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Male And Female, Part 12

laitman_294.4Men and Women: Responsibilities and Possibilities

Question: Are there any differences between men and women in regard to Kabbalistic materials, sources? What can and should women read and what should men read?

Answer: Both can and should read absolutely everything. However, for men, this is a daily duty, and for women, it depends on their free time.

As for the spiritual path and attainment of the Creator, for men it again is a duty, and for women, it is at will according to their possibilities.

Question: Are there any limitations with regard to sources?

Answer: No.

Question: Does it mean all are allowed to read The Book of Zohar and Talmud Eser Sefirot (The Study of the Ten Sefirot)?

Answer: Of course. Absolutely everything.

Question: Is the work in the ten required for both women and men?

Answer: Yes. However, a woman is free from these commandments, which are performed according to time; that is, she does not have to run to the lesson at three o’clock in the morning. If she needs and if her workload at work and at home allows, she can listen to it at any time. However, for men it is a duty.

Question: What about the dissemination of the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: It is the duty of both men and women to disseminate, and women should do it no less than men because it is connected with her function of giving birth; through her, the correction comes to the world. Therefore, she is tied to dissemination even more than a man.

Question: Must both men and women do the inner analysis, inner work, all kinds of scrutinies?

Answer: All of this is necessary for both. However, a woman does it whenever possible, at a time when she is free, and a man does it as a duty, at certain times, in certain circumstances. There is a clear time frame for men, but not for women. There also are clear instructions about the quantity and quality of work for men, but not for women.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18

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Family And Marriage, Part 12

laitman_222Spouses Are the Closest Companions

Question: Are descents and ascents revelations of the Creator?

Answer: Certainly. I cannot desire to reveal the Creator from good states, only if I feel bad. Any person who is engaged in spiritual exaltation will not rush forward unless he or she is, so to speak, shaken and disturbed. A person acts only under the influence of two forces.

Therefore, it is very important in the family that there are two spouses. Spouses are the closest companions who can help and complement each other, hint to each other, take responsibilities from one another. Therefore, it is said that they are as one body.

Question: Didn’t you say before that a husband can reveal his most secret attainment to his wife?

Answer: There is no problem in sharing everything with your wife, depending on your connections, but not to the friends in the group.

Question: What would you recommend if one of the spouses is engaged in Kabbalah and the other is not?

Answer: If your family does not follow the same path, do not engage them in your problems. Go through all your states calmly so that they do not feel them. Give them the opportunity to live comfortably. You will have your own spiritual life; with them you will communicate formally.

Question: So we should not pressure a spouse who does not want to engage in Kabbalah?

Answer: Not at all. There is no coercion in spirituality.
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From Kab TV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19

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Women—Appeal To The Creator

laitman_543.02Question: We must attribute all of our states to the Creator. But what should we do with the anger and impatience that arises in us? Do you understand that it comes from love and came for your correction?

But inside discontent rages, as if my mother scolded me, and I would respond: “Why are you scolding me? I am still unable to do what you demand.”

Answer: Does it mean that you treat your negative emotions negatively and want them to be positive so that instead of complaints and hatred toward the Creator there will be affection, gratitude and even love?

So ask for it. He sends you all this specifically so that you will ask Him for love so that He will love you and you will love Him.

In addition, ask to understand that you are receiving only positive influences from Him, but since they go through your egoism, they are felt as inverted, negative within you.

Ask for everything! Do not hide anything, on the contrary, disclose all the time. If you say that women have such serious feelings and many complaints, then act this way. The Kabbalistic books speak about it all the time. Look how lucky you are with your feminine nature, and you can more easily, more often, and more persistently turn to the Creator than men.

Men do not have this in their nature. They hide many things, erase them, think that this is wrong, weak, and that they must act in a different way. Women do not. It is very good that they express their emotions. In principle, this is the feminine nature, the quality of Malchut. Go for it!
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/13/19

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The Difference Between Male And Female Nature

Laitman_120Question: My wife also studies Kabbalah, and I can say with confidence that we look at spirituality in completely different ways, as if we were from different planets. What is the method of unification in female and male tens and what should the effort of one toward the other be?

Answer: I think that it is necessary to proceed as it is.

I would like only one thing: that women do not imitate everything that men do. Even when it comes to a women’s ten, you should not try to do the same as the men, but as much as you can. Simply engage in mutual support.

Still, Malchut and Keter are two opposite properties of creation, therefore, the same method cannot be successful for both. After all, we see in our world how women are different in everything.

The fact that nowadays they are trying to artificially make men and women absolutely equivalent—I do not say “equal” but “equivalent”—this, of course, is completely wrong. We do not take into account our internal structure, psychology, way of thinking, in general, everything that is in a man and in a woman.

We believe that by destroying the differences, we will become equal and will look at it as great progress. This is not progress.

When we try to destroy nature in its natural manifestations, it always ends in big losses. We already see this in the young generation. Some more time will pass, everything will be revealed, and humanity, as usual, will stumble upon its mistakes and begin to somehow turn itself back.

In Kabbalah, it is absolutely clear that the difference between the male and female nature should naturally manifest itself in our advancement.

The Torah does not describe the history of people, but our path, the embodiment of the upper light in the ego at a certain stage of its development.

We go through the same stages in our spiritual movement. For example, the path of Egyptian captivity is existence in our egoism, exiting it, etc. There is a difference between male and female movements everywhere, although they go in parallel. We do not see the replacement of one by the other or equality anywhere.

We are not equal. There is nothing we can do about it. It is unnecessary. On the contrary, we must further explore the difference between us so that everyone can maximally realize their mission in the nature that is given to them.

Most importantly, do not copy what men have and do not do the same because even this is reached with difficulty, artificially. It is necessary to approach everything much more wisely.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/13/19

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Woman Directs, Man Implements

627.2Question: A woman can internally pass her desire to a man. Many women wish their men were closer to the Creator. What does it mean to pass this desire?

Answer: If a woman wants something from a man, she will always get it. The world is arranged this way.

A woman’s desire is not announced aloud. You know yourself how to influence a man quietly, without opening your mouth but in such a way that he feels as if he is beaten on the head. This is the correct action on behalf of a woman. It is intentionally arranged this way in nature. We, men, must accept this and even be happy that women have the opportunity to guide us on the right track.

If a woman wants her husband to move toward understanding the meaning of life, then, of course, this is a special woman and a great wife. Therefore, we must appreciate such women, set them as an example for others. And of course, we should help in some way so that husbands would appreciate and obey them. I wish to the ones who are not married to find such husbands.

Question: Can there be overkill from the women’s side?

Answer: No. Women have a very clear maternal attitude. She knows how to behave in relation to her husband. If she aspires to the purpose of creation, she really will be able to direct him. So it turns out that a man implements and a woman directs.

I can say from my forty years of experience that if a woman in the family recognizes the greatness of the goal and what the group does, then the husband will definitely study and will not go anywhere. Yet, if the wife is against it, in the end, he stops studying and leaves.

Here, everything depends on the wife. The female’s desire in the world is much stronger and more decisive than the male’s.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 4/14/19

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New Life #1128 – Women And The Essence Of Life

New Life #1128 – Women and the Essence of Life
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

The need for internal convergence is particularly evident in women. The nature of women is to relax, absorb, test, and connect to the eternal flow of nature. As women, we must find out what nature wants from us and understand the goal toward which we are advancing. As the world attempts to confuse and seduce us, we must continually ask ourselves “how am I realizing life on a higher level and discovering the essence of life?”
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From KabTV’s “New Life #1128 – Women and the Essence of Life,” 6/25/19

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Women’s Spiritual Work

laitman_294.4Question: How well should women know the Preface to The Wisdom of Kabbalah (Pticha)? Should it be as much as men do, or is there any flexibility for women?

Answer: Technically, women do not have to study Pticha as deeply as men do, but it is advisable to know its basics. The fact that we have been studying the first paragraphs for quite a while is good. One must learn it well and scrutinize it in himself, go through it. Women also need this.

Kabbalah does not require women to connect on the same level as men, but they should have a general understanding of self-annulment.

Women’s interconnection is a big problem. But they do have to rise above themselves, because when one rises above oneself, without wishing for anything, in full self-annulment, it is similar to being in the light of Hassadim. This is a basic initial state of the altruistic action in Kabbalah, and women must execute it. There is no spiritual world without it, no connection with the Creator or anything else.

One is obligated to rise above oneself despite the problems that the Creator brings up in each of us: laziness, lack of importance, displeasure about something—no matter what it is. But one must rise above it.

Connection with others is more suitable for men than for women. It is enough for women to rise above themselves, and by doing so, they already begin the spiritual work.

Therefore, they do not require the ten as much as men do. Women must gather in it only to annul themselves. But they are not required to be connected with others in one heart like men are. These are different levels of egoistic nature. If they simply annul themselves, they will reach the level similar to the men’s connection.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/4/19

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laitman_543.02Question: In spiritual work we rise above the oppositeness of our opinions. As a result, I become a specialist in clarifications and the opinion of the ten becomes as important to me as my own. I need to constantly absorb the desires of the friends and of the world, but are you saying that as a woman I do not need to do this?

Answer: In our time, there has not yet been a state that women in such numbers rush to the disclosure of the spiritual world. I welcome it and I am very happy about it.

This suggests that we really have risen to a new state when the world should be corrected. Yet, organizing women in tens still seems to me as an unrealistic action today.

It will still not work like with men. It will be much more fictitious, more artificial. There are such conditions between women that they are unable to overcome. They have a much more serious problem interacting with each other than men do.

A man does not have such natural antagonistic relations as women. Therefore, I do not know how to direct the relationship between women. We see from the Torah that men unite in groups, in tens, and women gather around them, not uniting with each other.

It was like this when receiving the Torah at Mount Sinai where the women stood behind the men, surrounding them. Allegorically, it is always said that women provide auxiliary work for men. They apply pressure on them, organize them, force them to progress; in this sense, they are not just great help, but strength.

We see how a woman is very quiet, but turns our world around. We are not saying that men shout everywhere—that is just a game, soon it will pass. Everything else in the world is determined by a woman.

So we need to find a form for female dissemination, female participation, female communication in Kabbalah, which we would understand and which would correspond to spiritual development. I still cannot express it clearly. I am saying it as it is.

I cannot imagine a women’s ten. Women are very artificially interconnected, not like men. And I cannot say the same thing to men and women because each of them feels completely isolated from the others. It is not so with men. They hug, sit with each other, and a sense of community prevails in them. This is nature.

We will develop further and become wiser.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/11/19

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Bnei Baruch Women’s Conference

Dr. Michael LaitmanFrom My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 1/14/19

This weekend, I spoke at our international virtual conference on empowering women in 2019. I said what I always say at every opportunity when the subject comes up: After hundreds of years, women can finally come out from behind the scenes and from behind the modesty that surrounded them, to take over responsibility, management, promotion, and influence in all areas of life.

This coming year is unique in giving women around the world the opportunity to chart a new direction for humanity. All that is required of them, and all of us, is a tiny thing: to rise above the conflicts. Through compromise and connection, you can make the world a warm and loving home.

Dear women, do not miss this opportunity.

A New Day—A New Life

Laitman_725Question: Can you give an external example of spiritual balance and where it manifests itself?

Answer: No, because our world is not an example of the balance of spiritual forces.

There is nothing spiritual in our world. It is needed only in order to bring a person to internal unity. Therefore, isolated negative forces are working here. There are no positive forces, although they do work sometimes, it is only in an inverse state in order to bring us to the correct recognition that “There is none else besides Him.”

Question: Perhaps it is possible to see this in an example of a family where at the moment harmony and love reign, but everyone remembers quarrels and discords that happened yesterday or the day before yesterday?

Answer: Nothing is forgotten. However, if both spouses consciously balance themselves and they both have a clear aspiration toward the correct connection because they understand that there is evil on both sides and relative to it there is some kind of good and they want to balance them, then they neutralize the evil and keep it under control. This is more or less how the spiritual system exists.

Comment: You often give the example of your relationship with your wife. If you had an argument in the evening, then in the morning you do not remember it and do not talk about it.

Answer: Nothing like that. The next morning, I remember everything and so does she. Yet we have decided that we will start every morning with a clean slate, and therefore we act as if nothing had happened.

There is a covenant between us and we try not to break it. This is good, serious spiritual work. We agreed that the next day, we will not recall the past. Once the day is over, it is crossed out.

Question: Does a person understand that this is good for him, that he can circumvent all troubles this way?

Answer: Otherwise, you will not be able to maintain a marriage for so many years. We have been married for 50 years!

Question: Where one can get the strength from? From the Creator?

Answer: No. Here, you just need the desire to keep the marriage. You have to develop a certain system of behavior.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/17/18

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