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New Life 1297 – An Era Of Lack Of Direction And Uncertainty

New Life 1297 – An Era Of Lack Of Direction And Uncertainty
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Today, all four generations are confused: grandparents, parents, children, and grandchildren. In earlier generations, life was simple, whereas today we feel that something has gone wrong, the world is unpredictable, and we don’t know what to offer our children. Evolution has exhausted our power of development: the desire to enjoy, our drive, our fuel.

The world has reached a dead end. There is a sense of helplessness and despair. For the first time in history, young people lack a good example to follow and this brings us to the big question of what happiness is in the first place. Today we will no longer be able to manage in life or survive without a method that guides us. Everyone needs to come to an understanding of the internal state of the world.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1297 – An Era Of Lack Of Direction And Uncertainty,” 2/7/21

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New Life 1296 – An Ambassador Of Connection

New Life 1296 – An Ambassador Of Connection
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

As ambassadors of connection, we teach that if we want to achieve our goals, we must learn to connect. Even a person’s thoughts influence those around him, not to mention his actions. In a family that wishes to connect, for example, everyone acts openly and there is a mutual desire to help. We discuss how good it feels to share a meal together and we think about how we can increase the sense of connection between us. We try to learn about positive connection through the negativity that arises between us. In order to influence someone, we must first connect to him.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1296 – An Ambassador Of Connection,” 1/31/21

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New Life 1295 – Deepening The Ties In The Groups To Which We Belong

New Life 1295 – Deepening The Ties In The Groups To Which We Belong
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Bike riders in a group can attain a higher, internal level of connection if they make efforts to unite in one heart and one mind as one man on one bicycle. Leaders will share the feeling that there is a special connection amidst the group and then pay attention to the natural reactions that are invoked without any artificial pressure. Conflicts, which are a part of life, are used to increase the connection.

For example, if someone is late, the time is used to speak about the essence of the connection, concessions, and ascending above the ego. The group accepts the late member and connects even more as a result of his tardiness. If the group aims to increase the connection between them, they will really float together within the harmony of nature and ride on the road to happiness, pleasure, and success!
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1295 – Deepening The Ties In The Groups To Which We Belong,” 1/24/21

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New Life 1294 – Decision Making Process

New Life 1294 – Decision Making Process
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

We are living in special times in which the world develops toward connection to one mechanism. This realization should impact our decision making. The main factor in making sound decisions is whether or not the decision will be in sync with the development of society toward mutual interdependence and integrality.

We can make a list of pros and cons, consult experts as well as family and friends, or use intuition; however, we need to ask ourselves what our family and society needs from the decision. Incorporating contradictory opinions from others helps in the process of choosing the right direction.

The final decision should be made after we weigh it carefully and make sure that it is compatible with the integral development.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1294 – Decision Making Process,” 1/17/21

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New Life 1293 – Phases Of Dealing With Conflicts

New Life 1293 – Phases Of Dealing With Conflicts
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Flip it, invert it, and do a U-turn! Conflict is a fact of life and can help us experience new levels of enjoyment when we know how to use it properly for the benefit of everyone. The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches us how to manage conflicts so that everyone should be satisfied. First, we need to put the disagreement aside and focus on the connection between us, as if there were nothing to fight about.

After we have risen above the conflict together in this way, we invert the issue so that it increases the connection between us. In other words, each person puts the connection between them first, ahead of the conflict or their own personal interests.

Each one engages with the others in a sort of game of compromise and mutuality so that we are together at the end of the day. Often there are no corporeal solutions to conflict. The key to resolving it is to learn to enjoy what the other person enjoys.

It is about changing the way we think to integral thinking. Personal enjoyment is limited, but integral enjoyment is unlimited. In this way, we end up experiencing double the pleasure in an unlimited way!
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1293 – Phases Of Dealing With Conflicts, ” 1/3/21

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New Life 1292 – How To Reduce Stress And Anxiety?

New Life 1292 – How To Reduce Stress And Anxiety?
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

We experience stress and anxiety due to our egoistic attitudes toward others and not because of any external factors at home or work. We think we are stressed due to issues related to money, health, work, and home, all of which have all been exacerbated by Covid in recent months. We resist what is happening and worry and want to control the future so that it will be less uncertain. The truth is that we are not in charge.

The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches us that all of these issues come to us from Mother Nature so that we will learn to let go of our belief that we can control the future and instead will attribute the issues we are facing to the benevolent leadership of the upper force.

We need to actively change our approach to the people in our lives so that we will be more friendly with them, in the same way that all of nature’s actions toward us are friendly and good. We need to consciously choose to accept and flow with the providence of the upper force in the same way that the still, vegetative, and animate levels of nature do. Like a baby being taken care of by its mother, we need to trust, learn, and grow in her loving arms. In this way we calm down and become partners in a mutual relationship based on love within an integral system.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1292 – How To Reduce Stress And Anxiety?” 27/12/20

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New Life 1291 – Determining Direction And Goals In A Changing Reality

New Life 1291 – Determining Direction And Goals In A Changing Reality
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Young people want to succeed but they find it difficult to choose the right goals and direction in a changing reality. Although reality is changing and the future feels uncertain, humanity is moving in one direction: toward integral connection between everyone.

Every individual will need to learn how to relate to himself, others, and society with a proper attitude within the next few years. Whoever works to connect people into a good, mutual, integral system will not lose.

The most important factor in choosing a workplace will be whether there is a spirit of connection between the workers or not. If we feel that we are not alone but in a group with people who help and support each other, we will be able to succeed in everything.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1291 – Determining Direction And Goals In A Changing Reality,” 12/20/20

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“How Can You End Suffering In Life?” (Quora)

Michael Laitman, On Quora: How can you end suffering in life?Dr. Michael Laitman

We first need to understand the source of suffering in life, and then we can implement a method to end it.

In order to understand the source of suffering, the wisdom of Kabbalah explains a key interaction between two fundamental forces in nature: one is a force called “light,” the force of love, bestowal and connection, also known as “the upper force” and “the Creator” (“Boreh” in Hebrew), which means “come and see” (“Bo” and “Reh”), because we need to attain this force as a clear perception and sensation in order to believe it. This initial force created the second force: the creation, which is also called “the created being” or “the desire to enjoy”—a lack of fulfillment, opposite to the initial upper force.

The upper force develops the desire to enjoy, making us feel as if we need and want several different kinds of fulfillment. We are essentially made of a set of desires—food, sex, family, money, honor, control and knowledge—and we each feel an instinctive urge to fulfill ourselves via these desires in differing extents.

If we fail to fulfill these desires, we suffer, and this suffering extends from sensations of emptiness to those of outright pain, the latter of which can even become intolerable.

Desires for food, sex and family are natural bodily instincts shared by all animals. By contrast, desires for money, honor, control and knowledge are social desires based on comparing what we have in relation to others, and such desires are unique to humans.

The source of suffering is thus the inability to fulfill these desires. In Kabbalistic terms, when the light (pleasure/fulfillment) does not fill the desire, then it suffers, and the suffering can be intense or slight, long-term or momentary, collective or individual.

Understanding that our desires’ lack of fulfillment is the source of our suffering, we thus find ourselves in a constant race for fulfillment. The problem is that our desire to enjoy only knows how to enjoy at the expense of others and nature, and thus we pit ourselves up against each other in a tug-of-war, each pulling to their own corner. That is why any kind of fulfillment we sense in this current setup is only transient, after which we once again feel empty and desire a different fulfillment again and again.

The solution to this predicament is to invert the direction by which we enjoy. If instead of wishing to receive fulfillment for ourselves alone at the expense of others, we would develop a new desire—one where we wish for the benefit of others—then we would enter a new level of life where we would feel constant fulfillment.

Image: Left: Direct reception of pleasure into the desire leads to its extinguishment. Right: The intention to benefit others redirects the pleasure, allowing for continuous fulfillment.

Our desire to enjoy for personal benefit alone immensely limits and narrows our sensation of fulfillment to very tiny and transient moments, and most of the time we feel emptiness and suffering in order to push us to seek fulfillment. On the contrary, the desire to benefit others holds unlimited potential for fulfillment, because by aiming to benefit others, we enter into balance with the initial force of love, bestowal and connection that is on the opposite side of reality, wishing to bestow just like it.

The wisdom of Kabbalah is a method that teaches us how to undergo such a transition. “Kabbalah” means “reception” in Hebrew, because it teaches us how to receive fulfillment in a way that is ultimately adapted to nature, a fulfillment that does not fade away but which constantly increases.

On one hand, Kabbalah has become quite popular, but on the other hand, it is a hidden wisdom, because its results are felt in each person’s sensations and desires. Nevertheless, it is open for everyone, and it lets us understand how to work with our desires in order to receive fulfillment in an unlimited manner. By doing so, we become truly happy as we rid ourselves of suffering at its very source.

Based on “New Life episode 736: The Origin of Our Suffering” [28:27] on June 23, 2016. Written/edited by students of Kabbalists Dr. Michael Laitman.

New Life 1290 – Motivation At Work

New Life 1290 – Motivation At Work
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Our nature is to lose motivation just as a person who begins to eat loses his appetite at a certain point. There should be experts in an organization who make sure that motivation, creativity, and innovation remain high by making employees into partners and giving awards to show importance, respect, and appreciation. If we want a worker to come to work enthusiastically, he needs to feel that he can express his uniqueness at work.

The quality of the interpersonal connections and the atmosphere at work greatly impact the workers’ motivation. Competition in an integral organization means each one competes with himself as well as connects to others in order to contribute to the success of the organization.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1290–Motivation At Work,” 12/13/20

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New Life 1289 – Parents Of A Child With Special Needs

New Life 1289 – Parents Of A Child With Special Needs
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

There are no blows from nature that cannot be complemented including having a child with special needs. There is no point asking, “Why do I deserve this?” or comparing ourselves with a perfect way of life. Disabled people are usually happier because nature gives them a greater spirit. We can see mutual support, connection, and joy in groups of disabled children. Parents should accept their fate and learn to cope with it. They should not stop any activities and keep searching for how to complement the disability with the use of equipment and exercises. It is very important that they have a supportive environment of people in the same situation from whom they can learn how to live successfully with the disability and who will bring them examples of disabled people who have greatly succeeded in life. Society needs to help disabled people grow stronger, manage, and find their place in society.

The connection between people always helps because we are all a part of nature, which is absolutely integral. We need to build support mechanisms in society so that each one feels that the whole society covers him with care.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1289 –Parents Of A Child With Special Needs,” 11/29/20

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