Entries in the 'New Life' Category

New Life 1312 – How To Establish Good Communication Between Parents And Their Adolescent Children

New Life 1312 – How To Establish Good Communication Between Parents And Their Adolescent Children
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

We are all egoists and if we want to communicate, we need to adapt to each other by making mutual concessions. Building a family connection requires that each member of the family understands human nature. Parents should consult the kids about their family relations, which will help the kids to cope with conflict and reach agreements. Teens shouldn’t be suffocated or pushed to share their feelings. They need limits, freedom, and guidance. They need to know that they always have a protective shelter and a warm, loving home in order to feel secure.

Parents also need to set an example by showing the kids how they cope with anger and calm themselves down. Parents also need to show the kids that they don’t always think alike and that, sometimes, one of them identifies with the kids. We need to make children aware that the role of the family is to help them to grow successfully.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1312 – How To Establish Good Communication Between Parents And Their Adolescent Children,” 7/11/21

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New Life 1311 – Quarrels Between Siblings

New Life 1311 – Quarrels Between Siblings
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

There cannot be contact and connection without feeling limitations and conflict with others. Siblings don’t feel each other if they don’t quarrel, but they may have difficulties with communication. Fighting over toys is natural between toddlers, and parents should not intervene as long as there is no physical harm. If a child cries to his parents that his sibling has done something to him, the parent can hug him, but shouldn’t take sides.

Quarreling for the sake of harming others is unacceptable, but otherwise it is a part of normal life. Quarrels strengthen the connection and love between us if we know how to rise above the feeling of rejection. Parents should not fight and should play with their children to provide an example of how to behave properly. To sum up, we should let siblings develop freely in order for them to become experienced and wise.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1311 – Quarrels Between Siblings,” 7/4/21

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New Life 1310 – The Reasons For Losing The Sense Of Closeness In The Family

New Life 1310 – The Reasons For Losing The Sense Of Closeness In The Family
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Connections in the family are fading away because the ego continually grows and doesn’t want to be dependent on anyone. This is a natural process. People no longer feel obligated to their siblings or parents.

We can still learn how to develop a warm human connection in the family if we teach our kids about the ego and how to work with rejections and envy correctly. We need to show everyone what they will gain from being connected to others by doing exercises like, for example, helping a different sibling each day in every matter that comes up.

We can learn positive competition by comparing who can ascend higher above their own egoism in order to get closer to the other family members and awaken love in them. Family should provide a sense of support, communication, commitment, and being closer on a new level when we rise above the ego together.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1310 – The Reasons For Losing The Sense Of Closeness In The Family,” 6/27/21

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New Life 1309 – Communication With Small Kids In The Family

New Life 1309 – Communication With Small Kids In The Family
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

I need to constantly imagine what my child lacks and how I should relate to him with respect to that lack. We should parent using three approaches: as a grownup who dictates, as an equal, and as smaller by learning from the child and modeling that it is okay not to know things.

A successful child is a balanced child who does not burst out for better or for worse, a child who understands where he is and behaves maturely. I should let the child feel that I am always on his side and whatever I do is for his sake; when I have to force him to do something, it distresses me. It is a good idea to share my internal world with a child while not pressuring him and giving him space to grow independently.

To sum up, do everything together with the child so that he will understand that cooperation is the key to success in life.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1309 – Communication With Small Kids In The Family,” 6/13/21

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New Life 1308 – Concession, The Means For Better Communication In A Couple

New Life 1308 – Concession, The Means For Better Communication In A Couple
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

The internal psychology of a man and a woman is totally different and this is the reason for all of our communication problems. Successful communication depends on one’s ability to work above the ego and make concessions. Making concessions unconditionally means investing all of one’s powers in serving one’s partner.

We love when each one tries to feel, live in, and fulfill the desire of the partner. We show the other we are trying even though it’s hard, that we are willing to make the effort anyway. It is a kind of a game that becomes real as you get used to it. A person who develops the attribute of making concessions discovers the force that connects and ties all parts of creation as one.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1308 – Concession, The Means For Better Communication In A Couple,” 5/30/21

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New Life 1307 – Why It Is Difficult For Men And Women To Communicate

New Life 1307 – Why It Is Difficult For Men And Women To Communicate
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

A woman is usually more warm and emotional and a man is more practical. A woman is made of different forms: she is 25% mother, 25% little girl, 25% woman and 25% man. A man does not give birth and so he doesn’t change. He is a reserved, limited creature. Complementation is built on the feeling that each side wants to connect with the other because they see a real gain in life as a result of the connection. A couple should get used to speaking about everything and expressing what they feel with words. We need to learn to connect to each other carefully and gently, to gradually open our hearts and develop love between us until we finally merge correctly as two opposites and feel as one body.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1307 – Why It Is Difficult For Men And Women To Communicate,” 5/23/21

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New Life 1306 – Relations In The Extended Family

New Life 1306 – Relations In The Extended Family
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

The family is the nest in which a person grows. People who grow up without family support encounter problems throughout their lives. They lack the power that family provides. Modern civilization destroys our connection with family. It is impossible to solve family problems unless we teach people how to reach connection and love between them by overcoming the human ego. All the connections between family members will fall apart until we discover that we need a new quality of connection in general.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1306 – Relations In The Extended Family,” 5/9/21

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New Life 1305—The Influence Of The Environment On Interpersonal Relations

New Life 1305 – The Influence Of The Environment On Interpersonal Relations
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

When we enter a new environment we are not aware of the degree to which it influences, changes, and shapes us. The influence of the environment on us is like the influence of the womb on a baby. The family environment should be protected by softening one’s heart before entering the home and by playing creative games together in order to feel the family connection.

A protective family bubble should be built around it so that a foreign spirit cannot break it apart. A family should speak about what is external to it, what is internal to it, and how to guard it from any harmful or hostile external influences.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1305 – The Influence Of The Environment On Interpersonal Relation,” 4/25/21

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New Life 1304 – Group Discussion

New Life 1304 – Group Discussion
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and NitzahMazoz

First and foremost, we all need to agree on our ultimate goal and that it should be important for us, even if we don’t like discussions. We need to ask ourselves what we are willing to concede and sacrifice in order to achieve the most important, common goal. Each one should integrate in the expectations and heart of the others, the warmth, security, and hope.

We come with an attitude of “each man shall help his friend” and mutual inspiration. The more we develop, the more the ego grows, and the more unbearable our discussions will become. We need to determine that connection with others opens up a perfect future for everyone and it is therefore our sublime, ultimate goal.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1304 – Group Discussion,” 4/18/21

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New Life 1303 – A Dialogue That Brings People Together

New Life 1303 – A Dialogue That Brings People Together
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and NitzahMazoz

In order to conduct a dialogue that brings people together, the two sides should know what each one wants. The first phase of a dialogue that brings people together is to get closer to each other and not to think that the other intends to gain from one’s destruction. The dialogue should be open and warm and there should be a feeling that we can fulfill each other and build a mutual connection.

According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, we can learn to build a bridge between our desires, thoughts, habits, and attributes, a bridge above all the forms of the ego that differentiate us. After the stage of getting closer, then comes the main part of the dialogue which is to understand the conditions of attaining the goal. The third phase is to understand that we have gotten closer as a result of our dialogue and that both sides are satisfied. A dialogue that brings people together calms us and also gives us a positive impression of the whole process.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1303 – A Dialogue That Brings People Together,” 4/11/21

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