Comment: Irina writes to you: “I am horrified by what has happened! My son was present when his friends killed a stray cat with stones, and then hanged it. My son is 12 years old. I shouted at him so that the neighbors came running.
And suddenly I realized with horror that he couldn’t hear me and didn’t understand why I was yelling at him like that. “Well, big deal, a cat, it’s nobody’s. It was begging for food around here,” was his answer. I’ve been living with this for a month now and I don’t know what to do or how to communicate with him. Why is there such cruelty in him, in all of them?!”
My Response: You have raised a “good” son.
Question: So you blame her?
Answer: Of course, it’s her fault, but who else?
As long as it didn’t concern her, everything was fine. And now, when she saw it for the first time, it hurt her.
Comment: But still, it’s not so much the parents as the environment.
My Response: It doesn’t matter. Anyway, the demand is from the parents.
If parents ask themselves harshly what is happening to their children, then this will not happen.
This means that there is such a situation at home. Precisely at home, the situation is like that! It’s in the air. About the fact that you can kill an animal or even a stranger, some homeless person, and then others in general.
Also on TV someone kills.
Comment: And these games are computer games, and that’s it.
My Response: Check what your son “feeds on.”
Question: And if, for example, parents see that those with whom the child communicates are in a bad environment, they have to force him out of there?
Answer: They should keep him out and stuff him with other values. This should be done beautifully. Through good films, literature, and so on, but so that he would be interested.
Comment: What a burden on parents after all!
My Response: I also grew up in an environment where around me boys of the same age as me were then in prison. Such were the problems!
My Response: Yes.
Question: And your parents didn’t let you out?
Question: What is the advice to parents if they see that the child is heading downward? What advice would they give to them if he fell into some kind of bad company?
Answer: Isolate. And give anything but bad company. My father took me to see good films about all sorts of musicians. He himself was a very big fan of cinema.
Comment: Meaning, he understood that it was necessary to surround you with this.
My Response: Yes. I believe that this must necessarily be done.
Comment: In general, the view today is that I put the child in front of the computer or the TV, just so he will be silent.
My Response: There is no such thing. It depends on the internal situation in the house. The child feels very much what is important to parents and what is not, what they welcome, what they prefer, respect.
Question: So, in principle, you are talking about another school—the school of parenting?
Answer: Of course, the only way is to educate parents and for parents to create such an environment at home in which the child can breathe the right air.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/7/22