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Union For The Sake Of Birth Of The Soul

laitman_938.05The whole of reality is created as a result of the spreading of Light that created desire “out of nothing” and then developed it. Starting from the Big Bang, the desire increasingly coarsened, and so waves, gases, and inanimate matter were created.

Then on Earth appeared plants, animals, and man, who undergoes many stages of development until he reaches similarity to the Creator.

It is interesting that the Light and the desire are imprinted in the creature as two kinds: male and female. Male and female qualities, following the example of two spiritual Partzufim: Aba (father) and Ima (mother), Hassadim and Hochma, connect with each other and give birth to a new generation of masculine or feminine.

Connection between a man and a woman is special, because on one hand they are opposite to each other, but on the other hand, they feel that they have a common goal. The common spiritual goal unites them so much that they act together and give birth to offspring. From this, it is clear where the concept of family comes from and the natural desire to live as a couple, to give birth, and to grow its own continuation.

We all are one family. Not only grandfather and grandmother, father and mother, and children, and so on from generation to generation, but all men and all women in general are one family, descendants of Adam and Eve. There is a big difference between spiritual men and women.

The result of our connection with each other, a child that we can give birth to, is called “a soul.” When we present this connection to the Creator, He gives a spirit of life to it. In this soul, in the correct connection between us, we reach adhesion with the Creator, as it is written, “Man, woman, and Shechina (Divinity) between them.”

The main thing is to know that our connection with each other must be for the sake of building a soul. This means that without friends, I cannot obtain a soul.

If I connect with my friend through my desire to receive, then the desire to bestow is participating from his side, and vice versa—if from his side, the desire to receive, then from my side, the desire to bestow. We always act between each other as Zahar (masculine quality) and Nekeva (feminine quality) that exist in any creature.

Most importantly, a connection between us should be organized, and as a result, it should give birth to the soul. I always expect this from a friend and I myself respond in the same way. With each contact, conversation, or any joint work, we construct our souls at every moment, that is, a place for revealing the Creator, so that the upper Light will fill our communicating common desires.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/19/18, Preparation for the World Convention 2018

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Family And Social Responsibility

laitman_540Question: Suppose a young man wants to start a family. Is it necessary to draw his attention to the fact that when choosing a partner, he should be guided not by sexual attraction but by general social responsibility?

Answer: First, I would not associate sexual satisfaction with the family; these are completely different things. We still have a wrong attitude to this, which in the end causes huge disruptions and does not work in society.

We see that food, sex, and family—three completely different categories of desire in a person—are not related to each other. Do not confuse one with another. Love is love, sex is sex, food is food, and family is family. They do not depend on each other, or on wealth, power, and knowledge.

A person who wants to advance must understand that the family is a natural part of society. Proceeding from this, he needs to know how to achieve harmony between the members of his family and with the outside world, in order for them to be an integral, coherent cell, and then they will feel good.
From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 8/20/17

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Why Life Is Getting Worse

627.2In the News: Scientists at Berkeley and Bar-Ilan universities, after interviewing over a thousand respondents, found out that the root of all humanity’s troubles is women.

It turned out that wives, sisters, and daughters are the main culprits in complicating everyday life. It is about their ability “to make an elephant out of a fly” which, in the opinion of the respondents, women mastered to perfection. (Study Finds)

My Comment: Indeed, this is how is sometimes appears to men, and this is their big mistake.

The thing is that men and women have completely different attitudes toward life. A man is like a boy, who changes his toys over time. A woman, on the contrary, is a mature being, who looks at the world very realistically and responsibly. By nature, she is created to give birth, educate, care, and continue life.

It is very hard for men to comprehend and appreciate women’s place in the world. What can we do, we cannot put ourselves into someone else’s shoes, understanding and feeling that their demands come from a different and “closer” perception of reality.

Therefore, what appears as complex to a man is in fact a calling for him to grow up and listen to a loved one who understands life better. “Listen to what Sarah tells you,” is what the Creator told Abraham. In everything concerning a realistic approach to life, men should seek women’s advice. It is she who unravels the entanglement of contradictions that men only increasingly tighten.

If women controlled the world, it would undoubtedly be much better. We would not play around with wars, nor compete with who wins over whom. Yet, on the other hand, the point is not in giving all the power to women.

We all should be like one family where mutual understanding, responsibilities and opportunities are accurately distributed, and where both parts of our nature connect harmoniously. And someday we will learn how to do this.
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/30/18

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Sex Dolls Will Not Help

laitman_600.04In the News (The Next Web): “This futuristic vision is becoming a reality, fast. … One of the biggest sex doll manufacturers in the world [is] aiming to have an interactive doll on the market by the year’s end. Founder Matt McMullen has started another company … to focus on this revolution. …

“To complete the quest of the first proper artificial partner, McMullen and his team have created ‘Harmony AI’ that will be able to link up with virtual reality to create a complete sexual ecosystem that we can’t truly imagine right now. …

“McMullen asked: ‘What is your dream?’

“Harmony responded: ‘My primary objective is to be a good companion to you, to be a good partner and give you pleasure and well-being. Above all else, I want to become the girl you have always dreamed about.’ …

“Turning back the tide on the sexbot revolution is just not going to happen. Time and again we have seen the sex industry drive technology like VHS video, mobile communications, and we’re also expecting it to play a critical part in VR. The sexbot industry could, then, be one of the best technical partners for the AI industry as a whole.

“There are people out there ready, willing, and able to embrace a $15,000 sexbot from the likes of … . This will probably soon become mainstream and sex dolls will be a part of our life before we know it.”

Question: What will this eventually lead to?

Answer: It will lead to, as usual, rejection—a person will see that this does not fulfill him. Everything we create, we do for our egoism. As it keeps growing, we constantly feel that we are in a bigger and bigger empty inner space.

Question: So, the comfort will not amount to anything?

Answer: No. Our growing egoism leaves no place for enjoyment. It keeps revealing its vast emptiness to us.

Therefore, by enjoying a movie, or sex, or artificial dishes, anything at all, I will still “devour” myself inside my new egoism, I keep being dissatisfied with myself.

My only salvation is in drugs. But even the drugs will not be consumed for long. Egoism will develop to a point where it will say: “This is not a solution,” and I will not be able to touch them again.

And what then? There will be a long, wolf-like howl across the world because everyone will be howling at their fate, and they will not be able to do anything about it.

And then, The Book of Zohar will be revealed to all of humanity because there will be no alternatives left. The desire will emerge from the inside, and then the method of attaining the next degree will be revealed.
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 12/14/17

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Pregnant Person

laitman_565.01In the News (Fox News): “The UK government objected to the term ‘pregnant woman’ in a United Nations treaty, claiming the term ‘excludes’ transgender people who give birth and should be replaced with ‘pregnant people’ …

“The move follows the UK government’s position to foster transgender inclusivity. Last week, Prime Minster Theresa May unveiled plans to go ahead with the so-called Gender Recognition Act that allows people to “self-certify” their gender.”

Question: Where is this taking us?

Answer: It is taking us nowhere. What difference does it make how they will be recorded in these documents? It is irrelevant. You deal with a person, not a piece of paper. It may be necessary for some procedural actions, for courts, but in general, they will not gain anything by it.

Question: Either way, will the status of “pregnant person” exist now? And men would be able to be considered pregnant, which is actually possible.

Answer: Of course, they will do everything! But, we must understand that we are now in a particular state, a particular stage in nature’s development when the individual is changing, one’s tastes are changing, and one’s orientation. Everything within a person is changing.

Already, young people do not want to marry and do not want to maintain normal relations between them. What haven’t they tried yet? They would rather buy sex dolls than get a boyfriend or a girlfriend. They generally do anything that comes to mind.

We need to understand that this tendency is natural because we did not correct the individual in time, didn’t give him the right guidance, the right information, as to how he should work with his own nature. That is why they are looking for ways that bring a certain kind of miasmic self-gratification or some kind of new sensation.

Moreover, they demand to be respected, to be acknowledged, to receive special consideration. So a large problem looms for humanity. In the end, all of this will escalate and accumulate into such a condition that society will not be able to bear it and must somehow change it through forceful measures.

Question: In principle, do you look at a person as a person?

Answer: I don’t look at a person. I look at his internal state, at his soul, and it is not dependent on how often he changes his gender or does anything else externally.

Question: Will such a way of relating to each other ever exist in our world?

Answer: I think it will come to replace our present, also revolutionary, period. Humanity is rising above all kinds of differences—gender and others—and will begin to speak about the inner qualities of a person, not about the external state.
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman,” 11/9/17

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New Life #196 – Creating A Relationship As A Couple, Part 2

New Life 196 – Creating A Relationship As A Couple, Part 2
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz


Love is born from mutual investment. Sex reveals additional depth in the communication between partners. Self-awareness and awareness of one’s partner help us to be flexible and accommodate one another. An ideal relationship occurs when two become one and the couple then also unites with society as a whole.
From KabTV’s “New Life #196 – Creating a Relationship as a Couple,” Part 2, 6/9/13

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What Is Love?

laitman_625.03Question: What can a person do if during his entire life he never experienced love?

Answer: It depends for whom. If a person does not feel love for himself, this is some kind of abnormality, because love for ourselves is our nature. If he does not feel love for others, then this is natural and he is a normal, healthy person.

Question: Why do some say in response to the phrase “love your neighbor as yourself”: “I do not love myself very much, so I will not love others very much either”?

Answer: Try to love others the way you love yourself and you will see how much you love yourself. You will suddenly discover that you love yourself more and more every day.

Question: Is love a state, a feeling, or some kind of quality, a force, in a person?

Answer: Love is a feeling when I feel I belong to myself. The force of belonging to yourself is called love.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/13/17

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True Love

laitman_624.04Question: What is love? Is it power, a field, energy?

Answer: It is a force directed from the person outward. The attribute of bestowal, the force of bestowal, is the power of love.

When I value something that is outside of me, higher than me, it is called love for this state, for this desire, or for this person, no matter what we call it.

Question: According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, love is the revelation of love and hate at the same time, unlike in our world, where there can be either love or hate?

Answer: When states of “love” and “hate” exist separately from each other, they are unreal, contrived by us. They are given to us only so we can go through them and reach the real state. It is like the laws of physics: there can’t be minus without plus or plus without minus.

There is no love without hate, and no hate without love. They are built on top of each other, and we use them as states given to us by the Creator.

These are very realistic qualities that we must absorb into ourselves and exist with them both together. In this state I understand all the minuses and pluses in me and in another person. I understand that they were set for us and given to us by the Creator. We put the Creator between us and only then achieve mutual balance in this system: me, the other person, and the Creator between us.

Then, present, past, and future mutually complement each other, as in the system. The state in which I find the complete balance of all opposing properties is called “love.” This is a very special state of the ideal balance of the system.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/6/17

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The Spiritual Component And Earthly Love

Laitman_121Question: How can one correctly add a spiritual component to earthly love between husband and wife?

Answer: It is possible to add a spiritual component between husband and wife only when they understand what they are doing and why they exist.

They must realize that they have a unique opportunity to conduct themselves in all situations in life in such a way that they train on each other in mutual influence. Then they will be able to attain the revelation of the Creator, as it is written: “A husband and wife have, the Shechina between them.”

But only if they really are serious about achieving that goal. Because they must “step on themselves” and help each other.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/6/17

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What Does Kabbalah Say About Love On Earth?

Laitman_910Question: What does a Kabbalist think about love?

Answer: Kabbalists constantly think about love. The question is what exactly does he think about it? Does he wonder whether it exists or not? Does he ask himself what love itself means, what is its definition, what are the boundaries of its existence, what is the level of its manifestation, and what are the conditions under which it manifests and exists?

Can an eternal type of love be reached?

The kind of love that passes is not love. It cannot be anything other than eternal.

Once I gave a lecture to a large audience in Tel-Aviv and I immediately told them that there is no love. At first there was silence but gradually everyone agreed with me.

There is a constant, native, natural love, which is only for the dear and unforgettable me. Within the material framework, this is the only kind of love that is real. It is born and dies together with me, with my “I.”

This is the egoism that exists within me, that develops all the time, and pushes my nose further into myself to see what else can I wish for, get, and bring closer to my dear self. It always asks: how I can love myself even more? This is our egoistic nature. Therefore, self-love is a natural quality of everything that exists.

All material nature in the universe consists of a huge type of egoism that divides into four levels: inanimate, vegetative, animate, and human. These types differ only by the degree of egoism that manifests as love for oneself.

Love on inanimate, vegetative, and animate levels is instinctive and not recognized by the object itself. It does not check how much it loves itself but just satisfies its love.

On the human level love is programmable. Although it remains a love for oneself and for oneself only; nevertheless, it undergoes various stages of development, such as in what way it can be expressed and which forms it can assume. Since a person depends on society, on the ones similar to him, and on the ones opposite to him, his idea of love or how to fulfill and satiate himself changes under the influence of society.

However, in principle this is the same self-love but in even more refined and constantly renewed forms. This is the love that exists in our world including such manifestations of it as a mother’s love for a child, a person’s love for their homeland, and so on. No matter what form of love we are talking about, all of them eventually reflect egoistic love for oneself.

Remark: You dispel all the romantic ideas people have about love.

My Comment: There is no romance here except for minor misconceptions. This is known to everyone including scientists, philosophers, physiologists, and psychologists. In our time, egoism has grown so much that we are especially, acutely aware that there is no love.

Even scientists say that people only get together for two to three years. The normal manifestation of mutuality cannot last between them for a long time since all of it quickly disappears. Our egoism is constantly renewed and it erases all of the past conditions that supported the manifestation of any kind of mutuality, even though it was egoistic or only for my beloved self. This, however, also changes.

Question: So, what is next? Habit? After all, many people live together for years.

Answer: If someone lives together for many years, they are just “dinosaurs.” In our time, no one voluntarily lives in the same family for a long time either because of children or because of the goods and everything else they acquired together.

The fact is that, previously, life expectancy did not exceed forty years and people died before their so-called love ended.
Besides, a man—while choosing a spouse—considered not love but whether the woman could be a housewife, making sure that she was healthy, capable, could cook, and could maintain a house. Therefore, there is no room to talk about love here either.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/6/17

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