It is a final statement of a person to his family, friends and relatives that he does not accept what he receives in life, that he cannot justify what is happening to him, that he deserves something else, and that he gives up on fighting for whatever he thinks he deserves.
It is an act of betrayal to those who love and care about the person. That is, instead of involving others to work on finding a solution together, the suicidal person retreats into his own self-aimed thoughts and feelings, prioritizing the elimination of his own pains and pressures over the negative effect that the act has on others.
However, there are two sides to every coin. The fact that suicidal people lose hope and see no light at the end of the tunnel is also because they feel no support at the end of that tunnel.
Therefore, as with any problem in life, we need to bear mutual responsibility for that problem. In other words, we all carry the blame for failing to actively build a society that provides everything people need in order to live healthy and happy lives, i.e., conditions that would prevent people from considering suicide in the first place.
For instance, where are the mechanisms in society that check whether people have the essentials they need, both in terms of basic survival necessities as well as psychological support?
It is true that we live in very stressful and difficult times, and we can expect them to become more stressful and difficult. We thus need to think seriously about how we can organize teams and groups that will distribute life’s essentials to people in need of them, to save people from becoming cornered into choking financial and psychological situations that often bring about insurmountable stress and depression, and also teams and groups that will be able to talk with people, providing them with ongoing psychological support.
It has been shown in various social psychology experiments, and Kabbalists have long described it as a fundamental aspect of our lives, that others’ opinions are important to us, even if we fail to acknowledge that it is the case.
There is a paradox here: According to our egoistic human nature, which prioritizes personal benefit over all else, we consider nobody but ourselves. Why, then, do we care about what others think and say?
Nature has set us up in such a way so that we will enter into a reciprocal relationship with our surrounding society and world.
If other people’s opinions would not matter to us, then we would not be able to reach our full human potential. That is, we would not be able to change ourselves, expanding our perception and sensation in order to realize our interconnectedness and interdependence with the single system of nature, including us humans as its integral parts.
Today, as we face a world closing in on us, with tightening ecological, economic and social conditions, the change to a more positively-connected human consciousness is of primal importance.
By recognizing the vast extent to which others’ opinions influence us, we can make wiser choices regarding our surrounding society: choosing the people we surround ourselves with, i.e., according to shared goals, needs and values, and also the kind of influence we input into this network and impart onto others.
Ultimately, the fullest realization of our mutual influence leads us to feel a need for mutual responsibility, consideration, compromise, support, encouragement and cooperation.
In other words, if we were to understand the full extent of our influence on each other, we would feel necessitated to think and act positively toward one another, as it would secure our harmonious coexistence. Any deviation to a negative hate-driven thought or act would be felt as harmful to the entire system we share, and thus also harmful to ourselves.
We would then feel a need to build a new enveloping social atmosphere that supports, educates and encourages everyone’s development to realize the change in human connections and consciousness positively.
In today’s distorted egoistic world, where people around the world prioritize personal benefit over society’s benefit, it is naive and incorrect to think that “good people” will have a good life, and “bad people” the opposite.
Rather, since our egoistic intentions underlie our social, political and cultural constructs, then it is natural to expect nothing positive to emerge from them.
It is especially the case today, where our egos have grown to enormous proportions, much bigger than in any other time in history.
According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, humanity is in a developmental process toward a state of total unification, where we will experience perfection. Our current era marks a major transition in this process from our old egoistic world to a new unified one.
Today, we can expect major flips and turns (the coronavirus pandemic is a prime example) where, if we successfully view them from within the natural process we are in, we will then see how they emerge in order to give us conditions that guide us to realize the very high density of our interdependence and interconnectedness.
We will increasingly feel on our flesh that if we fail to align ourselves with the new and more connected conditions, then we will experience them as painful. On the contrary, if we upgrade our attitudes to each other in order to balance with our tighter interdependence, we will then experience our transition to a more connected world positively and harmoniously—as a new world of greater happiness, confidence and prosperity for all people that opens up to us.
I thus hope that the awareness of our connectedness and our place in nature will spread, so that we will be spared from a lot of suffering as we head into completely new conditions, different to anything we have experienced before.
Until now, the pains that have befallen the world have led to no effective solutions or discernments.
People simply await its end so that they can get back to doing business as usual, thinking about how to minimize their losses, and even more so, how to profit off of the pandemic.
It comes as no surprise, since it is a mere expected outcome of our innate egoistic attitude to the world, which works on us involuntarily.
Therefore, the coronavirus is here to stay for a lot longer, since it has appeared in order to perform a serious change in the world.
Right now, we are going through a phase of trying to revive many businesses that we have no real need for, and give handouts for work that will be nonexistent in the future.
Authorities fail to understand the newness of the era that we have entered, that it is an era where we need to provide people with life’s essentials, and place all of our surplus focus on an upgraded form of education, which teaches us about this new interdependent world that is revealing itself to us, its laws, and how we can get along with each other in these new conditions. That is, it is a form of education that we need today, which we did not receive as we grew up.
Instead, we try to continue holding onto our past materialistic values, hoping that we will keep our shopping culture of boutiques, jewelry stores, expensive watches and cars.
Therefore, in relation to the change that nature demands from humanity today, the pandemic has not even started yet.
I thus hope that we will open our eyes and see that we are in a new, more interdependent and interconnected world, and living in this world requires making serious adjustments to how we used to live, which comes down to becoming more essentials-focused while engaging in learning of what is this new world, how we have developed to this point, and what we can do in order to survive and prosper in today’s new tighter interdependent conditions.
Before discussing ways of changing society, we should question what changes society should acquire.
In our era, the needed change in society is a change of values, that instead of valuing egoistic pursuits, to be more individually successful, wealthy, famous and/or powerful, if we want a society that is full of healthy, happy and confident individuals, then we need values of mutual responsibility, consideration, cooperation and positive connection permeating society.
In order to reach such a change of values, we cannot implement this change by ourselves. Rather, we need an outer influence to enable this change. However, we can persevere to reach such a change, and we need to understand nature’s general tendency to increasingly connect us for that to happen.
Outside of our perception and sensation, there is a single force of nature that acts out of absolute love, and which takes every single detail of reality into careful consideration.
It created and evolved many layers of the reality we experience, from inanimate matter, through plant and animal life, and finally, us humans.
Therefore, in order to enable a change in society, we need to invite the force of nature that creates and sustains all life, so that it operates on us and guides our change to a new set of values that bring us closer to balance with nature.
We simply need to gain more awareness about how nature works, how human nature is an egoistic and self-centered form that opposes nature’s general attribute of love, bestowal and connection, and how from the negative pole of creation, we can invite the positive force into our lives, to let it connect us, change our values, and likewise, our perception and sensation of the integral reality we ultimately share.
We need to understand that nature is guiding us to a state of complete unification, and thus we should be interested in seeking how we can unite above our differences.
It is incumbent on such unity that the diversity of differences, all individual characteristics and views, remain in place, i.e., that not one side or view eliminates the other, but that each view is given its duly space to exist.
In order to unite between differing and opposing views, a third source is required—an ability to concede one’s view to accept and even care about the other’s view, which comes solely from unification holding more importance than the details of each of our views.
While it seems impossible in today’s reality, when we understand that nature’s tendency is to unite all of its parts, including humans, and that we are being developed in that direction, then if we implemented such education of this tendency, we would gain the strength to be able to make the required mutual concessions in order to see:
all differing and opposing views as necessary parts of a single system,
unity above these divisions is beneficial to everyone, and that
it is fruitless to resist nature.
That is, we would see that agreeing to remain solely within our opposite sides only increases suffering, and that nature wants us to rise above such tendencies to unite.
Nature ultimately guides us to unite above all of our differences. People who have revealed this tendency in perception and sensation, i.e. Kabbalists, wrote about it that “love will cover all transgressions.”
It means that opposed parties need to discover the negative characteristics that each side holds, and bridge both sides with the help of a method of learning and implementing unity above division.
If we left ourselves to our natural devices, then we would only be led to more hatred of each other. That is, human nature is egoistic, primarily considering self-benefit over everything else, and our worldviews are all constructed on this narrow perception and sensation of reality. As such, they lead us to a crisis where we feel that others need to be changed or eliminated in order for us to be at rest.
Today, we have the ability to identify this problem. We are each individualists who each hold a unique place and view in the system, and we are thus each different from each other.
However, we have to raise our awareness about the single system of nature that we all share and exist within, how this system guides us to unite above our differences, and we thus have to establish connections above all differences and disagreements between us.
It is as if we set out to build a new floor in our building: our first floor contains all of our various views untouched, and on the second floor, we appreciate what connects us above all else.
There is room for everyone in today’s world. The time has come when we need to build a new connection between us, not where one wants to destroy the other. By destroying others, we destroy ourselves. This is a law of nature. Plus and minus need to exist alongside each other, and a new mechanism needs to be placed between them that lets them both work harmoniously as part of a single system.
We thus need to reach a state where we will feel ourselves as existing above the egoistic human nature, which is the entirety of our being, and discover a much greater reality.
Answer: First, the gangster needs to be re-educated and then loved.
Question: Will the understanding of my aspirations necessarily change on the part of people close to me? Should they support me? Or is it my own work?
Answer: No. This is your personal work, they may not even know about it. You can do this without them knowing.
Question: Why have great Kabbalists been severely persecuted throughout history?
Answer: Because they spoke the truth and called for love between people. And people don’t like that.
Comment: Please provide examples of bestowal and altruism from minimum to maximum.
My Response: How can I give you an example? If, for example, I give you one dollar as the minimum and ten dollars as the maximum, is this clear? How will I measure the return from minimum to maximum?
Question: Who was Mother Teresa: an altruist or was she motivated by selfishness?
Answer: I don’t know, I am not familiar with her.
Question: Does the Creator have questions or complaints about us?
Answer: The Creator has no questions for us. Why would He ask them if He Himself raises these questions in us so that we can answer them?
Question: What you are saying is not easy to understand. What can we do about it?
Answer: Listen several times. We have many conversations on different topics. Consult with the teachers of your online studies, what suits you best. Take lectures, lessons, absorb them, and you will see how much you progress.
Question: How would someone who is not an egoist be? How would he differ from an egoist?
Answer: He is different because he knows how to use his egoism correctly.
Question: How can we find out what the Creator thinks?
Answer: The Creator thinks about doing good to everyone.  From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 5/10/20
Despite the high anticipation for COVID-19’s demise, it is here to stay for a while.
The coronavirus emerged in order to change the way we think, and it will remain with us until we complete this transformation.
Since humanity is a massive diverse aggregate of different people, it will take some time for us to adapt to a much more interdependent world than what we were accustomed to in pre-coronavirus times.
Similar to how people get used to living with chronic diseases, so too we as a humanity will get used to the coronavirus.
It will simply become an integral part of our lives.
As any onset of a disease is felt severely as a shock to the body’s systems, likewise we are currently undergoing the initial pangs of the coronavirus’ “injection” into humanity.
However, this transition phase will settle and human society will assume a new, more independent form.
Even much of the engagement that the coronavirus has brought upon us has acted to exemplify our dependence on each other, i.e., how we depend on each other to wear masks, keep good personal hygiene, maintain our distance from each other and quarantine ourselves if we knowingly contact people with the virus.
We thus see how a small virus has helped us start seeing a more connected world, which operates on everyone and where everyone holds mutual influence, and it will continue to “teach” us such wisdom the more it stays with us.
We would thus be wise to internalize how we are all parts of a single system that is developing toward a new state of balance with nature.
That is, as nature is interdependent and interconnected, so we also discover more and more of nature’s and our own interconnectedness the more we develop.
Also, the more this process of increasing interdependence reveals itself to us, the more we will find ourselves at new sets of crossroads, stage after stage: We either agree to our increasing interdependence and accept more responsibility and consideration for each other, or we oppose it, and thus feel our tightening connection as an increasingly ugly and painful situation.
However, either way, nature presses us to connect more and more, like a steamroller of evolution that flattens our egoistic and harmful attitudes to each other. It squashes our egos like a lemon skin against a lemon squeezer, and will continue doing so until all of our egoistic juices become extracted.
At that stage, we will find a new kind of fulfillment in such qualities that currently seem less important or even ugly to us, like kindness, altruism, giving and consideration of others.
If only we could see that there is a very clear line from our current reality to a new, unified and perfect one, that nature has a state of perfection in store for us and carefully guides us there, then we would encounter everything in our lives more confidently, with a sense of purpose.
Now, we are divided in our attitudes to each other, and more than anything else, this division causes all of our pains. Our division is expressed as each of us being primarily concerned with self-benefit over benefiting others, which is opposite to nature’s holistic characteristic. Suffering is the differential we feel between our state and nature’s, and it operates on us to make us connect.
The more we make strides to connect with each other, the more balanced we will become with nature, and we will thus experience an inversion of our pains and sorrows to pleasures and joy.
We need only agree to connect above our divisive drives that constantly pull in the other direction, and when we reach such an agreement, we will likewise experience its benefits.
Thus, viewing humanity as a single organism and nature as its superior, we can see how nature vaccinated humanity with the coronavirus in order to heal us from our divisive attitudes to each other.
We can thus expect to exit the coronavirus pandemic as a stronger humanity, with healthier attitudes dwelling within, among peoples and nations. Therefore, while we are forced to keep our distance from each other, while doing so, we would be wise to think how we can become more internally connected.
What, then, would it take for the coronavirus to end?
By understanding that it is much more than a mere physical disease, but that it has come to bring upon a change to our thinking—from divided to connected, egoistic to altruistic, and individualistic to interdependent—then by adjusting our attitudes accordingly, we would truly put a stop to the pandemic, since nature would no longer need to use it to teach us a lesson.
Therefore, we should look out for each other, consider how we can prevent viruses of any kind to pass to others, from physical diseases to any kinds of harmful thoughts, and by exercising this mutual responsibility and consideration, the coronavirus will disappear from our lives.
Above photo by Fusion Medical Animation on Unsplash.
The coronavirus is inviting us to make a significant change.
It is up to us, however, whether we will experience the impending change as positive or negative.
What is the major change that the coronavirus comes to spark in us?
It is that we change our attitudes to each other, to think positively about each other in order to build a new society that is better connected and balanced with nature’s interconnectedness and interdependence.
If we saw nature’s tendency to develop us to become increasingly connected, with ties of mutual responsibility and consideration, then we would see that we need only implement more care and consideration for each other in order to positively realize our transition.
Failing to take any initiative to improve our connections would generate more suffering. That is, if we fail to upgrade our attitudes to each other, then we will feel the growing distance between the level of dependence nature requires of us and what we ourselves implement as various pains and complications. Vaccines and other medicines would then be of no use, as the coronavirus operates on a whole new level that we have yet to recognize.
It likely seems far-fetched that the coronavirus requires a change in our attitudes to each other more than anything else, and that we will fail to defeat it with mere physical means, but longer term effects of the coronavirus will urge our discovery of upgraded attitudes to each other out of a lack of other options.
In other words, through the coronavirus, nature has given us new conditions by which we undergo fateful changes. For example, if we want to teach our children a new language, mere explanations of that new language are insufficient in order for them to absorb it. But if we place them in conditions where they encounter the language more and more, such as posting words on post-it notes on various furniture and devices around the home, as well as holding regular times when we speak the new language together, then the practical change of conditions teaches the new language more than any explanations.
Therefore, through the new tighter interdependent conditions that the coronavirus pandemic has revealed to us, we would be wise to try and develop our attitudes, to match our new interdependence accordingly.
One exercise we can conduct in this direction involves masks. As health departments around the world have requested wearing masks in public places, we can check our attitude to such a condition: Do we wear the masks, or ignore the guideline? And if we wear the masks, is it because we don’t want to get infected by others, or is it because we don’t want to infect others in case we are asymptomatic carriers of the virus?
The latter discernment is definitely the most altruistic and closest to nature’s attitude to us.
That is just one exercise where we can check our attitude to others, and seek how to upgrade our attitude to such a level where benefiting others becomes as important, if not more important, than serving our narrow self-interests.
Our world is governed by two forces, positive and negative, and we humans exist between these forces. In spirituality, the root of the negative force is called “Tisha B’Av” (“the 9th of Av“).
Even as far back as in ancient Babylon, the negative force always reveals around this special date. Whether it be the sin of the spies, the ruin of the First Temple, the exile of Babylon, the ruin of the Second Temple at Tisha B’Av, and the expulsion of Jews from the Land of Israel, or afterward from Spain, Germany and England, the people of Israel execute major sins and also receive punishments on Tisha B’Av.
Why do such sins and punishments take place?
It is all because we fail to bring the positive force in advance of the negative force that reveals at Tisha B’Av.
The First Temple was ruined due to our lack of connection, and the Second Temple was ruined due to unfounded hatred.
In each case, we encounter a shattering due to our growing distance from each other, which unleashes the negative force among our relations.
As Kabbalist Yehuda Ashlag (Baal HaSulam) writes:
“As the natural death of the individual results from disharmony among one’s organs, the nation’s natural decline results from some obstruction that occurred among its organs, as our sages testified (Tosfot, Baba Metzia, Chapter Two), ‘Jerusalem was ruined only because of unfounded hatred that existed in that generation.’ At that time, the nation was plagued and died, and its organs were scattered to every direction.” (Yehuda Ashlag, “The Nation.”)
On the contrary, our unity has the power to block the negative force from entering into our relations, and in its place, our unity lets the positive force shine through our connections, bringing about peace and harmony.