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There Is Nothing more Important than Connection!

938.02Question: Now, at the very beginning of the congress, we feel great trembling of what awaits us. We do not know what it will be yet, but we expect it to be something beautiful, strong, and powerful that we will enter into. We feel that the Creator has been helping us all this time. He is with us now, and this is also felt; otherwise, where would this trembling come from?

What should we do with this desire and how do we properly direct it in order to find the closest path to the Creator?

Answer: First of all, I would like to congratulate all of us on this global gathering, on the connection, on the congress, on the direct line between all our hearts! I hope that we are all in inner prayer so that our efforts will really lead to the melting of all hearts into one single heart and that we will feel in it the Creator who has actually prepared and created all this. I hope that we will feel our gathering through this.

There is nothing more important than connection because it is in it that the correction of a broken Kli arises. And when—out of the shattering and huge, huge separation, the separation of desires, that is, hearts—we can once again come to unity over all contradictions, over all conflicts and distances, then we will feel the power of the upper world, the Creator, and that He has prepared for us to realize and attain both in feelings and in reason.

I hope that at our gathering we will make a big step forward. I am very glad that you are meeting together and that there is a huge number of our friends in the Baltic States, in Moscow, in Germany, Bulgaria and so on. In general, it is so that we will all have a lot of help from above. We want to unite! We desire this gathering and its great success.

The most important thing in our gathering is a prayer, an appeal to the Creator to help us feel the love of our friends so that all friends become close to my heart despite the egoistic shell that surrounds it and does not allow love to enter into it, which is the feeling of closeness of my friends. That is where we need to make an effort.

We need only a prayer to the Creator, a request to the Creator, so that He will allow the love of friends for me and mine for them to break this shell and connect with all our friends around the world who are close to us in spirit. This is, of course, the most important thing that we would like to achieve as a consequence of our Baltic Congress.
From the “Arava” Convention in Europe – Lithuania 2022, Lesson 1, 7/22/22

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Where Does the Creator Appear?

947Indeed, there is a prayer for it—that the Creator will help him by making him feel the love of his friend and make his friend close to his heart (Rabash, Letter No. 40).

I would say it in other words: when there is no distance between me and a friend, we have become so close, then the Creator appears in this absence of distance.

After all, He does not need any corporeal distances or places. He appears where this place no longer exists. If we create such a state between us, we will reveal the Creator in it.

Therefore, let’s direct our heart and attach our heart to the hearts of the friends in order to move forward a little more, and ask the Creator to reveal our movement toward Him and reveal Himself in it. This should work out.
From the “Arava” Convention in Europe – Lithuania 2022, Lesson 1, 7/22/22

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“Sex, Love, and How to Reconcile Them” (Medium)

Medium published my new article “Sex, Love, and How to Reconcile Them

Looking for a suitable partner can drive you nuts. Even once we do find someone, the euphoria quickly fades as conflicts soon emerge. As a result, marriage rates are dropping, and nearly half of the couples that do marry eventually divorce. In a reality where the roles of men and women are blurry, and one’s gender changes on a whim, it is very difficult to know how to conduct ourselves in relationships. Instead of confidence, our relationships increase our anxiety and insecurity in all aspects of family life, from child rearing to sex-life. To regain confidence in our relationships, we need to understand the essence of love, sex, and the natural roles of genders. Then we’ll see how veering‎ off from the natural way of things, we feel out of place and insecure.

To understand the nature of things, we need to look back a century or two. Until not long ago, people conducted their lives by the dictates of Mother Nature: Mothers stayed with their babies, nursed them until they became children, then boys joined their fathers and girls joined their mothers. Watching their parents and learning by example, children learned how to relate to everything in life.

At that time, relationships between men and women were natural. With the exception of the upper class, who did not have much else to do, people did not pay much attention to sex. Men wanted a woman who was healthy, fertile, and able to maintain the household, and women wanted men who could provide for them and tend to their and their children’s needs. Sex and appearance were marginal considerations when looking for a partner.

In the 20th century, sex and sexuality suddenly became important. We began to develop fashion, and an entire culture evolved around sexuality. Sex became essential in everything, both overtly and covertly. Literature, theatre, films, television, internet and social media all employ sex to lure in people. Even cars need to look “sexy” or attractive.

Animals, on the other hand, do not need dating sites; they do not have Tinder and do not occupy themselves with sex at all. When mating season comes, they follow their instincts that tell them which partner is right for them, and copulate. They do not make mistakes because they flow with nature’s rules.

In the previous century, we completely abandoned nature’s rules and began to develop our own ideas and ideologies concerning what is right and what is not. As a result, we no longer know how men and women should communicate. Additionally, decades of influence from Hollywood completely warped our perception, and sex consultants have destroyed what was left of our common sense.

Once natural relationships became obsolete, there appeared operations to design and redesign our organs to meet ever changing standards determined by bellwethers who are themselves products of a lost society. This is how we have come to live in a society where everything is possible and permitted, yet everyone feels empty and disconnected.

But the great chasm that “progress” engendered has spawned a new era. Out of the cold void of loneliness and depression, people are beginning to realize that they want to build proper, natural connections, where things make sense and feel natural.

Such natural connections require something of a middle line, where people accept who they are and bond above their differences. They no longer try to change themselves or others, but strive to connect above their differences.

Today, it is far more difficult to rise above differences than in previous centuries because we are far more selfish and narcissistic than our ancestors. Nevertheless, if we do not strive to follow our whims, and focus on enhancing our connections without trying to change one another, we will build far deeper and more meaningful connections than our ancestors could have imagined. The experiences of our failed attempts at changing our nature will make us appreciate the restored simplicity, and we will be able to enjoy and appreciate healthy, solid relationships like no generation could before us.

“Fear Comes from Absence of Love” (Medium)

Medium published my new article “Fear Comes from Absence of Love

The more chaotic the world becomes, the more stressed and anxious we become, as well. Insecurity about the future is causing trepidation, and the only thing that seems certain is that we cannot trust anyone and have no clue what tomorrow will bring. There is one culprit behind our fears and anxieties: We are hostile and hateful toward each other, and where there is no love, there is fear, and lots of it.

Not only people are afraid. We find fear in pets, animals, and even plants, although we do not label it as such. Fear does us a great service: it is a sentinel that warns us of falling into dangerous pitfalls, a protective mechanism that all living beings employ.

It seems reasonable to think that progress should have made us more confident. It seems as though technology can protect us better than if we lived in caves. However, development has brought with it a slew of unfamiliar dangers with which we have no idea how to cope.

In the past, hazards were just as formidable, if not more so, and truly existential. For the cavepeople, for example, venturing out of the cave meant being vulnerable to attacks by predators. However, fear did not cause panic because people knew the dangers and how to protect themselves from them. Today, countless elements and factors affect our lives and the lives of our loved ones, and we cannot know them all, cannot see them coming, and do not know how to overcome them. Naturally, this puts us in a state of constant pressure and anxiety.

The more we evolve, the more self-centered we become. In fact, since approximately the turn of the century, we have reached such a level of egoism that sociologists are speaking of a “narcissism epidemic.”

As we are growing increasingly sophisticated and increasingly narcissistic, we are developing increasingly complicated systems that leave us powerless and mistrustful of them and of each other. Because we do not like or trust each other, we are erecting protective shields that increase our isolation, alienation, and thus our fear.

If we want to feel safe, we need not work directly on increasing our confidence. On the contrary, we should put aside our excessive preoccupation with ourselves and focus on developing care for others, since the lack thereof is the reason for our fear.

A sense of security does not come from fighting against hatred; it comes from striving for connection, for caring. The only malice that exists is in our hearts. Its cure is not to uproot it but to instill consideration and ultimately kind-heartedness.

A person preoccupied with caring is not afraid of anything. Caring for others is the greatest gift one can receive. If we can build a society based on consideration and care, it will be a society of confident and happy people, since there is no fear in the presence of love.

Each Degree from Zero

528.02Question: When musicians learn to play a composition together, they understand why they are doing it. But at first there is a kind of overcoming between them in order to find contact with each other. Through making great efforts, they begin to work together, and only then is an amazing piece born in which the contribution of each person is felt.

Then, as if a switch takes place and they again need to make efforts to act together. There is no pleasure, even if they have experienced a sense of a special unity between them.

Why is it that if, say, they need to record three compositions, and they know that everything will turn out fine, it becomes more and more difficult for them to do every step?

Answer: It is because they want to achieve greater skills. They begin to see new flaws even in their past excellent performance, as they enter deeper and deeper into the understanding of the work and start seeing some small inconsistencies.

This is a process of professional growth. The Kabbalists have the same thing when we begin to unite with each other.

Comment: People who are inside our system know how difficult every next action that will lead to a certain result is. However, these actions must be performed anew, gather together, and unite common efforts. The problem is precisely in the connection of one person with the other person. Then you overcome this bar and see that it has some special energy.

My Response: It is all the same, both in the spiritual and in our world, the processes of spiritual growth.

Question: Why is it in Kabbalah that this is felt especially strongly?

Answer: Because every next degree is completely new. The musicians add something, they get something new, it goes in, goes out, and comes back again. Their creative process takes place at the same level.

Kabbalists, however, have a new level every time. That is, all ten Sefirot are completely new; it is a new degree and you start all over again, completely. You get some kind of experience, but you still have to start over.

Question: Why doesn’t the previous experience remain that a person could rely on?

Answer: Because this is a new degree. The previous experience can only hurt you.
From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Kabbalah and Art” 6/10/14

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Hiding Behind a Technological Shell

284Question: In Japan, they have rock gardens. Although this is an inanimate level of nature, the Japanese say that there is life in them. Where does this feeling, this perception come from?

Answer: It suggests closeness to nature, when people really feel some kind of life in the inanimate things. This, indeed, is the case.

Comment: However, on the other hand, the Japanese are characterized by the development of technology, that is, a certain level of egoism.

My Response: All this is external and artificial.

I was in Japan. They really have great capabilities, modern equipment and everything else. But at the same time, it is clear that all this is absolutely external, and not theirs. Inside they are completely different.

Internally, they preserve themselves, their attitude to life, regulations, family, to everything that exists, and in no case do they connect themselves with everything external that has come to them.

They took from the outside world everything they needed to surround themselves with this outer shell and with its help to protect themselves from the outside world. For them, all innovations are not a means of communication, but in some way a means of isolation, because behind the beautiful and perfect outer technological shell they remain the same.

There is nothing special here. Historically, the isolation of the country for many centuries, plus religion and forced proximity to nature, in connection with earthquakes, tsunamis, and all sorts of similar problems has left its mark on them.
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The Devoted Love of a Flower for a Bee

962.2The development of artificial intelligence has led to interesting opportunities where a computer can create a picture in the style of a famous artist on a topic set by a person verbally. The project is called DALLE-2.

The results are of such high quality that many artists and designers may lose their jobs in the future. On the other hand, we will have free time to do the work that machines are not able to do.

The question is, will such an invention benefit humanity or harm it? We always think that progress is for the benefit of humanity and we are unable to correctly assess the damage. After all, the true harm lies in how far it distances us from achieving the goal of life, that is, from uniting between us and connecting with the upper force.

But in any case, we cannot stop our development and scientific and technological progress. It’s impossible, because that’s how nature works, and we can’t go against it. Even attempts to stop the development of nuclear weapons have not been successful. Therefore, it is necessary to agree with all the possibilities that open up and try to find the right use for them in your life.

A person develops and wants to express himself as much as possible. And technology is the fruit of human development. Therefore, at the end of the day, machines will learn to replace humans in everything: in art and in creativity.

A person will engage in spiritual creativity, creating spiritual works that reveal his inner world to humanity. Spiritual pictures can be expressed through films, fine art, music, as it is happening today, but on a more complex, high level.

This expands the possibilities of self-expression. Let’s say today I would like to express myself through painting, but I do not have artistic abilities. But with the help of modern computer technology, I can succeed in this and express myself in front of everyone. This will be a wonderful and great gift from me to the world.

I would ask the computer to create a picture depicting the love between a bee and a flower. Don’t think I’m joking, it’s very serious and deep. I would like to show everyone what a devoted natural connection a bee has with a flower and a flower has with a bee.

After all, a flower cannot develop without a bee, and a bee cannot live without the nectar it receives from a flower. We want to see how all the elements of nature at the inanimate, vegetative and animate levels help and support each other. One is connected with the other by a whole range of feelings, it’s all very complicated.

I would like to reveal all this with the help of a computer and participate in the computer’s creative process myself. To show how grateful the bee is to the flower and the flower is grateful to the bee, what closeness arises between them, how each helps the other species to reproduce.

Such mutual assistance exists between two degrees of nature: between vegetative and animate. And so, with the help of computer technology, we could uncover very deep relationships in nature.

The question arises whether such programs should be restricted so that they cannot be used to harm others. But such a restriction is possible only thanks to education. In fact, we are asking, how do we limit evil? And there is only one answer to this. It is necessary to multiply the good!
From KabTV’s “Conversation with Journalists” 5/22/22

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The Task of Each Person

630.2Question: Why does Kabbalah say that every person should change himself? If we are all one common system, let Kabbalists change everything.

Answer: How can I change you? You have your own egoism, your own qualities; I have my own, and I have no power over you. Every person must reach this state, and everyone can and must ultimately control their own fate. That’s when he will reach an understanding of a common idea, a common thought.

Question: So Kabbalah gives a person the opportunity to become the master of his own destiny and not just predict some events?

Answer: Kabbalah does not make predictions at all. This is exactly what is forbidden in Kabbalah, because you go deeper into predicting the future, instead of changing yourself so that this future will be good.

Question: So, in principle, predictions change nothing?

Answer: Of course. This is just a game, and therefore Kabbalah forbids it.

But there is immortality! And it is very easy to reach this degree. I invite everyone.
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“Is there anything which is more important than love?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: Is there anything which is more important than love?

Love is simultaneously life’s most elusive and most important quality.

It is the source of life.

Without love, there is no life. Without connection, there is no creation.

But we should be careful to understand what love truly means: Love means love of the other, without involving oneself in the relationship.

But how can we love anyone or anything regardless of ourselves? What does it give us? What does love project onto us? Why would we love?

We accumulate countless positive and negative experiences in our lives with their numerous insights, so it sounds strange that love is all that remains.

But it is truly so because there is nothing stronger than love.

Based on the video “Why Is Love Most Important in Life?” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 5/15/22

Preparation to the Lesson

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Foreword to The Book of Zohar

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Study of the Ten Sefirot,” Vol. 1, Part 2, Chapter 2, Item 5 

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