Entries in the 'Group Work' Category

The Secret Of Happiness

laitman_939.02Question: The secret of happiness is the internal connection of the hearts into one whole, but what is the internal connection? How can you describe it? What should I yearn for?

Answer: Internal connection is possible only through the group. In a friends’ meeting, for example, you should imagine that you are in a corrected spiritual state. For this purpose meetings with friends are held to create this state inside you, to sculpt it, and to remain in it for a whole week until your next gathering.

The whole Kabbalistic method is aimed at recreating the proper structure of man, which means that everyone should connect wisely, emotionally, consciously, consistently, by trial and error, in an attempt to resemble the Creator.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/19/16

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Demonstration Of Love

laitman_942Question: Is playing at demonstrating love an effective method only in a group of Kabbalists or can it be used in any group that works together, or in a family, or anywhere else?

Answer: I don’t know what is a done in any work groups. In a group of Kabbalists, it is necessary to play at demonstrating love in order for us to draw the surrounding Light. We use the method of induction here because we are actually working with very powerful forces of nature.

When I intentionally force myself to behave lovingly toward friends and they do the same toward me, we draw the upper force of nature to ourselves, and then this force begins to build this kind of attitude and interactions in us.

If we want to be kind to each other, then we must act as if we are kind, even when we understand perfectly well that in reality we are not like that at all. But we also know that as we are doing this, the upper Light is correcting us.

Question: Is that why, for example, when you give a gift to a friend, you have to tell everyone about it and not hide it?

Answer: Of course. Everyone must be told. You are demonstrating a positive example and advertising love to the world.

You must give gifts and do the rest also. That is why when I give something, I must tell everyone about it! And no false modesty is necessary! All those are lies anyway! It doesn’t get you anywhere. Let it be the opposite. Let people talk about what kind of gifts they want to give to each other.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/11/2017

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Workshop In A Circle And Practical Kabbalah – Part 4

laitman_527The Kabbalistic Meal

Question: What is special about the Kabbalistic meal?

Answer: The meal is the most difficult action in Kabbalah because during it a person must feel himself as being together with the others in a common connection and loving them. He wants everyone to enjoy the good tastes that he now experiences.

There should be such a common connection between them that a person enjoys, not the taste of food, but the fact that they eat together and that this is what fills him. The main taste is not in the treats themselves but in the fact that now we are filling each other with our mutual relationship, love, connection, and unity.

It turns out that, during the meal, a person experiences great inner tension. After all, he must constantly control with what intention he is taking every bite, putting the spoon into his mouth, chewing, swallowing, as well as feeling the tastes while chewing, swallowing, and digesting the food.

Thus, he is in the process of receiving the Light into his spiritual Kli (vessel), in connection with all the others because the spiritual consumption of food is common to all and not only to each one individually.

Therefore, each one must feel that he eats the food together with everybody else as one man with the same mouth, with one tongue, one palate, and one throat. He chews with 32 teeth, which means he clarifies 32 streams of wisdom (the Light of Hochma).

When he swallows, he feels not the taste of the food but the taste of performing the action together with everyone. He transforms this material action into the reception of Light into the spiritual Partzuf for the sake of bestowal. If he does so with respect to everyone, then he can also be sure that he does it together with the Creator. Therefore, a meal is a very difficult spiritual action and requires much higher attainment than a workshop or a gathering of friends.

All in all, there are three actions performed by a Kabbalistic group that aims toward unification: a workshop, a gathering of friends, and a meal.

The goal of all of these actions is to connect the person with the rest of the group so that he ceases to feel himself as a separate element, dissolves in the group, and becomes included in everyone as a whole. Thus, he loses his egoistic individuality and receives the entire common Kli, the quality of bestowal, that all the others also have.

He exits his egoism and becomes included in the friends, feeling that there is nothing but them. As he loses himself, he enters the spiritual world, the sensation of the Creator, that is, the elevation to another nature based on bestowal and love.
From KabTV’s “A New Life” 7/20/17

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Deceive Yourself

laitman_942Question: What should be done if someone in the group deliberately works against unity?

Answer: Within each person, there is an egoistic force that repels him from others, tricks him, and lowers the importance of connection.

We can say as much as we like: ”Yes, I must, I have to, I will do something,” but in reality do nothing. After all, I can’t force myself to open up to friends and begin to connect with them.

This means that we should try to create such alternative states so that the friends would obligate me to take action.

Thus, we should not only understand those people who have strong intolerance for the group, but also to a fight against egoism. Uniting with the group is the main problem. Here, egoism stands firmly on its positions.

Some people have a different problem. They can easily connect externally. It is easy for them to hug and sing. But they cannot overcome an inner barrier. Moreover, they don’t even feel that this barrier exists in them.

So, at every stage everyone has their own obstacles. What can you do? Try to deceive yourself.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 10/30/16

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What Is Pain?

laitman_528.02Question: You claim that if you hurt a friend, then you hit the whole system. What is pain?

Answer: Pain is a sensation of lack of filling in a desire. There are different thresholds of the sensation of lack of filling. A serious threshold causes pain.

Question: What does it mean to hurt a friend in the ten.

Answer: If it is a good ten, then you hurt your friend if you do not realize yourself in it.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 5/21/17

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How To Correctly Form A Prayer

laitman_938_05Question: How does one form and compose a group prayer correctly and how does one remain in a prayer like this for 24 hours a day?

Answer: At first, the prayer can be artificial because you still don’t feel a special yearning in the heart about concern for the group, for the friends, for connection, for the shared yearning among you, and from that to the Creator.

All of this begins with a fairly artificial internal movement. But gradually, under the influence of the study, the upper Light will operate on you. You begin to feel that your mechanical, false, and artificial actions take on a completely different shade: natural, correct, true, and sincere.

The upper Light that influences you will insert its characteristics into you. And then as a result of this, your prayer will become true; you will feel that you are as one single whole with the rest of the friends.

You must connect the points in the heart to each other, like ten drops of water that are connected together into one big drop. Then you begin to feel within them a higher energy, a higher state, the upper world! Your whole life will be in the upper world.

This is your soul. It is one, for the entire group of ten. A person must understand that individually he cannot move this way. He must connect with others either virtually or physically. Here’s to your success!
From a Virtual Russian Lesson 5/21/17

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The Basic Tools Of Egoism Management

laitman_933.jpgQuestion: What tools does the wisdom of Kabbalah offer in order to manage egoism?


  • Limiting yourself with the help of the upper Light, which a person receives through the group.
  • Nullifying yourself with regard to the group and to this degree feeling one’s lowest point.
  • Investing all of my efforts in the group and in helping the friends in the group, in order to attain the highest point.

The gap between the lowest point and the highest point determines the format of the revelation of the Creator to a person.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/26/17

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Only Into The Ten!

laitman_938_07Question: Let’s say we have united in the ten, how can we join in a crowded congress?

Answer: The ten is enough. If you are included into it, you will understand what to do with others.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/19/17

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How Is Love Created?

laitman_934Question: Is the love between friends created by unity in the ten or not?

Answer: The love for friends is created by the regular participation in the study, by the intention for unity with the friends during the study, and by discussing different problems.

Love emerges because, as the upper Light influences us, we begin to feel that together we make up one unique whole.
We see that there are no friends any more, but only the internal points of the desire for spirituality that is inside us.

We have to gather our points in the heart, and if we connect them, we will receive a spiritual vessel in which the structure of the upper world will be revealed.
From a videoconference with Russian Learning Center students, 5/21/17

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How Can We Turn To The Creator Correctly?

arava-convention_931-01.jpgQuestion: How can we turn to the Creator correctly in order to limit the time we are in concealment?

Answer: I think that the point here is not the Creator but the friends. The closer I get to the group, the more I will place myself under the influence of the Light that operates through the center of the group.

It is only through the center of the group that I can turn to the source of the Light, to the Creator, and ask for the whole group, not for myself. By being in the center of the group with everyone, I will receive the positive influence of the Light.
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