The whole of reality is created as a result of the spreading of Light that created desire “out of nothing” and then developed it. Starting from the Big Bang, the desire increasingly coarsened, and so waves, gases, and inanimate matter were created.
Then on Earth appeared plants, animals, and man, who undergoes many stages of development until he reaches similarity to the Creator.
It is interesting that the Light and the desire are imprinted in the creature as two kinds: male and female. Male and female qualities, following the example of two spiritual Partzufim: Aba (father) and Ima (mother), Hassadim and Hochma, connect with each other and give birth to a new generation of masculine or feminine.
Connection between a man and a woman is special, because on one hand they are opposite to each other, but on the other hand, they feel that they have a common goal. The common spiritual goal unites them so much that they act together and give birth to offspring. From this, it is clear where the concept of family comes from and the natural desire to live as a couple, to give birth, and to grow its own continuation.
We all are one family. Not only grandfather and grandmother, father and mother, and children, and so on from generation to generation, but all men and all women in general are one family, descendants of Adam and Eve. There is a big difference between spiritual men and women.
The result of our connection with each other, a child that we can give birth to, is called “a soul.” When we present this connection to the Creator, He gives a spirit of life to it. In this soul, in the correct connection between us, we reach adhesion with the Creator, as it is written, “Man, woman, and Shechina (Divinity) between them.”
The main thing is to know that our connection with each other must be for the sake of building a soul. This means that without friends, I cannot obtain a soul.
If I connect with my friend through my desire to receive, then the desire to bestow is participating from his side, and vice versa—if from his side, the desire to receive, then from my side, the desire to bestow. We always act between each other as Zahar (masculine quality) and Nekeva (feminine quality) that exist in any creature.
Most importantly, a connection between us should be organized, and as a result, it should give birth to the soul. I always expect this from a friend and I myself respond in the same way. With each contact, conversation, or any joint work, we construct our souls at every moment, that is, a place for revealing the Creator, so that the upper Light will fill our communicating common desires.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/19/18, Preparation for the World Convention 2018
Men And Women: Overcoming Desires
Men And Women: You Cannot Eliminate The Differences
Men And Women: The Structure Of Humanity