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Woman Directs, Man Implements

627.2Question: A woman can internally pass her desire to a man. Many women wish their men were closer to the Creator. What does it mean to pass this desire?

Answer: If a woman wants something from a man, she will always get it. The world is arranged this way.

A woman’s desire is not announced aloud. You know yourself how to influence a man quietly, without opening your mouth but in such a way that he feels as if he is beaten on the head. This is the correct action on behalf of a woman. It is intentionally arranged this way in nature. We, men, must accept this and even be happy that women have the opportunity to guide us on the right track.

If a woman wants her husband to move toward understanding the meaning of life, then, of course, this is a special woman and a great wife. Therefore, we must appreciate such women, set them as an example for others. And of course, we should help in some way so that husbands would appreciate and obey them. I wish to the ones who are not married to find such husbands.

Question: Can there be overkill from the women’s side?

Answer: No. Women have a very clear maternal attitude. She knows how to behave in relation to her husband. If she aspires to the purpose of creation, she really will be able to direct him. So it turns out that a man implements and a woman directs.

I can say from my forty years of experience that if a woman in the family recognizes the greatness of the goal and what the group does, then the husband will definitely study and will not go anywhere. Yet, if the wife is against it, in the end, he stops studying and leaves.

Here, everything depends on the wife. The female’s desire in the world is much stronger and more decisive than the male’s.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 4/14/19

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New Life #1128 – Women And The Essence Of Life

New Life #1128 – Women and the Essence of Life
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

The need for internal convergence is particularly evident in women. The nature of women is to relax, absorb, test, and connect to the eternal flow of nature. As women, we must find out what nature wants from us and understand the goal toward which we are advancing. As the world attempts to confuse and seduce us, we must continually ask ourselves “how am I realizing life on a higher level and discovering the essence of life?”
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From KabTV’s “New Life #1128 – Women and the Essence of Life,” 6/25/19

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Women’s Spiritual Work

laitman_294.4Question: How well should women know the Preface to The Wisdom of Kabbalah (Pticha)? Should it be as much as men do, or is there any flexibility for women?

Answer: Technically, women do not have to study Pticha as deeply as men do, but it is advisable to know its basics. The fact that we have been studying the first paragraphs for quite a while is good. One must learn it well and scrutinize it in himself, go through it. Women also need this.

Kabbalah does not require women to connect on the same level as men, but they should have a general understanding of self-annulment.

Women’s interconnection is a big problem. But they do have to rise above themselves, because when one rises above oneself, without wishing for anything, in full self-annulment, it is similar to being in the light of Hassadim. This is a basic initial state of the altruistic action in Kabbalah, and women must execute it. There is no spiritual world without it, no connection with the Creator or anything else.

One is obligated to rise above oneself despite the problems that the Creator brings up in each of us: laziness, lack of importance, displeasure about something—no matter what it is. But one must rise above it.

Connection with others is more suitable for men than for women. It is enough for women to rise above themselves, and by doing so, they already begin the spiritual work.

Therefore, they do not require the ten as much as men do. Women must gather in it only to annul themselves. But they are not required to be connected with others in one heart like men are. These are different levels of egoistic nature. If they simply annul themselves, they will reach the level similar to the men’s connection.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/4/19

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laitman_543.02Question: In spiritual work we rise above the oppositeness of our opinions. As a result, I become a specialist in clarifications and the opinion of the ten becomes as important to me as my own. I need to constantly absorb the desires of the friends and of the world, but are you saying that as a woman I do not need to do this?

Answer: In our time, there has not yet been a state that women in such numbers rush to the disclosure of the spiritual world. I welcome it and I am very happy about it.

This suggests that we really have risen to a new state when the world should be corrected. Yet, organizing women in tens still seems to me as an unrealistic action today.

It will still not work like with men. It will be much more fictitious, more artificial. There are such conditions between women that they are unable to overcome. They have a much more serious problem interacting with each other than men do.

A man does not have such natural antagonistic relations as women. Therefore, I do not know how to direct the relationship between women. We see from the Torah that men unite in groups, in tens, and women gather around them, not uniting with each other.

It was like this when receiving the Torah at Mount Sinai where the women stood behind the men, surrounding them. Allegorically, it is always said that women provide auxiliary work for men. They apply pressure on them, organize them, force them to progress; in this sense, they are not just great help, but strength.

We see how a woman is very quiet, but turns our world around. We are not saying that men shout everywhere—that is just a game, soon it will pass. Everything else in the world is determined by a woman.

So we need to find a form for female dissemination, female participation, female communication in Kabbalah, which we would understand and which would correspond to spiritual development. I still cannot express it clearly. I am saying it as it is.

I cannot imagine a women’s ten. Women are very artificially interconnected, not like men. And I cannot say the same thing to men and women because each of them feels completely isolated from the others. It is not so with men. They hug, sit with each other, and a sense of community prevails in them. This is nature.

We will develop further and become wiser.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/11/19

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Bnei Baruch Women’s Conference

Dr. Michael LaitmanFrom My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 1/14/19

This weekend, I spoke at our international virtual conference on empowering women in 2019. I said what I always say at every opportunity when the subject comes up: After hundreds of years, women can finally come out from behind the scenes and from behind the modesty that surrounded them, to take over responsibility, management, promotion, and influence in all areas of life.

This coming year is unique in giving women around the world the opportunity to chart a new direction for humanity. All that is required of them, and all of us, is a tiny thing: to rise above the conflicts. Through compromise and connection, you can make the world a warm and loving home.

Dear women, do not miss this opportunity.

A New Day—A New Life

Laitman_725Question: Can you give an external example of spiritual balance and where it manifests itself?

Answer: No, because our world is not an example of the balance of spiritual forces.

There is nothing spiritual in our world. It is needed only in order to bring a person to internal unity. Therefore, isolated negative forces are working here. There are no positive forces, although they do work sometimes, it is only in an inverse state in order to bring us to the correct recognition that “There is none else besides Him.”

Question: Perhaps it is possible to see this in an example of a family where at the moment harmony and love reign, but everyone remembers quarrels and discords that happened yesterday or the day before yesterday?

Answer: Nothing is forgotten. However, if both spouses consciously balance themselves and they both have a clear aspiration toward the correct connection because they understand that there is evil on both sides and relative to it there is some kind of good and they want to balance them, then they neutralize the evil and keep it under control. This is more or less how the spiritual system exists.

Comment: You often give the example of your relationship with your wife. If you had an argument in the evening, then in the morning you do not remember it and do not talk about it.

Answer: Nothing like that. The next morning, I remember everything and so does she. Yet we have decided that we will start every morning with a clean slate, and therefore we act as if nothing had happened.

There is a covenant between us and we try not to break it. This is good, serious spiritual work. We agreed that the next day, we will not recall the past. Once the day is over, it is crossed out.

Question: Does a person understand that this is good for him, that he can circumvent all troubles this way?

Answer: Otherwise, you will not be able to maintain a marriage for so many years. We have been married for 50 years!

Question: Where one can get the strength from? From the Creator?

Answer: No. Here, you just need the desire to keep the marriage. You have to develop a certain system of behavior.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/17/18

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 1/28/18

281.01Question: If a woman has her own picture of the world, is the meaning of life also slightly different for her?

Answer: A woman wants to have a family, to organize herself, her children; that is how she feels realized.

Question: In the wisdom of Kabbalah is there a difference between the meaning of life and the purpose of life?

Answer: The meaning of life is in the achievement of adhesion with the Creator and the purpose of life is to bring all of humanity to this.

Question: Why are there contradictions on the level of our world that are unresolved? Are these obstacles that the Creator has set up on every level in the world?

Answer: Certainly. It is impossible to solve problems at their own level, in our world. To solve problems, it is necessary to ascend to the next level where they all come from. Therefore, our world always only discovers its own failure.

Question: Why has the Creator given people the possibility to feel each other and help each other if there is no higher meaning in it?

Answer: There is a higher meaning in it! Through these problems, lack of understanding, collision, and more and more dependence on each other in our global world, we are gradually reaching the need to connect together into a single whole. Then, within this single whole we will discover the singular upper force that created us as a single system, as a single person.

Question: Was there more suffering a few thousand years ago or were people less sensitive?

Answer: It could be that masses of people suffered more, but they felt it less.

Question: Was a primitive person happier throughout history?

Answer: Yes, everything that he had was from nature and it was good for him.

Question: Does the process of attaining the meaning of life depend upon knowing the laws according to which the world was created by the Creator?

Answer: Certainly. In principle, we learn all of these laws through the unity between us. So we don’t need to desire unique knowledge. All that is necessary is seen and learned through experience.

Question: Throughout the life of a person there is suffering. Does this mean that the meaning of life can be summed up as adhesion with the Creator, is this liberation from suffering?

Answer: Even liberation from suffering is included in the meaning of life, even though this is not its meaning. That is because attainment of the Creator is accompanied by tremendous happiness and joy, a feeling of eternity and wholeness. But these are all secondary feelings.
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From a Kabbalah lesson in Russian 1/28/18

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“Man” And “Woman” In Kabbalistic Terms

laitman_543.02Question: Can the Creator be revealed between a man and a woman—two opposite qualities?

Answer: There are no men and women in Kabbalah. In Kabbalah, each of us has both a male and a female root.

Question: What are “man” and “woman” from the Kabbalah point of view?

Answer: A man symbolizes the quality of bestowal without any reference to gender, and a woman symbolizes the quality of reception without any reference to gender.

Any two objects, the created being and the Creator, or different parts within the created being, can always be compared as male and female components. That is, each object can be a male part with respect to one thing and a female part with respect to another one.

Everything is determined only by the action because any object is a desire to enjoy. To the extent that the desire manifests itself in reception or bestowal, it is called a male or a female part. From the spiritual point of view, at one time I can be a woman and at another time I can be a man.

Question: However, in this world someone is born as a man and someone as a woman. Why does this happen?

Answer: It is because based on the upper roots, the same distribution occurs on the animate level. But these gender differences mean almost nothing. We are entering the era of complete spiritual equality. Women will express their spiritual aspirations exactly in the same way as men do.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/10/17

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Laitman_120Question: Men go through the reincarnation of souls. But what about women? Does a woman have an eternal soul or does it just extinguish and that’s it?

Answer: There is no difference between men and women. Moreover, if a woman is able to overcome her egoism and begin to connect with other women in mutual support, they can surpass men in their spiritual attainment.

I would say that the Creator loves women more than men.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 1/14/18

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Our main problem is our division. The tensions and extreme differences of opinion, the covert and overt #hatred, #intolerance toward other views, exploitation of others, are destroying our #society

International Women’s Day 2018: Gender Equality from the Perspective of the Wisdom of Kabbalah linkedin#PressforProgress? #IWD2018 #gender

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