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We Give Birth To Ourselves In A New World

laitman_284.03We live in a world that is changing right before our eyes. Our whole life can be divided into two stages: before the coronavirus and after it.

Life flowed according to a certain routine, and the virus suddenly made a drastic change in it, bringing all of humanity to a new state, which is still perceived as a global crisis.

The crisis is growing and deepening and it is not clear where it will lead, but it is clear that it is leading us to a new world that we are not yet familiar with. This crisis is like a new birth. The very word “crisis” (Mashber) comes from the name of the stone on which women in ancient times gave birth to children. In other words, crisis is the place of new birth, and the current state, which we call a crisis, is the birth of a new world.

There have been many different crises in the history of mankind, but so far, none of them has changed the world so dramatically. There were only some changes in human society, in its form. But today’s crisis is the first real one, although it does not seem very serious yet because it is not a war, a meteorite falling, or mass destruction.

And yet, we can call it a crisis precisely because a new world is being born before our eyes. Soon we will see how human society, us, our families, and our attitude to the world have changed. The inner world of a person, his perception of reality will change, and we will see a new world.

We do not see it yet, just like a baby that is inside its mother and does not see the world. But even when it is born, it does not see anything at first either. Then it will develop hearing and vision, and it will begin to respond as it grows and becomes familiar with the world.

It is exactly how we adults need to be born and change our perception and vision to see a new world. It will happen soon.

Childbirth is a huge, incomparable pain, a feeling that the whole body is ready to explode. On one hand, this is a very serious, critical, life-threatening condition. But on the other hand, we see that there is no choice: nature obliges us to go through it.

However, the birth of a child is based on the natural desire of a woman to have children. In addition, there is the public opinion that motivates a woman to give birth to a child, and not only one. Nature gave the woman a lot of strength to endure labor pains; this is a difficult and dangerous state.

The entire humanity is in this coronavirus crisis, both men and women. Women always reproached men for not knowing labor pains. Well, now women can be satisfied: men will go through real, severe labor pains. They will feel that the crisis is suffocating them, not giving them the opportunity to resist it: you are all torn from within, but you can do nothing.

We will still be able to be born through prayer and efforts to unite. But it will be a very difficult and special birth because we are giving birth to ourselves in a new world. We cross the border to the spiritual world and are born in a new form.
From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 7/9/20

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Transformation From Embryo To Human

laitman_610.2Why does nature make the birth process accompanied with such terrible agony? The fact is that afterward, this pain turns into force. The pain experienced by a woman during childbirth strengthens her and gives her tremendous strength later in life, which allows her to care for the baby and endure life’s trials.

The suffering experienced during childbirth strengthens the woman’s body. Therefore, a woman who has given birth is stronger than a woman who has not given birth and is stronger and more patient than a man.

Birth pains are very beneficial for health, it gives women patience and resilience in life. Therefore, the suffering that humanity is going through now in connection with the coronavirus will give it strength for development in the future.

After all, we will have to pass from one world to another, like a baby who is born from a mother’s womb that turns from an embryo into a human. After birth, he begins to behave in a completely different way and to become acquainted with a new reality and a new world outside the mother’s womb. The body of a newborn begins to act independently: the child cries, smiles, learns to listen, see, and then speak.

The child also goes through the pains of birth, although not as strongly as the mother. He loses all the sensations he had inside of his mother. His mother pushes him out, but he himself makes an effort to get out as well. Of course, he does not understand what he is doing but acts instinctively at the call of nature.

Nature forces the baby to turn his head down and gives him the strength to get out of the uterus through the narrow birth canal in order to be born. The baby also does a great job in childbirth.

Today each of us is such an embryo, and the mother’s womb is our environment. We need to be born with the help of the environment and start living in a new environment, feeling the environment as a Partzuf (Hebrew-face) of our soul.

We are forced to give up the usual life in the old world where we felt warm, confident, protected. Now we leave this place and go out into a new world that we do not know. How can we get through this state, overcome this barrier?

It is not yet visible that the uterus is beginning to open. Everything is closed for now, even though the contractions have already begun. But these contractions, the pressure on humanity inside the womb, is not directed yet. The embryo has not yet turned its head down, and it will take time for it to be born.

Turning  head-down is a turnover of values, of everything that was important before. Head-up means that the most important thing for me is my egoism and my own selfish existence. But now I want to abandon this approach, cancel, forget about myself, and start behaving in a new way, which means that I turn upside down.

Everything that was important to me before is no longer important, but what is important now is something completely different from before: bestowal, unification, love for one’s neighbor. The old values of human society, food, sex, family, money, power, knowledge, all these lose their value in the new world where we are all going to be born together. One acts on completely different principles.

The main thing for us is to unite and reveal a new reality in the connection between us, a higher power, unite with it, and constantly strengthen this contact.
From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 7/9/20

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If A Woman Studies Kabbalah

laitman_570Question: What if a woman starts studying Kabbalah and develops spiritually, but her husband does not, should she stop studying?

Answer: No, you can’t stop it. If you are given the opportunity to develop yourself, your soul, in no case should you stop. Just do so without reproach to your husband.

Tell him that this is your hobby, which makes you feel very good, and it is better to have spiritual adventures than to look for some adventures on the side. He’ll agree to that.

Question: What if he insists on my stopping the studies?

Answer: Why? If the wife is interested in, say, esotericism, something spiritual, he can even brag about it.

Comment: A man is afraid that a woman will change, outgrow him in development, and leave.

My Response: He may be afraid, but we need to make sure that he prefers it over something else. A man always wants his wife to be nearby, to look at him and serve him. Therefore, we must show him that this is exactly what he achieves.

Comment: But as a woman, I can’t influence a man’s choice. After all, to develop with me and grow spiritually will be his own choice.

My Response: Sure. In the spiritual, it is impossible to force anything. Therefore, it is said that in the spiritual there is no coercion, everyone studies as much as one can, as much as one wants. Maybe he doesn’t want to study Kabbalah, but prefers yoga or something else. So be it.

You need to allow another person to do such things through love. There is nothing wrong with this, he still remains your partner, your spouse.
From KabTV’s “Together about Important Things” 7/14/20

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Afraid Of Returning To The Old Ways

627.2Question: I realized that the way we have been living up to now was the cause of my suffering. I’m afraid of returning to the old ways.

Is it right for me to start a lifestyle that is more suitable for a woman: get married, start a family, and stay home to take care of my family, children, and husband?

Answer: In general, this is certainly good. But no one forbids you to work or study. Naturally, the purpose of each person is to create a family and to grow, but in addition, to develop personally—in terms of profession and self-realization.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 5/10/20

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Spiritual War For Peace

laitman_546.04Only women, united, can change the situation in the world and restore order in it. But, unfortunately, women do not actively express themselves. Every country has laws that allow women to demand access to leadership in order to properly organize life in the country.

Usually women are fighting for their own rights, for equality, and this is like a family showdown in the kitchen. But I am talking about spiritual warfare. A woman must understand that this is the most important thing right now and she needs to oblige the whole world like a mother makes her children study, clean up after themselves, go to school, and wash. That is how the role of women needs to be seen—as the mother of mankind.

The whole world expects women to start performing their role correctly and oblige everyone to realize and understand the spiritual goal of the world. When we connect with one another correctly, we allow the upper light, the higher force of nature, to enter into us and begin to work on us. This is the role of a woman, the role of a mother.

It turns out that the fight should not be for the rights of women themselves, but for their ability to influence society. Women lack knowledge, connection, and organization. If they want to move forward, they will have to learn a lot and in accordance with this, properly unite, learn about their mission, and with the appropriate wisdom and feelings, realize their purpose. There is no other way out, just like with a child who does not want to learn.

It is not easy for a woman to do this because throughout history she has been used to staying in the shadows. Only the right education will help. They need to start with small roles, and from that a serious organization will develop.

A woman must know the program and purpose of creation, the stages through which we move, and how they are achieved. And besides, women who begin to study today are preparing themselves to become leaders of society and humanity.

You must be aware that you are fulfilling a special mission and must be more persistent every day and ready to do anything to save humanity from the difficult trials that await us if we do not correctly implement this special stage.

I am sure that you are able to do this and I am ready to help in any way I can. I wish you success!
From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 6/30/20

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21st Century Woman, Part 2

Laitman_503.02What is the difference between male and female leadership styles and how do you combine them? If the leader, whether male or female, does not know about the purpose and program of creation and how to lead to what nature requires of us, nothing good will happen. First of all, integral education is necessary, and as a result of it, women will take over more important positions in society.

This is the call of time. Before the beginning of the last period, when humanity had not yet entered the stage of final correction through connection and studying the wisdom of Kabbalah, the organization of tens, society was ruled by men. But as soon as we begin to spread the method of integral education and begin to work in tens to restore one common great soul of Adam HaRishon, women come forward.

Men will be more involved in the organization of tens and internal structures of society, and women will take on more external leadership. Therefore, I keep saying that dissemination is mostly women’s work.

The same woman who has always remained in the shadows, suddenly has to go to the forefront and engage in the reconstruction of society. And it is interesting that men agree to this. Nature lets a woman go first, and no one protests. This is a miracle that has never happened in history. And this process has been going on for the last hundred years.

A woman has always had a tendency for leadership, but before that it was on a small scale and did not go beyond the house. A man is not able to manage the house, he never knows where anything is. His way of thinking is not adapted to this kind of work, and the woman has always run the house.

But over time, there was a change. And this is a consequence of the internal organization of the soul, which is gradually approaching correction. As a result, the light passed from above through the Sefirot Keter, Hochma, etc. to Malchut, and began to reach the woman more and more. Therefore, women felt that they are more aware of the changes taking place in the world and are ready to express their opinions on important issues.

This is no longer limited to knowing where the salt and pepper is in the kitchen. A woman is ready to give advice to men: to her husband, to the government, and to Congress, offering a solution. This is no longer about how to make soup, but how to brew politics. And all because the time has come when the upper light is closer to Malchut and gave her illumination.

So the woman feels able to work with it. She is able to restore order in the world better than a man, as she belongs to the last Sefira, and by raising the reforming light, she connects all the Sefirot before her. Therefore, she is able to control them all.

The man remains in his certain role, and the woman gains the power to control everyone, as she does with children in kindergarten. She handles all the chores.

Not everyone can be like Margaret Thatcher or Golda Meir, but nevertheless, any woman has special abilities in management. I think that in our time it is necessary to replace men in parliaments with women. We know that in any place where a woman works, there will be order. The world does not need a man’s explosive power, but a woman’s moderate, balanced leadership, free from all the petty calculations that sometimes characterize women.

A woman who can do everything well, weigh everything correctly, and perceive her country as her home, important and dear to her, is able to reconcile all conflicting currents and parties and balance everything. Only a woman can do that.
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Laitman_514.02History recognizes many women who were pioneers that paved the way, made changes in the world, and laid the foundation for a more progressive society. Heroic efforts were usually required for a woman to break through prevailing stereotypes and go against accepted norms and cultural traditions.

And yet, history was written basically by men, and there are very few female names in it. Women always remained in the background. After all, history develops in accordance with the general structure of society, the universe, the entire creation, which consists of ten Sefirot.

This structure develops from top to bottom from the Sefira Keter to Malchut. And although everything is intended for Malchut, for the female part of the structure, until her turn comes, until the whole system develops, the role of women is hidden.

This is visible throughout history among all nations and at all times. Only among the people of Israel, has the role of a woman always been more pronounced than that of others as evidenced by these names from the Tanakh: Eve, the wife of Adam, the great women prophetess Batya, the daughter of the Pharaoh, who raised Moses.

“Batya” means “the daughter of the Creator” (bet-yod-hei—ב-י-ה), which speaks of her highest destiny. The Torah (Five Books of Moses) tells about many women who have a special role in history, and always positive.

And during the 2,000 year-long last exile, the role of women went into even greater concealment. To the extent of the depth and the length of the exile, to that extent, the role of women remained in the shadows. And now, as we move out of this exile, women are getting more and more freedom and increasingly important roles. Particularly large changes occurred in the last, 20th century, and even more so today in the 21st century, when women are becoming a dominant part of development.

This is very noticeable in the modern world where so many women occupy leadership positions in enterprises and even as heads of states. Not only is female power growing, but the image of a woman is becoming increasingly important. As a result, we see that the whole world exists in order to raise Malchut, the female part, according to the model of the upper world.

And although Malchut was always concealed because it is the last Sefira, at the last stage, it becomes the most important, leaves concealment, and becomes revealed in the reflected light up to Keter itself. It turns out that the role of women is the most important. And although it is written that “All the glory of the king’s daughter is inside,” since she has been hidden the whole time, now she comes to the forefront and begins to reveal herself as the most important part.

I think that the 21st century will provide women with more time and space so that she can move forward and learn about her role in correcting the world. Such women can lead the world to the sublime goal before us.

In earlier times, the development of women was always late relative to the overall development. The fact is that woman belongs to the tenth part of the general structure. Keter, Hochma, Bina, Hesed, Gevura, Tifferet, Netzach, Hod, Yesod, and the last, Malchut, is the female part of the soul. But when Malchut begins to receive, when there is already restriction, screen, and reflected light in which Malchut reaches Keter, then the light comes and illuminates all the Sefirot. The direct and the reflected light are connected together.

And before that, humanity was dismissive to the role of the woman and did not value her dignity. But all this must be corrected in our days as we come to the last stage in which a woman must grow up and show herself.

A qualitative change occurred already in the 19th century, and female power began to break forward. Women received the right to vote in elections, access to higher education. This promoted not only women themselves but society as a whole, its lower social strata. The woman not only enters the historical, social, government stage but also pulls up the weak social strata, which could not have risen otherwise.

A woman changes everything. We must only give a place to one woman, allow her to prove herself, and the whole life changes. And our time is special in that we are coming to the end of the correction of the world. A lot still needs to be corrected, but we are already at the finish line. And therefore, the role of women is becoming more and more noticeable day by day.

A woman will demand more and more because her natural forces are pushing her. And on the other hand, the male half of humanity will bow more and more to women. Therefore, it is necessary to explain to a woman her role and duty to fulfill it, and to not neglect her.

If women do not fulfill their leading role, they seem to leave it for men. But men can no longer act as they did before. It turns out that men are no longer acting, and women are not acting yet, and we fall between two chairs, which is very dangerous. These are the times we are entering today.
From KabTV’s “Women in the New World,” 6/30/20

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If Women Do Not Unite, The World Is Doomed

laitman_567.04Women must understand that if they do not unite, then the world is doomed. This should be the inner sensation of a woman. Men cannot help in anything here. The woman must fulfill her female role: she gives birth, takes care of the home, the children, and the future.

A woman must understand that if she does not connect with other women and does not take care of the world with them, then the world will be finished. No need for revolutions. Women only need unity and it will already change the world. In addition, no action will be required: the unification of women will eliminate the entire global crisis.

The whole crisis is between women, not between men, due to the fact that Malchut alone broke into many small Malchuts. If we put them together, this will be the correction. Women must know this well, and then we will have a real chance at achieving the correction of the world.

Only if we reach the stage of Bina, bestowal, can we acquire this quality called “mother.” After all, a mother gives, cares, feeds, and looks after the whole world. We must all find this power of bestowal—both men and women—and with the help of this power, we can unite among ourselves.

A man with a man and a woman with a woman can spiritually unite only to a certain height. But then we need to connect with the acquired force of Bina, and here we need women too.

Therefore, in our world as well as in the spiritual world, a perfect connection is needed between all men and all women so that we all come together, so that a perfect man, Adam, is born in whom there are male and female parts acting together.

We are already in a very advanced stage of pregnancy as a fetus, and we should be born soon. I cannot say exactly which month of pregnancy Malchut is now in. She really wants to start giving birth, but we are not ready yet. After all, to be born means to have the right desire for unity between us. Then we will break out of Malchut and be born in a new world, the spiritual world.

When we leave Malchut, exit the uterus, we immediately find ourselves in the spiritual world based on bestowal. We are not ready for this yet, and therefore, it would be a premature birth.

When the unification of women into one single woman takes place, everyone will feel that the power of women reigns in the world, like a mother who takes care of a child. So, all men will feel that this force of a mother, a woman, Bina, dominates them and that through her comes the power of bestowal, the inspiration to which all bow and are ready to listen to the voice of the woman who will begin to rule the world.

However, so far, each one of you individually has such a power of desire, but you cannot combine them together to make an impact. Try your best to unite. It all depends on you!

I really hope that we are entering a new era, a new humanity. If women’s strength grows more and more, men will feel how much they need female strength, and so we will move forward together. I wish you and your family health and happiness!
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laitman_294.3The coronavirus epidemic showed us how important the home and the family, which are the center of our lives, and the role of the woman on whom it all rests are. The coronavirus united us.

On one hand, it laid bare the contradictions that exist between us in the modern world. Nevertheless, it showed all men that the woman is the central point of our whole life, and therefore, we must try to build around the female part, the Malchut, the new reality of the post-coronavirus era.

Baal HaSulam writes in the book Ohr Bahir:

Ima [mother] comes from the word Omenet [nursing] and rearing, since the drop comes from the father, and the mother nurses and rears the drop, and divides into parts and organs, flesh and skin. All this work and multiplication is only from the mother, for the father gave her only a tiny drop, and with her craftsmanship, she fashioned it into a complete human being. It is for this craftsmanship that she is called “mother.”

A mother has a truly unique mission. Indeed, a drop of semen actually comes from the Creator and does not require a lot of work from the father. The mother divides it and distributes it into organs, and it grows until out of this drop a person develops who is the result of the work of the mother’s body.

This is how it works in physical bodies. But also in the building of the soul where the father and the mother participate together, most of the work falls to the mother. Everything comes from the paternal drop but thanks to the maternal work.

Pregnancy begins with a drop of the father’s semen, but the mother grows the fetus, gives birth, and then feeds him, cares for him, and takes care until he becomes old enough to live independently.

This is why all mothers, all the women of the world, should perceive the process we are undergoing today as an opportunity for humanity to be born like a fetus on a new spiritual level. If all women unite together, they will be able to raise humanity through labor pains. This is difficult work, but it is women who will be able to give birth to a new humanity and direct it to fulfill its mission.

The whole development of mankind is divided into two stages. Until today, men have ruled the world and it has been a time of wars, problems, conflicts, the power of money and violence. Women were almost invisible through the whole history of mankind, the path of violence and wars.

But now comes the time when it is the mother, the woman, who must take on the role of the educator of the world in its future form. This is the era of women, and therefore, she must know how to unite with other women for the sake of correcting the world. It may be difficult, but there is no way out. This must be done.

All women, the whole Malchut, are obligated to unite, and thanks to this unity give birth to a new humanity. But this is only possible provided that women can unite despite their reluctance, can step on their egoism and rise above it by faith above reason. Women will demand men and the whole world to unite to establish the right connections between all and thus lead the world to correction.

On the corporeal level, it is the woman who brings up and raises a new generation. And also in the spiritual system, only a woman is able to strengthen, give birth, and raise a new humanity.

No one but a woman can fulfill this role. As the mother develops the fetus, gives birth, grows, educates, and shapes a future person, so must women, united together, fulfill their role as mothers of all mankind.

The image of a unified woman should become the central force in the world. In this way we can save humanity and give birth to it in a new form. After women unite and come to one common, strong opinion, they will be able to demand everything from men, and the Creator will be on their side. Thus, women will be able to defeat everyone and establish the right order of human development.

But this is only possible after unification. The whole problem is that there is no unity between women, and therefore, no one perceives them as a serious force and or accepts their demands. Demanding spiritual advancement is possible only if you have spiritual strength, and spiritual strength is in unity.

Unite at least a little and see the power you have. Then you will demand and receive everything you desire. The Creator will do it. There are no obstacles on your path: as soon as you women begin to unite, the Creator will take care of you.
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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 3/8/20

laitman_255Question: Is there a mutual guarantee between a husband and a wife?

Answer: Marriage is a state of mutual guarantee to help each other through life in order to achieve the revelation of the Creator between the spouses. It is very important.

Question: If a couple has adopted children, is this considered a whole family?

Answer: Yes. If a couple has adopted these children, it is considered a whole family. But this is indeed a special family, and they will receive special help from above.

Question: How can a woman fight viruses in her head, the foreign thoughts? Is this possible in Kabbalah?

Answer: Kabbalah says that all those thoughts that you consider to be viruses are just like any other thoughts, and they intentionally come to us from above. You must acknowledge them, understand them correctly, connect to their source, and then you will correctly position and work with them. But you should not negate or discard those thoughts.

Question: Should spouses connect the male and female parts in them so that their relationship would be balanced and harmonious?

Answer: Yes, each one needs to connect them so that the male part would give the Tzimtzum, Masach, and the reflected light, and this is what we call the corrected state. The female part, on the other hand, should provide the desire, the ego above which it is possible to build the correction. And both parts will interact harmoniously in every individual.

Question: There are quite a few good female members in our group who have been studying Kabbalah for a long time and are not married. How should we care for them?

Answer: You should do everything in your power to have them married as soon as possible. Then you will have many more good members. Start engaging in this seriously. You will be doing two good things at the same time: you will marry the women and you will acquire new members in the group.
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