Question: New research shows that after the birth of a child parents are less happy. About a million parents were interviewed. Parents talk about financial difficulties, about needing a bigger apartment and a bigger car, that children require money, and so on.
What do you think about the news that parents do not feel happier after the birth of a child but the opposite?
Answer: There is no family. A family is when there are three generations. These three generations are not together. The three generations are the grandparents, the father, the mother, and the newborn. They provide the correct foundation, confidence, knowledge of childcare, family structure, and support to the family in everything. They should be an example, they should live together.
In modern apartments, of course, there is no room for this. However, it is desirable to live together. Otherwise, you will not understand what a family should be like, its origin, and the way it existed for thousands of years.
Question: Do children feel that their parents are not very happy about the fact that they had children?
Answer: Of course! The child feels it perfectly; he feels the entire surrounding atmosphere.
Comment: That is, even if they are talking quietly in the kitchen: “Look, we need to spend more money, we need to change the apartment. Why did we do this?”
My Response: All of it is reflected in everything. The child was in the mother’s womb, and now he is in a larger space and feels this space.
Question: So, if there are such thoughts, do they all influence him?
Answer: He feels them all, absorbs, and reacts accordingly.
Question: Even if parents think that it has become harder for them, how should they behave?
Answer: It does not matter that it is harder. They must be prepared that it will be harder. Of course, it will be harder! It becomes harder every day, and it will be harder for them until they die. They cannot escape it, this baby will get bigger and bigger, demand more and more, and so on.
However, they must understand all this and support each other for the sake of the child’s development. This is a very complex system, and it must be supported by society, the government, and the family. And certainly by the closest family!
Question: And what then is the joy of bearing a child?
Answer: To see your future in it, that children are born, and that they will be the continuation of the family. I am not talking about anything spiritual but simple everyday life.
Question: How did this gradually disappear?
Answer: Our egoism has separated us, divided us, put everyone in his own corner, and that is it. This is how it works. It is good for the ego when each of us is inside of himself and cares only about it.
Comment: And even about him, the closest and dearest one, we say that he is a burden to us.
My Response: He is not the closest and dearest. We say that he is a burden to us, he prevents me from taking care of my child, the one within me!
Question: Does it mean that my “I” is the closest and dearest?
Question: What have we come to! I wonder what will happen next?
Answer: It is going to get worse. We will get to the point where we will all run to different corners, hide in our own corner, and not want to communicate with anyone! That is all! I will just be ordering myself a pizza and a coke, or something like that.
Question: And what will happen next?
Answer: Humanity must see the dead-end. Once we realize that this is a dead-end, then revelation will come from this dead-end: that we cannot continue like this.
I think we need to come to an understanding. That is, there should not be wars, there should not be any riots, excesses, but there should be clear awareness of the hopelessness and utter futility, and then we will start thinking: “What should we do?” Then we will remember: “Wait, I have heard something from Kabbalists.”
Question: “There is a book on my shelf, there is a clip,” and so on. Will a person look at it and start moving toward correction?
Answer: I am sure of it.
Question: So we must put everything on shelves, in computers?
Answer: Of course! We have no other choice.
Question: Even if we come to the same conclusions all the time?
Answer: It does not matter. If you have a small child who is growing and developing, you still have to tell him what to do, how to behave correctly. You cannot just leave it.
Question: In what will the correction of humanity be?
Answer: In learning to come closer to each other. They need to come out of seclusion, from their corners, and connect with each other in the right way. In the end, they will discover in these right connections the positive force of nature, the Creator.
Question: Why have we not discovered this until now?
Answer: We did not need it. There was no recognition of the evil of our nature. Everything was all right. We had everything: sports, football, all sorts of lures, everything you want, everything you need. Live peacefully and enjoy.
Question: Will there be a greater need to connect?
Answer: There will be no choice. Only hopelessness will lead humanity to the solution that there is a need to change the paradigm.
Question: If a person can hear you now, what decision should he make and what should he think about?
Answer: What the right life should be and what needs to be changed to make it happen. And to see that it is not so difficult. All the means for it are there. Let’s do it!
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/8/21
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The Secret Of Our Happiness
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