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How To Raise Children

laitman_543.02Remark: In Japan, any physical punishment of children will soon be banned. The ban on physical punishment of minors applies to parents, social workers, and teachers.

My Comment: How can I express my dissatisfaction with the child’s behavior if it goes beyond what everyone says is acceptable for society, the family, and so on?

Let them give me a full distribution of the influence on children in order to educate them. Because education implies limiting.

You must express your discontent so that the child understands. And he would understand that it is for his benefit. That is, you do it not because you are annoyed and full of nerves, but because you wish for his good. This is of utmost importance in education.

Question: How do you keep in mind that you are not unloading your emotions onto a child?

Answer: To do this, educators must be educated.

Question: That is, you can’t do anything with prohibitions?

Answer: You cannot do anything. So what if there will be the law? What, they will be fined, imprison the parents? It will make such a mess in society.

When the state introduces such a law, and in general any laws, it must necessarily teach how to comply with this law and give it appropriate reinforcement.

Question: What is a proper upbringing?

Answer: It is said: “Man is born to small animals.” Gradually, if we do not educate him, he will become a big animal. In order to educate him, it is necessary to apply a certain pressure—simultaneously with his development.

Letting him know that I am putting pressure on him regarding the animal in him and not about the man in him. I want to develop man, and I want to curb the animal… and the animal is wild.

A child should know that he consists of two parts: good and evil, and we must limit evil.

Remark: I anticipate outraged comments on Twitter …

My Comment: It doesn’t matter. What difference does it make whether or not there are outraged comments? Most importantly, say the truth, and then it will become realized after a while.

Question: So your conclusion is that you need to educate parents and educators?

Answer: Of course. It is necessary to raise parents before raising children. Otherwise, parents will raise their children even worse than themselves.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman,” 4/9/19

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Whom To Leave Billions?

laitman_600.01Remark: The ten richest people in the world are not going to leave their fortune to their children.

My Comment: The custom of leaving possessions to the next generation has become outdated. People understand that it does not give children any happiness.

That is, a child has to be given a good education, and a minimal, normal right to exist, slightly above average. But no more than that. That way the child will make efforts to achieve more. He will also learn to save himself and his family in order to protect himself from all problems. Without this, one will be all over the place and will not know what to do and where to hurry.

It corrupts people. By the way, the Torah says that a father should not tell his son about his wealth and that it will go to his son.

Question: What about the fact that rich people leave their millions to charities?

Answer:  Where else could it be left? People will donate to research and for the ecology, and little by little it will all be gone. There will be all kinds of organizations that will advise about how to divide one’s money, dissolve it in parts, and that is all.

Question: Is giving everything to charities a selfish act? Some people have earned a lot of money.

Answer: Yes, they earned the money, but now, at the end of their lives, they understand that this money cannot be taken with them, that nothing can be done, and no one is eternal. They hope that in this way they will nevertheless leave their name and themselves with humanity. This is some kind of redemption.

Remark: There is a word: “to perpetuate.”

My Comment: Perpetuate, yes. But I do not envy them. If they still hope that this will proved them with some service after they have already parted with this life, then, of course….

Question: It does not serve them? What would serve then?

Answer: I do not want to talk about this. Let them leave their money to charities.🙂

A man has nothing left! Absolutely nothing but good deeds. Good deeds are only in being able to push this world to unite. That is all, just this!

Only this can somehow really be recorded in a person’s soul. When man engages in uniting the world, he engages with his soul, with his inner property. Therefore it remains in him, and death has no power over it.

Question: What kind of action is for the unification of the world?

Answer: It is a mutual desire of people to help each other, even at the earthly level. The most important thing is uniting to reveal the higher mind, the highest property, the highest power, the Creator, the property of love and bestowal.

If they will direct people to this, then it will in fact remain with them and it will be their eternal great contribution to the development of their own souls.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 3/19/19

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How To Turn Shortcomings Into Merits?

laitman_245.09Question: Many people suffer from their shortcomings. How should we work with them?

Answer: It is very simple: you should love the other person so that through the external flaws (physical, physiological) you would see his or her inner value. Then all these external flaws, on the contrary, will emphasize their inner worth.

Question: How can one see one’s shortcomings positively?

Answer: I do see everything in myself as positive. We are arranged this way. Even if sometimes, at some very bad moments of life, I curse and criticize myself, I need to think about who I am criticizing.

Nature, or you can call it “the Creator,” which is one and the same, created you this way. Why then are you cursing it? How do you know? Perhaps you need all these flaws precisely in order to reach the level of the Creator by rising above them? After all, this is our destiny.

Question: How can we use the flaws correctly in order to rise to the next level of development?

Answer: Love. Love them, that is, love them for the fact that precisely by rising above them, by turning them into merits, we reach the highest level of development. It would be impossible to rise without this.

Question: What is the background against which a person will see that everything he has a complex about can be used effectively?

Answer: He should study the wisdom of Kabbalah. He must receive correct examples and strength from this wisdom with which he can try to change himself, to demand, plead, and eventually change.

Question: Which of your qualities or properties that seemed to you not so good did you use for development, for the ascent to the next level?

Answer: I am very jealous. I am very envious, and I would like to be even more greedy. The only thing that I have a great passion for is discovering the meaning of life. This great passion is based on great egoism: “Why do I just exist? I cannot allow this, I do not want this. I must understand why I exist and how can I correctly realize every moment of my life.” This is because of great greed and a big ego!

Although this quality of mine is a very bad one, in general, it is good. Thanks to it, I develop. To this day I am very greedy—greedy to know, to understand, and attain. If I see it in someone, why can’t I do it? Not for some materialistic purposes, but for a spiritual, scientific, etc. purpose.

I am very envious. I watch someone playing a violin or a piano, conducting an orchestra, or singing, and I have none of this.

Question: So, how do you express it?

Answer: I want everything!

Question: What do you do?

Answer: Nothing. I cannot burst out; I work in my field. I decided that this is the only and the greatest treasure and that I must achieve it.

If I had copper, zinc, tin, iron, and diamond mines, which ones would I develop? The diamonds. You cannot help it; they are the most precious.

It is the same here. I have chosen for myself that the most important thing in life is to reach the root of my development, the next level of existence, and this is my only aim.

Question: Does it mean that to have a goal is the most important thing in life?

Answer: Yes. The most important thing is to “Live with the lightning.” “Shine, shine my star!”
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/27/19

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Prison Is Not What Reforms A Rapist

laitman_283.02Question: Your Instagram readers are asking: “How can we accept evil?” You answered: “There is no evil. Evil simply points out to a person that he hasn’t reached perfection in goodness.

That is, concealed good is felt as evil. It is felt acutely so one will pay attention to what other possibilities exist for him to correct this property and turn it into good.”

One of your readers is asking: “What about rape? Abnormal behavior in our connections?”

Answer: This is egoism, it is excess. Of course, this is evil. But egoism must be corrected, and then there will be no evil. That is, this is an incorrect attitude toward another. The intention toward another is just intention. If it acquires either a positive or a negative form, then we have to discern and correct the “minus” into a “plus.” But the intention itself cannot be changed. In other words, we cannot castrate a rapist; we need to reform him.

Question: But how?

Answer: How to do it is another thing. Actions will not change the world. We have to delve into the root of the problem, into why some people treat other people in such ways, and correct that direction,or in other words, his intention. This is what the science of Kabbalah deals with.

Question: Suppose someone commits violence against others. What does it mean to correct his intention, that the same actions of the same person would be beneficial to others?

Answer: Did he intend to hurt others? No, he wanted to fulfill himself. So let him fulfill himself through different actions: acts of kindness toward others. He needs to be corrected, reformed, and educated differently.

He will then receive the same pleasure, even a much greater one than he would have felt while perpetrating violence. Kabbalah can give him pleasure that is 620 times greater. Instead of violence, it will be acts of kindness toward another person, as that person will be enjoying it together with him.

Question: What accounts for such transformation in a person?

Answer: The upper force, the upper light. This is not a simple matter. Nor can the rapist do much about it. A person must be changed, re-educated.

Question: But what can be done?

Answer: At the very least, do not imprison him. According to the Torah, there is no concept of prison. There is no concept of “isolating one from the society.” In order to isolate him—there were six cities of refuge. That is where one would get re-educated.

Question: What happens to a person when his intention changes, when his attitude toward others changes? At what level does this change take place: chemical, psychological?

Answer: On the spiritual level. On the highest, most inner level. He has to change his attitude, his understanding of where he is: in a society, in the world, his attitude toward life and death, toward the whole universe, everything has to change inside him. This correction takes place under the influence of the upper light.

Question: Suppose a rapist wants to change his attitude…

Answer: Even if he doesn’t want to change, we will gradually influence him in such a way that he will want to change himself, and will be changed.

Question: What does it mean to influence him in such a way that he will change?

Answer: Through examples, education. It is an educational system that has to influence him over a long period of time. People that were sentenced to the refuge cities could not leave. If a person killed or harmed anyone, he could find a refuge there, turn himself in and admit his crime, and then the societies in the refuge cities would work on him.

He was influenced in such a way that the upper light could affect him. One has to put himself under the influence of the upper light. A person cannot do it himself, he is completely corrupt. Therefore, he is aided in such a way that the upper light begins to affect him.

How is this achieved? By inclusion into society. The collective works on attracting the upper light, and a person, by being in the society, whether he likes it or not, receives a portion of the upper light through it, and the upper light reforms him.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/28/19

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New Life #116 – A Course In Integral Education

New Life #116 – A Course in Integral Education
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

Can we build a new environment for ourselves that will cleanse us of all the influences that we have absorbed and that will bring a new life? So far our egoistic desire has led us to exploit and trample upon others in order to succeed. We invent into more types of business but become doubly empty since a person cannot be fulfilled. Science and technology have led to the development of destructive weapons in the service of human egoism. People have felt emptiness in the air and a loss of direction since the 1960s. We want to swallow the whole world and cannot tolerate anyone near us. Today, the development that began with the Big Bang has reached a dead end. The good news is that nature gave humanity free choice regarding how we use our human desires. We can change our attitudes toward others and develop a positive connection between us. This is not merely a philosophical or moral idea, but without the development of this new, connected environment, we will all collapse.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #116 – A Course In Integral Education,” 12/23/12

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What Is Kabbalah’s Attitude To The Adoption Of Children?

627.2Question: What is Kabbalah’s attitude to the adoption of children?

Answer: If it is done for the benefit of the child, then it is positive. A person should not think that he would like to have children and so he adopts them; rather, he should consider what he wants to give to a child. Then he can adopt a child.

Usually, we love adopted children more than our biological children because we invest more effort into them, constantly proving our correct attitude toward them to ourselves.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/29/18

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The Culture Of The 21st Century: Dogs Replacing Children

laitman_571.08In the News (CNBC.com): Why companies are offering ‘furternity’ leave to new pet owners”

“…one marketing firm in Minnesota has started offering ‘furternity’ leave for all new pet moms and dads.

“The policy is part of a growing trend in pet-friendly workplace policies and a way to offer workers flexibility they might not have otherwise. …

“A number of companies already offer pet-friendly offices. At Amazon’s Seattle headquarters, the company says more than 6,000 dogs share the workspace with employees. Dogs enjoy a floor designed for pet play in one of the company’s buildings and the company even opened a special dog park that’s also open to the community. …

“At Minneapolis marketing firm Nina Hale, furternity leave allows new pet owners to work remotely for a week after adopting a pet. The policy gives pet parents the opportunity to bond with their furry friends as they acclimate to new surroundings. …

“Pet friendly benefits like pet leave, pet bereavement and pet health insurance are growing in popularity, Steven Feldman, an executive director at Human Animal Bond Research Institute (HABRI), tells the Society for Human Resources Management. It’s a “signal you’re looking at the employee’s entire family,” he adds. It’s also a way to entice young workers, the largest pet-owning generation.”

Comment: They have pet strollers, pet coloring, dog therapy, dog aromatherapy, dog church, and dog pools. It looks like we are moving to a culture where dogs replace children.

My Comment Yes. However, on the other hand, humanity has not stopped feeling the need to take care of somebody. Do you remember the Tamagotchi toy? It had to be constantly fed and taken care of.

We need to understand that human nature demands attachment. One is still bound, unwittingly, to his or her apartment, to smells, to everything! I see this as a huge internal, but not yet conscious, longing for communication between people, which, unfortunately, does not receive its normal expression, its release.

We therefore replace people with animals. Actually, it’s not that far off.  People feel that their dog is their friend, and the dog feels a friend and a master in their owners, and we are mutually devoted to each other.

Practically, we know people who have pets that eat from the same plate with them. They feel no difference between them because such contact occurs at the animal level. It does not need any major expressions, achievements, tensions and participation. I lower myself to the level of an animal; I reach out to him and he responds back to me, and we are both content.

Let us hope that this period will pass, and it certainly will pass because humanity is evolving and we will have to achieve contact with each other. Then all that contact with the animals will disappear. Like any other part of evolution and movement toward the lower levels, it will eventually die out. We will not have much interest in cats, dogs, parrots, hamsters, etc.

Question: Will we get such a yearning for each other? Will we uncover and reveal it?

Answer: We will understand that we still lack communication. Phones, virtual communications, dogs, lonely apartments, empty benches in public parks, and so on—it will all go away because we are changing, whether we like it or not. Let time do its work.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 8/27/18

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Why Respect A Person?

laitman_294.3Question: What basic feelings and virtues of each person deserve respect and why are so many people deprived of it?

Answer: We need to respect only the aspirations and efforts of a person that are aimed at humanity’s benefit. Not for the good of oneself, one’s nation, or one’s family, but only for the benefit of humanity. If we respect this, we will see the extent to which a person overcomes his egoistic nature for the sake of belonging to, and sacrificing for, the entire world.

I think all people should overcome themselves, their egoistic desire. If each of us sacrifices ourselves in this way, then in response we should receive gratitude and respect from society. Everyone—the children at home, the wife, the relatives, the parents, the environment, the friends, and the whole world—should be grateful to a person and appreciate him only to the extent of his contribution to society.

A person is created in such a way that he needs the recognition of society. By this, in essence, he expresses himself, his “I.” If we make society protect a person and respond to his contribution to humanity, this will obligate everyone to be an active part of humanity. We will see from everyone only good things in relation to the entirety of human society and we will see what contribution each one makes.

Therefore, we need to establish such laws in our society so that everyone can be assessed only by their contribution to humanity and so that it is easily visible.

If we measure a person only according to these criteria, if everyone knows that this is how he is assessed, this is how he is treated, then he will have no way out. He will have to become a healthy cell in the general body, that is, a person that is as useful as possible for humanity.
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The Round Table of Independent Opinions, Berlin 9/9/06

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New Life 1052 – Failures In Life, Part 1

New Life 1052 – Failures In Life, Part 1
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Summary

When a person has a true, personal goal for which he is living, he is happy at every moment, even through related disturbances because his goal acts like a kind of North Star and directs and protects him along the way. On the way toward the goal, failures or crises are necessary in order to clarify the process of advancement and strengthen the person for eventual success. When a sensation of failure comes, a strong feeling of bitterness is awakened in a person and he therefore requires a supportive environment. Women cope with failure like a flexible branch whereas men experience failure like rigid iron. Women, therefore, must give their men a sense of security and men must protect their wives and be faithful to them.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1052 – Failures In Life, Part 1,” 8/23/18

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New Life #1051 – Inner Consciousness, Part 2

New Life #1051 – Inner Consciousness, Part 2
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Summary

The expansion of human consciousness happens through desire, a deficiency or hunger for an awareness of the entire reality. We become more conscious when we ask existential questions like, “Why am I alive?” and engage with a Kabbalistic group in order to discover the answers together. To the degree that I connect to others with attitudes of love and bestowal, I acquire the higher power that is between us. Development of consciousness means attaining a connection with the upper force; I recognize and activate it and this is how I advance and discover the truth. The higher power is bestowal and love and it is what manages our lives. To develop consciousness, we need to create a connection with this higher power.
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From KabTV’s “New Life #1051 – Inner Consciousness, Part 2,” 8/21/18

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