to show in advance that we are already in it, like a child playing an adult with toy cars, dolls, etc.

Question: What does the Light change in us through its influence?

Answer: Our relationship with the environment and with the Creator.

I see that I can use a friend correctly for our common goal. As a rule, I see him already not as an object for the application of my efforts, but as part of the Creator. After all, I cannot relate to the Creator directly, but I can to the friend. He is virtually an external sphere of my applied efforts sent to me by the Creator.

Question: Why is it better to see my friend within reason than in faith above reason?

Answer: It is more natural, since faith above reason enters a new degree. I receive the force that lets me relate to the friend as to the Creator. I see myself as the only one who has something to change and to correct. Everyone else is just acting out the will of the Creator since they actually are in adhesion with Him.

It follows that my faith above reason becomes my natural state.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 5/30/18

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My Future Depends On My Friend

laitman_934Rabash, “Concerning the Importance of Friends”: It follows that in the matter of love of friends, they help each other, meaning it is enough for everyone to regard his friend as being of the same degree as his own. But because everyone should learn from his friends, there is the issue of Rav and disciple. For this reason, he should consider the friend as greater than himself.

Question: On one hand, a friend is like a teacher to me; I am small compared to him. On the other hand, I seem to be his teacher. How do these degrees alternate?

Answer: They work simultaneously, like a mother with a baby. On one hand, the child is most important to her, and on the other, she takes care of him all the time and he seems to be in her power. It follows that he commands her, and she, taking care of him, as if commands him.

If my future depends on a friend, then he is the most important to me. If everything that I can do in spirituality is only possible through him, then it means I am obliged not to receive from him, but to give to him. Our interaction must be absolutely open and complete. Then we come to a third state, when the two open relationships with each other become a single one.

Question: It turns out that we become equal?

Answer: We are so equivalent in regard to our goal that our “we” disappears, and a common field appears, a common life, a common space in which the Creator is revealed.

Question: Where is faith above reason here?

Answer: Faith above reason appears only when the Light comes down and gives us strength and we begin to feel the need to bestow. This need to isolate from oneself, to bestow, to radiate is the realization of faith above reason.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 5/30/18

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Two Conditions For Attaining The Creator

laitman_943Rabash, “Concerning the Importance of Friends”: But in the essay, “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar,” it is written, “The measure of the greatness comes under two conditions:

  1. to always listen and receive the appreciation of society, to the extent of their greatness; the environment should be great, as it is written, ‘In the multitude of people is the king’s glory.’”
  2. The bigger the environment is in my eyes, the greater confidence, strength and the ability to act quantitatively and qualitatively it gives me.

What is more important here: quality or quantity? Of course, in our state, quality is much more important. We are always in small quantities, but since we are in the last generation, we must take care that there are both quality and quantity. Moreover, both are generally achievable.

To accept the first condition, each student must feel that he is the smallest among all the friends

And for the second condition, each student must extol each friend’s merit as though he were the greatest in the generation.

Question: Rabash gives two steps here that we are always confused about. If I am lower than others, aren’t they automatically higher than me?

Answer: No! It depends on how you became lower than others. You either found out that they are really huge that raises them in your eyes, and therefore, you became lower, or you lower yourself.

It depends on what you are working on to be below them: on their elevation or on your own humiliation. There are two possibilities, two types of work.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 5/9/18

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