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The Method Of Correction, Part 10

laitman_944When One Follows the Laws of Nature

Question: If I take care that my like-minded friends reach the Creator and this is the best thing I can do for them, is that enough? Does that mean I shouldn’t worry about fulfilling their many other desires?

Answer: No. It is said that the material aspect of a friend is more important than your spiritual one.

Remark: I can’t even provide for my own material desires, and even less so for my friend!

My Comment: This refers to a society that exists only in order to attain the Creator. Then, all of its members will be in a state of mutual guarantee (Arvut) among themselves when they live by this only.

Everything else they need for food, for life, called “conditions necessary for existence,” they obtain together. They help each other in this. They will always have enough of everything because they will comply with the laws of nature.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/7/19

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Heart Harder Than Stone

laitman_962.3It is said that the Creator is close to those whose hearts are broken, and my heart breaks when I understand that I can’t break it. I need to work a lot to agree that my heart is really as hard as a stone, and only the Creator can break it, and only through the ten, the friends.1
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/6/19, “The Condition Of Raising Above Your Circle”

1 Minute 1:11:19

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The Method Of Correction, Part 3

laitman_565.01Love Thy Neighbor

Question: The purpose of creation is to become like the general power of nature, the Creator, in terms of properties. His property is to bestow.

Baal HaSulam writes in his article “Love for the Creator and Love for the Created Beings” that one cannot just jump over and acquire the property of the Creator because one can deceive oneself.

To make sure that I indeed achieve this property, an image of our world was created with all kinds of creations: inanimate, vegetative, animate, and most importantly, human. I must correct my attitude toward people.

Therefore, as it is written in all the original sources, the basic law is “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” What does it mean? Everyone understands this in their own way.

Answer: “Love thy neighbor as thyself” is the goal that a person must achieve if one works on one’s correction. This goal is a very distant one, but in the beginning there are other preliminary stages of correction.

“Love thy neighbor as thyself” means that just as today I love myself and I instinctively, consciously, and subconsciously put myself at the head of the whole world and only through myself do I perceive this world, and only from myself onward do I look at the world, and only for my dear own self do I work and do everything, so I must change myself for the whole world, work for the improvement of the world only, and only feel pain for it as if it were my beloved little child.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/7/19

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“New US Israeli Settlements Policy Could Foster Peace” (Newsmax)

My article in Newsmax: “New US Israeli Settlements Policy Could Foster Peace

Setting the record straight, the reversal of a four-decade old U.S. position on Israeli settlement policy in the West Bank as being “inconsistent with international law,” is a meaningful and positive declaration.

First and foremost, if it helps repair the breakage in Israel’s social fabric, it will help ease the road to peace. After mending the connections of the people of Israel, tranquility with our neighbors will follow naturally and smoothly.

The shift in American foreign policy announced by U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo agrees with President Ronald Reagan’s 1981 assessment that the settlements in territories conquered by Israel in the 1967 war were not “inherently illegal.”

However, this assessment contradicts U.N., European, Mideastern and Palestinian positions on the matter. The international community generally deems the settlements to be illegitimate, claiming that they erode the possibility for a future Palestinian state that would include disputed areas in Judea and Samaria.

Washington’s declaration has been rejected by Russia, Jordan, Turkey, and the European Union representatives, which comes as no surprise. The nations of the world consistently hound Israel, with no hesitation to unmercifully pressure Israel in comparison to what they demand from its neighbors or any other country.

Why Is Israel Always the World’s Focal Point?

We might wonder why Israel is treated differently than other nations, grabbing such global attention. It is so for a reason. The world subconsciously feels that Jews hold the keys for a good future but are somehow withholding the secret to a better world.

Therefore, the nations of the world goad us from behind and will not rest until we deliver what is expected of us.

Our Jewish nation was founded by our forefathers based on adherence to the condition of being “as one man with one heart.” Together, our people discovered and refined the method to rise above personal interests, the ego, to nurture genuine concern for one another.

They discovered a positive unifying force that guided their every move, and for centuries succeeded in uniting above divisions.

However, around 2,000 years ago, the Jewish nation succumbed to unfounded hatred, which led to their exile and eventual dispersion.

The shattered state of separation still rules in our hearts, and it is the root cause of myriad problems today.

Therefore, rebuilding our Jewish unity is the key solution that can restore a state of harmony profound enough to permeate everything around us and the entire world.

This is precisely our moral and spiritual obligation as a people, to “be a light unto the nations,” serving as a positive example for the world. It is the mandate for our existence as a nation, as well as for the Land of Israel upon which we reside.

As Rav Abraham Isaac Kook, the first chief rabbi in the Land of Israel, wrote, “In Israel is the secret to the unity of the world” (Orot Kodesh).

Peace Should Start At Home

Until we reconstruct our state of cohesion, which humanity direly needs today, the nations of the world will not accept our existence as individual Jews or as a sovereign Jewish nation. Therefore, peace must begin at home, among Jews. When we rise above our differences and attain a certain extent of unity, everyone will benefit. Otherwise, the world will continue blaming Jews and Israel for their woes.

We are the carriers of the method of the ego’s correction and of the division destroying our world. First, however, we need to learn how to implement correction among each other in order to be able to pass it on.

That method for “covering all crimes with love,” as King Solomon put it (Proverbs 10:12), always was and always will be our weapon for our survival and prosperity.

Reinstating the connection we once achieved is the peace process we need most.

The sooner we begin, the faster we will find calm and quiet for all.

The Role Of Women In The Correction Of Nature

laitman_591Question: You often say that it is harder for women to connect than it is for men. But if we take a closer look, we will notice that a woman today, even with three children, wants to go beyond the boundaries of her home.

She organizes all kinds of workshops, women’s circles, sees the value of connection, understands that we are living in a common field.

A woman gives birth; this is already some kind of experience of exiting herself for the sake of another person. A woman, in general, wants to make the entire world one big family, one home.

Do you agree that a woman is naturally more suited for connection than a man?

Answer: Nowadays everything is changing dramatically and I really see that there is a need to somehow revise everything. Suddenly, it turns out that there are more women in our circles than men.

At first, we explained it by the fact that women are not satisfied with their lives. After all, they have a family, a husband and children, and everything around them must be good and calm. This is very hard to achieve in our time. Therefore, we thought that perhaps women are dissatisfied and that this brings them to Kabbalah.

However, in principle, we see that today they do not really want a family: “Why do I need a husband and children? In general, it is possible to live without them. The Creator, spirituality, the soul, and the upper light!”

As for the fact that a woman is more down to earth and wants everyone to be connected, that is because her egoism is arranged in such a way. She feels that this will give the greatest fulfillment to her egoistic desires.

I think that today it already does not matter whether it is a man or a woman. Everything happens so equally that all gender differences are no longer differences.

At least the tendency is that more and more women are coming to Kabbalah. They are getting more serious, they are leaders. I must say that it has always been so: women lead humanity to serious goals. And men play. They go wherever a woman pushes them.

A woman is freer in her egoism than a man. Therefore, I really hope that we will have even more women and that they will show men how we should treat connection. It will be clearer to them.

Men can hug each other, walk, go to the sauna, and it seems to them that this is a connection. They are confused. Women are more sensitive to the meaning of real connection because they cannot even turn to each other without a need.

Therefore, we may yet see very serious changes in humanity regarding the role of women in the correction of nature.
From Lesson 5, World Kabbalah Convention in Moldova 9/7/19, Turning to the Creator

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Looking For Love

laitman_294.2On the next degree, an even greater lack is felt: the lack of love. The need for love is a treasure and I suffer from the fact that there is no love in my heart.1

The need to love is a new Kli. In our world love withers because we receive what we desire and enjoy it. How can we enjoy love in such a way that it would constantly continue to grow? I must feel the need to love and enjoy not by using my loved one for pleasure, but in the yearning for it.

This yearning is my Kli and the only joy that I desire. I don’t want to reveal the Creator, but I am fulfilled by my yearning toward Him, by the greatness of the one that I fulfill. Such love never withers. If such love existed in our world, there would never be any divorce. We must work on such love.

We change our attitude toward unity. Our Kli becomes different, we gradually approach it from a new angle: instead of wishing to reach the goal, I enjoy my desire for it. I want to remain in this yearning and receive fulfillment from it like from my first love, from romantic thoughts, from the fact that I enjoy looking at the subject of my affection, from hearing their voice. The Creator gives everyone such an example in life, from it one can understand how this works in spirituality.

We can live in the pleasure of striving for the Creator. Then we will no longer be deceived as before when we wanted to reveal Him and enjoy this love. This is a lie, and this is how we kill it. Love can be enjoyed only if you go above your egoistic desires. Any relationship below this level destroys love.

Therefore, the spiritual and the corporeal are two different worlds. In corporeal life, we love the way we can, but in spirituality, love must be built on faith above reason.

Baal HaSulam, “Letter #19”: “This means that, during the preparation, the beauty and grace appear and the essence of perfection that one yearns and longs for. However, at the time of correction, when “the earth shall be full of the knowledge of the Lord,” then, “I shall see an opposite world,” because only fear and longing are the essence of the desired perfection. Then one feels that, during the time of preparation, one was lying to oneself.”

Indeed, in this manner, our spiritual vessel is not limited, we can feel eternity in it—the Creator. The need to love is pleasure: joy from yearning, desire, and longing. It is in this very yearning that love is achieved, not in receiving it and satiating oneself with it, which destroys it all. We see that such love ends and turns to ruins. The desire to love is not a void, but a fulfillment that never ends. Each time you can increase it, like love for a baby that never ends, it is there for life.

The goal of the Bulgarian congress is to learn how to love, to reveal a genuine desire toward the Creator, and to make the greatest leap toward the first spiritual degree. Genuine love is realized in the group, in unity for the sake of bestowal that the Creator can dress into. It means that the Creator dresses into His creations.

Everyone experiences their first love in their youth; it is given to us from above as an example of selfless platonic love. But we understand that it is impossible to achieve perfect love in our corporeal desires except under the condition that we rise above them. That is why we are given an example in our childhood of enjoying not the physical relationship, but the dreams of our beloved.

This is the attitude I should have toward the Creator: enjoying my yearning for Him so that it would completely fills me. I am content just thinking about the Creator, dreaming of bringing Him joy. This is a limitless Kli that can always be expanded further. This is not the romantic desire we felt in childhood but a desire to bestow, which is very deep and serious. It is more important than this entire world and all the desires to enjoy.

Inside, there are many different properties, wars are waged not for life, but for death, and all about this relationship: for the pleasure of striving toward the Creator. This means bringing joy to the Creator. What else can we give Him; what can we add to His perfection? Only our aspiration to Him.

It is said: “Beware of reaching out for love.” I do not want to receive what I want because this would destroy my love, weaken it, and it would immediately vanish. Therefore, I only need the aspiration.

This originates from the beginning of creation, from the four phases of direct light. The quality of stage four (Behina Dalet) is restriction and yearning. I do not want to receive anything, because I felt shame and understood that I am destroying the way the Creator is relating to me, and in this case, nothing can ever happen between us. It is good that I have developed a feeling of shame, a warning about my inability to love. Therefore, I restrict my desire.

How great it is that I found a solution: the restriction after which there is only the reflecting light, only the yearning toward the Creator. The restriction stays between us, I do not reveal Him, because this is called the disclosure of nakedness. We cannot do that. I always remain in love above reason, and the romantic love fulfills me completely.

I cover the source of my love with a screen so that I will relate to it above my animalistic desires, above the desire to enjoy.2
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/13/19, Preparation to the Europe Convention

1 Minute 1:17:35
2 Minute 1:20:30

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Business Guru Adizes

Dr. Michael LaitmanFrom My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 10/02/19

A few days ago I spoke to Dr. Ichak Adizes, a top world expert in the field of management. Adizes says that love is the solution to all of life’s problems, hatred divides us and elicits rejection, while love is the key to success in business and organizations.

My Thoughts On Twitter 9/12/19

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A growing resistance of society to the global, integral system—nature, leads to a decline in production, #unemployment, lower standard of living, a mandatory restructuring of financial systems, an involuntary tighter budgeting for everyone in everything.
From Twitter, 9/12/19

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New Life #1148 – How To Arouse Love In Couple Relationships

New Life #1148 – How to Arouse Love in Couple Relationships
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

Couples need to learn how to build, inspire, and revive their love relationships by rising above egoism. We need to learn how to understand our egoistic human nature and why we cannot tolerate one another. Couples who want to undergo such a process need guidance in a group course where participants show each other how much they try to rise above their own desires for the benefit of their partner. Love is like an animal and must be constantly fed. Rising above egoism opens new horizons according to the principle, “love will cover all transgressions.”
From KabTV’s “New Life #1148 – How to Arouse Love in Couple Relationships,” 8/1/19

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Convention In Chisinau, Moldova

Dr. Michael LaitmanFrom My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 9/8/19

We have just completed a huge Kabbalah convention in Chisinau, Moldova. Over 1,200 Russian-speaking students came from different countries. In our union, in rising above our egoism, we discover the upper force, and the attributes of love and bestowal.