A Gossip Or A Friend?

Dr. Michael LaitmanThe Torah, “Leviticus,” 19:16: Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people; neither shalt thou stand idly by the blood of thy neighbor: I am the LORD.

A gossip in our world is a person who enjoys the revelation of the ego in others. What is interesting is that he is typically candid. He doesn’t lie and doesn’t try to hurt others, but simply unveils the distortions, the corruption that exists in society in the relationships between people.

Comment: But a gossip never says things openly to a person, only behind his back…

Answer: It makes no difference, since at the same time he can have good motives. The problem is whether he acts for the sake of correction and whether the action of the revelation of evil is intended to attain a greater connection between people.

A gossip separates people and keeps them further apart from one another. You can do the same thing when you discover the lack of connection between people, but at the same time you think about how to connect them. If your intention is to connect people, it isn’t considered gossip.

In spiritual work the term gossip is not examined with regard to oneself or to others, but in regard to the Creator, since He is the one who disrupts the harmony between us, causes our problems and the lack of integration of attributes and parts of the only mechanism of the soul. By His Light, He reveals the lack of coordination between them and is therefore the main cause of all these actions. We, on the other hand, have to work on the coordination between them.

Here is where the gossip is revealed as the one who reveals the evil but doesn’t think about its correction and doesn’t operate along the middle line. Each of us discovers flaws when he focuses on correction in order to correct them and not in order to delve into their revelation.

The revelation of evil draws the Light that highlights all the corruptions in me, but I should first think about the whole, integral, harmonious state, as it is said: “The end on an action is in the initial thought.” This is the whole subtle difference between gossip and doing the right thing.

If, for example, my friend tells me now that I did the wrong thing, is he a gossip or not? It is revealed only by the way it brings me to reveal my corrupted state and how to correct it. Gossip, on the other hand, doesn’t do that and the approach is totally egoistic.

Thus, if my friend reveals the evil in me in order to guide me correctly and get even closer to me, he is not a gossip, but a friend.

I cannot refuse to help the friend reveal the different obstacles and mistakes, since I see my incorrect state. I have to fear the possibility of being a gossip, yet not refrain from revealing the mistakes of my friend. I must do things properly because I have to connect to him and reach correction together with him. This is called “neither shalt thou stand idly by the blood of thy neighbor.”

Blood is the fourth part of the four phases of the spreading of the Light in the soul, which means that it is help on the lowest level of correction that revives the corporeal body. I help others to ascend, but is with this condition. Everything else should be done by a person himself. I only raise him a little.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 4/02/14

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