Question: There is a parable in which a husband and wife move to live in a new apartment. Early one morning the wife looks out the window and sees a neighbor hanging laundry. She says to her husband: “Our neighbor is a very bad housewife. Look at how dirty her clothes are.” The husband does not pay attention and is silent. Every day she looks out the window, sees her neighbor and says, “Oh, what a slob!” Suddenly one day she looks out the window in the morning, and sees the neighbor hanging clean clothes. She says to her husband: “You see, this slob has finally learned how to wash.” “No,” says the husband, “I just got up early today and washed our window.”
This seems to be our whole life. We look at the world through our dirty window, and badmouth other people.
Please tell me why we don’t notice that the window is dirty, but instead we criticize others?
Answer: It is more enjoyable for us to see what is happening at the neighbors. That is why we don’t see what’s happening at our place.
Question: Am I afraid to look into myself?
Answer: You can’t.
Question: So I keep seeing that there is dirt everywhere else. And do I have to clean it?
Question: At what point do we notice that the window is dirty? How will we be led to the fact that this is our dirty window?
Answer: If there is no husband, you won’t notice.
Comment: This is the root of all troubles and wars, and we want to change the world, and we want to change others. This little parable is our whole life.
My Response: Yes.
Question: Who do you call a husband in relation to us, for example?
Answer: Someone from the side, someone serious who is on the same level with you or even maybe a little higher who can point you to understand the reason the world is dirty; it is dirty in you.
Question: Who can do this? Who is the husband who will clear the window for us so we will see that it was all about us?
Answer: The husband is the one who can rise above the female essence.
Question: Are we the female essence? In general, is all of humanity a woman?
Answer: Women, yes.
Question: Can we say that we are a woman, and our husband is the Creator?
Answer: Of course.
Question: Which means until the Creator wipes the window and says “Look, it’s all about you!” will nothing move? Are we going to solve problems at the ground level, kill others, or torture and torment them?
Answer: Yes. And then we justify ourselves.
Comment: That’s a very pessimistic end to the story.
My Response: This is our whole history.
Comment: I have to see that it’s all about me. We talk about it all the time.
My Response: It doesn’t matter. Even if you were to see and hear, you still wouldn’t want to see it.
Question: Won’t I request it anyway? So where is this gear shift after all? Where? How?
Answer: It will come from above.
Question: The fact that this egoism is in me, does it prevent me from seeing others and that all the dirt, all this dirty laundry, is in me?
Question: It can only be from above, you say. Why do you keep saying that you need to love your neighbor?
Answer: These are the commandments. We must do this in order to correspond with the laws of nature. How to do it? When we are convinced today that otherwise we will not withstand, that we will not survive, then what is left for us?
Question: So do we have to be on the verge of life and death? And then we will begin to understand that we need to treat each other with love?
Answer: You see how simple it is. 🙂
Question: But there is only one moment that we have to be brought to the edge; that is what is scary?
Question: And what about our reason?
Answer: Reason will not help. We do not live by reason, but only by our feelings.
Question: Then the human boundary is not necessarily between life and death, is it? It may be emptiness; it may be depression or some kind of inner cry?
Answer: But this boundary is when one feels hopelessness. And then he begins to realize that it is all about him.
Question: Does the Creator give us this understanding?
Answer: Yes. Or if some group of humanity will take on watering everything with love, watering the whole humanity with love.
Question: Are you saying that we need an example?
Question: The great Kabbalist Baal HaSulam wrote about the last generation. These were his deathbed notes. After all the incomprehensible things he wrote in his Kabbalistic works, he suddenly wrote understandable notes called “The Last Generation.” There he wrote that a group of people should appear who will take on this law of “love your neighbor” and begin to live by it and spread it all over the world.
Do you think that this is not fiction or idealism?
Answer: Time does its own thing. I think that after all humanity will agree, out of desperation to accept this principle of a new life.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/9/23
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