Question: It seems that men have the quality of annulling themselves in relation to another for the sake of a goal inherent in them by nature. We see this in units such as military special forces and so on. Women do not have this quality. Women are individualists. Is it because they have different goals?

Answer: Yes, they have different goals and different methods of achieving the goal. Nature is very sharply divided into two parts: male and female. This division proceeds from the highest point from which everything is created, to the lowest element where everything is divided into plus and minus.

Two opposing forces, the power of bestowal and the power of reception, work at all levels, in all worlds. Therefore we must take this into account when implementing the methodology of spiritual ascent to the next dimension. But for men it is somewhat different than for women.

For men, it means joining a group, studying together, and sharing a common striving toward the light, toward the goal.

For women, it is the individual help of each woman to men. They practically cannot be connected with each other. They create something like an association among themselves, but this association is nothing more than the joint exercise of assistance and support to men.

Men can’t move forward without it. It’s not just something secondary.

Question: Are women more characterized by external relations?

Answer: Yes. The inner connection appears only later, when absolutely everyone comes together as a single image of a man and a single image of a woman—Adam and Eve.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Does the Creator exist?” 5/9/11

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In the News (Time): “Another new study has found that women who make more money than their men are more likely to be cheated on.

“The study … examined 18 to 28 year olds who were living together or married more than a year. (The cohort, it turns out, most likely to be outearning men.) It found that men who were completely dependent on their wives’ incomes were five times likelier to cheat than those who contributed the same amount to the household finances.”

Question: Is one a consequence of the other? After all, a woman should offer a man her desires and push him to develop so that he does not remain a child carried away through playing games. Would it turn out that by doing these things for him, she neutralizes this natural process?

Answer: Yes. Firstly, he feels like a boy next to her and boys love to play pranks. Secondly, in such cases he feels his inadequacy and wants to have a woman who is not above him, but the other way around, and therefore, he cheats. That is, he must somehow compensate for himself as a man.

Question: But he himself consciously chooses this path. And then he wants to compensate?

Answer: It is convenient for him actually. Maybe he is an underdeveloped adult and there are a lot of such individuals among men. In addition, a man of our world does not see a woman as a serious partner. He sees in her what serves him.

Moreover, if he treats her as a continuation of his mother, then one technically cannot cheat on one’s mother because one’s mother must understand and accept everything. Subconsciously, this sits very deeply in him and therefore he does not feel his sin. There is a certain bravado and even frankness in this. At the same time, women very rarely brag about their lovers to each other, although today’s world is quite different.

But still, a woman is drawn to connection and constancy. According to her nature, she enjoys a permanent partner and for a man it is the other way round. Here, on the part of nature there is a huge problem for which we need to compensate and this can be done only by a spiritual connection between them.

A physical connection without a spiritual one will not be able to create a family or a normal connection, nothing. Partners meet and separate. And if we attach a spiritual connection to this, then both a man and a woman will be mutually satisfied. They will see their physical connection as only the basis for the spiritual one and will successfully coexist together.
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From KabTV’s “Close Up. Siamese Twins” 9/19/10

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Comment: Michael is asking: “You said that there can be no love without hate. What if there is no hatred, but I really want to love?”

My Response: This is a big problem. It means that you need to look for such shortcomings in love (within yourself!) that prevent you from loving.

Question: Does it mean that I myself put these barriers for myself?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: It seems to me that I love.

My Response: No. You do not love. You must constantly take care to increase love, and this is not easy.

Question: So, can it only happen on the wave of hatred?

Answer: Something like this. Yes.

Question: Then should you and I be expecting a great love right now? Today, at this time?

Answer: When we reach true hatred and love is revealed above it, it will, of course, be a great liberation of humanity.

Comment: But an ordinary person does not think so. He lives in this flow of love and lives in it.

My Response: But as soon as he touches some kind of love, some kind of good relationship, he immediately spoils them because he is not ready. He has not prepared hatred, rejection, criticism, and everything so negative to constantly pile love above it.

Question: How can you increase love all the time or how can you maintain it all the time?

Answer: Agree to fight with a certain frequency.

Question: How? According to a schedule? That is, for example, do we fight on Friday?

Answer: It could be. I am being completely serious! There cannot be one without the other. To tease each other somehow, to poke a little, something like that. We do it subconsciously anyway.

It is natural. Nature itself pulls and pushes us to this in order for us to develop contact with each other.

Question: How can we control so that we do not fall into this hatred at this moment?

Answer: Keep the correct goal, the correct goal is connection, embracing and getting closer to each other. However, for the sake of this, we still need to step back a little, look at the other somehow. This is, in principle, a game.

Question: We were talking about a married couple. What about nations and parties?

Answer: Everything is arranged in this way. If we correctly develop married couples and then society, let’s say in the classroom, at school, which is completely not yet understood by our teachers, and then at at work, then we will constantly take into account these periods when we should be distancing from each other, and then coming closer to each other, distancing – coming closer.

Question: Can we say criticism and rising above criticism?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do countries also exist in the same way?

Answer: Absolutely in everything. This is a reciprocating motion.

Question: What about the universe, is it the same?

Answer: It also goes along with the pulse. Our pulse works in the same way. Our heart, and our brains, and absolutely everything works in such an alternating state.

Question: Will this be the correspondence with nature?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Will love be growing all the time? Will there be a connection?

Answer: You can call one state negative, the other positive, or “one” and “two,” no matter how, but they must constantly alternate with each other, like day and night.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/14/22

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Question: Some countries have adopted a law stating that a woman who has three or more children is considered to be a mother of many children and is supposed to devote herself to the family completely.

Why are there periods when the birth rate exceeds the death rate and vice versa when the death rate exceeds the birth rate?

Answer: It depends not on the conditions of our world, but rather on the period when a certain correction takes place in souls. Since our egoism grows and cannot remain in such a huge size in every person, it is like this person has to be divided into a few people. Then each of these people will have less egoism and they will be able to correct it. It is like in the example when we want to lift a trunk of a tree and since it is too heavy we call one more person and one more.

Question: Does it mean that legislation to stimulate the birth rate will not help if the souls will not have a necessity to divide the egoism into a great quantity of parts? It can still correct itself on its own.

Answer: Yes, of course. But on the other side, at the corporeal level, we have to act as usual following the principles accepted in the society. This way we will act on the spiritual principle as well. If people, based on their egoistic interests, want to have more children it will lead in the end to a greater amount of egoism that can be corrected at any given moment of time. Therefore adoption of such laws is still a beneficial thing.

For our egoism today we still lack a few billion people and the correct education. Then we would quickly be able to correct all universal egoism and come to the good state.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Outlaw” 12/19/10

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Comment: Scientists have established that a woman’s brain changes after childbirth, more gray matter appears in it. A woman becomes smarter, more mature, and, as if, moves to some different degree.

My Response: Of course. It is such a hormonal explosion, an impulse to the inner growth of consciousness and confidence! The world is becoming more understandable and closer to her.

Therefore, there is a big difference between a woman who has given birth and a woman who has not given birth.

All the stages that a woman goes through in her development from the state of a child, a girl, and a woman to the state of conception and childbirth are ascents on spiritual degrees. By giving birth, she rises to the level of Bina, the level of understanding.

Bina comes from the word “Havanah” (understanding). A woman becomes more mature, more confident, and riper in her development and attitude to the world and to life. The inner basis of what she did not have before and what men lack, appears in her.

All this is precisely the result of the process of childbirth, nursing, and upbringing. That is, the mother, who goes through all these states, becomes, so to say, the basis of nature, the basis of the world. The man messes about, plays pranks, and the woman becomes more mature, serious, and sensible.
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From KabTV’s “Close -Up. Unwanted Children” 11/28/10

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Question: A man is looking for a mother in a woman-companion. But still, she is not his mother. How can she see a man in him even if she understands his nature?

Answer: This is becoming more and more of a problem in our society, and therefore, we see what is happening with the family.

But a man subconsciously chooses a woman who is somewhat like his mother; he wants to see her like that. It is established in him from childhood in a sense of security, support, and love, which may even be unrequited from the side of a child to his mother. He is just sure that it will be with him all the time—a feeling of something big, warm, and reliable.

Comment: But when he becomes an adult, a problem arises, because a woman does not want to be big, warm, and reliable.

My Response: Then he does not need her. Why does he need her? Today everything is bought: cooked food, pre-made products, and women too.

The fact is that we need to understand the basis and teach children in schools what kind of mutual support, mutual complement, compensation, and replenishment they need.

One person without an opposite partner is still without validity, imperfect, and, in general, unhappy. It is true that he compensates for this with all kinds of entertainment provided by society as he gets lost in them. But as time passes, old age approaches. I do not see people who would be happy to grow old alone.
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From KabTV’s “Close up. Siamese Twins” 9/19/10

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Question: Today, outrageous cases where a father abuses a child and the mother helps him in this have become more frequent. Why is this happening?

Answer: This is a result of the growing egoism that outgrows all boundaries, which we do not know how to use.

Throughout the history of humanity, there were even entire cultures whose development resulted in not entirely natural processes. While our egoism was developing in moderation, there were of course all kinds of abnormalities in it, but not as much as now.

Today our egoism has outgrown the border of ordinary earthly society and is beginning to develop upward until we must necessarily correct it spiritually. We have outgrown earthly development.

The current eruptions of egoism already need spiritual correction and this is why we are at such a transitional stage. In the near future, we will have to understand that we need to do something with ourselves, society, family, science, culture, technology, and ecology. But we do not yet know what to do.

We are gradually coming to the conclusion that we have exhausted all our reasonable resources to compensate for our egoism and we cannot work with it as before. We cannot find any compensating forces, intimidation, persuasion, or education for our egoism that will continue to work.

Here, the wisdom of Kabbalah comes to our aid. It reveals to us new forces that can actually be a means of correcting our current egoism and not only correcting it, but bringing it to perfection.

I am sure that in the near future we will reveal this system. People will come to the wisdom of Kabbalah and see that everything is ready within it. Kabbalists have prepared everything for their use and for their benefit: “Please, you can make yourself, your family, and your children happy, make the world ecologically clean and see much more than you see today.”

Question: Were Kabbalists waiting for this moment to reveal their methodology to everyone? Do people now have to realize themselves at this level through all kinds of connections?

Answer: There is no escape because our egoism will force us. It will cause us such suffering with its lack of compensation that we will be forced to find this remedy, and then we will come to Kabbalah.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up, Siamese Twins” 11/7/10

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Question: As a rule, after giving birth, a woman goes through a reassessment of values. Despite being an egoist, is she now focusing on some other element that, in principle, exists outside of her?

Answer: Yes, in this she assumes upon herself a certain function of the Creator. She is giving birth.

Question: Is this the reason that for many women the period of revaluation of values is a difficult one?

Answer: Yes, depression and very serious conditions can take place here, but all this is due to the hormonal restructuring of the body. As a result, there is a very serious internal process of growth and maturation, and it cannot be substituted with anything.

It is the function of childbearing, development, upbringing, and care that is the function of the Creator. From the structure of the spiritual system, we see that a woman in this state is Bina, i.e., the function that is above us. Through Bina, the Creator influences us. Therefore, we call it mother nature.

There is no substitute for this and, of course, men are disadvantaged here in many ways. Only a complete connection, the correct interaction of a man and a woman can compensate for a man what he will never be able to achieve by himself.
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From KabTV’s “Close up. Unwanted Children” 1/2/11

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Question: Why are diseases transmitted more often through the maternal side rather than through the paternal one?

Answer: In theory, this is how it should be because it is through the maternal side that everything is transmitted from person to person. The father only gives information, and the mother lays all the foundations of the material organism.

In Kabbalah, we study that the basis of reproduction, birth, and development of a child in our world or at the next degree on the spiritual level comes from Malchut, and this is the female part. Therefore, naturally, all problems, diseases, and especially all qualities are transmitted mainly from the mother. And much less from the father.

Alternately, in both the father and mother, there are also a father and a mother, an inner male and an inner female part. The male part from the father and the male part from the mother are joined together into the male part. The female part from the father and the female part from the mother, into the female part. Together they give their influence on the future fetus. This is stated in Kabbalah, but is already mentioned also in the sciences, such combinatorics.

This determines the sex of the child, its internal properties, its health, and illness.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. The Philadelphia Experiment” 10/24/10

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Question: When we go beyond the limits of material existence, should our development stop?

Answer: It should stop, but, in principle, by itself it is infinite. In Kabbalah, we study another additional stage of our development that is available to us.

With the help of Kabbalah, we can reveal our next existence, so to speak. Just as our stay on Earth ends after 70 years of life, so the unfolding spiritual existence ends with 125 degrees of spiritual development.

Then there is some other line that we do not perceive, but we see that this line exists, and, as Kabbalists say, it is also moving away. It will become clear to us only when we begin to approach it.

Now humanity has developed to the condition where we ask about the meaning of life, in fact, about the border of the volume in which we exist: “And what is beyond its border? There must be something.”

Nature is infinite, continuous, eternal, beyond time, space, and movement, we reveal this even with the help of our sciences. Therefore, we cannot say that there is a border somewhere and that is it. No.

Even our minds and our feelings are not connected to our bodies. What does it all transfuse into, pass into? It means that there is a transformation of one kind to another.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Is Frankl Right?” 8/8/10

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