Question: My wife also studies Kabbalah, and I can say with confidence that we look at spirituality in completely different ways, as if we were from different planets. What is the method of unification in female and male tens and what should the effort of one toward the other be?
Answer: I think that it is necessary to proceed as it is.
I would like only one thing: that women do not imitate everything that men do. Even when it comes to a women’s ten, you should not try to do the same as the men, but as much as you can. Simply engage in mutual support.
Still, Malchut and Keter are two opposite properties of creation, therefore, the same method cannot be successful for both. After all, we see in our world how women are different in everything.
The fact that nowadays they are trying to artificially make men and women absolutely equivalent—I do not say “equal” but “equivalent”—this, of course, is completely wrong. We do not take into account our internal structure, psychology, way of thinking, in general, everything that is in a man and in a woman.
We believe that by destroying the differences, we will become equal and will look at it as great progress. This is not progress.
When we try to destroy nature in its natural manifestations, it always ends in big losses. We already see this in the young generation. Some more time will pass, everything will be revealed, and humanity, as usual, will stumble upon its mistakes and begin to somehow turn itself back.
In Kabbalah, it is absolutely clear that the difference between the male and female nature should naturally manifest itself in our advancement.
The Torah does not describe the history of people, but our path, the embodiment of the upper light in the ego at a certain stage of its development.
We go through the same stages in our spiritual movement. For example, the path of Egyptian captivity is existence in our egoism, exiting it, etc. There is a difference between male and female movements everywhere, although they go in parallel. We do not see the replacement of one by the other or equality anywhere.
We are not equal. There is nothing we can do about it. It is unnecessary. On the contrary, we must further explore the difference between us so that everyone can maximally realize their mission in the nature that is given to them.
Most importantly, do not copy what men have and do not do the same because even this is reached with difficulty, artificially. It is necessary to approach everything much more wisely.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 2/13/19