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A House Needs A Wise Woman

laitman_531.03We see that the role of women is growing in the modern world: women are becoming stronger and gaining more and more influence. They are more in control of their desires and more goal-oriented.

The weakness of women is in the fact that they need male support to realize their goals. But as soon as women receive such support, they are able to complete an execution that men are incapable of.

I hope that in the future women will have a greater access to world leadership in the correct and natural cooperation with men. The world will then cease to be as primitive and corrupted as it was when led by men while women were staying at home taking care of children and households. We see that what is happening now is the opposite: the further the world moves toward the end of correction, the more power women gain.

Every man is afraid of his wife. It is because a woman takes care of the house, she rules it. It is a characteristic feature of our time. Rabash joked, saying about someone: “This is a righteous man; he is not afraid of anyone except the Creator and his wife.” And there is truth in it indeed.

Now in many cities women have been elected mayor. Why not? If a woman can control a house, then she can well control a city. A man is more distracted and not very suitable for this role. A man is stronger, but a woman is more reasonable and able to support different systems at the same time.

Just as she copes at home with all her responsibilities at the same time: laundry, meals, children, and a thousand different things on top of it; and everything is in order. Try to remove a woman from the house so that a man runs the whole house alone, and within a week the apartment will turn into a garbage dump.

So it is written: “A woman is a house.” But is not a country and the world our home? A woman lacks only male support, and everything will be settled. I am sure that if women were at the head of all governments, they would establish peace in the world. No matter how difficult it would be for women to agree with each other, they would come to an agreement, because a woman is ready to agree and incline herself for the sake of achieving peace.

Men and women should feel like equal partners, each one reasonably perceiving their role and knowing that if, by virtue of the qualities given to us by nature, we replenish each other to one complete perfection, then this will be a correction.

It is written in the book “Sefat Emet,” in the portion Pinchas “About Adam it is written that two creations were created, that is, it is in man’s power to attract the glow from the future world. Male power draws the soul from the upper world, and female power completes the action of correction in this world.” A woman is a vessel receiving the illumination, and the strength of a man is in order to attract this glow from above for the sake of bestowal, that is, by means of intention.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/8/20, Lesson on the Topic “International Women’s Day”

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Development Of Egoism And The Method Of Connection, Part 8

arava-convention_931.01The Main Commandment and Its Derivatives

Comment: Baal HaSulam writes, that at first the Torah was given on a condition of mutual guarantee (Arvut), although later, when the golden calf was made, this condition was no longer observed because wars were fought about this issue, and the sons of Levi killed 3,00 people.

All this, of course, did not add love and unity. Later, when they came to the land of Israel, there was no peace either. Therefore, there was no one who could observe this main commandment. Literally several decades passed after the giving of the Torah, and there was no one left to observe this condition.

My Response: I think it took longer. In any case, the entire period was accompanied by huge conflicts among the people. There were many different currents, opposing groups, that were ready to destroy each other.

Comment: Further, Baal HaSulam writes, that in order for the people of Israel not to forget the Torah they began to observe the other commandments, although the main commandment was abandoned because they had no other advice.

The main commandment of the Torah “love your neighbor as yourself” was abandoned because egoism grew and people began to observe other commandments. What does it mean “other commandments”?

My Response: “Other commandments” are the reflection in our world of the main spiritual commandment and spiritual connections between people. There are 613 desires in a person, the so-called TARYAG, and all of them must be directed to the connection with others and with the Creator.

However, in our world, they are used to fulfill our egoism. Changing them to “love your neighbor,” to the fulfillment of others, of society, is called observing the commandments.

Question: So, are 613 commandments the internal actions as a result of which a person corrects his egoism in order to connect with other people in sensation, that is, through the souls?

Answer: Yes. In any case, the general rule of “love your neighbor” is broken down into many inclinations, desires, and actions. And all of them together make this rule.
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From KabTV’s “System analysis of the development of the people of Israel,” 7/1/19

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What Is The Difference In Connection Between Men And Between Women?

Laitman_632.3Question: What does connection mean? What is the difference in connection between men and between women? Indeed, over the past few decades, many women have begun engaging in Kabbalah, which was not the case in previous generations.

Answer: Indeed, women began to strive for Kabbalah, and this is correct, this is the call of the time. We welcome this. However, there is a difference between female aspiration and male aspiration.

On one hand, we know in past centuries there were great Kabbalists at very serious levels of spiritual understanding of the Creator. It is said: “And everyone will come to Me from small to great, and My House will be called the House for all the peoples of the world.” That is, to reach the Creator and connect with Him is not only a male duty, but also a female one.

But for women there is a slightly different platform for this since the female egoistic desire is more focused on procreation, on the family, and therefore it is more fixated, clamped, and constrained inside. As a result, it is much more difficult for women to unite in tens. Therefore, we do not insist on this.

In addition, frankly, we still do not know how to work with women’s connection because we are just starting to enter this system. With men, it is more or less clear. Over the several years during which we have been conducting an “operation” to unite men’s tens, we have gained some experience and we already have quite serious achievements.

But with women, we do not yet know what to do. The main problem is that a woman learns from men because we only teach men internally and women perceive it all through the virtual channel of our connections. So what they do, how they unite, is a question.

For men, direct connection between friends is necessary when they work together in the ten, and study and disseminate together, etc.

For women, I believe that only education and dissemination is more acceptable. A group association so far does not play any role for them, and, conversely, it can interfere with them.

Question: Are workshops suitable for women as a means of connection?

Answer: Anything but a ten. We see that there are such negative forces that a woman in our world cannot yet overcome. It is quite possible that over time she will succeed because our world is moving toward greater disintegration, destruction, and the emergence of negative properties. And this will have to be somehow restored.

Question: Is it more difficult for a woman to unite because her egoism is greater?

Answer: She has a different form of egoism. It is aimed at oneself, family, children, and so on. Therefore, it is very difficult for her to feel another woman as close to herself. Between women are such partitions that they cannot destroy. And for men, this is practically nonexistent.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/11/19

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Love The Spiritual Point In The Other’s Heart

laitman_622.02Question: Should I imagine the point in the heart of a woman whom I cannot stand in my ten? I cannot find another way to justify the fact that she is the exact opposite of me. The fact that I depict a point in her heart is the only thing I can think of to get out of a state of rejection.

Answer: You said it remarkably: “I hate everything in her, except for one point in the heart. And I love the spiritual point in her heart.”

So imagine that you are against this point, and everything else does not matter. This is the most important thing we need to do.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/29/19

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Male And Female, Part 12

laitman_294.4Men and Women: Responsibilities and Possibilities

Question: Are there any differences between men and women in regard to Kabbalistic materials, sources? What can and should women read and what should men read?

Answer: Both can and should read absolutely everything. However, for men, this is a daily duty, and for women, it depends on their free time.

As for the spiritual path and attainment of the Creator, for men it again is a duty, and for women, it is at will according to their possibilities.

Question: Are there any limitations with regard to sources?

Answer: No.

Question: Does it mean all are allowed to read The Book of Zohar and Talmud Eser Sefirot (The Study of the Ten Sefirot)?

Answer: Of course. Absolutely everything.

Question: Is the work in the ten required for both women and men?

Answer: Yes. However, a woman is free from these commandments, which are performed according to time; that is, she does not have to run to the lesson at three o’clock in the morning. If she needs and if her workload at work and at home allows, she can listen to it at any time. However, for men it is a duty.

Question: What about the dissemination of the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: It is the duty of both men and women to disseminate, and women should do it no less than men because it is connected with her function of giving birth; through her, the correction comes to the world. Therefore, she is tied to dissemination even more than a man.

Question: Must both men and women do the inner analysis, inner work, all kinds of scrutinies?

Answer: All of this is necessary for both. However, a woman does it whenever possible, at a time when she is free, and a man does it as a duty, at certain times, in certain circumstances. There is a clear time frame for men, but not for women. There also are clear instructions about the quantity and quality of work for men, but not for women.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

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laitman_222Spouses Are the Closest Companions

Question: Are descents and ascents revelations of the Creator?

Answer: Certainly. I cannot desire to reveal the Creator from good states, only if I feel bad. Any person who is engaged in spiritual exaltation will not rush forward unless he or she is, so to speak, shaken and disturbed. A person acts only under the influence of two forces.

Therefore, it is very important in the family that there are two spouses. Spouses are the closest companions who can help and complement each other, hint to each other, take responsibilities from one another. Therefore, it is said that they are as one body.

Question: Didn’t you say before that a husband can reveal his most secret attainment to his wife?

Answer: There is no problem in sharing everything with your wife, depending on your connections, but not to the friends in the group.

Question: What would you recommend if one of the spouses is engaged in Kabbalah and the other is not?

Answer: If your family does not follow the same path, do not engage them in your problems. Go through all your states calmly so that they do not feel them. Give them the opportunity to live comfortably. You will have your own spiritual life; with them you will communicate formally.

Question: So we should not pressure a spouse who does not want to engage in Kabbalah?

Answer: Not at all. There is no coercion in spirituality.
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From Kab TV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

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Women—Appeal To The Creator

laitman_543.02Question: We must attribute all of our states to the Creator. But what should we do with the anger and impatience that arises in us? Do you understand that it comes from love and came for your correction?

But inside discontent rages, as if my mother scolded me, and I would respond: “Why are you scolding me? I am still unable to do what you demand.”

Answer: Does it mean that you treat your negative emotions negatively and want them to be positive so that instead of complaints and hatred toward the Creator there will be affection, gratitude and even love?

So ask for it. He sends you all this specifically so that you will ask Him for love so that He will love you and you will love Him.

In addition, ask to understand that you are receiving only positive influences from Him, but since they go through your egoism, they are felt as inverted, negative within you.

Ask for everything! Do not hide anything, on the contrary, disclose all the time. If you say that women have such serious feelings and many complaints, then act this way. The Kabbalistic books speak about it all the time. Look how lucky you are with your feminine nature, and you can more easily, more often, and more persistently turn to the Creator than men.

Men do not have this in their nature. They hide many things, erase them, think that this is wrong, weak, and that they must act in a different way. Women do not. It is very good that they express their emotions. In principle, this is the feminine nature, the quality of Malchut. Go for it!
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/13/19

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The Difference Between Male And Female Nature

Laitman_120Question: My wife also studies Kabbalah, and I can say with confidence that we look at spirituality in completely different ways, as if we were from different planets. What is the method of unification in female and male tens and what should the effort of one toward the other be?

Answer: I think that it is necessary to proceed as it is.

I would like only one thing: that women do not imitate everything that men do. Even when it comes to a women’s ten, you should not try to do the same as the men, but as much as you can. Simply engage in mutual support.

Still, Malchut and Keter are two opposite properties of creation, therefore, the same method cannot be successful for both. After all, we see in our world how women are different in everything.

The fact that nowadays they are trying to artificially make men and women absolutely equivalent—I do not say “equal” but “equivalent”—this, of course, is completely wrong. We do not take into account our internal structure, psychology, way of thinking, in general, everything that is in a man and in a woman.

We believe that by destroying the differences, we will become equal and will look at it as great progress. This is not progress.

When we try to destroy nature in its natural manifestations, it always ends in big losses. We already see this in the young generation. Some more time will pass, everything will be revealed, and humanity, as usual, will stumble upon its mistakes and begin to somehow turn itself back.

In Kabbalah, it is absolutely clear that the difference between the male and female nature should naturally manifest itself in our advancement.

The Torah does not describe the history of people, but our path, the embodiment of the upper light in the ego at a certain stage of its development.

We go through the same stages in our spiritual movement. For example, the path of Egyptian captivity is existence in our egoism, exiting it, etc. There is a difference between male and female movements everywhere, although they go in parallel. We do not see the replacement of one by the other or equality anywhere.

We are not equal. There is nothing we can do about it. It is unnecessary. On the contrary, we must further explore the difference between us so that everyone can maximally realize their mission in the nature that is given to them.

Most importantly, do not copy what men have and do not do the same because even this is reached with difficulty, artificially. It is necessary to approach everything much more wisely.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/13/19

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Woman Directs, Man Implements

627.2Question: A woman can internally pass her desire to a man. Many women wish their men were closer to the Creator. What does it mean to pass this desire?

Answer: If a woman wants something from a man, she will always get it. The world is arranged this way.

A woman’s desire is not announced aloud. You know yourself how to influence a man quietly, without opening your mouth but in such a way that he feels as if he is beaten on the head. This is the correct action on behalf of a woman. It is intentionally arranged this way in nature. We, men, must accept this and even be happy that women have the opportunity to guide us on the right track.

If a woman wants her husband to move toward understanding the meaning of life, then, of course, this is a special woman and a great wife. Therefore, we must appreciate such women, set them as an example for others. And of course, we should help in some way so that husbands would appreciate and obey them. I wish to the ones who are not married to find such husbands.

Question: Can there be overkill from the women’s side?

Answer: No. Women have a very clear maternal attitude. She knows how to behave in relation to her husband. If she aspires to the purpose of creation, she really will be able to direct him. So it turns out that a man implements and a woman directs.

I can say from my forty years of experience that if a woman in the family recognizes the greatness of the goal and what the group does, then the husband will definitely study and will not go anywhere. Yet, if the wife is against it, in the end, he stops studying and leaves.

Here, everything depends on the wife. The female’s desire in the world is much stronger and more decisive than the male’s.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 4/14/19

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New Life 1128 – Women And The Essence Of Life

New Life 1128 – Women And The Essence Of Life
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

The need for internal convergence is particularly evident in women. The nature of women is to relax, absorb, test, and connect to the eternal flow of nature. As women, we must find out what nature wants from us and understand the goal toward which we are advancing. As the world attempts to confuse and seduce us, we must continually ask ourselves “how am I realizing life on a higher level and discovering the essence of life?”
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1128 – Women And The Essence Of Life,” 6/25/19

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