Question: Suppose a business owner hired a CEO to manage his company. The CEO is a qualified manager, a specialist, but the business owner constantly interferes with his work, monitors and controls him, thereby preventing him from managing. It turns out that this person is not able to perform his duties. What can he do in this situation?

Answer: It’s necessary to invite the business owner to a team meeting. “We don’t seem to be able to solve a problem and ask that you take part in today’s meeting; it’s very important to us. We need your opinion.” Thus, you pull him into the team, make him your partner in decision making so that he doesn’t command you, dictate what to do, but listens to you and joins the team.

A team has to be closely knit. Employees must create such an environment between themselves in which he will not be able to shout but will have to show himself as an agreeable, decent man, as their teammate. He literally falls under their spell: he will sit with them at the shared table, will take the same sandwiches and cup of tea, and will be simple in his communication, maintaining a conversation in the same tone like everyone else. Thus, he will be drawn into a kind warm relationship with everyone else.
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From KabTV’s “Professional Secrets” 2/8/13

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Question: There is the concept “motivation” that means the inner desires of a person. And there is the concept ”influence,” which is when we influence a fellow worker to awaken different kinds of desires in him. In any case, where does the motivation of the workers and managers need to come from: the inside or the outside?

Answer: It should come not from the workers or the managers, but from the experts in the study of integral education who work for this company and understand what more they can do in order to create fulfillment within a team. Man needs to feel a reward not at the end of the month when he receives a paycheck, but directly while he is working.

“I work together with everyone. Interesting events are set up for us, candies are distributed during work, presents are sent to my wife and children,” etc.

All of these are small things. But together with this, a person feels warmth, feels reward. For him, work turns into a continuation of the family. Since the family is mine, I am prepared to give to it! I work for its sake! And the more I work, the more pleasure I receive from my giving to it. And even by chopping away at myself! It has an additional effect, meaning, the effect of self-sacrifice. There is something like this in a person, especially in Russia.

But one needs to use this with extreme caution, delicately, so that it creates these fulfillments and abundance in a person so that he will appreciate the work thanks to its inner feeling that would attract a person and connect him to a place. It would give him motivation to feel that he works in a family and for the sake of the family. Maybe it’s a false feeling, but if it appears, then the person doesn’t obstruct his fellow workers, doesn’t ruin the society’s equipment, saves electricity, etc.

Suddenly we discover these reservoirs and opportunities in it that we don’t even need to force him to save or do something else according to instructions. It won’t work that way!

And as if here, everything is done automatically. The main thing is to awaken this motivation in a person, this feeling that he works in the environment just like he does at home! This feeling invites huge resources.
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From KabTV’s “Professional Secrets” 2/6/13

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Question: Will all the aspirations disappear in the integral society? I doubt if anyone will want to manage or to take on an important project.

Answer: On the contrary, there will be the option of mutual completion, and there will be no need to aspire to be a manager. The fact that I aspire to advance doesn’t mean that it is better. When there is unity and integral support, there is the annulment of the gaps between different positions.

Then, we all work as one team. Notice what happens in the family when everyone worries about everyone. After all, a small child in the family is more important than the grownups. He manages the family! He determines what is important in the family. The family works for him and first and foremost provides everything that he needs!

Truly the right team is “round,” not a “pyramid.” Although there is a section in the form of a pyramid, it is only in the professional sense and not more than that.

What I can do is higher, and what the other can do is lower. But in the company, we are all equal, and the manager is the one who knows how to manage. However, everyone obeys him gladly!
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From KabTV’s “Professional Secrets” 2/6/13

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We must understand that the future is on our hands. We are the ones who determine it. If we sit idly, nothing good will happen. We mustn’t think about ourselves; we must worry about how to bring the method of correction to people and begin fulfilling it.

The dissemination, itself, is actually the fulfillment. It is because a person changes—his thoughts and desires change, and his attitude to the world—and so, he already bestows. It isn’t the physical actions that are so important here, but the inner changes that affect the spiritual system that manages the world.

So, I invite everyone who is with us to come closer, and what is most important is to invest in dissemination. Today, it concerns Israel first. We can “sweeten” the economic situation and the state of security without waiting for disasters to happen.

In fact, even viewing our lessons has an impact. After all, by that a person “absorbs” the idea of Baal HaSulam and the entire chain of Kabbalists that descends to him from the upper force. He learns about the system of creation and the principles that it operates and is operated by, and thus participates in the process of his own freewill to some extent, and this is his investment.

Question: There are many influential people today among the viewers of our TV channel in Israel, people who are among the decision makers in the country.

Answer: They actually don’t decide anything. The decisions come entirely from the Creator, from the Light, but we can be incorporated there to some extent and make an impact.

In any case, no one determines anything in this world. The plan is very simple. We, humans, are below and above us is the source of Light that brings us bestowal. We can bestow upon the Creator according to the law of equivalence of form (∾). Then the Light that comes makes a turn and already is felt differently by us. We raise MAN and ask the Creator to give us the preparation and the readiness to receive His Light and to be compatible with Him.

The Light is the giver and I am the one who receives. I ask that He will let me bestow a little. If I cannot really bestow, then I want the minimal adaptability, at least, so that there will be a connection between us, so that we will not be opposite from one another.

This is the request for correction that I raise. Then, we begin to act, to connect. Thus, we cooperate with the Light.

However, when we don’t raise MAN, the Light brings us suffering and turns to darkness and terrible sufferings.

There is no other force but the Light, but it operates on us through the front or by its posterior. This means that everything depends on how we receive it. Our action is in preparing ourselves to receive it correctly. It depends on a person and to the extent that he understands, feels, and is ready to advance. Eventually, our awareness must grow.

I do hope that more people will listen to us and will learn what we have to say. Our Internet sites and our TV channel may do the work, and we will not need to look for other channels in order to reach people.
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From the 4^th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/14/13, “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar”

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Question: You speak about self-annulment as a means for growing and advancing. However, don’t concessions during an argument usually show that I am weak?

Answer: I certainly don’t concede because of weakness, but because I want to advance in my marital relationship with and in life in general.

In this way, I develop myself and approach a positive state. I gain by that since, by that, I expand and feel life more finely.

I give my spouse a cup of tea, but I don’t lose it, rather, I receive a cup that is twice as big. After all, by that, I acquire her desires, her aspirations, her dreams, and their fillings!

I enjoy the pleasure that she receives just like a mother enjoys the pleasure she gives her baby. We all know that a mother enjoys the sweet she brings her baby much more than the baby does.

Thanks to my concessions, I acquire new vessels, opportunities to feel pleasure. You may ask why people go to stadiums to cheer their favorite team if they can watch the game quietly at home on TV.

But in the stadium you are surrounded by thousands of people and so you enjoy the collective excitement, the incorporation. It expands your vessels of perception, your senses. You become as big as the thousands around you who are cheering and jumping.

I’m sure you agree that it isn’t the same as staying at home, lying on the couch, and watching a football game on TV.

Question: What will concessions at home bring to my success?

Answer: If you come home from work hungry, sit down to have dinner and your child asks you for a piece of what’s on your plate, you give it to him gladly, it isn’t a concession.

After all, you are acting according to your will. Must a mother go against her will in order to take care of her baby? If it were so, we would have to place a policeman next to every mother to make sure that the child doesn’t die of hunger.

So, such actions are not called self-annulment. However, if your wife asks you to do something and you feel reluctant, that is a different thing. In the first case, the self-annulment brings you pleasure, and in the second case, it is a burden.

There is no need to teach people how to concede to their beloved children. It happens naturally.

However, you must learn how to concede to your spouse so as to not act instinctively, but rather, to begin managing your own development by yourself.

Question: But if I concede, it means that I am not in control, but my wife is.

Answer: You will perceive it in a totally different manner. It all depends on how important you feel it is. If a baby were less important to a mother than herself, she would refuse to take care of him and would think about herself. However, because nature has made the baby more important to her than herself, the mother is ready to do anything for him.

Now, we must think about how to force ourselves to concede and to accept the desire of our spouse above our own desires. In order to do that, the reward that you get should be greater so that it will tilt the scale.

Suppose she says, “If you wash the dishes now instead of me, we will go together to where you wanted to go.” Then, you concede, wash the dishes, and you go out together. This means that the goal justifies the means. If that is so, we must increase the goal so that it will be the justification for our actions.

We need an environment that will value the goal and show us the advantages of advancing in this direction. Besides that, we also will see that we can avoid different problems that constantly trouble us if we follow this path.

All these claims should form such a connection that I will not be able to break the commitment to fulfill this. There must be constant social pressure that will sustain me and remind me that it is worthwhile to act this way.

Thus, I advance in every aspect: Internally, I develop my personality and improve my relationship with the environment, at work, and with the entire world. The main thing in this entire process is the influence of the environment since a person finds it hard to even lift a finger when his wife asks for it.

If he did something for himself, he wouldn’t encounter such problems. He would be ready to serve himself. However, to serve someone else and to accept the will of another is already a big problem. However, he must think right away about what he does this for and what he gains. The gain should be mutual. So, let’s agree and constantly act one with regard to the other. I am for you, and you are for me.
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From a “Talk About New Life” 7/25/12

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Question: Can we say that the miracle of Purim symbolizes a certain exception to the absolute rules?

Answer: The slight illumination that appears in the image of Mordecai summons and leads to a great Light; we must first understand that the clarification is by the Light of Hochma and not by the Light of Hassadim. It is the Light of Hochma that separates the items “cutting off” one from the other like a knife: this is good and this is bad, this is one way and that is the other way.

Without Haman, this clarification would be impossible. But Haman has to come by Mordecai. Just as a flashlight is not enough in the dark, it must first be focused on the right spot, which means to prepare the deficiency in advance; Haman must be added to Mordecai so that it will be possible to manage him correctly.

As for the miracle of Purim, it is like the miracle of the exodus from Egypt; if there is no great Light that shines, we cannot connect the vessels. There has never been such a great Light as in Purim, a Light that connects all the ends into the “middle line” and then raises them to the first restriction.

Question: Why was it necessary to kill Haman?

Answer: Haman symbolizes the intention of “in order to receive.” Is it possible to leave this intention alive?

After all, it isn’t about the vessels of receiving which are eternal, but rather about the intention, about how to use Malchut: whether in an egoistic way or an altruistic way, with the intention of in order to receive or in order to bestow. Who will manage the King’s treasure, all of Malchut, in the King’s favor, Mordecai or Haman?

First all my vessels, all my desires, are egoistic “in order to receive” (↓). All this is called “Haman.” On the other hand, “Mordecai” is the intention of only in order to bestow (↑). So we have to change our vessels from one intention to another intention. By that we kill “Haman” and raise “Mordecai.”

At the same time the vessels remain the same, and we only change the “cover,” the “hat,” the intention, which is called the head of the Partzuf. The treasures, Malchut with all its 127 states, remain, but we pass only on the control from Haman to Mordecai.

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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/22/13, Shamati # 37 “An Article for Purim”

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Question: What causes the delays in the spiritual work?

Answer: There are delays that are intentionally given to us from Above, but these are not delays along our way but beneficial interruptions called “help against.”

Interruptions that don’t help us to advance are not “help against,” but are actually real delays that a person is responsible for since he is the one who creates them because he does not use the means he was given and doesn’t arrange for the support of the environment. This is the reason for the delays, and so there are beneficial delays and there are delays that hold us back and draw us away from the goal.

A spiritual action doesn’t take long if a person arranges the forces, the means, the environment, and the whole system in advance. Then he responds in “real time,” which means only with the delay that was intended on the part of the Creator taking into account a person’s attributes. Therefore, it is not considered a delay.

Let’s say I was supposed to clarify a certain question in two days since that’s the time it takes for the processes I go through naturally. If I did it in two days, it means that I didn’t cause any delay and that I advanced normally. Therefore, the time of a person’s spiritual correction is called “60 years,” “70 years” or “80 years.”

But if I don’t mobilize all the means I was given in order to respond correctly, then it is I who cause the delay. Then delays can be expressed not only in time, but also in many layers of thoughts and strange calculations in which I wrap myself, and thus become blocked, unable to decipher correctly the Creator’s contact with me. It is as if I become blind and deaf and cannot make the necessary clarifications and thus get stuck in this state for a long time. These are the obstacles that a person creates by himself which prolong his advancement.

So we should constantly hold on to the right environment called “the teacher, group, and books,” which is the only means through which a person can connect to the Creator.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/20/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam 

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Question: What can you do if you don’t even feel the initial response to what Baal HaSulam describes here internally?

Answer: In order to feel what Baal HaSulam speaks about we need to be sensitive. This means that if you are on the same frequency the wave is transmitted, then you hear it but if you are on another frequency, you will not be able to receive it.

It is as if you are in a car that is equipped with everything that you need—an antenna and a radio—but if you don’t turn the button and don’t tune the radio to the wave you desire, you will not hear it. Although the wave has already been received by the antenna and entered the radio, it didn’t go through the part in the receiver that is responsible for the identification of the frequency. It is not tuned to the right frequency so that it can be compatible with the frequency that is sent to you.

It turns out that Baal HaSulam writes in a certain frequency and for the time being you cannot perceive it. You can feel sorry about that and think about how you can calibrate yourself and become more sensitive to this frequency, but this doesn’t mean that you have to torture yourself and be unhappy, but rather that you have to be in joy!
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/20/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam 

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Question: Why do you say that the importance of the teacher should not be taken for granted by his students?

Answer: Imagine that the president comes to us on a special visit to meet you. He asks us about you and says that he has been looking for a person like you for years until it became clear that you are here. He comes to you with his entourage, shakes your hand, and then you go into the conference room together for a talk after which you come out with illuminated faces, and he gets into his presidential car and departs to the president’s home.

After this visit you carry on as usual with your friends, but we already look at you differently. Whether we want to or not, but we have to be careful. Something new has been created among us and we don’t know how to relate to you, how to behave next to you. You say something and we listen to you skeptically, but we pay careful attention to every word you say. Our attention is focused on you, we already depend on you, our ego is “locked’ on you, and there is nothing we can do about that. This is the natural way of prostration, of reverence, that is a naturally innate part of us.

But this is not the real work. If I want to connect with the Creator and reach an equivalence of form with Him, I have to rise above my nature, to change it into something that is opposite and unknown in its oppositeness. Of course, it will be very difficult to fulfill this since it’s as if I am turning myself inside out, like a glove, going out of my skin, killing myself.

But it can be done easily. Kabbalists say that it isn’t a problem at all. If I have enough fuel, then the whole way can turn into a pleasant adventure, a stroll in the zoo. I will go from one cage to another, from one animal to the next, and correct my desires until I leave the “animal kingdom” as a human being, Adam.

It’s all about the fuel that comes to me in a chain: from the Creator, through the Kabbalists, the teacher, and the friends. So I have to be incorporated in the group in order to be impressed by the friends and to accept what is important to them. It’s the teacher who is important to them, a person whom I actually don’t like, by whom I am repulsed, and to whom I find myself antipathetic. I automatically despise him and don’t see anything in him that I value.

But I understand that all this is presented to me that way intentionally, and so I use these means to examine myself according to the simple criterion: Do I want to listen to what the teacher says and fulfill it? To fulfill what he says not out of an “animal” commitment, but in order to reach the Creator who is behind him.
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From the 4^th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/20/13, “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar

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Question: Will there come a time when wages will be linked not just to results but to the needs of the worker as with Marx, “To everyone according to his needs”?

Answer: This is the way it will be. However, it will happen when a person is satisfied with normal material needs only, without luxuries. This will be when he no longer receives satisfaction from the thought that he owns factories and businesses. This desire will disappear from within him.

We need to reach this kind of state. Thus, either we have to wait for it or we educate the nation. With the help of integral education, we accelerate the movement and quickly pass through these stages, although we don’t delete them as Russia tried to do by moving from serfdom to socialism bypassing capitalism. That is why Russia is now experiencing a reversal.

The next state of humanity is to provide the normal level of the material and all the rest is spiritual development only.

A maximum of 10% of humanity will work to supply all that is needed: food, clothing, building houses, etc. And the rest can be called, in modern language, unemployed. They will be closely involved with the integral law of nature and together with this will constantly feel a vast emptiness and great, new fulfillments inside. They will gradually cross over to the integral connection between them, will feel the Noosphere (the sphere of human thought),  will develop within them completely new habits, new inner feelings and emotions. They won’t have a need for telephones, cell phones, modems and other computer connections. They will be connected internally.

It is not telepathy that we imagine to ourselves as something supernatural. This is an extra sense that will develop in us under the influence of the integral mutual cooperation between us.

This is so because we constitute a single integral system. Only we don’t feel it. In nature everything is necessarily mutually connected to everything, but these laws are obligatory at the levels of inanimate, vegetative, and animate. And at our level they need to be recognized. And then we will feel the entire universe from one end to the other; we will feel internally how it breathes and lives.
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From KabTV’s “Professional Secrets” 2/6/13

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