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When one elevates the aspiration for bestowal, he enters exile and sees how far away he is from the quality of bestowal. A realization arises of the lack of desires to bestow, which the Creator then corrects and fills.
To acquire a Soul (Land of Israel), one must acquire its great desires in exile (Egypt) and then correct them—only then does one merit filling them with upper light, the Creator’s revelation.
Only after coming out of egoism, “for one’s sake,” Egypt, can a person study Torah, how to act in bestowal for the Creator’s sake. Since under egoism’s power, he works for Pharaoh, egoism, and cannot belong to the Creator.
Hence the main event in spiritual development is exit from egoism.
One must believe that all disturbances are from above, in order to make room for attempts to turn to the Creator with a request to replace the will to receive with the will to bestow.
Egoism, the Creator’s envoy, awakens us.
Only when one becomes convinced that redemption lies in acting for the Creator’s sake, does he turn to the Creator for the will to bestow.
The only way to move from the still to the vegetative level is through unity in the ten. Each one of us is still, but if we influence each other correctly, we can become a plant. Nine friends with the force of the Creator work on each person in the ten as if the Creator is working on us.
Our job is to want to leave the still level, reach the Master of the program, change His decision—force Him to manage us differently. The only way to change something in oneself is by turning to the Creator, forcing Him to change us, as it’s written: “My sons have defeated Me.”
The whole program of our behavior is embedded in us by the Creator, and we feel it as our nature. In order to feel it separately from ourselves, imposed on us, we must try to break free from it, act in the the opposite way— the way of bestowal and unity.
Then we feel the essence of our program—egoism.
From Twitter, 4/13/19
Answer: The action is very simple: all my thoughts and feelings should have one basis—the Creator. He creates, enlivens, and places everything that I think and feel in me. Whatever happens to me, whatever manifests in me, the Creator does it all.
Therefore, it is advisable to constantly be in the thought that “there is none else besides Him.” If I aspire to the same thoughts and feelings of the friends and try to unite all our hearts and mind, then we connect all our efforts together into a single massive common effort, one big heart and one big head in which we want to feel the Creator as the source, as the root cause of our feelings and our mind.
If we, in such a way insistently demand that He reveal Himself to us as the cause of our thoughts and feelings, then we very quickly come to a state where, with the help of the upper light, the Creator begins to manifest in us.
From the Daily Kabbalah lesson in Russian 2/11/19
New Life #208 – Parenting Teenagers, Part 1
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz
They key to parenting teenagers is to put them in a good, round environment. Parents need to find external sources of influence that will be respected in the eyes of the teen like a big brother or a slightly older friend. It is best if the environment holds the teen’s positive boundaries. The parent must not play with the child’s trust and must make every effort not to seem evil in his eyes. There is no punishment. The parent gives the message “I am with you.” The youth must feel a sense of shame that arises from within. This is how he will learn to escape from shame and attain dignity.
From KabTV’s “New Life #208 – ParentingTeenagers, Part 1,” 7/12/13
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Question: How can I tell when I deny the Creator’s governance? Can it bring me material or spiritual harm?
Answer: You cannot know this. If you could know, you would never exit egoism, you would do everything to get the maximum egoistic reward for yourself and would harm yourself spiritually by doing so.
You cannot obtain this knowledge until you begin to act altruistically, above yourself.
From the Daily Kabbalah lesson in Russian, 11/25/18