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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 4/7/19

laitman_962.1Question: How do we pay for the quality of bestowal and the discovery of the Creator?

Answer: We pay for it with patience and with very great diligence, which is not easy. There is nothing in the whole world that is just given, freely, all the more so spiritual fulfillment, the discovery of the upper world.

The main thing is intention within a group. If you create a group and direct it to resonate correctly with the upper world, you will immediately begin to feel it.

Question: What is at the foundation of a request when a ten turns to the Creator? Is it a deficiency or is it still the greatness of the Creator?

Answer: It is the greatness of the Creator. It will draw you forward, directly toward the goal.
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From a Virtual Lesson, 04/07/19

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Reveal The Upper World Together

laitman_939.02Question: Suppose one friend rose above himself, he feels the connection between us in the ten and the revelation of the Creator. The other friend, at this moment, does not feel this, he has different thoughts.

Should this happen at the same time or each one in turn; for example, today—one, tomorrow—the next one, the day after tomorrow—me?

Answer: Everyone will feel it at different times until you begin to feel the unity together, and only then does the Creator begin to reveal Himself in it. You must come to the point when inside yourself you live constantly in this collective solidarity. This is the group.

After all, a group is not just ten people sitting next to each other. The group is what they have separated from their egoism, they want to be above it, to unite in this and feel the Creator in order to give to Him, to exit themselves, but already together as one. Now, they are looking for where He is in order to give it all to Him, as if giving Him a bouquet of ten roses.

In The Book of Zohar, this state is compared to a rose among thorns. The rose (Hebrew: Shoshana) is Malchut. Shoshana is from the word “kick in the teeth” because it is very difficult to exit yourself, just as if a person gets hit in the teeth. Thorns are all the other qualities that you cannot connect to each other. In general, this is a big job.

But it cannot be that this happens today with you, tomorrow with another friend, then with a third, etc. You have to come to a state where you constantly work on it together, and your community and its direction to the Creator are the most important for you. This is the core of your existence, your life. Only this is worth living for. Everything else is as a small addition in importance!

Question: Can we discuss, in our daily work in the ten, how each of us feels about this and how to come to this?

Answer: In general, you can. Just try to treat each other with love because if a friend talks about how he wants to connect with the ten, then everyone else needs to be very careful not to take it lightly because you could cancel out the group’s combined effort.
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From the Kabbalah lesson in Russian 4/4/19

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What Can I Do With Negative Thoughts?

laitman_528.03Question: You said that when a bad thought comes to me, I shouldn’t resist it or reject it. So what should I do with it?

Answer: You have to work on it. Working on it means taking this thought with you all the way into the midst of the center of your ten, into the center of your small group, and making it disappear in your connection. Imagine you have a group where you unite as one whole, like soup cooking in a pot. When a thought comes, you throw it into this “soup” so that it completely dissolves in it.

The way it affects your group is the way it was meant to happen. The main thing is for the group to be ready to adapt this thought inside it, so that it dissolves in it completely. Then you will be able to see the right outcome of it.

Question: So, can I tell my friends in the group about this thought? Or is it enough to just think about it and it will be worked on inside the group?

Answer: You don’t have to tell them about it or you may choose to seek their advice. Gradually, based on your involvement in the group, you will see if you can consult your friends or if you still feel uncomfortable, etc…
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/3/19

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Everyone Has A Place In The General System Of Adam

Laitman_036Question: You said that it is very important to study the upper worlds and the structure of the soul because this is most important for spiritual advancement. But if we have friends in the group who do not want to study the structure of the soul, they are not interested in it, can they still advance? If they have no desire, can they attain the spiritual world?

Answer: There are very different people in our world, and each had a place in the completed creation. Each person born corporeally has a point inside him or herself that has its place in the general soul.

Therefore, you cannot reject anyone. Not a single person. He may be humanity’s greatest savage; nevertheless, he still must be corrected and granted his place in the common system, Adam—the common soul.

Therefore, if a person does not want to or cannot study the structure of the soul, he is not drawn to it, and he does not understand it, as long as he does not interfere, since there is a condition of “no coercion” in Kabbalah, then you leave him alone.

What does no coercion mean? He does not push you to be like him, he agrees to sit quietly and dissolve in the group, then he is like a germ in you, so you should leave him alone. As long as he brings no harm.

Such people should be kept close. Gradually, they will begin to get used to it, will start to feel things. Nothing can be done here. It is very difficult. I, too, was like this: I did not agree to it, had no desire for it, until I gradually came to understand that this was precisely the way to advance.

One cannot know the ways of the Creator, and so we have to advance. I went through many different states and therefore I say one must have patience, and if a person brings no harm, let him be with to us.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 4/4/19

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 12/9/18

laitman_281.02Question: What is a true desire according to Kabbalah? Is it when all other desires disappear or become insignificant?

Answer: Nothing disappears, nothing is lost; only the importance of each desire rises or diminishes.

Question: Can a ten develop incorrectly?

Answer: Certainly. There are thousands of ways to develop incorrectly and only one way to develop correctly. The threat of the incorrect development of a ten is always present.

Question: Who or what is testing a person on the spiritual path?

Answer: It is the properties of the Creator to which one must adjust to a particular degree, in a particular style, in every step of one’s spiritual development. A person must constantly adapt him or herself while passing through the stages of development and adjust to the properties of the Creator.

Question: How is it possible to learn to hold onto two lines simultaneously and not fall into one of them?

Answer: Realize yourself in the group in a way that you will not harm the group with your egoism and then you will feel balance and will maintain this condition.

Question: If I finished an introductory course together with a friend and then entered a ten while my friend remained as a guest, how should I relate to him: as a friend or as a guest?

Answer: Relate to him as a guest. It is only to the degree that he participates in a group that he is your friend.

Question: Are there different correct scenarios for the development of events on the spiritual path? How do you want the same thing that the Creator wants from you?

Answer: The Creator wants only one thing from you: for you to get as close as possible to the group. Then He will be able to be revealed in it. Try, that is all that He is waiting for.

Question: Is it possible to combine creative activity with the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: Activity is activity, and Kabbalah is Kabbalah. Do not mix one with the other. It will give you nothing. You will get confused in this and in that. Moreover, in the end, you will fail in both.

Question: How should one accept gratitude from friends?

Answer: Accept it as manifestation of their love for you, which means that you must relate to them in the same way. At the same time, thank the Creator because if He did not want this, it would not happen.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/9/18

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Appreciate States Of Descent

laitman_236.02Question: We are trying to work with friends, we want to bestow, to enter the ten. There is a feeling that we have a great desire for spirituality and that all thoughts are directed toward it.

Then suddenly this sensation is lost; we forget about everything and have nothing left of this state. Why does that happen?

Answer: It is because only one small portion of your egoism is revealed to you, which you rose above and began to, at least, listen to what is happening in spirituality. In order to reveal greater egoism, you have to add it. Therefore, egoism is added to you, and this is accompanied by a feeling of descent.

Suppose we go through a certain state, talk about the group, feel something. In order to rise to the next level, we need an additional bit of egoism. If at our initial egoistic level we had 10 kg of egoism, then another 10 kilograms are added. Since this egoism is not yet corrected, we feel a descent of minus 10.

But actually it is a plus. Is it possible to grow without egoism? Now, working in the group, I turn this egoism into an ascent, and so I grow to the next step.

Therefore, we go through states of descent and we should appreciate them! The most important thing is to appreciate our egoism. If it were not there, we would not be able to rise, we could not feel the Creator. We need to reach a state of minus infinity.

We must feel the entire Malchut of the world of Infinity, the whole huge Kli (vessel of the soul), everything the Creator created. Can you imagine the great egoism we must reach? Otherwise we will not feel ourselves against the Creator. After all, the connection with Him goes only through our ego.

It is said that Pharaoh brings Israel closer, that is, people directed to the Creator, to Him that gives them their egoism. Therefore, we must be able to overcome all the states of the descent in order to most effectively implement the revealed egoism.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/4/19

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The Effect Of Mutual Inclusion

laitman_938.05Question: Several people from our group are going to the convention in Israel. We went through a lot during this time. How can we know that they will convey all our impressions and inspirations?

Answer: I am sure that they will be able to convey it through their inclusion in us. Also, the inspiration that they will receive here will draw all your messages out of them. Everything that you want to convey through them will flow to us.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/6/19

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Collect All The Sparks Of Love

laitman_938.03Baal HaSulam, Letter 13: This happened to you due to negligence in my request to exert in love of friends, as I have explained to you in every possible way that this cure is enough to recompense for all your faults. And if you cannot rise to heaven, then I have given you moves on earth. So why haven’t you added anything in that work? 

A person cannot be constantly directed at the Creator and constantly strive to Him as the foundation of all one’s feelings and thoughts. However, friends can elevate you to this level and then you will not have to make great efforts and have excessive inner tension in order not to break away from the Creator, because the group will be supporting you.

However, first we must try to go through this by ourselves for some time. A person will then realize that with the help of the group, one can easily, even without effort, solve this issue: the group will work for you and you for the group. This is much easier.

Baal HaSulam, Letter 13: Besides the great cure that lies within it, which I cannot interpret, you should now that there are many sparks of holiness in each one in the group. When you assemble all the sparks of holiness into one place, as brothers, with love and friendship, you will certainly have a very high level of holiness for a while, from the light of life, and I have already elaborated on that in all my letters to the friends.

Sanctity is bestowal, love, and reciprocity, which is manifested between the friends because it is a spiritual quality.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/11/19

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Fear Of Harming The Group

laitman_530Question: In my work with the ten, I feel that I harm the friends. Even when I do this, I have no strength to stop. However, I am terribly upset that I cannot change anything. Is this a prayer? Or should I do something more to reverse this situation and move on to the next state?

Answer: You have to pray and ask for the ten to help you become kind and good. Try to be frank with them, straightforward.

Do the same with the Creator. Do not be afraid to do so, it will help. If you do not do this, then your spiritual development in this life will not work.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/9/18

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In A Group Of Like-Minded People

laitman_947Question: What should I do when extremely strong negative emotions overwhelm me? Such things cannot be discussed in the group, but I can’t keep them to myself, otherwise a deep depression begins. With whom can I discuss this? Truth be told, I am not in a group yet and am studying the first semester online.

Answer: With whom can you discuss such things if you are not in a group? With no one. I do not advise you to talk to anyone on this subject at all because no one will understand you.

You need to be in a permanent group and then, you will be able to discuss this with those friends who study with you, deal with the same problems, and have the same questions as you. It won’t work otherwise.

If you already have a group and a teacher, then you can ask questions and discuss some topics there. The teacher should put you in circles, from time to time, for you to get accustomed to a discussion.

Question: Should a person share his feelings when he is depressed?

Answer: Yes, you can share what you feel. There is nothing wrong with that. We all go through the same states. So, you will not say anything especially new. There will not be any of your personal, heartfelt secrets.

But you can talk about that only in the group, only with those with whom you study, not outside of the group—not with relatives, not at work, or at home.

Question: Where is the boundary of the prohibition for sharing your internal states with each other and discussing a storm of feelings with other new students?

Answer: I cannot tell you this because you still do not understand what levels we are talking about. I believe you must read the first 20 to 30 articles of Rabash, which explain the group work.

It is possible to discuss states of your spiritual development, your spiritual life among yourselves in a group. But only in the group.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 12/16/18

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