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We Do Not Learn from Mistakes

766.9Comment: You said that in reality children never learn from their parents’ mistakes.

My Response: Of course. How could that be? You cannot convey your life experience to another even in our world, much less in the spiritual world.

I remember my teacher sat in front of me on long winter evenings in Tiberias, and I pestered him with the same questions. He looked at me with compassion, eyes full of pity. He had very expressive eyes.

I saw that he sympathized with me, but could not help in any way more than what he was trying to explain, guide, and suggest. Usually, after my questions, he would sigh and say: “Let us read something.” And that was it, nothing else.

I remember I felt very bad. We went with him for a walk in the Beit Shemen forest. This was at the very beginning of my study. I studied with him for about a year, and a year is nothing to study Kabbalah. He saw that I was completely torn to pieces. I prayed: “Help me with at least something!” Such requests are generally not typical for me, but I blurted out: “Help!”

He looked at me with such pain, like a father who is ready to give everything to his hopelessly ill child, but can do nothing to help. We sat on a bench; I can show this place even today. He took from his pocket the article “Thou Hast Hemmed Me In Behind and Before” (“Achor Ve Kedem Tzartani”) and began to read to me. This is an article from the book A Sage’s Fruit, which we were just preparing for publication at that time.

In principle, the title of this article can be translated as “I control you from all sides.” I cannot say that I understood anything in it. But what else can you give a beginner?

In this case, we are talking about those people who strive to penetrate the spiritual system; they feel bad because they do not know it and do not attain it, and this pain speaks inside of them! After all, nothing corporeal was pressing on me at that time. I was perfectly settled, healthy, and young. It was spirituality that I lacked!

Question: Can you now evaluate how he perceived you at that moment? You, in fact, were part of him.

Answer: Of course, I was incorporated in him. He perceived me as a small system that needed to be adjusted, and he sympathized with it and really wanted to help it, and it reacted naturally. What else can you do? You just have to keep working with it and wait for the results.

Of course, he was worried about me, but he was worried as a father for a child who was not in a hopeless state. The father has a medicine that he gives to the child every day and sees that in the end the child will recover and do what is needed.

One day I could not overcome myself and did not follow him to take him to the sea. Then he was taken there by another student, who on the way asked: “Why is it always only Michael who accompanies you?” Rabash replied: “I cannot do anything about it. He has a special soul.”

I learned this 20 years later from that friend during a chance meeting. I did not even think about it and, moreover, I was surprised that Rabash said that about me to another student.

Therefore, when you look at a student, you take into account his entire future, and it sets you up to treat him accordingly. You tolerate his antics and lead him forward, or you “hit” him more often, or maybe, on the contrary, you pull him out “by the forelock.”
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. You do not Learn from Past Mistakes” 1/15/12

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Learning from Wolves

611Comment: They say man is a wolf to man. But when I look at the structure of a  wolf pack, I envy them. A leader is the one who takes responsibility for organizing the hunt and protecting everyone in his pack. The pack intuitively obeys whoever is stronger and more responsible, regardless of age.

What does a strong and responsible leader mean to man if we were to adopt this structure?

My Response: This means such a man-wolf can unite and convince everyone that unification is their law and the way to ensure survival.

Question: So if such a leader implements unification in a group, the pack will endure?

Answer: Yes, they will recognize him as the leader.

Question: And will the pack be okay?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: That was the first rule. The second rule is that the stronger and more experienced the leader, the faster he suppresses all quarrels, the less discord and aggression in the pack, the friendlier the atmosphere, and the more cohesion in the group.

Stopping quarrels could mean using harsh methods.

My Response: Well, this is the law of any clan, even an animal one, not to mention human.

Question: So he should both be firm and soft at the same time?

Answer: I do not know about soft. But he must be very clear and confident, and impose his will.

Question: So, he puts an end to all quarrels, bad relationships, and all slander?

Answer: Of course.

Comment: Firmly? He will not be loved.

My Response: They will fear him, that is the most important thing. Therefore, they will respect and obey him. If you live among wolves, you have to act like a wolf.

Question: The third rule is that the leader leads the pack, rescues them from traps, plans out and begins the hunt, and is first to rush at the enemy or prey.

What does it mean to be the first in everything?

Answer: That is, to take on all the blows and all the problems that arise in his pack.

Question: We are talking about human society? Are you talking about that now?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, he is the first to take on the blows? That is, he cares about all this?

Answer: It is like his personal family.

Question: So, you see the leader as a father? And society is his family?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And if, as we have now, there is a mishap, he takes responsibility for it?

Answer: If he does not take responsibility, he is instantly removed. There is no other way among animals. He has to assume responsibility.

Question: The fourth rule is that wolves walk in a line. The first three are old and sick. They are followed by the five strongest wolves. Next is the part of the pack they are protecting, and five more strong wolves. Last comes the leader, who makes sure that no one falls behind.

Being a leader does not mean being ahead of the pack, but making sure that everyone makes it.

Answer: Well that is the most important thing, making sure everyone is safe.

Question: And the elderly who are upfront?

Answer: Absolutely everyone! This is exactly how he is evaluated.

Question: Is this the power of a leader?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this even possible?

Answer: You see, it works among wolves. It’s harder for people.

Comment: Because you want to hold on to your post, be elected, and so on.

My Response: Humanity has damaged itself in many ways over thousands of years.

Comment: Wolves work on instinct, while we have reason.

My Response: They have a clear inner understanding of necessity.

Question: There, in the pack? So, they live according to nature?

Answer: Yes, such is their nature and the nature of the surrounding wolf society; therefore, this is the only way to live and survive.

We are nobody and nothing here at all. Everyone is looking to run away, escape responsibility, and let others fend for themselves. “It is not my concern.”

Comment: We have come to the conclusion that the chief, the leader, should watch over everyone and be the last one behind them.

My Response: Yes. We must create such a “pack” so people would come to us wanting to live by our laws. Us means our group.

Question: Will they come because they realize everyone cares about each other?

Answer: Yes, there is no other way. Save ourselves, raise children, give confidence to the elderly, women, and children—we must act this way.

Question: The fifth rule is that a wolf lives with one mate his whole life and never cheats on her. Even when a wolf or his mate die hunting, the single spouse does not look for a replacement, but remains alone for the rest of his life. Can you imagine?!

Answer: We are very far from that.

Comment: Imagine choosing for life! You see, the wolves can.

My Response: We have a lot to learn.

Question: What is it like when you make such a decision?

Answer: It is their nature. For us, it is our egoistic nature that drives us crazy.

Question: But when you decide to live like this, it means you have somehow subdued it, managed to curb your selfish nature so you choose for the rest of your life.

Answer: Yes.

Comment: But you say we should choose for life.

My Response: We should.

Question: And keep at it?

Answer: And keep at it, but you see how we are managing.

Question: The sixth rule is about the she-wolf. When the wolf-husband is in danger, the female covers his neck, which may be very dangerous for her, but she does not think about it.

What about a human clan, what does it mean for a wife to shield her husband, to protect him?

Answer: I do not know what the wolf feels. About a person this means she understands that she depends on him, and he is her most important task. As long as he is alive and strong, she and the children are protected.

A wife who loves her husband feels that if anything bad happens to her husband, she is ready to share it with him without any hesitation.

Question: The seventh is that a she-wolf, when preparing to give birth, builds a cozy home. She does not consider her comfort, but thinks about the comfort of her future generation.

What does it mean for a future mother not to think about herself?

Answer: She lives for her children, grandchildren, and so on.

Question: Are we talking about our world already?

Answer: Yes.

Question: I don’t think about myself, I think about others. What does it mean?

Answer: For their sake you do what is best for them.

Question: So I completely annul myself, totally?

Answer: Yes. You do whatever may be good for them.

Question: Can you name something that may be good for them?

Answer: You may change where you live, your place of work. Everything for them.
You could leave your favorite job for them.

Question: The eighth rule is that the whole pack with the leader takes care of the mother-wolf with her cubs. They bring her food, completely take care of her and the future offspring of the whole pack.

What does the society takes care of the mothers mean? I’m now talking about people, humanity.

Answer: It means doing everything to ensure their safety, their confidence, and their future. Then they will raise their young and the clan; the society will be provided for by the next generation.

Comment: The ninth rule is that when a mother goes hunting, sitters guard the babies and play with them. The cubs are treated most gently. Any adult is always ready to share food with them, play, and teach them the rules of hunting or subordination. That is why the wolf pack is so cohesive and efficient.

My Response: I want to be with them. 🙂

Question: So, is this all a method of rearing? When everyone, the whole society participates… Not just for your children!

How do I tear myself from my child? It says here that I take care of someone else’s child, another child, the whole pack takes care of him. How is this possible?

Answer: When you realize you are all one, a common whole. These are Kabbalistic principles.

Comment: Absolutely! To realize I won’t survive otherwise. The neighbor’s child is just as important to me as my own child.

My Response: Yes.

Question: It seems quite unrealistic for a person. But this is how it should be, right?

Answer: This is how it should be, of course!

Question: The tenth principle is that a pack takes care of the disabled, crippled, and elderly. They would feed them chewed food, like for puppies, and can even pick their fleas. But there is addition, in times of famine, a pack cannot take on the responsibility of feeding elderly animals. And the elderly accept that.

Is this also a matter of survival?

Answer: It is a matter of survival and necessity for the pack. That is why there are some animals who sacrifice themselves for the survival of the pack.

Question: Let’s summarize it, they care for the disabled, the elderly…

Answer: For everyone.

Question: And we, too, have to care for the elderly?

Answer: Yes. But if it is impossible to take care of the weak…

Question: This is a very difficult question indeed! How can we make this choice?

Answer: The one who benefits the future generation most is chosen.

Question: Meaning, young and strong?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, the principle still holds—the survival of the pack, the survival of society?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Clearly, we have a lot to learn from wolves. We need to do something to improve ourselves. We must think about the organization of our society, how to rebuild it to make it healthier and what kind of upbringing programs to take on for our children, our grandchildren, for the next generation.

This means looking several generations ahead of us. And we must change the order of society for their sake.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/30/23

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627.2Shula writes:

Hello, Michael Laitman! My son is 15. It seems everything is fine. He and his friends are growing up in the society where we as parents are trying to teach them the values of love to others, mutual connection, and friendship. Despite our efforts, I suddenly see that they are full of disregard for one another, they humiliate and mock the weak ones.

My heart hurts to see all this, my hands give up. Where have all our efforts gone? It turns out that everything they absorb at school and on the Internet is stronger than the values we want to instill in them. Tell us, what can we do? How can we teach them mutual respect and friendship? How can we teach them to be kind to each other? After all, you are constantly talking about that. How?

Answer: Still tell them that the basic law of nature is connection, kindness, and unity where people are getting closer to one to another. Only in this case can we hope for a happy continuation.

And if not, nature will teach us, as we see it at all its levels, to bring us to this decision.

Question: So one way or another, we will be corrected toward this decision?

Answer: Yes

Question: Parents are teaching their kids these values; they tell them more and more, but the result is still the opposite.

Answer: Yes, obviously. It is this way in order not to take away the freedom of will from a person.

Question: Do you mean his freedom of will now is to humiliate another person, to exercise his egoism?

Answer: Yes

Question: And we have to patiently wait until they suffer enough or what?

Answer: Perhaps when they realize that their path is a dead-end.

Question: Should we still continue telling them about mutual guarantee, about love, about friendship?

Answer: Yes

Question: Even if our hands give up?

Answer: It does not matter. You have to tell them all of this.

Question: I am talking to a wall. They do not hear me. Do I keep talking?

Answer: It does not matter, you have to talk.

Question: How do I poke a hole in this wall?

Answer: Precisely by your consistency.

Question: It means you are for the parents’ persistence?

Answer: There is nothing else.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/11/24

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Demanding Goodness Is Ignoble

549.01He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged (Bnejamin Franklin).

Answer: That is good, it is true.

Question: Is that another way of saying, “Do not expect good from someone to whom you have done good”?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: But I secretly expect good things.

My Response: Yes, as if you paid and now want it back.

Question: Yes, I did good to you, so you also do good to me. Is it wrong?

Answer: It is not that it is wrong, it is ignoble.

Question: So, it is in our nature, right? We have a sordid nature.

Answer: Certainly.

Question: So if I do good to someone, does it turn out, according to Franklin, that it is contagious, and I can do it again and again and again?

Answer: Yes, it generally happens as a habit. And a person already develops a need to do good.

Question: So, you can develop it like a muscle? Simply exercise it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do you advise a person to do this?

Answer: Of course, why not?

Question: When you say “good,” what does it mean? To do good to another, what is good for him?

Answer: I don’t know what is good for him! What is good for him, that is what I should do.

Question: But before I do it, do I need to find out what is good for him? Or am I deciding based on my perception?

Answer: You still need to find out. You need to know the other person and put yourself in his shoes. And you need to do such a good thing, such a good action that would fit in precisely.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/28/23

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The Creator Connects with the Child through You

627.2Question: One mother asked an old sage when it is best to start raising her daughter. “How old is she?” the teacher asked. “Five,” the woman replied. “Five years old?! Hurry home, you’re already five years late.”

At what age should you start raising a child?

Answer: In general, the feeling should be there from the first day of birth, and even before that. This is mentioned in many places, it is not that I am so smart. So parents should understand that a child is like an adult. They just react a bit differently. Basically, you’re talking to an adult, even an old person.

Question: So, you’re instilling wisdom in the child?

Answer: Absolutely!

Question: What do you invest in the word “upbringing”?

Answer: Upbringing is primarily your personal example.

Question: You said, “From the first day of birth.” What does the child see? What does the child feel? What example can there be?

Answer: It is not about that. It is about how you react to the child; the Creator reacts to them.

Question: So, the Creator reacts to the child through you? If I live with this thought, is it called “upbringing”?

Answer: Yes. You are opening channels of communication between the child and the Creator.

Question: Through me, the Creator connects with the child, and I should introduce the Creator to the child?

Answer: Yes. You are introducing them to each other so to speak.

Question: When you said, “Upbringing even before birth,” should this thought come to parents before birth?

Answer: In general, yes. We have talked about this many times.

Question: We’ve talked about it, but we have a million questions after that. It is not just interesting to people, it is vitally important to them.

After such upbringing, as an example of warmth and kindness, how does the child go out into this cold world, after being brought up like this?

Answer: If they perceive the world correctly, they won’t have any problems. He will feel the world is multifaceted. So, at least, he, his parents, home, and others, he will properly link all of this together.

Question: Does this mean that parents have managed to bring the Creator to the child?

Answer: Yes
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/28/23

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Do Good without Thinking about Yourself

294.3Question: One day a lot of starfish came in with the tide. When the tide was low they were left to die on the sand. A boy began to throw the stars into the sea so that they would survive.

A man came up to him and said: “This is stupid. There are a million starfish here, and your attempts will not change anything.” The boy picked up the next starfish and said: “No, my attempts will change a lot for this very star.”

Today, many people are suffering, as we know. Is trying to eliminate or reduce this suffering for one person the right thing to do?

Answer: In general, yes. It depends on what calculation you make. You are dealing either with the Creator, or with the suffering of this person, or with yourself, and so on.

Question: If I am dealing with the Creator, then where is the suffering coming from?

Answer: From the Creator.

Question: And they are given to this person so that he could go through it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And, by and large, do I not even have the right to interfere?

Answer: This is also taken into account by the Creator, so it does not matter, you can do it. You want to save others from suffering so that you can feel better. Egoism has not gone anywhere.

Question: Do you still admit the possibility that I want to save a person from suffering?

Answer: No, you cannot be in his shoes.

Question: So what is empathy for another person?

Answer: This is because you empathize; that is, you imagine that this is all happening to you, and therefore you must make him feel better.

Question: And are you still thinking about yourself?

Answer: And nothing else!

Question: How do we get out of this impasse?

Answer: There is no way out. No way!

Comment: That is, all the people who do charity work…

My Response: Of course, they are doing it only for themselves!

Question: Is the only way out to turn to the source of all suffering?

Answer: Turn to the Creator, and if the Creator puts you in a very special state where He eliminates your egoism, your desires to enjoy, then you will be able to do something for the sake of others, and not for yourself. But these are all exceptional cases.

Question: Let ‘s take such an ideal case. What does it mean to do something for the sake of another person? The Creator gave this opportunity. What does it mean?

Answer: Imagine that you have to cut yourself off from all connection with another person. Disconnect yourself from him and do good to him.

Question: Without thinking about yourself at all?

Answer: In any way! This is called that I disconnect myself from another person.

Question: Is this the help of the Creator if He gives such an opportunity to a person?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So is a person not capable of this in any other way?

Answer: No, he is not. It is not our nature.

Question: How is all this veiled and covered up so that we have the feeling that we are really doing good?

Answer: This is what we do in this life. Nothing can be done to us, we are so unusual

Question: Then the key question is, should you still do good to others or not? Should I try to do this or not?

Answer: I would tell you, do it just in case. 🙂 What an egoistic answer, isn’t it?

Question: You will get credit for that, right?

Answer: Yes. You would say that I once did something, here and there…

Comment: That is, one way or another, you claim that I gain these points for myself.

My Response: You do not gain them.

Question: So I do not gain them as a result. And yet, should I try to do to others what I consider good or not?

Answer: Do it, but at the same time, think that by doing this you are not doing anything for yourself. Then it will actually be more or less clean.

Question: That is, do I not gain anything from this, as it were?

Answer: No. I do not gain, I will not gain, and I do not want to gain.

Question: What if it hurts me so much that there is no way for me to get out of this nature?

Answer: Then you are a good egoist. A good egoist means that I would like to rise above my egoism, but I cannot. And that is why I suffer.

Question: Is this a good state by and large?

Answer: No, this is a wretched state. 🙂

Question: Can this state be called a prayer or not?

Answer: Any state can be called a prayer.

Question: Which prayer is correct, in your opinion?

Answer: A correct prayer is when I am looking at a wallet lying on the ground and I imagine that there is a bank note for a million dollars in it. 🙂

Question: And I ask that it be so? That is, after all, one way or another, it is for myself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And if it makes me feel bad, and I want to get rid of it?

Answer: No, when you understand that this is your nature, then you will not feel bad.

Question: Coming to the conclusion that this is my nature, precisely understanding this in my heart and mind, is this practically the starting point?

Answer: Yes, from this you can start moving.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/18/23

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A Child Learns Everything on His Own

627.2

One of the worst blunders is to think that pedagogy is the science of the child; no! It is the science of man (Janusz Korczak, How to Love a Child).

Janusz Korczak’s ideas and practical pedagogical achievements permanently went down in the history of Polish and world pedagogy. They have become a unique source of knowledge, ideas and inspiration in the quest for new educational solutions… .

For Korczak, his social and educational work with the child firmly at the centre was a way of showing reverence for what is human in the figure of the child. It was also a way of recognising, through action, the child’s full human worth. …

The company of children can indeed be tiring, Korczak conceded. But this is not because we have to strain to lower ourselves to their level. On the contrary: the exertion lies in our having to raise ourselves to their level, to their feelings, so as not to hurt them. Once we have learned to know children we realise, Korczak claimed, that we have no reason for boasting.

“As to feelings, they outdo us with unbridled power. As to intellect, they are our equals, lacking only experience …” (Topicality and Relevance of Janusz Korczak’s Pedagogical Approach to Children and Their Upbringing).

Question: In your opinion, is pedagogy for children or for adults?

Answer: It is to understand the children.

Question: So, it turns out that it is for parents, for teachers, and not for children?

Answer: Yes, and what is there to teach a child? How can you teach him?! He will gradually learn on his own from life.

Question: So, all these institutions where they teach, teach, teach, in fact …?

Answer: They don’t teach anything. The child has his own conceptual apparatus; he is constantly in it and processes all the data received from the outside world. And it all happens very rapidly for him.

Question: Does the child process it on his own, as you say? Is he studying precisely by himself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Then why does the whole system of upbringing, education, all this huge system, exist?

Answer: It is spinning around us on its own and that is it. There is nothing we can do with it. You cannot put anything into a child, but just the environment, friends, teachers, also partly. But all this creates the inner world of the child, who then enters into life. And then he begins to take from life.

Question: What do you think parenting is? You have pushed education back a bit now.

Answer: First, education and upbringing are not the same thing. Education is filling a child with all sorts of wisdom, and parenting is an example of an adult to a child of how to behave in certain circumstances.

Question: Is an adult a teacher, a parent, an environment, and so on?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, it turns out that the right upbringing is to put the child in an environment that gives the right examples. What examples should be shown to a child so that this child grows up correctly and is brought up correctly?

Answer: It is impossible to say. The child selects these examples himself and assimilates them.

Question: I’m showing an example, but maybe he takes something of his own from this and only understands that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: How do you penetrate into this child’s world?

Answer: There is no need to! Let him develop on his own.

Comment: But I have to guide him somehow.

My Response: I don’t think it is necessary. Let him run down the street, communicate with his peers, and thus he will develop.

Question: Should there be an ideal environment for a child to grow up in?

Answer: Children and animals.

Question: To have children and animals around. And where is the place for an adult?

Answer: There is no place for an adult there. Adults will impose all sorts of behavioral laws on children, and this is not necessary. Gradually, the child will grow up, and he will discover these laws for himself.

Question: Should an adult get involved in the children’s battles?

Answer: No! I think there should be no teachers here.

Question: And then what grows out of a child if, as you say, he is surrounded by children, animals, nature?

Answer: In accordance with his inner world, he soaks in and absorbs everything that can be obtained from the world.

Comment: There is also drawing, dancing, and natural history. There is a place where an adult comes and says: “Let me teach the child.” Things like that.

My Response: There is no need! He will learn by himself. And all these disciplines imposed on him, on the contrary, will limit him.

Comment: I’m already talking about simple disciplines: dancing, drawing. Will he master even that?

My Response: Yes.

Question: Is there any conclusion to be drawn?

Answer: The conclusion is very simple: leave children alone with your great thoughts and instructions, pedagogy, everything-everything-everything that is in you.

Question: What about the parents then? Parents, adults, somehow still exist. How should parents raise their children properly?

Answer: I do not see in any generation, and we have lived for many, many, many hundreds of generations, that some generation took something useful and good from their parents and achieved something useful and good. Every time we just relearn.

Question: So, you learn from your mistakes, you learn from your life, you learn everything yourself. And it is necessary to leave, you say, a person with this “himself,” to leave him to go?

Answer: Yes. I hope that we will come to a state when we understand how we should treat children in general. I hope that this will be understood and realized in the near future.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/14/23

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Love Is Born Out of Hate

963.5Question: One boy had a very bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and said: “Whenever you offend someone, hammer one nail into the fence.” On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails. Then he began to learn to control his anger, and the day came when he did not hammer a single nail.

His father said, “Now for every day that you have managed to restrain yourself, pull one nail out of the fence.” One day there was not a single nail left in the door, he pulled everything out.

The father said, “Son, you have done a great job. But look at how many holes are left in the wood. It will never be the same again.”

The moral is this: Every time you offend someone, it leaves scars. You can take back your words later, but the scars will remain forever.

The question is, is it possible to resist offending another? After all, you say that we are egoists anyway. Can we do it?

Answer: No, every moment we try to lower others; otherwise, I do not feel that I am living!

Question: You see and feel it, but you do it anyway?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: And by this we, as if, leave scars.

My Response: This is the principle of existence of our world.

Question: It means it is all covered in scars, by and large. Are the scars in me or in the one I am lowering?

Answer: In fact, it is in you.

Question: So, these scars remain in me. If we cover our transgressions, the fact that we offend someone, as you say with love, what happens to these scars?

Answer: Then they heal! There are no traces left!

Question: So, is the assumption that it is possible to heal scars so that no traces remain true?

Answer: None of the traces.

Question: This is the most important advice! If you cover all this transgression with love.

Answer: It is said about this: “Love covers all crimes.”

Question: How can you cover with love? How can you do it?

Answer: Selflessly. That is, just love. That is all.

Question: You just now humiliated him.

Answer: No, not just now, it cannot happen right away.

Question: You felt that you humiliated him, and it made you feel bad. Is this the case in stages?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do you have to somehow evoke love for him? Can this love be evoked? It does not exist in me.

Answer: Yes, love can be evoked. From where? Because there is hate. This hatred, from the opposite side, manifests itself as love.

Question: So my hatred for this person is what causes love. At what point? Is it when I feel like I am wrong or what?

Answer: It is under the influence of the upper light.

Question: But do I need to feel something? That I want to make it up somehow, it hurts me, I feel bad, I have scars! Should I feel this?

Answer: Yes. It has to be present.

Comment: Then, this is a man before us.

In most cases, we do not feel it. Basically, we justify all the scars we inflict.

My Response: It means that we will have to check ourselves and correct ourselves a lot more.

Question: Why are we not hurt by these scars, we have so many? We have already “massacred” many people.

Answer: But we do not feel it. Our egoism erases it all carefully.

Question: When do I start to feel this, and what is it to “cover with love” hatred or dislike for the other?

Answer: I cannot say any more. Imagine that you are writing on a blackboard and then you start gradually erasing every word you say and writing the opposite.

Question: Do you mean “I hate” – “I love”? “You” – “myself,” like this?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/8/24

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How Can I Get Rid of Guilt

625_04Alina writes:

I was raised by my parents in such a way that I was always to be blamed for everything. And I absorbed it like a sponge. And it got worse over the years. My husband and children all pointed out to me that everything was happening because of me.

That is how I live, blaming myself and thinking about how guilty I am. I am eating myself up today and I cannot get out of this hell. I am still relatively young. I want to live without this pain and guilt. Is it possible to get out of this?

Answer: Of course! Because the Creator sends it to you.

Question: How can I escape?

Answer: Rise up, rise above your self-esteem.

Question: That I feel it is my fault? “Everyone pointed out that I was to blame, and I got used to being the one to blame,” she says.

Answer: This is not true. A person is not guilty of anything at all.

Question: Should one come to this?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Can you give any practical advice to Alina so that she feels an answer that she can implement practically? What steps should she take to break out of the fact that she blames herself for everything that is happening all the time?

Answer: This is because she did not reveal that there is only one force in the world that creates everything, controls everything, and determines everything.

Question: Is it as if she does not act, but this force acts through her?

Answer: Yes. Through her. This egoism of hers plays with her in this way.

Question: What about the fact that her relatives, parents, husband, and children act on her in such a way?

Answer: It is all wrong; it seems to her.

Question: Is this really how the Creator works with her?

Answer: She attracts such relationships to herself. And it is not her fault at all.

Question: So her only action is to understand that this is how the Creator works with her? And that all is Him?

Answer: Yes. And that all is Him.

Question: Is it possible to understand it on some mechanical level by repeating it?

Answer: Turn it back to the Creator all the time.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/8/24

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What Should I Do If My Son Is at War?

627.2Inna writes:

Dear Michael Laitman, I am trembling all over when I write to you.

I have been living in Israel for 30 years. My children grew up here. Now the oldest one is in the army. He is in a combat unit at a closed base. The connection with him is very rare. He was just next to me, my child, warm, kind, and loving, and suddenly childhood is over.

This realization that childhood is over is terrible! I have a very strong feeling of emptiness! Here neither faith nor mind helps. The younger children do not help either. It is like a piece of me has been taken out of me. I am afraid for him! I feel like I am sinking into this worry! How do I survive this? How do I hold on?

My Response: You just have to believe. There is nothing else to say here. Believe that everything will be fine, that there is the upper force that arranges the fate of everyone, and it will treat each of us with kindness.

Question: My son, and in general, all our children?

Answer: Yes. It is very difficult to imagine a mother’s feelings. Nothing will calm her down except that he would be near her.

Question: Is that what she should want?

Answer: Yes. He should be near her! Under her heart!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/7/23

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