Husband And Wife: Where Is The Creator Between Them?
Question: Please elaborate on the type of connection in a family of which it is written: “Husband and wife, and the Creator (Shechina) between them.”
My Answer: This means that I want any connection between the two of us to be actualized through the Upper force, that I wish to regard my spouse as a partner given to me by the Creator. It’s just like Adam asked after his transgression: “Was it not You who had given me this woman?” Therefore, in a man’s attitude toward his wife dwells the Creator, and this is something we will yet reveal.
If a husband and wife are interconnected, this becomes a powerful means for revealing the Creator. It is a great fortune if a person is provided this field of work. And one doesn’t need a lot of time to realize it, only a few minutes a day. The rest of the time he has to devote to the group and the study.
Every connection transpires on its own level, but they are all united in that their sole purpose is to reveal the Creator. With respect to the friends in the group, we want the Creator to dwell among us. Herein lies the purpose in unifying into a group as well as a family. These are the different levels of connection with the same Shechina, and everybody who exists on the other side of Her (my wife, the group, the friends, and the whole world) are, in fact, parts of my own soul.
Regarding a wife, it is written that the Creator took a part of the man’s soul and made a helper against him. Similarly, the entire world is set against me as a result of the breaking as “help against me.” All this is part of my soul as well. Presently, I feel all this as external and separate from me, but thanks to the Shechina and the Creator’s presence, it all merges for me into a single whole. If I draw the Upper Light, the Creator, the middle line, He will unite all of it into one.
If we examine where the deepest and soundest connection is made – between a husband and wife, the friends in the group, all of humanity, or the entire universe – the innermost connection is found between a husband and wife.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/28/10, “The Love for the Creator and Love for the Created Beings”
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If a husband and wife are said to be the foundation of a family and are not spending adequate time together, how is it that the family will be strong and united? I don’t see how a strong bond can be formed in a few minutes a day. Can you please explain this to me?