Question: Can there be such a bond between a man and a woman that they move forward together without conflicts and achieve a common goal?

Answer: It is quite possible. In the future this is how it will be to the extent of aspiration, correction, similarity, and the general ascent of all humanity to a spiritual level.

But for now, we are still in states that have not yet entered the spiritual world. Therefore if a couple has not reached the upper world, they experience very problematic tensions, ascents, and descents that are not synchronous. So there are significant challenges here. It does not matter that they both are studying Kabbalah and want to succeed. In practice, it still does not work out well.

Comment: But you went into this very deeply; you must have had problems in your family.

My Response: My wife has always supported me in everything! The moment we met, I told her that we would definitely move to Israel, that I needed to find the purpose of life, and I did not see that it was possible to do it in Russia. That was 1970. She agreed even though she could have said no. Since then we have had no issues.

I make the main decisions in life. She knows it would not work otherwise. But I, on my part, never rested until I had provided for her. That is, first and foremost I always thought about how to provide for the family. This earthly duty is absolutely clear and definite to me. But everything left after I brought my salary home is mine—the rest is for the soul.

Comment: But she practically does not see you.

My Response: We have a tradition. Once a day we go for a walk in the park and talk for about an hour. I do not think that an average couple has the opportunity to talk daily in a calm setting, without staring at the TV, or a plate at dinner, or exchanging just a few words while she is in the kitchen and he is on a couch in the living room.

You might ask, “What can you talk about every day for so long?” We talk about our grandchildren, about what interests her. I tell her a bit about what I am working on.

Question: About spiritual matters?

Answer: No, about ordinary things. But she feels everything even without studying. She watches our channel and is aware of everything. She has invested a lot into this. She took care of my teacher, cooked for him and did his laundry. As a woman, she did a lot in order to begin understanding Kabbalah. And now she is aware of everything. She listens to the programs, and often criticizes my lessons or talks. So I am genuinely interested in her opinion. In this sense, I am truly satisfied with my life partner.

Question: Does it happen that after a lesson you transmit some kind of energy to your wife, suppose, during a conversation?

Answer: No, none of that is necessary. We just walk and talk. These are all everyday matters. We walk at a brisk, sporty pace, and I share a bit about my activities because our lives revolve around this, and inevitably our children’s lives too.

I hope that when our grandchildren grow up, they too will be part of this system. So even when my wife and I talk about family or other matters, we are still in one way or another discussing things that are part of our Kabbalistic community.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Role of Women in the Family” 9/1/10

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