Question: Why is it that our life is not easy from the beginning? Why do we need all these hardships?

Answer: Problems are necessary to make us clarify what in fact is important in life and then to make it into the goal we pursue. In other words, I have to understand why I live all these years and what I fill each day of my existence with in order to achieve the desirable goal.

We should choose what we want to achieve by the end of our lives and place this image in front of us as a reference. We should make this goal extremely desirable so that we work hard to achieve it and continue thinking about ways of approaching and better understanding it.

In this case, all the work we do won’t require any effort on our side; it’s as if we are little children who run around the room without getting tired, who do not consider their movement to be a hard work. Everything is determined by the importance of the goal.

In order to make the goal important, we have to be a part of a society that helps us shape the priorities that we are currently lacking. At the expense of our surroundings, we overcome our previous interest in useless things. Our environment turns into a vital factor that changes our priorities.

That’s why when we join the group of people that guarantees that we accept certain values, it is enough to become a part of them in order to continue our advancement, discuss things with them, and get inspired by their attitude. In this case, our work on attaining the goal will be very easy.

When choosing a goal, we in fact never pick it by itself; rather, we select the surroundings that help us realize the importance of the goal. Then, our advancement towards our goal will be easy and pleasant.

For example, in order to stay on a diet, one needs a group that values slimness and a healthy lifestyle. In this case, instead of forcing ourselves into observing the diet, we would voluntarily do it. In this case, we won’t have to overcome ourselves. The only thing that we need in order to pursue our goal is joining a new environment that will do the work for us. This is what the patent is about.

People around us will convince us that losing weight is very important and then we’ll easily stay on the diet. It won’t be necessary to fight with ourselves in restricting our food intake. Overcoming is crucial only to connect with the correct surroundings and accept the importance of the task of losing weight from them.

We are constantly using this rule without realizing this fact. All clubs are organized in accordance with this principle: groups that combat obesity, sports clubs, etc. A person gets into a certain environment that explains to him or her the importance of the goal; then one starts aspiring to the same goal, and thus voluntarily follows the rules. In this case, one doesn’t have to overpower oneself.

This explains why when a boss sees that an employee is acting lazy he has to invite specialists who know how to raise the importance of the work, in other words, motivate the employees. When people are enthused, they have energy to work well. If they don’t have a stimulus, nothing can help. In this case, the boss will always have to watch them with a stick in his hands.

An employee will naturally come to the conclusion that it’s better to complete the work instead of getting hit. Again, overcoming is needed not to do the work but to persuade oneself that avoiding potential troubles is far more important. We cannot achieve anything by fighting ourselves. Overcoming is required only to realize the importance of the work we do. It applies to everything and everybody at each given moment of our lives.

Question: Why do we feel that we constantly need to overcome things?

Answer: It happens because we haven’t chosen the goal, nor have we selected the remedies for achieving it. That’s why we get desperate, cry of our powerlessness, get upset… If we knew the goal and were aware of what can inspire us and show us the importance of our activities to the degree that we really aspire to achieve the goal, we wouldn’t have to ever overcome anything at all. We won’t have to work beyond our ability; we’d have as much energy as we need for that. It’s a unique patent.d

Question: Does it mean that we should orient our children to choose a goal at a very early age? Does it mean that if we do so, our child’s life will be easier? Why doesn’t it happen in reality?

Answer: It’s because we don’t know how to educate and bring up ourselves and our children. The essence of any education is to make a person realize and accept the purpose of life and show them how to obtain a huge desire to achieve it with the help of the environment. In this case, our life will become a “vacation,” entertainment.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 5/27/14

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Question: Many children and teenagers dream of becoming famous. Their appearance is extremely important to them. How is this desire born?

Answer: Obviously, these kids include all feasible pleasures into the notion of being a celebrity. We know that food, sex, and family are the basic desires that refer to bodily needs.

They are supplemented by the desires for fame, wealth, and knowledge. The quest for popularity is understandable and specific to our time. Our desires for wealth, fame, and knowledge continually change, but for a young person they are very common and natural. It has always has been; we just don’t realize.

Today’s youth has much wider opportunities. What were they dealing with previously? Becoming a little bit more skillful in their fathers’ crafts? Moving from a village to a city or from a province to a capital? In any case, their opportunities were very limited. Now, it looks like the entire world is in front of them. They think they can embrace the whole world and that they are connected to it.

Question: Can the aspiration for popularity be useful in any way?

Answer: The inclination to reach celebrity status is very common for kids nowadays and we can show them which properties are necessary to achieve fame. The desire to be famous obligates them to work on themselves, change for the better, and reveal new qualities within themselves.

Children attend dancing, drawing, and theater classes in order not to grow up as little animals and to understand that behind each star, there is hard work. Just watch Michael Jackson’s rehearsal videos and you’ll see how much exertion and hard work it takes to reach the lightness that he demonstrated on the stage. There are no stars that just fly upwards, but there are numerous incidences of falling at the start. These issues should be explained to the young generation by the mass media.

Question: Let’s say, your grandson tells you tomorrow that he wants to become famous. You are the wisest grandfather in the world! What field would you advise him to concentrate on?

Answer: In the future, those who are capable of creating good and kind relationships among people will be in huge demand and will be extremely valued by society. I am not talking about virtual relationships; I mean a real system of communication among us that is similar to the one that exists in nature.

Only this profession will really be needed and other occupations will remain only to the extent of meeting immediate human necessities. Those who work in the field of establishing correct relationships, creating the methodology of interconnection among people, and preparing educators in this field will be the most popular and respected in future society. This is what I would tell my grandson.

Question: Can specific, individual talents in painting, dancing, or singing be helpful to society?

Answer: The talents through which one plans to advance and become popular have to allow for self-expression in an enjoyable way.

For that, one has to study psychology, sociology, philosophy, and laws of communication. By expressing him or herself, they will have to help others unite. By doing so, they will fulfill themselves and fulfill others.
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From the program “A New Life” 2/12/14

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Question: We know that motherhood leads to a great change in a woman’s life. What exactly changes in her? What does she have to give up? What new process takes place in a woman when she becomes a mother and what does she have to prepare for?

Answer: A woman who becomes a mother gradually moves from the level of an individual person to a level of a system, which she enters. If previously she felt that she was an individual and not connected to anyone except her home, her parents, and her husband, she feels that she becomes dependent the moment she has a baby; she becomes connected and even captivated by her baby, who is now by her side, obliging her, tying her down, absorbing all her attention, and enslaving her to such an extent that there is nothing more important in the world for her than caring for him.

When I stroll in the park, I see young women sitting on benches with baby carriages speaking to one another. Each one is constantly looking at her baby while speaking to the others: “Perhaps he needs something or perhaps I can do something for him.” This goes on continuously. The baby doesn’t need that much attention, but her motherly nature obliges her to constantly care for him.

Imagine what would happen if we had to post a policeman next to every mother to make sure that she didn’t leave her baby alone. It would be impossible.

But the natural force that awakens in a woman after she gives birth is a great force. It is a force that spurs and gives birth to life. There is no more powerful force that creates dependence, love, connection, and care other than the force that is born in a woman who becomes a mother. It gradually grows weaker later on and takes on other forms because a mother can have more children and has to pay attention to all of them.

Still of all human desires, the dependence of the baby on her and her care for him is above everything else by far. It is because of all the other desires for food, sex, family, wealth, and respect, the desire to care for her baby, to be connected to him, precedes all the other desires and is more important than them all.

I emphasize this because in order to bring humanity to a state of harmony with nature and on which the positive advancement of humanity depends to reach a bright future, we have to use this force. It is because it is natural and we don’t have to look for anything artificial.

We only need one thing: to bring mothers together and explain to them in a simple and convincing manner that the integral method we recommend to the world is the best thing and is the only way that can promise their children a good, safe, and healthy future.

We should explain to every mother, for the good of her child, what the system of connections we have to establish in society, what we all have to prepare so that her baby will have a wonderful world to grow and develop in as every mother dreams of.

We don’t need to convince them any other way other than to simply explain to every mother what will create the best world for her baby and what we have to do so that her baby will have the right environment. We will not need to do anything else.
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From the program “A New Life” 5/15/14

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Question: It turns out that all the overcoming is in the desire that will win in me?

Answer: If my parents punish me, forcing me to do homework, my desire to avoid the blows becomes stronger than the desire to rest, and I go and do all that is required.

We always act according to our desire. The only question is whether it is my desire that obliges me to act or someone else’s desire. If this desire arises directly in me, then I realize it with pleasure and it does not require me to overcome anything.

If I see that the desire in not mine, then it is called coercion. In the end, I also perform the required act on my own accord by making the calculation that otherwise I would be punished or have no money for food. But this is someone else’s desire, not my true desire, that forces me to act, and that is why I do this without joy.

The action itself does not contain any overcoming! I always do everything according to the desire: either emerging in me or that presses and forces me. But, overcoming by myself is in obtaining good desires that are useful for me. So, I purposefully absorb them from the environment.

For example, my parents wanted me to become a musician. And so my father took me to watch movies about musicians. He wanted me to be inspired by their life, glory, and world fame, and he also wanted me to want to be like them. But the only thing I remembered from this, is that eventually they all ended their lives and died because I was a child of 6 – 7 years old.

Using these examples, my parents wanted to instill the desire to study music in me, but I did not absorb it and suffered much from studying at a music school. This shows that overcoming applies to a person who understands that he needs it. He has no choice, and thus he overcomes his original desire and acquires a new one.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 5/27/14

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Question: Why do people like to recollect past events, even if they were tragic?

Answer: If an event recedes into the past, it is no longer perceived as a physical action, it leaves behind only the emotional experience. Moreover, a person now has an opportunity to understand the past and feel it deeply.

People love to read stories or listen to songs that remind them of past trials, to share memories about what they went through in Stalin’s or concentration camps that they miraculously managed to survive.

They reminisce about their unrequited love, about separation from loved ones, namely, about various dramas of their lives. But later, it is all mitigated, since this is how our life works. The whole life is a theater. This is the realization that we come to at the end of our life, we acquiesce, we see that it is indeed so, and therefore we view life’s entire traveled path as a theatrical performance.

We are ready to stop worrying about the past, having understood that it had to happen exactly so. The play is over, the curtain falls, and this life comes to an end.

Theater, therefore, has much to teach us. If it is a truly good production, we are ready to pay high prices for tickets, and we get ready for the outing to the theater as for a special event.

Throughout the two hours of the play, a whole period of life unfolds in front of us along with its ensuing moral. We see life’s situations that we can learn from and draw personal conclusions, imagining ourselves in the place of the characters. The theater has a very high educational potential, the only question is: How it can be used correctly?
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 5/22/14

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Question: If the fuel gauge needle in a car goes below the red line, the car has run out of gas and the car stops. Has humanity similarly crossed the red line of the balance with nature, which has caused the spread of the Ebola virus?

Answer: The Kabbalists already said a hundred years ago that we are in a situation like this, that we must begin to think about the general balance of the Earth, and first and foremost, that of human society.

The lack of balance began at the end of the 19^th century. This is even though we still didn’t think then that the world was becoming so global and mutually connected. We were never engaged in the world as a single system in which everyone is mutually connected. It will not help me if I would be stronger and richer than the rest. Everything should be calculated based on the entire great human family.

Kabbalists write that the whole world has become one family. And this means that I must be concerned for everyone, like in a family. Already at the beginning of the 20^th century it was necessary to be concerned about this, that on the Earth there would be one government, one health department, and all of the other governmental agencies.

All of these governmental agencies and the world government must exist in order to take care of the whole world as a single family, and to teach all of us egoists how to live within it.

Just as parents educate their children and don’t let brothers fight with each other; the whole of humanity, too, in a natural way, quarrels with itself, but the government, like a concerned parent, represses these conflicts and balances the situation as much as possible: sometimes with a shout, sometimes with a light spanking, and sometimes with a candy.

The main thing is to teach people to gradually advance them towards conscious balance. We have a need for this kind of only for this purpose, not for anything else.

The necessity for this kind of government was awakened at least a hundred years ago, but we are late in creating it. We don’t understand what is required of us. We exist in a single system that links all of the governments and all of the nations with their borders and protectionism. This is because no nation wants to let go of its interests and each one holds onto its chair.

So whose fault is it that our world doesn’t live as one family? It is the governments! First of all, they are interested in mutual separation and political games so that there will be enough power, money, and control in their possession. For this they maintain the international conflicts in which each one shows its ego and demonstrates its importance.

All of the peoples suffer while the governments celebrate. We must create a united nations, but not as it exists today, composed of egoistic governments that conduct political games and empty talk.

There must be one government in the world that will teach everyone how to unite according to the laws of “one family,” how to balance themselves and attain mutual cooperation and equality all around the Earth. Then there won’t be any Ebola or any other problems.

But as long as we are not doing this, we will suffer just as the prophets described would happen in the end of days; we will endure not only epidemics, but also other blows from the unbalanced system that we ourselves have brought into imbalance.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 10/19/14

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There is nothing stronger than the connection between a man and a woman who have become close to one another. From childhood, each of us dreams of finding love, of being loved, and of being embraced by warmth on all sides. We look for this motherly tenderness all our life.

It makes no difference who you are and what you are and whether you are young or old, naive or experienced, married or single, the need for a relationship is common to all of us. The role of love and its influence is greater than anything else. Problems in the family are expressed at work, in our health, and in other aspects of our lives. There is nothing stronger than this connection, or the desire for it when it collapses. All our life revolves around love.

Let’s first draw away from the details and try to look at it from a distance, from a bird’s eye view.

By nature a person has to be part of an environment. Our global environment is the earth where we live and the physical conditions of the environment. All this enables us to grow and develop.

Our life begins from a tiny seed in the mother’s womb. Here in the safest place nature has prepared for man, he has total support. He doesn’t have to do anything and all the necessary systems operate on him.

After he is born, the baby reaches the loving arms of his parents and relatives who take care of him. Being helpless, he totally depends on them. Thus love continues its role from nature’s protection to the protection of his family.

Gradually he grows and learns to walk, as if wrapped in a coat of general concern that is based on the laws of the world and of human society. As he grows, he receives special warmhearted treatment.

As he grows, he needs an even stronger and more reliable environment. After all, he encounters new problems. It seems that he has become free and independent, as if he doesn’t need anyone, and doesn’t depend on anyone, but in fact it is not so. It isn’t by chance that our ancestors said that after a man leaves the home of his parents, he has to stick to his wife, which means to have a family so that the relations in it will be strong and enduring in order to take care of his offspring.

Nature has imprinted different patterns of behavior in different animals: Some connect randomly and the female takes care of the offspring, while others raise their offspring together. At the same time, we humans are obliged to keep the connection between a couple for many years in order to raise independent children, at least for the first twenty years of their life until they have their own families.

Thus our connection and our relationships have to be long term by nature and we have to work on building the continuation of the motherly womb in the form of a crib, a kindergarten, school, a home, and a family.

We have to create all this for our children ourselves so we need a good, reliable, and versatile connection that will allow a couple and their relatives to complement one another. Then by uniting, they create the right environment for the new family and the babies that are born into it.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 7/22/14

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It is impossible to ignore the hidden underpinnings for modern trends, the ideological component of the great human evil that refuses to return to the right course of nature. The world leaders do not need families or procreation. They are not interested in population growth and don’t need billions of “extra” people.

Thus, the policy of restricting the world population in the next generation is being implemented. The elites around the world don’t see the decline in world population as a problem, even if it is cut by 50 percent or even by 80 to 90 percent. The ten percent that are left will be enough to provide everything they need to live.The human ego is ready to disintegrate the institution of marriage, and they are leading us to that by the media, education, culture, and so on. These methods are successful in widely disseminating a new world order.

Therefore, it is not surprising that we will encounter strong opposition if we begin to talk about the correction of man, starting with the reconstruction of the family, including its role in procreation. Many will try to stop us.

Still, I hope that the hostile approach that has led to a disrespectful attitude toward the family and everything it involves is a passing phenomenon. After all, the growing crisis also hurts the elites that actually manage this trend behind the scenes. Then, they will feel that they must change their approach.

Today, they find it beneficial to support this trend so that there will be as few families as possible and as few children as possible, so that the world population will be decreased as soon as possible. However, with time, when the crisis reaches them, it will make them see things differently.If we speak about the state of Israel, however, nothing stands in our way here. There are no obstacles and no open negative attitude. Of course, we must act where we are given the chance.

It is with regard to this issue that we will face no resistance. Part of the nation believes in family values that stem from habits or a traditional approach. We remember and appreciate our parent’s home where all the relatives would gather under the same roof. We remember the neighborhood, our childhood friends, and all this is a good basis for this matter.

We must rehabilitate that tradition, which has not as yet been forgotten, and make it again a part of our culture. Use it in art and bring the concept of the family back to life. I suppose that it must be a kind of a national mission that leads to a variety of ways to support it, whether in art, movies, books or stories that emphasize the value of togetherness, love, and good parenting. We must show people the beauty in family relations that provide everyone with strong support. We must present this question assertively to the government that doesn’t offer enough support to young couples with regard to housing, maternity leave, day care, financial benefits, and so on. This issue must become a matter of national concern and should be regarded as a general national problem. We must encourage every man and woman to take on this mission.

We must bring examples of successful couples and produce TV programs that raise the subject and provide information on this issue. We should open clubs where parents and children can spend time together and encourage them to spend the weekend out in nature. It is especially important to help mothers on whom most of the burden of taking care of young children falls during the first years.

Society, the state, and the government must see the issue of general support as a national project, taking into account all the implications it may have. Thus, we will set a fine example for the entire world where the opposite trend is now evident.

I don’t only see the correction of the family in that, but the correction of the entire world. After all, we can implement good family relations through which we will teach young people in every aspect in life. The embryo is surrounded by his mother. The baby lies in a crib. The toddler is surrounded by relatives. The young child also has the supportive environment of kindergarten and school. Thus, a young couple should be surrounded by a supportive atmosphere that empowers them and assists them with dedicated care, even more than during childhood. After all, this is a difficult situation, and every family has its own particular problems.

First, we must establish a special environment by educating and taking care of young people and young couples. If we don’t follow this direction, the situation will continue to deteriorate until there will be so few people left that we will not be able to sustain the nation and keep the connection between them.

In other words, the issue of the family is a matter of great concern with regard to the state’s security, so we shouldn’t adopt the new global trends regarding this issue. We must understand that we are in a special situation, so indifference, disrespect, and intentional acts of destruction on the government’s part are simply unacceptable and a very dangerous situation.
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From the program “A New Life” 7/22/14

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Genuine beauty of life, warmth, love, support, and a sense of security, all this comes to us from the mother, then from the family, then from our loved ones, and after that, from the environment, we build ourselves. We strengthen this environment, having once entered it as young couples, and secure it for our children.

All generations: grandparents, mothers and fathers, children, and grandchildren, all connect with each other, together forming the “fabric” of mutual agreement. In this manner we come to unity, to a feeling of wholeness and harmony, which liberates us from all misfortunes and problems. Moreover, it allows us to understand how to structure the entire human society correctly, within a country and in the world.

In the creation of a harmonious family, I see the recovery of a human being. And in order to sow this seed, we need a fertile soil: a caring and loving environment. Then let us all together start to “till the soil,” to learn how to build a society where we would feel good, on which we could lean in order to create strong families and to mutually support each other.

We will find everything here: confidence in the present and the future, health, education, culture, and good relationships. Here, everyone will be well and happy, because this form of human interaction is the closest one to nature.

The family is most closely adjacent to the central point, from which we evolved to become human beings and to build the rest of the circles more and more widely, ultimately embracing the entire world.

Only in this way will we succeed in handling all the challenges of modern times: the rehabilitation of a family will stimulate us to change other areas as well. We will start, at last, to make contact with our souls, to smile at each other with our hearts, and after that, we will live in a new way. A true bond with a beloved person will help each of us to extend threads of connection toward others.

Without this, we are flawed. This is why I wish for all of us to avoid theft – not to steal from one another the warmth, which a mother once bestowed upon us. We can maintain the fire in that hearth so it will warm our life’s partner, our kids, close and distant people, everyone without exception. Therein lies the secret of our common happiness.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life,” 7/22/13

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Comment: In the past there used to be a strong unity of the people during times of war; today on television and in the newspapers clashes are constantly happening between the right and left despite the fact that a war is going on [in Israel] and it would be desirable to unite.

Answer: I think that no appeals will help unification. We simply must explain to people what their task is with the help of workshops and roundtables, otherwise nothing will get done.

Comment: But the people don’t like to hear about their mission, about their task.

Answer: Do they want to continue to fight? In my opinion, the present action in Gaza convinces us that there is no solution. Wars will occur more often. If they were once every ten years before this, now they will return every year and a half. Our neighbors recover very quickly.

Comment: This means that we must conclude that the solution of this problem is irrational.

Answer: The solution is not irrational. The unity of humanity into a single unified system will influence the surrounding world and us for the better. What is irrational about that?

We are in a closed system that will begin to exist in internal harmony. And this is natural; all physical, chemical, and other processes teach us about the correctness of such a state.

Our bodies exist in the same harmony even though it is composed of different organs that oppose each other. But there is a system that organizes the functioning of the body in an adaptive way, with homeostasis, with inner balance, and manages it. We must have that kind of homeostasis between us. For despite the multitude of peoples, civilizations, and cultures, all of humanity is in itself a single system.

The Jews are the same group of people who were the first to understand and recognize the nature of this system, the first to accept the law of unity, “and you shall love your neighbor,” the first in the gigantic laboratory called “humanity” who need to come to this and through themselves bring it to all the others.

Question: The idea is that it is necessary to believe this?

Answer: Do not believe it! Begin to act this way and you will see that this is so. And if you don’t want to, then life will force you. So why suffer for nothing?

We must talk about this to our stubborn and stiff-necked people, organize roundtables for them, explain many times in all kinds of ways the essence of our task and try to bring them to such a state where once they sit around the table, they will begin to feel that some kind of unique creative force will truly be revealed between us. With its help we can build a new structure of the nation and the people.

We must constantly and patiently explain this to the people. Again and again! This is the process of education.
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From KabTV’s “Talk on the Current Situation in Israel” 7/24/14

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