Question: What is your advice to young people who are starting a life together with the feeling that everything will be fine for them and that they will live together for a long time, forever?

Answer: It takes a lot of long, even tedious, conversations with each other. Pour out everything you think and so should your partner, like two researchers. Gradually, you will reach a state where you both begin to examine yourselves and one another, and your partner will also examine himself and you.

Then it turns out that life becomes interesting and it becomes a study: how can we change our relationship, make it different somehow, and get closer? What if we do it this way? What if that way? And constantly try to reveal these qualities, feelings, and relationships as vividly as possible.

If people think about this and understand it, then somewhere after fifty or sixty years, this is what happens. That is all. Until then, it is: “If youth only knew, if old age only could.”

Comment: So this turns out to be the golden rule. Let’s hope some kind of change happens.

My Response: The time will come, and people will live like this. But we can already teach them! This is what must be added. We can teach these young ones how to become researchers. We can “age” them through our lessons, so to speak. They can undergo a kind of practicum.

Question: Even before they have joined together? To prepare them for this life?

Answer: Yes, of course. Then they will already know how to act—this way or that.

Question: So you are saying that young people should come to the wedding to unite together already as if they were old people?

Answer: Yes, inside. Of course. Will they discover on their own who they are? No. They must come with experience in communication, psychological communication, so to speak. This will give them confidence that they can overcome all sorts of difficulties in closeness and even turn those difficulties into greater contact.

Comment: Beautiful! We are talking about a scientific laboratory.

My Response: Yes. Oh, how much the world needs this!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 8/12/25

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