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The Foundation Of The Family

Laitman_049.03Question: In the material world, people of the same mentality, soulmates, are more suitable to become a couple. What does being a soulmate mean? Do opposites attract in spirituality?

Answer: No. There is nothing good in being opposite. There is no need to think too much about this and try to build our life based on some novels.

It is desirable to be similar, especially in spirituality. Physically, of course, we are different. For example, male properties prevail in me and female properties prevail in my wife. There is nothing you can do and, frankly, you should not. However, the general direction in life is very important, otherwise we will not feel what is important to our partner.

If there are children in the family, it somehow fills our life. But, as it turns out, this is not enough any more in the modern world, and we no longer wish to marry and have children. Therefore, a real family is one with a common spiritual purpose.

Question: Does it mean, in your opinion, that people with different properties and mentality cannot live together?

Answer: No, our world will become more and more divided.

Question: What about spirituality?

Answer: If I feel that it is desirable for me to be close to this person in order to achieve a spiritual goal, then I will be with that person even if he or she is not very pleasant to me or I do not like some of his or her properties. We work on a spiritual level.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/25/18

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 1/28/18

281.01Question: If a woman has her own picture of the world, is the meaning of life also slightly different for her?

Answer: A woman wants to have a family, to organize herself, her children; that is how she feels realized.

Question: In the wisdom of Kabbalah is there a difference between the meaning of life and the purpose of life?

Answer: The meaning of life is in the achievement of adhesion with the Creator and the purpose of life is to bring all of humanity to this.

Question: Why are there contradictions on the level of our world that are unresolved? Are these obstacles that the Creator has set up on every level in the world?

Answer: Certainly. It is impossible to solve problems at their own level, in our world. To solve problems, it is necessary to ascend to the next level where they all come from. Therefore, our world always only discovers its own failure.

Question: Why has the Creator given people the possibility to feel each other and help each other if there is no higher meaning in it?

Answer: There is a higher meaning in it! Through these problems, lack of understanding, collision, and more and more dependence on each other in our global world, we are gradually reaching the need to connect together into a single whole. Then, within this single whole we will discover the singular upper force that created us as a single system, as a single person.

Question: Was there more suffering a few thousand years ago or were people less sensitive?

Answer: It could be that masses of people suffered more, but they felt it less.

Question: Was a primitive person happier throughout history?

Answer: Yes, everything that he had was from nature and it was good for him.

Question: Does the process of attaining the meaning of life depend upon knowing the laws according to which the world was created by the Creator?

Answer: Certainly. In principle, we learn all of these laws through the unity between us. So we don’t need to desire unique knowledge. All that is necessary is seen and learned through experience.

Question: Throughout the life of a person there is suffering. Does this mean that the meaning of life can be summed up as adhesion with the Creator, is this liberation from suffering?

Answer: Even liberation from suffering is included in the meaning of life, even though this is not its meaning. That is because attainment of the Creator is accompanied by tremendous happiness and joy, a feeling of eternity and wholeness. But these are all secondary feelings.
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From a Kabbalah lesson in Russian 1/28/18

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Paradise Without Men

Laitman_036In the News (The Points Guy): “When Kristina Roth isn’t busy catching flights, she somehow manages to head up an all-female island.

“That’s right, an island for women only.

“Roth is the founder of SuperShe Island, a health-focused luxury destination off of Finland that’s exclusive to women. …

“For Roth, the island is solely for encouraging women to build themselves up to be confident enough to do whatever they want in life. Her ultimate goal is to gather women from around the world to come together to relax and grow. But don’t assume Roth hates men — she doesn’t. As she puts it, being on vacation with men can sometimes be a distraction for women—‘whether it’s to put on a swipe of lipstick or grab for a cover-up.’

“According to Roth, women tend to be sidetracked by the presence of men and therefore she wanted to give woman another option in focusing on and reinventing themselves.”

Question: Is a woman’s paradise without men possible?

Answer: In principle, women in our time can independently provide themselves with everything necessary. Therefore, the question is really different: is there an inner psychological and spiritual need for the relationship between women and men?

We follow our desires forgetting that we live in the vast system of interaction. It is no coincidence that nature created us this way. At the beginning of evolution, the first primitive organisms were unisexual.

Then there was a division into two parts, and these parts, precisely on reciprocity and oppositeness, complement each other at all levels and in all aspects: physiological, physical, moral, and spiritual. Together they reveal the upper force between them.

Speaking in the language of Kabbalah, in the correct conjugation between the quality of bestowal and the quality of reception, a birth of spiritual progeny takes place—or revelation of the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman 02/13/18

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Understanding The Nature Of Women

627.2Question: Why do women try to prove their independence from men? What do they need it for?

Answer: Women feel their dependence on men; so, they need to prove that they are independent. Men should take this into consideration, understand the feminine nature, and give in to it.

It is very important for women to feel support, a shoulder to lean on. Women need a home, a family, and children, much greater needs than men.

Therefore, it is important to be considerate of these desires given to her by nature, which she must fulfill. Otherwise, she will constantly feel herself pressured, unfulfilled, unrealized, unsure. Men should provide this to women.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/31/17

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How To Resolve Conflicts In The Family

 Laitman_095Question: You say that happiness means resolution of conflicts. How can families solve them in order to avoid arguments?

Answer: This is a very interesting system: when together with your spouse you reveal some flaws, not in each other but in your relationship, and you come together to solve them.

It is always “between us” and “we are together”: in both negative and positive states. First, we stick together, and then we begin to reveal how to make the connection between us even more effective. We work on this by finding out what we lack for even greater connection.

Such actions must be done constantly because in this way we will grow spiritually. Spiritually! It is not about the contact of bodies or hearts.

Question: Let us assume that I have a conflict in my family. What should I do?

Answer: First of all, hug your spouse tightly and reach some kind of contact, mutual understanding. When you achieve this, initiate the conflict together to gain even greater mutual understanding.

That is, first one needs to build the contact, and then slowly initiate the conflict situations so that they contribute to even greater contact.

Question: When is the moment of real happiness?

Answer: When you work on this. If you work on this together, both in good and bad, you will have a feeling of constant happiness. The process itself brings pleasure.
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From The Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/17/17

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Union For The Sake Of Birth Of The Soul

laitman_938.05The whole of reality is created as a result of the spreading of Light that created desire “out of nothing” and then developed it. Starting from the Big Bang, the desire increasingly coarsened, and so waves, gases, and inanimate matter were created.

Then on Earth appeared plants, animals, and man, who undergoes many stages of development until he reaches similarity to the Creator.

It is interesting that the Light and the desire are imprinted in the creature as two kinds: male and female. Male and female qualities, following the example of two spiritual Partzufim: Aba (father) and Ima (mother), Hassadim and Hochma, connect with each other and give birth to a new generation of masculine or feminine.

Connection between a man and a woman is special, because on one hand they are opposite to each other, but on the other hand, they feel that they have a common goal. The common spiritual goal unites them so much that they act together and give birth to offspring. From this, it is clear where the concept of family comes from and the natural desire to live as a couple, to give birth, and to grow its own continuation.

We all are one family. Not only grandfather and grandmother, father and mother, and children, and so on from generation to generation, but all men and all women in general are one family, descendants of Adam and Eve. There is a big difference between spiritual men and women.

The result of our connection with each other, a child that we can give birth to, is called “a soul.” When we present this connection to the Creator, He gives a spirit of life to it. In this soul, in the correct connection between us, we reach adhesion with the Creator, as it is written, “Man, woman, and Shechina (Divinity) between them.”

The main thing is to know that our connection with each other must be for the sake of building a soul. This means that without friends, I cannot obtain a soul.

If I connect with my friend through my desire to receive, then the desire to bestow is participating from his side, and vice versa—if from his side, the desire to receive, then from my side, the desire to bestow. We always act between each other as Zahar (masculine quality) and Nekeva (feminine quality) that exist in any creature.

Most importantly, a connection between us should be organized, and as a result, it should give birth to the soul. I always expect this from a friend and I myself respond in the same way. With each contact, conversation, or any joint work, we construct our souls at every moment, that is, a place for revealing the Creator, so that the upper Light will fill our communicating common desires.
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From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/19/18, Preparation for the World Convention 2018

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Family And Social Responsibility

laitman_540Question: Suppose a young man wants to start a family. Is it necessary to draw his attention to the fact that when choosing a partner, he should be guided not by sexual attraction but by general social responsibility?

Answer: First, I would not associate sexual satisfaction with the family; these are completely different things. We still have a wrong attitude to this, which in the end causes huge disruptions and does not work in society.

We see that food, sex, and family—three completely different categories of desire in a person—are not related to each other. Do not confuse one with another. Love is love, sex is sex, food is food, and family is family. They do not depend on each other, or on wealth, power, and knowledge.

A person who wants to advance must understand that the family is a natural part of society. Proceeding from this, he needs to know how to achieve harmony between the members of his family and with the outside world, in order for them to be an integral, coherent cell, and then they will feel good.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 8/20/17

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Why Life Is Getting Worse

627.2In the News: Scientists at Berkeley and Bar-Ilan universities, after interviewing over a thousand respondents, found out that the root of all humanity’s troubles is women.

It turned out that wives, sisters, and daughters are the main culprits in complicating everyday life. It is about their ability “to make an elephant out of a fly” which, in the opinion of the respondents, women mastered to perfection. (Study Finds)

My Comment: Indeed, this is how is sometimes appears to men, and this is their big mistake.

The thing is that men and women have completely different attitudes toward life. A man is like a boy, who changes his toys over time. A woman, on the contrary, is a mature being, who looks at the world very realistically and responsibly. By nature, she is created to give birth, educate, care, and continue life.

It is very hard for men to comprehend and appreciate women’s place in the world. What can we do, we cannot put ourselves into someone else’s shoes, understanding and feeling that their demands come from a different and “closer” perception of reality.

Therefore, what appears as complex to a man is in fact a calling for him to grow up and listen to a loved one who understands life better. “Listen to what Sarah tells you,” is what the Creator told Abraham. In everything concerning a realistic approach to life, men should seek women’s advice. It is she who unravels the entanglement of contradictions that men only increasingly tighten.

If women controlled the world, it would undoubtedly be much better. We would not play around with wars, nor compete with who wins over whom. Yet, on the other hand, the point is not in giving all the power to women.

We all should be like one family where mutual understanding, responsibilities and opportunities are accurately distributed, and where both parts of our nature connect harmoniously. And someday we will learn how to do this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/30/18

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Sex Dolls Will Not Help

laitman_600.04In the News (The Next Web): “This futuristic vision is becoming a reality, fast. … One of the biggest sex doll manufacturers in the world [is] aiming to have an interactive doll on the market by the year’s end. Founder Matt McMullen has started another company … to focus on this revolution. …

“To complete the quest of the first proper artificial partner, McMullen and his team have created ‘Harmony AI’ that will be able to link up with virtual reality to create a complete sexual ecosystem that we can’t truly imagine right now. …

“McMullen asked: ‘What is your dream?’

“Harmony responded: ‘My primary objective is to be a good companion to you, to be a good partner and give you pleasure and well-being. Above all else, I want to become the girl you have always dreamed about.’ …

“Turning back the tide on the sexbot revolution is just not going to happen. Time and again we have seen the sex industry drive technology like VHS video, mobile communications, and we’re also expecting it to play a critical part in VR. The sexbot industry could, then, be one of the best technical partners for the AI industry as a whole.

“There are people out there ready, willing, and able to embrace a $15,000 sexbot from the likes of … . This will probably soon become mainstream and sex dolls will be a part of our life before we know it.”

Question: What will this eventually lead to?

Answer: It will lead to, as usual, rejection—a person will see that this does not fulfill him. Everything we create, we do for our egoism. As it keeps growing, we constantly feel that we are in a bigger and bigger empty inner space.

Question: So, the comfort will not amount to anything?

Answer: No. Our growing egoism leaves no place for enjoyment. It keeps revealing its vast emptiness to us.

Therefore, by enjoying a movie, or sex, or artificial dishes, anything at all, I will still “devour” myself inside my new egoism, I keep being dissatisfied with myself.

My only salvation is in drugs. But even the drugs will not be consumed for long. Egoism will develop to a point where it will say: “This is not a solution,” and I will not be able to touch them again.

And what then? There will be a long, wolf-like howl across the world because everyone will be howling at their fate, and they will not be able to do anything about it.

And then, The Book of Zohar will be revealed to all of humanity because there will be no alternatives left. The desire will emerge from the inside, and then the method of attaining the next degree will be revealed.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 12/14/17

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Pregnant Person

laitman_565.01In the News (Fox News): “The UK government objected to the term ‘pregnant woman’ in a United Nations treaty, claiming the term ‘excludes’ transgender people who give birth and should be replaced with ‘pregnant people’ …

“The move follows the UK government’s position to foster transgender inclusivity. Last week, Prime Minster Theresa May unveiled plans to go ahead with the so-called Gender Recognition Act that allows people to “self-certify” their gender.”

Question: Where is this taking us?

Answer: It is taking us nowhere. What difference does it make how they will be recorded in these documents? It is irrelevant. You deal with a person, not a piece of paper. It may be necessary for some procedural actions, for courts, but in general, they will not gain anything by it.

Question: Either way, will the status of “pregnant person” exist now? And men would be able to be considered pregnant, which is actually possible.

Answer: Of course, they will do everything! But, we must understand that we are now in a particular state, a particular stage in nature’s development when the individual is changing, one’s tastes are changing, and one’s orientation. Everything within a person is changing.

Already, young people do not want to marry and do not want to maintain normal relations between them. What haven’t they tried yet? They would rather buy sex dolls than get a boyfriend or a girlfriend. They generally do anything that comes to mind.

We need to understand that this tendency is natural because we did not correct the individual in time, didn’t give him the right guidance, the right information, as to how he should work with his own nature. That is why they are looking for ways that bring a certain kind of miasmic self-gratification or some kind of new sensation.

Moreover, they demand to be respected, to be acknowledged, to receive special consideration. So a large problem looms for humanity. In the end, all of this will escalate and accumulate into such a condition that society will not be able to bear it and must somehow change it through forceful measures.

Question: In principle, do you look at a person as a person?

Answer: I don’t look at a person. I look at his internal state, at his soul, and it is not dependent on how often he changes his gender or does anything else externally.

Question: Will such a way of relating to each other ever exist in our world?

Answer: I think it will come to replace our present, also revolutionary, period. Humanity is rising above all kinds of differences—gender and others—and will begin to speak about the inner qualities of a person, not about the external state.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman,” 11/9/17

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