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New Life #284 – The Evolution Of Emotions

New Life #284 – The Evolution Of Emotions
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Emotions are a part of our desire to experience pleasure and evolve from the level of animal to the level of human or Adam. The mind or brain helps us fulfill our evolving emotional desires. We desire food, sex, and family within our animalistic bodies and money, honor, and knowledge in a more abstract way. The development of knowledge brings pain rather than pleasure as the masses begin to question what they are living for and can no longer find fulfillment. A growing sense of emptiness and depression pushes us toward the attainment of the upper degree. We experience the greatest pleasure when we rise above our own lives and attain the root or source of all life.
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From Kab TV’s “New Life #284 – The Evolution Of Emotions,” 1/7/14

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New Life #1154 – Experiences In Life

New Life #1154 – Experiences in Life
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

The ultimate experience is to discover the Creator, the upper force, which is the source of all reality. It is worthwhile to prepare and educate children before they go through experiences and summarize afterward so they can learn how to protect themselves. They need special treatment as they go through traumatic events like domestic violence. These days, people are constantly seeking out new thrills; however, the wisdom of Kabbalah raises us to a higher degree so that worldly experiences become like a grain of sand. In the process of spiritual development, our soul becomes our guide to attaining the truth and perfection of the upper world.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #1154 – Experiences in Life,” 8/13/19

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 3/10/19

laitman_962.3Question: You talk about the education of a single European, a single person. What will be the basis for the upbringing of a new individual? Is Kabbalah the method that you propose? Where is the basis, the concept of your proposed path?

Answer: You just need to open the books of the wisdom of Kabbalah where everything is written, and read them.

Question: Who is the Creator? Something not from this world? So how can one induce Him for anything?

Answer: The Creator is not from this world, that is correct and accurate. He is the highest power of bestowal and love. He can bestow to you only to the degree that you want to instill the properties of bestowal and love in you. If you want to acquire the attitude of love and bestowal toward others, then you must turn to the Creator.

Question: What does the fulfillment of a desire mean?

Answer: The fulfillment of a desire means getting what I want. In our state, all of our desires are egoistic, and therefore, we do not receive their fulfillment. Even if we do get fulfillment, we discover later that we have become even emptier. This teaches us not to want to be fulfilled egotistically.

Question: Could the Jews have awakened without anti-Semitism?

Answer: Certainly not! That is why the Creator urges us to fulfill our destiny by inciting hatred toward Israel.

Question: What should little children of two or three years of age be taught first and foremost?

Answer: At the age of two or three, it is certainly too early to teach them anything. But you can try to teach them to be connected well with others.

Question: How does the Creator respond to your teaching us? Do you feel His response?

Answer: The Creator fully approves of me, He responds very well, and I feel this perfectly. I am not joking! You can do the same and discover it.

Question: I am an artist. Please tell me, why are visual arts necessary and will they be important in the future?

Answer: No, they are not very important and will not be important in the future. This is because people will discover an inner spiritual vision that cannot be expressed in any way but solely and only through our soul.

Question: Why should you care for others if you yourself need love? What I mean is, should I not care about myself first and foremost?

Answer: In this case you will never be able to satisfy yourself and you will never feel love. If you are in need of love, you must love others. Then you will begin to feel love for you.
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From KabTV’s “Answers to Questions from Facebook” 3/10/19

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New Life #1153 – A Puzzle Of Experiences

New Life #1153 – A Puzzle of Experiences
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Every experience leaves an impression on a person and these accumulate to build his overall outlook on life. Each one goes through his own, egoistic experiences to complete his unique place in the total human mosaic. We were created differently so that we will reach the experience of divinity connected with the upper force of bestowal and love. The experience of divinity is not mystical but the general attachment of all parts of the puzzle into one. That is how we ascend above this world in which everything is felt separately, to eternal unity.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #1153 – A Puzzle of Experiences,” 8/13/19

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How To Raise Children

laitman_543.02Remark: In Japan, any physical punishment of children will soon be banned. The ban on physical punishment of minors applies to parents, social workers, and teachers.

My Comment: How can I express my dissatisfaction with the child’s behavior if it goes beyond what everyone says is acceptable for society, the family, and so on?

Let them give me a full distribution of the influence on children in order to educate them. Because education implies limiting.

You must express your discontent so that the child understands. And he would understand that it is for his benefit. That is, you do it not because you are annoyed and full of nerves, but because you wish for his good. This is of utmost importance in education.

Question: How do you keep in mind that you are not unloading your emotions onto a child?

Answer: To do this, educators must be educated.

Question: That is, you can’t do anything with prohibitions?

Answer: You cannot do anything. So what if there will be the law? What, they will be fined, imprison the parents? It will make such a mess in society.

When the state introduces such a law, and in general any laws, it must necessarily teach how to comply with this law and give it appropriate reinforcement.

Question: What is a proper upbringing?

Answer: It is said: “Man is born to small animals.” Gradually, if we do not educate him, he will become a big animal. In order to educate him, it is necessary to apply a certain pressure—simultaneously with his development.

Letting him know that I am putting pressure on him regarding the animal in him and not about the man in him. I want to develop man, and I want to curb the animal… and the animal is wild.

A child should know that he consists of two parts: good and evil, and we must limit evil.

Remark: I anticipate outraged comments on Twitter …

My Comment: It doesn’t matter. What difference does it make whether or not there are outraged comments? Most importantly, say the truth, and then it will become realized after a while.

Question: So your conclusion is that you need to educate parents and educators?

Answer: Of course. It is necessary to raise parents before raising children. Otherwise, parents will raise their children even worse than themselves.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman,” 4/9/19

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Whom To Leave Billions?

laitman_600.01Remark: The ten richest people in the world are not going to leave their fortune to their children.

My Comment: The custom of leaving possessions to the next generation has become outdated. People understand that it does not give children any happiness.

That is, a child has to be given a good education, and a minimal, normal right to exist, slightly above average. But no more than that. That way the child will make efforts to achieve more. He will also learn to save himself and his family in order to protect himself from all problems. Without this, one will be all over the place and will not know what to do and where to hurry.

It corrupts people. By the way, the Torah says that a father should not tell his son about his wealth and that it will go to his son.

Question: What about the fact that rich people leave their millions to charities?

Answer:  Where else could it be left? People will donate to research and for the ecology, and little by little it will all be gone. There will be all kinds of organizations that will advise about how to divide one’s money, dissolve it in parts, and that is all.

Question: Is giving everything to charities a selfish act? Some people have earned a lot of money.

Answer: Yes, they earned the money, but now, at the end of their lives, they understand that this money cannot be taken with them, that nothing can be done, and no one is eternal. They hope that in this way they will nevertheless leave their name and themselves with humanity. This is some kind of redemption.

Remark: There is a word: “to perpetuate.”

My Comment: Perpetuate, yes. But I do not envy them. If they still hope that this will proved them with some service after they have already parted with this life, then, of course….

Question: It does not serve them? What would serve then?

Answer: I do not want to talk about this. Let them leave their money to charities.🙂

A man has nothing left! Absolutely nothing but good deeds. Good deeds are only in being able to push this world to unite. That is all, just this!

Only this can somehow really be recorded in a person’s soul. When man engages in uniting the world, he engages with his soul, with his inner property. Therefore it remains in him, and death has no power over it.

Question: What kind of action is for the unification of the world?

Answer: It is a mutual desire of people to help each other, even at the earthly level. The most important thing is uniting to reveal the higher mind, the highest property, the highest power, the Creator, the property of love and bestowal.

If they will direct people to this, then it will in fact remain with them and it will be their eternal great contribution to the development of their own souls.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 3/19/19

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How To Turn Shortcomings Into Merits?

laitman_245.09Question: Many people suffer from their shortcomings. How should we work with them?

Answer: It is very simple: you should love the other person so that through the external flaws (physical, physiological) you would see his or her inner value. Then all these external flaws, on the contrary, will emphasize their inner worth.

Question: How can one see one’s shortcomings positively?

Answer: I do see everything in myself as positive. We are arranged this way. Even if sometimes, at some very bad moments of life, I curse and criticize myself, I need to think about who I am criticizing.

Nature, or you can call it “the Creator,” which is one and the same, created you this way. Why then are you cursing it? How do you know? Perhaps you need all these flaws precisely in order to reach the level of the Creator by rising above them? After all, this is our destiny.

Question: How can we use the flaws correctly in order to rise to the next level of development?

Answer: Love. Love them, that is, love them for the fact that precisely by rising above them, by turning them into merits, we reach the highest level of development. It would be impossible to rise without this.

Question: What is the background against which a person will see that everything he has a complex about can be used effectively?

Answer: He should study the wisdom of Kabbalah. He must receive correct examples and strength from this wisdom with which he can try to change himself, to demand, plead, and eventually change.

Question: Which of your qualities or properties that seemed to you not so good did you use for development, for the ascent to the next level?

Answer: I am very jealous. I am very envious, and I would like to be even more greedy. The only thing that I have a great passion for is discovering the meaning of life. This great passion is based on great egoism: “Why do I just exist? I cannot allow this, I do not want this. I must understand why I exist and how can I correctly realize every moment of my life.” This is because of great greed and a big ego!

Although this quality of mine is a very bad one, in general, it is good. Thanks to it, I develop. To this day I am very greedy—greedy to know, to understand, and attain. If I see it in someone, why can’t I do it? Not for some materialistic purposes, but for a spiritual, scientific, etc. purpose.

I am very envious. I watch someone playing a violin or a piano, conducting an orchestra, or singing, and I have none of this.

Question: So, how do you express it?

Answer: I want everything!

Question: What do you do?

Answer: Nothing. I cannot burst out; I work in my field. I decided that this is the only and the greatest treasure and that I must achieve it.

If I had copper, zinc, tin, iron, and diamond mines, which ones would I develop? The diamonds. You cannot help it; they are the most precious.

It is the same here. I have chosen for myself that the most important thing in life is to reach the root of my development, the next level of existence, and this is my only aim.

Question: Does it mean that to have a goal is the most important thing in life?

Answer: Yes. The most important thing is to “Live with the lightning.” “Shine, shine my star!”
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/27/19

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What Is Kabbalah’s Attitude To The Adoption Of Children?

627.2Question: What is Kabbalah’s attitude to the adoption of children?

Answer: If it is done for the benefit of the child, then it is positive. A person should not think that he would like to have children and so he adopts them; rather, he should consider what he wants to give to a child. Then he can adopt a child.

Usually, we love adopted children more than our biological children because we invest more effort into them, constantly proving our correct attitude toward them to ourselves.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/29/18

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The Culture Of The 21st Century: Dogs Replacing Children

laitman_571.08In the News (CNBC.com): Why companies are offering ‘furternity’ leave to new pet owners”

“…one marketing firm in Minnesota has started offering ‘furternity’ leave for all new pet moms and dads.

“The policy is part of a growing trend in pet-friendly workplace policies and a way to offer workers flexibility they might not have otherwise. …

“A number of companies already offer pet-friendly offices. At Amazon’s Seattle headquarters, the company says more than 6,000 dogs share the workspace with employees. Dogs enjoy a floor designed for pet play in one of the company’s buildings and the company even opened a special dog park that’s also open to the community. …

“At Minneapolis marketing firm Nina Hale, furternity leave allows new pet owners to work remotely for a week after adopting a pet. The policy gives pet parents the opportunity to bond with their furry friends as they acclimate to new surroundings. …

“Pet friendly benefits like pet leave, pet bereavement and pet health insurance are growing in popularity, Steven Feldman, an executive director at Human Animal Bond Research Institute (HABRI), tells the Society for Human Resources Management. It’s a “signal you’re looking at the employee’s entire family,” he adds. It’s also a way to entice young workers, the largest pet-owning generation.”

Comment: They have pet strollers, pet coloring, dog therapy, dog aromatherapy, dog church, and dog pools. It looks like we are moving to a culture where dogs replace children.

My Comment Yes. However, on the other hand, humanity has not stopped feeling the need to take care of somebody. Do you remember the Tamagotchi toy? It had to be constantly fed and taken care of.

We need to understand that human nature demands attachment. One is still bound, unwittingly, to his or her apartment, to smells, to everything! I see this as a huge internal, but not yet conscious, longing for communication between people, which, unfortunately, does not receive its normal expression, its release.

We therefore replace people with animals. Actually, it’s not that far off.  People feel that their dog is their friend, and the dog feels a friend and a master in their owners, and we are mutually devoted to each other.

Practically, we know people who have pets that eat from the same plate with them. They feel no difference between them because such contact occurs at the animal level. It does not need any major expressions, achievements, tensions and participation. I lower myself to the level of an animal; I reach out to him and he responds back to me, and we are both content.

Let us hope that this period will pass, and it certainly will pass because humanity is evolving and we will have to achieve contact with each other. Then all that contact with the animals will disappear. Like any other part of evolution and movement toward the lower levels, it will eventually die out. We will not have much interest in cats, dogs, parrots, hamsters, etc.

Question: Will we get such a yearning for each other? Will we uncover and reveal it?

Answer: We will understand that we still lack communication. Phones, virtual communications, dogs, lonely apartments, empty benches in public parks, and so on—it will all go away because we are changing, whether we like it or not. Let time do its work.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 8/27/18

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Why Respect A Person?

laitman_294.3Question: What basic feelings and virtues of each person deserve respect and why are so many people deprived of it?

Answer: We need to respect only the aspirations and efforts of a person that are aimed at humanity’s benefit. Not for the good of oneself, one’s nation, or one’s family, but only for the benefit of humanity. If we respect this, we will see the extent to which a person overcomes his egoistic nature for the sake of belonging to, and sacrificing for, the entire world.

I think all people should overcome themselves, their egoistic desire. If each of us sacrifices ourselves in this way, then in response we should receive gratitude and respect from society. Everyone—the children at home, the wife, the relatives, the parents, the environment, the friends, and the whole world—should be grateful to a person and appreciate him only to the extent of his contribution to society.

A person is created in such a way that he needs the recognition of society. By this, in essence, he expresses himself, his “I.” If we make society protect a person and respond to his contribution to humanity, this will obligate everyone to be an active part of humanity. We will see from everyone only good things in relation to the entirety of human society and we will see what contribution each one makes.

Therefore, we need to establish such laws in our society so that everyone can be assessed only by their contribution to humanity and so that it is easily visible.

If we measure a person only according to these criteria, if everyone knows that this is how he is assessed, this is how he is treated, then he will have no way out. He will have to become a healthy cell in the general body, that is, a person that is as useful as possible for humanity.
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The Round Table of Independent Opinions, Berlin 9/9/06

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