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True Love And Perfect Family

919Question: What is true love?

Answer: True love is absolute trust, impeccable support, self-sacrifice, and confidence that you are treated the same way.

Question: Throughout the development of mankind, the concept of family has changed greatly. What is an ideal family today?

Answer: An ideal family is the same as ideal love. It is built on top of all the problems, with them, and in spite of them. Therefore, if people knew how to create bridges over problems and keep them safe, then true love is created. Love is a consequence of a very hard work over one’s own and other people’s shortcomings.

Question: What does it mean to live above problems?

Answer: Knowing all the problems, we try, without closing our eyes to them, to respect the other, value him or her, and be connected with each other without forgetting about our problems.
From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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What Does A Successful Marriage Depend On?

564Question: Now all of humanity believes that marriages entered into at mature age are stronger and more stable. Is this really the case? When does a person need to get married?

Answer: Of course, over time we become wiser. Life educates us by quite harsh methods. However, you do not have to experience them. It all depends on the education received, what kind of example the child had in the family. We see that children literally are repeating what they see with their parents.

In general, I would start educating a person for family life from kindergarten and continue at school, at university, and at work. Home circles, television, everything should be dedicated to the creation of the correct family as the unit of society.
From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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“What Are Some Ways To End Domestic Violence?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: What are some ways to end domestic violence?

The only way to end domestic violence for good is by implementing serious education that we need nowadays for our very survival: a new kind of education where we learn about how our egoistic human nature operates on us at every moment, how it is growing in us individually and in humanity as a whole, how it brings about such phenomena as divisiveness, hatred and violence, how today it has reached such heights that it needs new methods that our past education can no longer fulfill, and how to stop it from erupting in such terrible situations as domestic violence.

Violent tendencies exist in every person. While most domestic violence is thought of as men violently abusing women, today we also see such phenomena as mothers violently abusing their children, and even on the contrary, children doing so against their mothers.

Why did nature make us so savage that many of us strike out against our own family members?

It is in order for us to reach a conclusion that our egoistic nature is an evil inclination. Our ego, which is a desire to enjoy at the expense of others, ultimately hates anyone or anything that does not seem to benefit it.

Moreover, today more than ever, domestic violence acts as a prominent example of the immense hatred that is building up within human beings, and that it is all in order for us to reach a desire to put aside this hatred—which clearly leads to no positive outcomes—and start loving one another.

Therefore, the more violence and suffering amounts, the more potential we acquire to reach a desperate cry for change: to transform our nature from egoistic and hateful to altruistic and loving.

This is where the importance of a new form of education enters, one that focuses on teaching us how nature works—including human nature—and how we can develop positive attitudes to each other above the hatred that involuntarily surfaces inside us.

I’m optimistic that with such connection-enriching education, we can bring about great corrections to humanity. I have applied myself to connection-enriching education for dozens of years, and even though by nature I am very egoistic and domineering, by learning how human nature works, and by drawing alongside it a positive environment that is filled with positive examples of altruism, love and care, then I develop constant hope and motivation to become a better person from one day to the next.

That is the kind of drive we need to spread out to society at large if we are to see an end to domestic violence, as well as many other hateful outbursts occurring increasingly in our world today.

Photo by Jessica Rockowitz on Unsplash.

How To Make Decisions In The Family?

506.6Question: How can decisions be made in the family correctly? Is there some kind of hierarchy here?

Answer: All decisions in the family are made by the wife. At least that is how it should be. Abraham was told: “In all that Sarah tells you, listen to her.”

Question: Isn’t this said allegorically?

Answer: Both allegorically and not. I believe that a woman is more sensible than a man and can take part in decisions. Men should look at women’s attitude toward problem solving and learn from them how to lower themselves instead of pushing their opinions.
From kabTV’s “Management Skills” 6/11/20

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How To Find Your Soulmate

560Question: Dating sites are very popular in the world nowadays. How can you find your soulmate and not lose him or her?

Answer: I do not think that there is much romance in our time. I believe that we can find our soulmate correctly only if we clearly know who we are, who suits us, and if we do not turn to matchmakers and even more so to soulless sites.

Therefore, to find one’s soulmate, a person must first clearly determine for oneself who he or she is and only then search more purposefully.

Question: How can we help them discover who they are?

Answer: A person should be engaged in self-improvement, self-education, and self-development. It may take a few years but only then will one be able to properly assess and understand what kind of partner he or she can live with. And one’s life will truly become beautiful.
From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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Woman—A Mystery To Men

627.1Question: Many men complain that they do not understand women. What is the most important thing a man should know about women?

Answer: Please them and respect them. You do not need anything else. A woman feels it very much.

If you want to treat her nicely and with respect, then a woman will always be your friend. You will be able to gain her trust and build a proper relationship with her. Consider her more as a friend than a woman, and then everything will be fine.
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A Mother’s Heart

623A mother’s heart is located at the central point of the entire universe, both corporeal and spiritual. After all, it is from this very point that spiritual and corporeal birth occurs. There is nothing stronger than a mother’s heart; it is the most sensitive, most important point in all of reality. The Creator created a desire, which is the basis of a mother’s heart.

Therefore, if women begin to think at least a little about unity, they will already touch this central point of the entire universe from where the birth of all of humanity, the common soul, began. The world will come to correction only through a woman.

A woman has tremendous power that gives birth, develops, and organizes. And vice versa, if a woman does not participate in this correction, then she turns into a cause of contention, into a place of estrangement and evil. Therefore, I really hope that women will unite and bring peace, tranquility and unity to humanity.
From the Women’s Lesson 8/29/20, “Bnei Baruch Rule Toward Humanity”

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Intimate Relationships Have Become State Treason

627.2Remark: North Korea has declared war on intimate relationships between teenagers. The head of North Korea Kim Jong Un declared intimate relationships in adolescence was treasonous and announced plans to make it a punishable offense.

According to the head of the DPRK, sex between teenagers is “immoral sexual deviancy,” and it is caused by “decadent capitalist influences.” Control began in schools.

My Comment: Good education is not built on violence. In addition, today young people between the ages of 14 and 15 are such teenagers, if you can call them teenagers, that in our time people were at the age of 20. Of course, it is very difficult to keep today’s youth from all kinds of sexual relationships because everything is open. They have the Internet, but people are still people..

Question: What should replace their fervor that naturally pushes them toward each other?

Answer: I think that it cannot be replaced because the desire for sexual satisfaction is very strong in a man, especially in a teenager. Of course, I would give them a very serious education.

Question: What would you teach them?

Answer: Everything! Anatomy, physiology, psychology, sexology, what a man and a woman are, what birth is. I would definitely teach and show everything through all sorts of movies. There is nothing to hide. That only makes it worse. They will be busy with it even more, and they will acquire all kinds of misconceptions. The forbidden fruit is sweet. I would definitely open all this.

Question: Where would they come to as a result?

Answer: Where they are now, but in a normal form, without any distortion. They would know how they are built, what nature requires of us, what our psychology is, so that we behave correctly, that we are pleasant people for ourselves and for others, so that we are not ashamed of all this.

Just raise it from the level of secrecy to the level of frankness. You will see that all this has a completely different taste, a completely different attitude.

Question: Would they come to the correct connection?

Answer: Yes, there must be a correct connection. It still does not exist today. Still today sexology, anatomy, physiology, and psychology of correct sexual intercourse are not taught correctly.

Question: Would you include into this understanding what friendship is and what love is?

Answer: Yes, it “clothes” in this. Then both friendship and love will be human components. Human, not animal! If I am hungry, should I eat? So, I should have this as well. This is what my body requires, what can I do?! I think only about this. Food and then sex, that is all.

Question: Would friendship and love then clothe in this base?

Answer: This does not relate to physiology that much. Then you need to understand how to put it together.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/13/20

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips About The Family – 5/21/20

560Question: Can a married couple of the same sex provide the right education for children?

Answer: No. A child must have two different people, opposite in their natural attributes.

Question: Is a family with a robot an option? Is there such an option in the near future of humanity?

Answer: I do not think so. That would not be a good family.

Question: Can we say that there are conflicts at the basis of a strong family?

Answer: Sometimes.

Question: Does online connection strengthen the family?

Answer: Not based on today’s Internet, no. I hope it will be the case in the future.

Question: Is there a future for the virtual family?

Answer: A virtual family cannot be the future. A family is not beyond the boundaries of the home.

Question: There is a whole section in family life called “expectation.” What should we expect in a spouse?

Answer: Mutual understanding, mutuality!

Question: Do we need to choose a partner according to the equivalence of attributes, or quite the opposite, the more different people are in their character, the stronger the unity between them is?

Answer: A couple needs to be opposite from each other and they need to understand their oppositeness, that each of them has a mind and the desire to complement each other.

Question: Is it a good idea to build a family today in the first place?

Answer: It is impossible without a family. A family needs to exist for our sake, for the sake of the education of children. A person without a family is not a human being, but half a body.
From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Live By The Laws Of Nature

959Comment: On one hand, you say that you need to live by the laws of nature, and on the other, you welcome that everyone has finally stopped producing unnecessary things and they can stay at home with their family.

My Response: This is a temporary phenomenon. I don’t think people can spend all their time at home. In principle, this is not necessary because it is an unjustified waste of time and life. It is necessary to do what is useful for society, for nature, for maintaining homeostasis.

Question: How do you think household responsibilities should be distributed among family members?

Answer: In a natural way. A man should help a woman, and a woman should maintain the home.
From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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