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Disappearing Distances

546.02Question: Do Kabbalists know how to measure distance?

Answer: Yes, but this is a very difficult technique since they measure the distance, not only between egoisms, but also between altruisms, meaning between souls.

Question: How is this distance measured?

Answer: In Kabbalistic units.

Question: How much personal space does a person need physically?

Answer: I think that, as a result of our correction, we will come to a state where we will not need any space between us, but will begin to live together as one person with one heart.

Question: When uniting, is it important to observe personal space? Do we annul it, dissolve into each other or rise above it and each person remain with his own space?

Answer: No. We are united by the common power of the Creator that fills and embraces us.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/30/20

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The Extremes Of Tolerance

273.02Comment: Sometimes tolerance and political correctness in the field of discrimination reach the point of insanity. For example, the creators of the American animated series The Simpsons said that they would ban white artists from voicing non-white characters.

A Sydney radio station has accused chess of being racist because white goes first. In Hollywood, the rules are changing in favor of racial diversity. And there is no end to it.

My Response: The point is that no one is working on the root of the problem. So, let’s say that the Hollywood film industry uses various external mechanical changes where the same number of African-Americans and Europeans, or women and men, would be involved in the filming. All this is purely external for them not to be faulted. And what happens internally is not important to them. And so, in the end, the world does not change.

Question: Who should determine this? The state, people?

Answer: I think that this should be determined by people, and the state should listen to them, should rely on the opinion of society, and gradually introduce state laws.

Comment: By the way, sometimes there is a point of view that only people belonging to the same group should be involved in teaching certain ethnic groups.

My Response: Maybe. I think it still matters in our time. And in the future, everything will change. We will be completely indifferent to who is teaching. So much so that we will not notice any skin color or face.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/16/20

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How Can We Teach Children To Be Happy?

959Question: How can we teach children to be happy? And is it worth teaching them something related to Kabbalah?

Answer: Naturally, we want to teach children to be happy, and we can teach them. We tell a child: “Do not be a bully, do not hit others, be kind, be polite,” and so on, because we understand that in this way he seems to be guaranteed better circumstances.

This is how we should educate our children until they reach the age where we can teach them the method of connection. And then they will definitely have guarantees for a good life.
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From KabTV’s “Ask the Kabbalist” 12/31/18

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Contact And Non-Contact Nations

630.2Question: In the middle of the last century, anthropologists introduced the concept of contact and non-contact cultures. There are cultures, for example, in Asia or Southern Europe, in  which people engage in tactile interactions more often, and there are colder nations who are far from this type of behavior.

Some researchers have calculated that a couple, sitting at a table in a restaurant in Paris, made 110 mutual touches per hour whereas in London, not a single one. What is the root of this phenomenon? Does this closeness between people mean that there are some nations who are closer to unity?

Answer: No. I would not say that this signals the closeness of people, but nevertheless, it does speak about their national folk character and upbringing. A lot depends on the environment in which the person was brought up. Still, we can see from people who move from place to place and live, for several generations, far from their native land, how different they are compared to the local residents.

Question: So, all of our natural qualities do not affect in any way the degree of unity that you are talking about? Will everyone have to make their own efforts?

Answer: Undoubtedly, everyone should make some effort to unite, to rise not only above their egoism, but also above their habits in order to be closer to others.

After all, if someone who is talking to you touches you once an hour and someone holds your hand all the time, this still does not mean anything. We must take into account the particular qualities of this person, how he was brought up, and in what environment. It is all very complicated.

I’m talking about the closeness that happens when people feel the same way. The most important thing is to be in a common heart. Perhaps everyone is making a different degree of effort that we cannot compare. But this is already a problem on a higher level.

Question: About what sorts of things do people feel the same way?

Answer: About whether they are in a common desire or aspiration as well as how they define this state, what they do with it, why they are together, and what the purpose of their uniting is.

All this should be clear to them. How much closer to each other they can be in clarifying this goal is the result of their uniting.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/30/20

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Nations Of The World And Moral Principles

631.5Question: A well-educated population is more tolerant of sexual minorities, but is intolerant of the violation of moral norms in their own selfish interests, for example: bribery, tax violation. A group of religious people is much closer to such a moral principle.

Do you, as a Kabbalist, believe that moral principles should remain unchanged or can change depending on the circumstances?

Answer: True moral principles do not depend on anything. They do not belong to societies or religions, but are above that.

Question: Do you think that moral norms should be the same for everyone or each nation can have their own norms of behavior and moral principles?

Answer: Norms of behavior can be different in different nations and moral principles should be the same for everyone. Although it depends on the development of the nation. But all norms and principles should be aimed toward love your neighbor as yourself.

Question: Considering that all people have different levels of desire according to the Maslow’s hierarchy, could it be assumed that each level has its own norms of behavior?

Answer: Relatively. But everyone should understand where they are on this pyramid. And, although one has not attained the highest levels yet, one knows these levels exist.

Comment: You say that there should be one principle, love your neighbor. And norms could be different in each nation. But inside the nation, there are different layers, more developed and less developed.

My Response: Yes, but they all belong to the single pyramid, the peak of which is love your neighbor as yourself.

Question: Do ethical and moral norms need to be classified according to age, gender, and nationality? Or should they be universal and a person should be gradually taught them from childhood?

Answer: Undoubtedly, a person should be taught this from childhood and constantly. It is imperative to lead him to these principles raising them to a level that does not depend on the nature of man, on his national, ethnic, and other characteristics. This is the responsibility of all humanity.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/9/20

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 10/7/20

959Question: What is the difference between a virtual community and a spiritual one?

Answer: A virtual community has many different goals. And the spiritual community pursues one goal that is very clear, distinct, and set by its great teachers. And we, as students, are moving toward this goal.

Question: What would you recommend to the owners of such social networks as Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube?

Answer: I would advise them to steer the development of social networks in the right direction to give people the opportunity to be in the most open communication with each other, and humanity will quickly catch on to this.

But today, these networks operate in a way that prevents people from being properly connected. They should allow the forces of nature to lead people to the right goal. But they interfere, and this is their greatest evil.

Question: What kind of technology could you suggest to develop communication between people? Do you have any ideas?

Answer: No. I think that all ideas will emerge as soon as there is a need for them.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/7/20

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Do Not Break Away From The Collective

567.04Question: Do you think that a person should have time alone with himself and do something only for himself? If so, what should he do, for how long, and what should he think about?

Answer: We cannot regulate such things because they are purely individual. We must simply teach a person the right attitude to the purpose of nature, to the state that one must reach. And in accordance with this, he will choose for himself one or another rung in social behavior.

Question: In relationships between people, there is a private zone that cannot be crossed, it is allowed only to the most loved and close ones. Do you think that for communication, for example, in our courses, it is necessary to know that this depends on the culture of a person and on his character?

Answer: All people need to know, understand, feel, and explore themselves and others so that in the end we all connect into one common whole.

Question:  Are the boundaries washed away between people in spiritual space?

Answer: Completely. We strive to destroy personal space so that all hearts become like one heart.

Comment: It is hard to imagine what happens when you have nothing personal and cannot spend even five minutes with yourself.

My Response: You will not need it! On the contrary, you will not want to break away from the collective.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/30/20

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Making Everyone Feel Comfortable

562.02Question: Reducing the distance between people is characterized by the following features: joy, constant dialogue, unity, attuning to each other, and rejection of all manipulative control and desire for superiority over the person. However, the excessive intensity of the described motivation—obsessive, friendly love—leads to disharmony, dissatisfaction, and fatigue. How do you keep distance without increasing it?

Answer: This should be done in accordance with the feelings of people. To the extent that they feel comfortable with each other, they will draw closer and adjust the distance between them accordingly.

Question: In different countries, people define and protect the boundaries of personal space in different ways. There is a big difference between Russia, Europe, and Asia.

In addition, there is a difference between men and women. Men are much stronger and more acutely aware of the violation of distance. Do we need to take these phenomena into account in our courses, meetings, and congresses?

Answer: We teach quite a diverse contingent, so such things should be considered but in such a way that everyone is comfortable.

Question: We all know that there is a distance between a boss and subordinate, teacher and student. Should there be a distance between the teacher in our integral courses and the students he unites?

Answer: It should be in order to give students the opportunity to vary and determine the distance between themselves and the teacher. The teacher should not interfere with this. By teaching people and giving them all sorts of practical tasks he leads them to the maximum rapprochement, but in no case by force.
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From KabTVs “Communication Skills” 10/30/20

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How To Save A Marriage

294.4Question: I recently watched your video where you say that you cannot get a divorce, only as the last resort when there are children involved.

So what can I do when there are no feelings left for each other and the children see that? When there is only fighting and annoyance with each other? How can it be good for the children to grow up in such an atmosphere? I don’t love him, do you understand? Don’t hold me back.

My Response: I am holding you back. I would like to restrain both you and him. Because you are no longer children like your kids  you need to understand that it is still much better for you, for your children, for your family, and for society for you not to divorce, but simply to stop paying attention to certain feelings.

Question: But how can they achieve peace, more or less?

Answer: They should agree not to annoy each other. That’s it! What else is there to do? Let your relationship involve a bit of politics, some agreement and reasoning, rising above yourselves.
To say: “I don’t like things about him, he doesn’t like things about me” is childish!

Question: In general, it is possible to agree on areas to avoid?

Answer: Absolutely! If they already have children, then they are clearly mature people. If you have children, you have no right to divorce. For the sake of your children. The kids won’t forgive you. They will carry it with them throughout their lives.

Question: So, if she thinks about the children at this moment, and not about herself, about her annoyance?

Answer: Then she will not be annoyed.

Question: What does it involve? Forgiveness of all his mistakes or what? How to make concessions here?

Answer: To reduce each other’s vulnerability, your sensitivity to each other, claims against each other. Imagine that the other has a right to his behavior, to his life. And at the same time, you have a common life. And this common life, first of all, concerns your children, and not you personally. Don’t be so selfish! Live for the sake of the children. This should not be a source of pain for your children.

Question: Is this the real responsibility?

Answer: Yes. Of course.

Comment: People don’t think that children are affected by this their whole lives.

My Response: No. This will have a big impact on the children. And the children will also get divorced because their parents did the same.

Question: Does it follow the chain?

Answer: It does.

Question: And it extends to the next generation?

Answer: Yes. And if they didn’t see the parent’s divorce, then, despite the fact that there are very big differences between them and general fighting, children will still preserve their families.

Question: So you also look at other generations?

Answer: Certainly. Because “what parents do serves as an example for children.”
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/23/20

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How To Select People For Integral Upbringing Groups?

559Question: Should the selecting of people for integral upbringing groups be based on racial, national, and cultural characteristics?

Answer: No, this is completely wrong. Maybe they should be selected in accordance with their development level and mentality for them to be closer to each other. But in the end they all will be equal.

On the one hand, of course, the more similar people are, the easier it is for them to make contact, and on the other hand, the more opposite they are, the greater the success from their joint actions.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/16/20

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