Question: Why is it most important for a person to feel that he is loved?

Answer: This is because a person is a social being and we all come from one system called Adam HaRishon in which we existed as one man with one heart, all together in one desire. We were connected to one another and even after we became distanced from each other through the process of evolution, we are still bound together by an inner force.

Where does such a strong influence of the environment on a person come from? It is because in our root, in the very depth of our nature, we are most tightly connected together in one source, in one state, in one desire, although physically distant.

That is how I am made by nature, and therefore it greatly matters to me what others think and say about me. This is true even for small children.

Question: The desire to feel that I am loved is the most important thing for a person in life. Why?

Answer: It is because the influence of the environment on a person is very powerful.

By nature, as an animal, I do not need much, a bit of food and some shelter for my family and children. But to obtain everything else beyond what is necessary for existence, I destroy my life just to gain recognition in the eyes of society—to become loved, respected, wealthy, and intelligent.

I have been working for years to buy a big house, a special car. And why do I need all this? Because it is respected in the eyes of the environment. In other words, I am a slave to my environment.

Question: When a person loves someone, it fills him very much. There is no stronger feeling that penetrates so deeply into a person. Why does he feel good when he experiences love for someone? Why are we made this way?

Answer: The question can be asked differently: why do I have both the need to be loved and the need to love someone? This comes from our nature, that within us there is a desire to feel our relations with the environment, to receive love from them and to love them.

Question: Why is it important to me that I also love them?

Answer: This stems from the upper root. We are created this way and receive an impression from the upper force of nature, which gives birth to us and nurtures us, as well as from the home, from parents, from the family. That is why I also have the desire to love someone.

This is my attitude toward the world, because otherwise I feel that I exist among haters whom I myself hate. There are people who do not feel love even in their own homes, and we see how improperly and badly they grow up. The lack of love that they do not feel from parents, their family, and environment makes them corrupted human beings.

And this comes from nature. We are not creatures that can exist in isolation. We see that even the young animals need maternal love and the help of their pack.

Question: Can a person who has never felt love give love to others?

Answer: No, a person will not be able either to give love or to receive it. Such a person is a very miserable, incomplete being, and it is difficult for him to exist.

Question: Let us imagine that in a hundred years a child will be born to robot parents. They will take care of him and provide him with everything possible, like in a royal palace, except for the feeling of love. What will he be lacking?

Answer: Everything! He will not feel that he is being filled with everything. He will lack the attitude because we come from a system called Adam, and there, in that system, we are all inwardly connected to one another as one body. And if we do not feel any connection between us, then we are lost. Nature will not support us, and we will not be able to exist.
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From the 692^nd conversation New Life 692 “What Is Love?” 2/16/16

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