Entries in the 'Women’s Spirituality' Category

A New Day—A New Life

Laitman_725Question: Can you give an external example of spiritual balance and where it manifests itself?

Answer: No, because our world is not an example of the balance of spiritual forces.

There is nothing spiritual in our world. It is needed only in order to bring a person to internal unity. Therefore, isolated negative forces are working here. There are no positive forces, although they do work sometimes, it is only in an inverse state in order to bring us to the correct recognition that “There is none else besides Him.”

Question: Perhaps it is possible to see this in an example of a family where at the moment harmony and love reign, but everyone remembers quarrels and discords that happened yesterday or the day before yesterday?

Answer: Nothing is forgotten. However, if both spouses consciously balance themselves and they both have a clear aspiration toward the correct connection because they understand that there is evil on both sides and relative to it there is some kind of good and they want to balance them, then they neutralize the evil and keep it under control. This is more or less how the spiritual system exists.

Comment: You often give the example of your relationship with your wife. If you had an argument in the evening, then in the morning you do not remember it and do not talk about it.

Answer: Nothing like that. The next morning, I remember everything and so does she. Yet we have decided that we will start every morning with a clean slate, and therefore we act as if nothing had happened.

There is a covenant between us and we try not to break it. This is good, serious spiritual work. We agreed that the next day, we will not recall the past. Once the day is over, it is crossed out.

Question: Does a person understand that this is good for him, that he can circumvent all troubles this way?

Answer: Otherwise, you will not be able to maintain a marriage for so many years. We have been married for 50 years!

Question: Where one can get the strength from? From the Creator?

Answer: No. Here, you just need the desire to keep the marriage. You have to develop a certain system of behavior.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/17/18

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 1/28/18

281.01Question: If a woman has her own picture of the world, is the meaning of life also slightly different for her?

Answer: A woman wants to have a family, to organize herself, her children; that is how she feels realized.

Question: In the wisdom of Kabbalah is there a difference between the meaning of life and the purpose of life?

Answer: The meaning of life is in the achievement of adhesion with the Creator and the purpose of life is to bring all of humanity to this.

Question: Why are there contradictions on the level of our world that are unresolved? Are these obstacles that the Creator has set up on every level in the world?

Answer: Certainly. It is impossible to solve problems at their own level, in our world. To solve problems, it is necessary to ascend to the next level where they all come from. Therefore, our world always only discovers its own failure.

Question: Why has the Creator given people the possibility to feel each other and help each other if there is no higher meaning in it?

Answer: There is a higher meaning in it! Through these problems, lack of understanding, collision, and more and more dependence on each other in our global world, we are gradually reaching the need to connect together into a single whole. Then, within this single whole we will discover the singular upper force that created us as a single system, as a single person.

Question: Was there more suffering a few thousand years ago or were people less sensitive?

Answer: It could be that masses of people suffered more, but they felt it less.

Question: Was a primitive person happier throughout history?

Answer: Yes, everything that he had was from nature and it was good for him.

Question: Does the process of attaining the meaning of life depend upon knowing the laws according to which the world was created by the Creator?

Answer: Certainly. In principle, we learn all of these laws through the unity between us. So we don’t need to desire unique knowledge. All that is necessary is seen and learned through experience.

Question: Throughout the life of a person there is suffering. Does this mean that the meaning of life can be summed up as adhesion with the Creator, is this liberation from suffering?

Answer: Even liberation from suffering is included in the meaning of life, even though this is not its meaning. That is because attainment of the Creator is accompanied by tremendous happiness and joy, a feeling of eternity and wholeness. But these are all secondary feelings.
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From a Kabbalah lesson in Russian 1/28/18

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“Man” And “Woman” In Kabbalistic Terms

laitman_543.02Question: Can the Creator be revealed between a man and a woman—two opposite qualities?

Answer: There are no men and women in Kabbalah. In Kabbalah, each of us has both a male and a female root.

Question: What are “man” and “woman” from the Kabbalah point of view?

Answer: A man symbolizes the quality of bestowal without any reference to gender, and a woman symbolizes the quality of reception without any reference to gender.

Any two objects, the created being and the Creator, or different parts within the created being, can always be compared as male and female components. That is, each object can be a male part with respect to one thing and a female part with respect to another one.

Everything is determined only by the action because any object is a desire to enjoy. To the extent that the desire manifests itself in reception or bestowal, it is called a male or a female part. From the spiritual point of view, at one time I can be a woman and at another time I can be a man.

Question: However, in this world someone is born as a man and someone as a woman. Why does this happen?

Answer: It is because based on the upper roots, the same distribution occurs on the animate level. But these gender differences mean almost nothing. We are entering the era of complete spiritual equality. Women will express their spiritual aspirations exactly in the same way as men do.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/10/17

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Spiritual Attainment Of Women

Laitman_120Question: Men go through the reincarnation of souls. But what about women? Does a woman have an eternal soul or does it just extinguish and that’s it?

Answer: There is no difference between men and women. Moreover, if a woman is able to overcome her egoism and begin to connect with other women in mutual support, they can surpass men in their spiritual attainment.

I would say that the Creator loves women more than men.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 1/14/18

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The Spiritual Component And Earthly Love

Laitman_121Question: How can one correctly add a spiritual component to earthly love between husband and wife?

Answer: It is possible to add a spiritual component between husband and wife only when they understand what they are doing and why they exist.

They must realize that they have a unique opportunity to conduct themselves in all situations in life in such a way that they train on each other in mutual influence. Then they will be able to attain the revelation of the Creator, as it is written: “A husband and wife have, the Shechina between them.”

But only if they really are serious about achieving that goal. Because they must “step on themselves” and help each other.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/6/17

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Could The Book Of Zohar Have Been Written By Ten Women?

laitman_260.01Question: Hypothetically, could The Book of Zohar have been written by ten women?

Answer: Hypothetically, yes. However, we are organized in such a way that the aspiration for spiritual unity between people resides with the men, while the force of supporting and uniting the men resides with the women.

This is why our world is initially divided into the opposite qualities: male and female, bestowal and reception. In Kabbalah, this is studied very seriously, for it is a cornerstone of our relationships with each other.

Generally, how do two men unite with each other? One in some way is a man in relation to the other, and the other in some way is a woman toward the first one. Obviously, we are not talking about physiology or psychology, nor anything related to our worldly notions, but only spiritual qualities. Any spiritual discernment that we reveal in us consists of a male and female part.

In our world, until we enter the level of the upper world, men naturally have an advantage here. They are considered crucial and of paramount importance in Kabbalistic societies.

The women form into groups around men and start receiving the spiritual qualities through them because the men make the breakthrough in this, as they do in everything else in this world; they are always the discoverers, builders, and destroyers—and the women follow behind.

However, when the men’s breakthroughs are followed by the women’s “battalions,” the result is the creation of spiritual qualities and the development of new souls. There is an activation of the feminine qualities, which are not simply complementary, but very essential, that come out to the forefront and start working on the spiritual planes.

Question: So the fundamental demand comes from the women?

Answer: Yes, it says many times in the Torah, that you have to listen to your wife, a woman.

The Torah is written in a very interesting way; despite the fact that it seemingly talks about men, there is always a woman somewhere that privately directs them, like a wife in a family.

A man is considered the head of the family, but in reality, whatever part of the world I ever visited and anyone I ever asked: the Indians in South America or anyone else, not to mention in European countries, or the Africans, the woman is always the foundation of life, the foundation of the world. And the same holds true in Kabbalah.

However, the breakthrough happens through the masculine force, which is followed, supported, pushed, influenced, and even directed by the feminine force.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/4/17

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Wonder Woman, Part 4

laitman_629_3Question: Usually, movies made by women directors are not as popular as films directed by men. However, the film Wonder Woman with both a female director and main character received great acclaim.

Does this reflect a particular spirit of our time, that it is a woman who is expected to be a hero and a savior?

Answer: There were a lot of women throughout history that played leading roles. The first example: Adam and Eve, because of whom the entire history of humanity started unfolding. Then, Abraham’s wife Sarah, the prophetesses that the Torah talks about: Rachel, Leah, Yael, Miriam, Deborah, Hulda, and even Pharaoh’s daughter Batya. We see that the women in the Torah act in no less emphasized way than the men.

Question: What qualities should such a “super-woman” possess?

Answer: The super-woman is the one directing her children and her husband toward the correction of the world, toward the good connection. That is why Abraham was told: “Listen to what Sarah tells you.”

Such a woman has the power of bestowal and love for a friend. A woman understands that this is the only way that the world can exist. She has an even greater ability of overcoming herself than a man does, because she has the power of giving birth.

A man frequently remains a child that only wants to play around. A woman has a much more serious take on life by nature because she is connected with nature’s principles, with the system producing life. That is why women that come to study Kabbalah display a very serious attitude and desire toward correction.

A super-woman is the one that possesses the internal force to overcome a person’s inner nature that is directed at using others for self-benefit and to start treating them as if they were her children, as members of her family. She is ready to give and help in everything, as in the family, instead of receiving egoistically.

Heroism is in stepping out of the borders of her family toward which she feels natural love and relating to the whole world as if they are all her children.

Question: Let’s say a woman starts relating this way to the world. How can she influence others and advance them toward correction?

Answer: A woman has a great influence in the world. As soon as she starts behaving like such a heroine, her abilities become endless. She can turn everyone around her toward love and bestowal.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 6/8/17

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Men And Women: Being Content With One’s Lot

Laitman_049_01Comment: I wouldn’t like to be a man in any of my other lives. This would be the greatest punishment for me! We see that everything is based on women, and a man is an eternal child.

A woman is basically smarter; she is both a mother and a leader. She is responsible, serious, peaceful, and hard working, and she has many qualities that are simply not developed enough or are lacking in a man.

My Response: I believe that what you say indicates your lack of understanding because you feel flawed in your female image and form. It is as if you are condemning the Creator for having created men like that.

A self-sufficient person is filled spiritually, has a goal, and tries to move toward it correctly; in this one has no calculation with the other sex. One simply advances.

As the saying goes: “Be content with one’s lot.”
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Men And Women: You Must Reorganize Our World

laitman_721_3Question: How and when must a woman be seriously involved with the wisdom of Kabbalah if so many tasks are imposed upon her: work, family, a husband, and children?

Answer: We need to reorganize our world so that men will earn enough money for what the family needs to exist and women will be able to stay at home, deal with family matters, and educate the children, herself, and her husband. The man must engage with work only to support the family and to study the wisdom of Kabbalah.

Question: Do you believe that there will be a turn in this direction in the world?

Answer: Nothing will succeed otherwise. What will we do with billions of unemployed, with people who are not needed? With what will they be involved?

They must be taught and educated. Gradually, they will create normal families who will be compatible with the spiritual root. Without being compatible with the spiritual root, we will not reach the completion of correction, neither physically nor spiritually.
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