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What Needs To Be Done So a Child Will Not Kill Cats?

022Comment: Irina writes to you: “I am horrified by what has happened! My son was present when his friends killed a stray cat with stones, and then hanged it. My son is 12 years old. I shouted at him so that the neighbors came running.

And suddenly I realized with horror that he couldn’t hear me and didn’t understand why I was yelling at him like that. “Well, big deal, a cat, it’s nobody’s. It was begging for food around here,” was his answer. I’ve been living with this for a month now and I don’t know what to do or how to communicate with him. Why is there such cruelty in him, in all of them?!”

My Response: You have raised a “good” son.

Question: So you blame her?

Answer: Of course, it’s her fault, but who else?

As long as it didn’t concern her, everything was fine. And now, when she saw it for the first time, it hurt her.

Comment: But still, it’s not so much the parents as the environment.

My Response: It doesn’t matter. Anyway, the demand is from the parents.

If parents ask themselves harshly what is happening to their children, then this will not happen.

This means that there is such a situation at home. Precisely at home, the situation is like that! It’s in the air. About the fact that you can kill an animal or even a stranger, some homeless person, and then others in general.

Also on TV someone kills.

Comment: And these games are computer games, and that’s it.

My Response: Check what your son “feeds on.”

Question: And if, for example, parents see that those with whom the child communicates are in a bad environment, they have to force him out of there?

Answer: They should keep him out and stuff him with other values. This should be done beautifully. Through good films, literature, and so on, but so that he would be interested.

Comment: What a burden on parents after all!

My Response: I also grew up in an environment where around me boys of the same age as me were then in prison. Such were the problems!

Comment: Yards.

My Response: Yes.

Question: And your parents didn’t let you out?

Answer: No.

Question: What is the advice to parents if they see that the child is heading downward? What advice would they give to them if he fell into some kind of bad company?

Answer: Isolate. And give anything but bad company. My father took me to see good films about all sorts of musicians. He himself was a very big fan of cinema.

Comment: Meaning, he understood that it was necessary to surround you with this.

My Response: Yes. I believe that this must necessarily be done.

Comment: In general, the view today is that I put the child in front of the computer or the TV, just so he will be silent.

My Response: There is no such thing. It depends on the internal situation in the house. The child feels very much what is important to parents and what is not, what they welcome, what they prefer, respect.

Question: So, in principle, you are talking about another school—the school of parenting?

Answer: Of course, the only way is to educate parents and for parents to create such an environment at home in which the child can breathe the right air.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/7/22

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In Fact, Everything Is Simple

760.1

Time is motionless, it is we who are moving in the wrong direction in it (Stanisław Jerzy Lec).

Question: What does this mean to you?

Answer: If we want to cancel our egoism, we will immediately feel how time uncurls like crumpled paper. Suddenly it is straightened up, and becomes smooth again. All crumpled surfaces and corners straighten out and become one common whole, and we are on it. This is the plane of time.

Question: Is it a harmonious state? Is it harmony?

Answer: Harmony is when I merge with this plane and feel that there is no vector of movement in anything. There is only me and this plane with which I have to align myself. That’s it.

I go into this plane, and I exist in it. This gives a person a sense of simplicity and singularity of the world.

Question: So does all this running around, all this complexity of everything suddenly disappear, and only this simplicity remains? What is this simplicity?

Answer: The fact that there is only one force that exists and operates, which I need to get to know, discover it for myself, and become like it. This is the force of bestowal, of melting into everything.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/7/22

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How to See Good Instead of Evil

963.1Question: Tatiana Naumova is simply screaming, in her letter it is written in capital letters: “Tell me, how is it possible to cover this evil with love?! How?!” She gives a link to terrible footage of murders and rapes. Scary footage!

Actually, there are a lot of things in the world today that cannot be covered with love. What would you say about this?

Answer: The fact is that there is only one problem—what a person enters into. If he closes his eyes and enters the world of contradictions, murders, lies, robberies, and everything else, meaning, into the world of evil, then, of course, this is the opposite state. There is no way out of this world.

However, if he nevertheless imagines a world of goodness that is not clearly revealed before us, but we can still imagine it, then he can awaken within himself great desires for such a state and cause their revelation from above. Then everything that he saw as evil, he will gradually see as good.

Question: Even the most terrible things?

Answer: He will not see the most terrible things. He simply will not be seeing them.

Question: What will these pictures, all this horror be replaced with for him?

Answer: It will be replaced with good. Try and you will see.

Question: It is very difficult! I see a clear, terrible evil more and more today. I see evil! What will I see?

Answer: You will see the opposite. That the world is absolutely good, all people love each other, and no one does anyone any harm. How can this be?!

My eyes and my ears say the opposite. They will tell you the opposite of what they are saying now. Everything will change to the opposite.

Question: Should this be accepted as a postulate?

Answer: Not a postulate, but an assumption that you are being told about the fact that you can attain the world in a different form, inverse of what you are attaining now.

Question: You said, “You can.” If I will sort of build it for myself, force myself, think like this, enter it, that this entire world that I see is not that world, evil is not evil, but all this good, is this how I should work?

Answer: Yes. Try and you will see.

Comment: We should advise this to everyone. The entire world needs this today.

My Response: Yes, of course. People will come to this. They will see that it is simply impossible to go on like this, and they will begin to hear such advice.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 5/12/22

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When You Are Waiting With Horror For A Call

294.2Comment: Vladimir writes, “Dear Michael Laitman! I wanted to share my thoughts with you. My friend’s son is fighting in the current war. Recently I tried to do an exercise to imagine myself in the place of that friend. And I could not stand this exercise. Five minutes later, I found myself in a state of shock. After all, we exist in the same space with smartphones, this is a miracle of the 21st century, without which it is impossible to imagine modern life. And this item is on the table. Any call makes my heart skip a beat! My hand becomes like lead and the horror strikes with the fact that on a familiar number you might suddenly hear someone else’s voice, ‘Your son…’ And so on, second by second, day by day, I could not imagine it.”

Tell me, please, what kind of world do we live in? Before you really could somehow exist in these pauses, even terrible, terrible ones, until, God forbid, something happens; time went by, you lived. And now, the distance from the shot to the sensation has shortened so much.

My Response: I understand that.

Question: What is it? Tell me, why is this given to us today?

Answer: So that we can experience all this and determine how we really live, how we create our reality.

Comment: Our reality is like this.

My Response: So let us place all the people who command our reality in this reality.

Question: Those who are twisting all this, let them have such a feeling?

Answer: Yes, so that they sit in the room and wait for the phone call. And so that they have no opportunity to change anything! Leave them that way for a week. And then see what happens to them.

One should feel that these are his own children. It does not matter that his real kids are in London.

Question: Will the prayer of parents arise from this state?

Answer: Yes, it is natural. Even if they do not understand, the heart itself will react like this: “Please do not let anything happen to them!”

Question: And where is the Creator’s answer to all this? Let everything be over, that is enough! How long can we be imposed on?

Answer: The Creator will bring them to a state so that they actually turn to Him, and so that they do everything in this world that depends on them so that there is no war.

Question: You say “they,” do you mean practically all people?

Answer: All people, mainly parents, on whom this decision depends.

Question: So until this prayer is raised with sufficient force, it will continue, and we will be brought to prayer all the time?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/21/22

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627.2Question: Alexey writes: “It seems like we used to live in perfect harmony, and suddenly everything was over. We live separately, we try not to run into each other in the hallway or kitchen. We already understand that all conversations boil down to war. We met in Kyiv and got married in Omsk. We have constant accusations and war in our house. I don’t know what to do.”

How can we set up this household unit?

Answer: They must live for the future, not separating from each other, but creating something together in common—a family. There is no escape from this.

Question: And when eyes are covered with resentment and hatred, how can we come to the fact that we have a future?

Answer: Even in the case when a person who is in front of you is against you, you need to help each other to become friends, to be loving.

Question: They say that they lived in perfect harmony. How can they return to it, soul to soul? What does your constant offer mean to them: “Love will cover all transgressions”?

Answer: It means that they can raise themselves to the next level of existence. Because by overcoming hostility, even hatred, they strive for mutual connection and even love. And in this love they perceive the Creator because He is common to them.

There is nothing else left in common. And therefore, through such an action they can reveal Him, that is, a special property, a special feeling, the center of the world.

Question: Are you saying that this property, the Creator, must manifest itself between them?

Answer: I think that it must manifest itself because it comes precisely for this purpose from above.

Question: And their division and hatred comes from above?

Answer: Separation and hatred come so that they try to connect with each other and find in themselves everything “against” and then everything “for.” And when they collect these fragments inside them, they will suddenly feel how they put together such an interesting puzzle that they will discover a single force, a single property, a single matter of nature.

Question: And then will this connection between them become real?

Answer: Yes. And besides, they will discover a new life in this connection, a life already spiritual.

Question: So you are saying that this separation has been deliberately imposed on them?

Answer: Of course.

Question: That is, it was induced because they were already capable of connection?

Answer: That is why it all happens in our generation. And if they could not come to a mutual connection, then there would be no such thing. This is precisely because we in our generation can do it.

I wish them to rise above their egoism, which blinds them, and to understand that in fact it is the Creator who pushes them toward love.

These are already the beginnings of the next state of humanity when people will discover the absolute inconsistency in the previous level, as different in all respects. And now at this stage, they must unite.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/10/22

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You Have To Go Consciously To The End Of The World

962.2Question: Irma asks: “Why is the feeling of the end of the world so sweet, that it is here on the doorstep?”

Answer: For her, the end of the world is the end of suffering, confusion, disappointment, all sorts of obstacles, resistances, everything. Many people would like to die quietly, peacefully. Let me just forget and sleep.

Question: Leave me finally alone. And that is why the feeling of the end of the world is sweet?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And what of it? How to emerge out of this sweetness or what to do?

Answer: There is no end of the world at all. There is a transition from this state, which we call our world, to the next state, to another world, to the next degree, to another universe. Here we go to another world.

Question: Does this sweet sensation give us something? Does it encourage us to do something?

Answer: Of course. We have nothing to be afraid of. We just need to move toward it consciously.

Question: Go to the end of the world?

Answer: Yes. This egoistic world of ours must end. And instead of it, there will be an altruistic world, a connection above our egoism.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/10/22

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When Will The Messiah Come?

624.07Comment: Our viewer Galina Azaria writes: “Michael Laitman, I am very grateful for your instructive, informative programs. I am interested in one question, and no one else will answer it except you. Who is the Messiah? Will the Messiah come soon? If he comes, will there be changes on our planet? Why are so many people waiting for him? Who is he?”

My Response: The Messiah is not a person. It is a special force of nature that pulls us out. Therefore, it is called “Messiah” from the word “Moshech” (to pull out). It pulls us out of our egoism and thus brings us closer to each other and helps us create a better atmosphere, a better society, better families, and so on.

This positive force acts even now, but in a very small capacity. However, we are getting closer to the state when all of us will think and hope that this force will be manifested more.

Question: Despite the fact that we are egoists? This is a bit contradictory. He pulls us out of egoism, and egoists suddenly think “Let the Messiah come.” Why do they think that?

Answer: In principle, we theoretically agree to exit egoism, and no one wants to admit that he is an egoist. Therefore, if the Messiah pulls us out, it will be like the current pandemic. Some kind of a virus comes into the world and annoys us until we wish to free ourselves from this egoism.

He must show us that this is necessary. No one in the world feels that this is what hinders them.

Question: He must demonstrate to us that this is evil. Will he then pull us out according to our request?

Answer: Gradually, according to our consent, he will pull us out.

Question: What is above this line?

Answer: There is the same life there, only not egoistic; instead you live for the other, and everyone lives for the other. This is a completely different system of relationships, connections, and values. Then everything is fine.

Question: What kind of system of values? Does the concept of “love” exist there?

Answer: There is nothing else besides providing service to the other. A person feels his freedom, his destiny in this.

Question: Does it mean that you do not even think to grab everything for yourself?

Answer: The thought is there. However, if a person rises above this, he has great pleasure. If there is no thought to grab, then what will be the pleasure from bestowal and love? Therefore, “to grab” remains.

Question: Does ascent above your nature bring great pleasure? Is this what a person will want to come to?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/8/21

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Is There A Satan?

115.06From a Note to You: 

Tell me, does Satan exist? Personally, I think Satan exists, and it is Satan who rules this world. My question is, is it possible to defeat him, or will he lead us to the end of the world?”

Answer: “Satan” stems from the Hebrew word “sote,” which means leading us away from the righteous path.

This is our egoism. I will tell you a secret. He is in each of us, sitting somewhere in a corner with horns and hooves. 🙂 He encourages us all the time. This is Satan.

Question: So, your answer to the first question, “Tell me, is there a Satan?” is “Yes?”

Answer: Yes. In each one of us.

Question: And he rules the world, as you are asked?

Answer: Our world, that is, our state, is ruled by him until we correct it. We cannot expel it from ourselves , we can only correct it.

Question: To the question, “Can it be defeated?”

Answer: You can. For this purpose, the science of Kabbalah has been given. It explains how to do it for us.

Defeating our selfishness is what we need to do. Each, within himself, and each, relative to the others. This is done in a group, in a circle of people who want the same thing. Just do not think that they are in the business of casting Satan out of themselves.🙂

They are simply engaged in what they want in order to approach the property of bestowal and love among themselves. That is all.

Question: That is, to put oneself in this environment and move with them?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And regarding the last part of his question, “Or will he lead us to the end of the world this way?”

Answer: He will lead us to the end of the world, this Satan. But, we can speed up this process and come to the end of this world much faster.

Question: What does “the end of the world” mean to you?

Answer: The end of the world is the end of the egoistic, limited, petty existence of a person in this terrible, otherwise dark world.

Question: And then, what is revealed to a person?

Answer: Infinity, eternity, perfection.

Question: So you are for the end of the world?

Answer: I am in favor of the end of this world as soon as possible because, immediately after it, comes the beginning of another world.

Question: The real one?

Answer: Yes. A higher one.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/23/20

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laitman_281.02Question: You have been on the path of correction for so many years. Can you say that you are a free person?

Answer: I don’t know if there is a free person in our world in the sense that you are asking the question. In fact, freedom as we understand it doesn’t exist. It is possible only when you know what the truth is and can act for the sake of it.

Question: To the degree that I become like the Creator, do I become free?

Answer: Without a doubt, because the influence of the Creator on us is the characteristic of bestowal. If you acquire it, then you understand the Creator and the Creator understands you. To this degree you become free from both your egoism and the influence of the environment.

Question: Does a degree of freedom exists as a state of freedom against the violence and coercion by the desires of another person or group of people?

Answer: No, we almost always are affected by other people. The whole question is which society I should situate myself in. If I put myself in a society that is advancing toward the right goal, submit to it, and obey it, then this is how I attain that goal. That is how we must realize our freedom.

Question: What is the difference between freedom of choice and freewill?

Answer: Freewill consists of choosing how to behave. Freedom of choice is the choice itself.

Question: From the point of view of Kabbalah, how accurate is Hegel’s postulate that “freedom is a conscious necessity”?

Answer: This is purely a small materialistic misconception.

Question: Are all the thoughts, desires and actions I perform generated by the Creator?

Answer: Right now, yes,  but when you begin to acquire a Masach (Screen), then the Creator will not do what He wants within you; instead, you will do what you want with the Creator.

Question: Everyone has his own personality. What is it?

Answer: The personality doesn’t bother us. All the same, you are carrying out your egoistic demands. So it doesn’t matter what your personality is. One person loves to eat, the second one likes to dance, a third wants to sleep. What difference does that make? In every case you are carrying out your desires.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 5/12/19

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