Question: You once said that in order to make a decision in life, you can even flip a coin, etc.

But one Frenchwoman named Lori came up with the following: on her Telegram channel, she conducted a survey on what to do, and now she does exactly as her admirers advise her.

She wrote: “How I act depends on you; you choose my future.” Subscribers vote, and make important life decisions for her. And she reports to them: “Thanks to you, I blocked my boyfriend whom I didn’t really like, took a helicopter tour although I’m afraid of heights, and left my internship that I didn’t like.” She writes: “I don’t regret anything, I’m terribly interested in what this experience will lead me to.”

Is it possible to trust the collective like this?

Answer: It’s good. She has something to lean on. Many of her admiring readers still give her confidence.

Question: Do you think you can rely on such group brainstorming?

Answer: No, not that whatever it says is right or wrong. But it gives her confidence! Afterward, whatever happens, happens. The main thing is that at every moment she believes that she is doing the right thing. And this feeling corrects the wrong step; that is what is interesting.

Question: So this confidence of mine makes the wrong step right?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Are our steps mostly correct or incorrect?

Answer: Any of our steps are wrong. All steps are wrong because they are egoistic!

Question: Every one of them is focused on what is comfortable for me and what is profitable for me. Is this what you call a wrong step?

Answer: Yes. When you look long-range, this is absolutely the wrong step. I can steal something somewhere in the near future or do something like that, and it will seem that I am lucky. And in general, of course, nothing good will come of it.

Question: Which step do you call the right one?

Answer: For the benefit of the majority. The absolute majority!

Question: Can the collective suggest such a step? Is it for our benefit to take such a step?

Answer: Naturally! If the collective’s thought is that you are taking a step for our benefit and a person is taking this step, then this step is more or less correct.

Question: Is there any advice you can give people on how to act so that this will be correct?

Answer: Work for the masses.

Question: And if I consider this mass to be cattle?

Answer: So what? Even more so.

Question: So I work for the masses whom I despise?

Answer: Of course. And who does not consider himself smarter than the rest?

Question: Do you think that inside, everyone considers himself smarter than everyone else? And if he who considers himself smarter than everyone else still acts for them, is this what is called a real step?

Answer: Yes. This is what I advise, and after that…

Question: But you understand that this advice is a bit… Maybe you can advise something easier to implement in life ?

Answer: I have already given you life advice. This is a credo, a life credo.

Question: I see. That is, when masses went to die for the collective and they died for other people, was it an egoistic step or not? What was it? Were these heroic deeds?

Answer: No, it was easy. They blended with the collective, and it was easy for them. When you run into battle with everyone together and you shout “Attack!” and so on, you just drown in the connection with the others; you don’t feel yourself. This is the ecstasy of a battle.

Question: And here when you say, “For others, you do it for the masses,” what do you mean?

Answer: You are doing what is for their benefit! And you don’t just do it together with them in order to merge into them and not feel like a person.

Question: What can be for their benefit?

Answer: Whatever is for their benefit, for the benefit of the majority, I do not know; each case is different. And ideally it is bestowal, love, and connection.

Question: So you’re broadcasting it there: “I live for you”?

Answer: Yes. And this is the right step.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/10/22

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Question: Should our country [Israel] be strong?

Answer: It should take care of those of citizens who according to state regulations should live, exist, and be protected here.

We have no other land! We have no other place. We have no other country! We must have our own strong army and our place on this planet. And although everyone will encroach on it, we must tell everyone the truth to their face: “This is ours! It was, it is, and it will be.”

Question: Until when will there be such a position as you said?

Answer: Until the complete correction of human egoism on the whole planet.

Comment: But you are always talking about connection, about unity of people.

My Response: That is what we will do along the way.

Question: So this is how, by remaining such a strong encampment, a fortress, we will move toward unity of all mankind?

Answer: Only in this way! Only under this condition! Set an example and lead the way.

Comment: Are you not perplexed by the unification of two such poles? One pole is a strong, powerful state, ready to fight back against everyone, and so on, and on the other hand—unity and connection are such a warm state.

My Response: That is very correct. And precisely because it is a strong country.

Question: And we have to radiate this warmth one way or another?

Answer: Yes. Do not agree to any concessions!

Question: And if we say that we want to rely only on ourselves?

Answer: Yes. Isn’t that how it turns out?

Comment: But we do have help.

My Response: Yes, but we still rely on ourselves.

Question: Is this right?

Answer: We get help for all this, but we still hope to rely on forces that we have. We do not sign a contract with someone and after that we have a quiet rest.

Comment: You think that if some conditions come that we will be given help if, for example, we create two countries here…

My Response: No! It is all out of the question. Any compromises, agreements of this type are out of the question. We do not owe anyone anything, we do not have to, and we will not give it to anyone.

Question: And as a result, as you have already said, this state should radiate warmth, connection, and love for one’s neighbor?

Answer: Yes—to be a light for all nations of the world.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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Comment: Irina writes: “Can you explain this law written in the Torah from which, in my opinion, all the troubles come: “An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth”? She thinks that all troubles come from this.

My Response: I do not think so. How else can you bring people together and give them a proper understanding of their mutual connection?

Comment: Apparently, Irina thinks: “Do not respond.” Do not show that when you were hit, you hit back—an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. So, you hit, and I do not respond.

My Response: You simply misunderstand the nature of man. Because if a person’s nature is egoistic, then only in this way can he be taught.

The world is developing this way for a reason—in continuous wars. People are gradually learning this. I think we are close to realizing that since we are egoists, the absolute law of action and reaction can be applied to us. An eye for an eye. And so we will act until we realize that we do not need an eye or a tooth, but we just need to treat each other correctly.

Question: So “An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth” leads to the fact that we will abandon this law? Is that what it exists for?

Answer: Yes. Because, in fact, this is the law of absolute nature, the correct nature. The one who takes must give as much and even more in order to learn next time not to hit first, not to harm.

Question: Because he will be afraid that he will be hit back?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And this is a natural law. We went through this as children. I hit someone, someone hits me back, then I understood that next time I would not hit.

You said, “It will lead to another law.” What will this law “An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth” lead to?

Answer: It is already said in the Bible that people will not raise a sword against people.

Question: And what will be the result?

Answer: Everyone will limit himself to the fact that he will not demand anything from another and will not give anything to another. Everyone will try to find the right solution to any conflict.

Comment: The law of Sodom was “What is mine is mine, what is yours is yours.”

My Response: That is why it did not work.

Comment: You just said something like this: “I will not rise against you, I will not fight with you, what is mine is mine, and what is yours is yours.”

My Response: No, it was not even possible to give to each other there. Meaning, any connection was denied—both bad and good. You have no right to approach anyone else, to give or to take.

Question: Yes. Not even to a beggar—no one. Do not host anyone in your home. You live, and he lives. And there is a gap between us. Was the whole destruction of Sodom because of this?

Answer: It is necessary to teach people that this is also forbidden.

Question: Then what is the correct law that we are coming to? After all these “An eye for an eye,” “What is mine is mine, what is yours is yours,” what is the right law that we will all come to?

Answer: “What is yours is yours, and what is mine is yours.”

Comment: This is a hard rule! Impossible!

I understand; Baal HaSulam, the great Kabbalist, wrote that we will come to such a state that “What is yours is yours, what is mine is yours,” and you believe in it very much. But this is absolute fiction for a person.

My Response: This is the nature of the spiritual degree.

Question: When there is only bestowal and nothing in return?

Answer: Nothing. And I am not asking for anything because the global force of nature called the Creator stands on the fulfillment of this law. If we want it to be fulfilled, then this force, the Creator, will manifest between us. He is just waiting for this desire from us.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/13/22

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The generations are redeemed only by the merit of righteous women in the generation (Midrash Zuta, Ruth 4:11).

Question: How do you perceive this?

Answer: I perceive it as perfectly normal.

Question: Then what does the key phrase “righteous women in the generation” mean?

Answer: They are the ones who understand how to conduct themselves and how to educate the generation. They look at their entire generation as their children who need to be brought to the correct understanding of life. This is called a righteous woman.

Question: What is righteousness? What is the correct understanding of life?

Answer: Righteousness lies in bestowal, love, and connection of everyone with each other, like in a proper family.

Question: Is there such an inclination in a woman?

Answer: Yes, it is precisely in a woman that it exists. She must take a man, the masculine strength, and compel, force, teach, and direct this masculine strength to creation, to the correct attitude to the world.

The direction is women. Strength is men.

Question: Do you feel that this is how it will happen in the future?

Answer: Yes. It is necessary to break the connection between men and women in such a way that a woman would control the thought, intention, direction, and so on. The corrected Malchut operates through the male part. This is when this connection will work.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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Comment: A well-known parable explains our nature in the most colorful way. Once upon a time there was a poor man, he had a rich neighbor. And the poor man prayed to the Creator: “I want to be as rich as he is.”

The Creator told him: “Please. I’ll give you everything. I’ll give it to you, and I’ll give him twice as much. You will be rich; he will be twice as rich. You’ll have a house;  he’ll have two houses.”

Then the poor man said: “Then pull out one of my eyes so that the neighbor will lose two.” And there is another ending: “Then beat me half to death.” There are a lot of different options here.

My Response: Yes. We see this today too in skirmishes, in wars.

Question: Is there still such a thing: “It’s not as scary that my cow died as it is that my neighbor’s one is alive.” Humanity has come up with a lot of such beautiful quotes.

Tell me, why can’t we focus on our happiness?

Answer: You can’t experience happiness in isolation from others. Only in comparison.

Comment: But I was given a house, I have a warm home, I have all the wealth. Why do I have to always notice that he has two houses and suffer from it?

My Response: For this, it is necessary to correct the nature of man. There is no other way!

Question: I will always suffer if he has better and more than I do?

Answer: Yes. This is egoism. I can’t look at what I have, I look at what the other has. And I may have several times more than him, but he also has. And as long as he exists and he has something, that’s what I want.

Look at children as they take toys from each other. You convince them: “You don’t need it, look, you have this,” no, it doesn’t matter. He hides his toy behind his back and demands what the other has. That’s what nature is.

Comment: But I, as a parent, instruct him and tell him the right things. I say, “Give the other…”

My Response: But he doesn’t want to listen.

Comment: He doesn’t want to listen, but I want him to do it.

My Response: It doesn’t matter, the Creator wants it.

Question: Through me?

Answer: Yes, sort off. You’re acting like a Creator here. And it doesn’t help.

Question: So I pick up this formula when I’m a parent, nevertheless?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Comment: I like this formula.

Answer: Because you are no longer a child.

Comment: Yes, but I tell him: “Share with him, give it to him.”

My Response: No, he will hold and cuddle it.

Comment: That’s for sure. But I lead to the fact that I myself continue to be the same as a child. I look: it’s better there, and I’m already nervous.

My Response: That is absolutely right.

Question: This is how we eat ourselves. We just devour everything inside ourselves. Is that what we’re dying from?

Answer: Apparently.

Question: And what should we do with all this?

Answer: Continue.

Question: Until when?

Answer: While we are living. 🙂

We still have to spread our idea, the Creator’s plan, and it will work.

Question: What is the Creator’s plan?

Answer: It is for us to rise above our egoistic nature. And it will work.

Question: And then how will I look at my neighbor if I rise above nature?

Answer: As a partner in the implementation of a common plan.

Question: That he, too, is moving toward rising above egoism?

Answer: Yes. We just need to educate everyone!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/13/22

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Comment: Victoria writes: “I see that 80% of the main questions about happiness, how not to worry, and how to organize one’s life, are asked by women. Will a woman ever be truly happy in this world”?

My Response: I don’t think so. A woman has a special intuition for what happiness means. To make the world happy means to make it perfect in general.

A woman must get out from under the authority of men. She must not obey the male mind, strength, and spirit. If she starts listening to herself, she will find the right solution.

A woman is the world. A woman is something that gives birth, develops, raises children, and does everything to soften our world.

Question: You said that until everything is perfect, a woman will not feel happy. Does it mean it must reach its ideal form after all?

Answer: Today she is playing what a man taught her: the role of a harsh woman, allegedly striving for beauty, for wealth, or something else. In fact, the depth of a woman’s nature is security and development.

Question: For others or herself?

Answer: Everyone. Otherwise, she will not provide herself with those either.

Question: Does she think in such terms—for everyone?

Answer: Yes. Although today a woman may be very egoistic, a proper upbringing will help her to see the truth that her actual realization can only be in connection, in alignment, and in rapprochement with others. Then there will be peace.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 10/13/22

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In the News (NPR): “A controversial new Japanese government campaign is urging young people to drink more alcohol to boost the economy. It comes as young Japanese people are turning away from drinking. …

“The campaign is dubbed Sake Viva. …  Sake Viva is a contest aimed at 20 and 30-somethings to suggest new ways to make and sell alcoholic beverages.”

My Response: What are they doing it for the sake of money?! Of course, the world already goes to extremes, especially with young people. Alcohol is such that you get used to it and then you cannot live without it. It is like a drug.

Question: Let’s say people have an idea like this. How should they deploy it? You keep saying that our connection—searching for the connection with each other, and so on—will change everything. If an idea came to them to enact a different law so that the law would be about greater connection, would tax revenues and money fall into the cash register of Japan or not? What do you think?

Answer: I do not know if it would be in the form of money; I cannot say. But the situation would become better; everything would improve, not in the form of tax revenues, but in the form of the general state of society, family, and other aspects of life. Of course it would be different.

Question: Basically they are trying to solve some narrow problem. They also have family, fertility, and ecological problems, whatever. You say that there is a law that can balance everything.

Won’t the government and authorities then not have the idea that they need people to drink more?

My Response: The only question is how popular it will be, how much the Japanese will go for it. But such a closed society as Japan could try to do it.

Question: Should they conduct such an experiment on the island? What would humanity see then?

Answer: Humanity would see a huge leap in all areas of life.

Question: Would technology and Japan then be popular all over the world again?

Answer: Everything would go up.

Comment: What is your advice to the Japanese government considering everything that has been said?

My Response: Think about what you are doing. If you drive a people like the Japanese into a new pattern of alcohol consumption, after which drugs and so on will follow since  everything leads to one thing after another, it is impossible to get out of this. Especially with the Japanese character.

Therefore, I strongly advise you: take ancient Jewish wisdom as a basis, which says that only coming closer to each other of members of society will lead the entire society to prosperity and solve absolutely all problems.

Good luck with that!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/25/22

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Patience is a tree whose root is bitter, but its fruit is very sweet (Proverb).

My Response: In general, yes.

Question: The question is if patience is the trunk of a tree, then what is it in a person’s life?

Answer: It is humility. In general, for an ordinary person, it is humility. For a Kabbalist, this is humility to a large extent! This is because he receives all sorts of internal pressures and pushes. The main thing for him is to bow his head.

Question: Does it mean to accept them? Is this called “humility”?

Answer: Yes, because they come from the Creator. He perceives correctly everything that comes to him, sorts it all out, determines that it comes from the Creator, and bows his head.

Question: What does humility mean for an ordinary person?

Answer: It is the same for an ordinary person. But he is not arranged to rise above this like a Kabbalist.

A Kabbalist rises above the blows in his humility. A simple person, however, just humbles himself in order to suffer less. What else can he do?

Question: Is his task to humble himself?

Answer: The task of any person is not just to humble oneself, but to come closer to the Creator. Humility leads to this.

Question: Another question is toward what should a person cultivate patience, and toward what should he be impatient?

Answer: Patience should be applied to almost everything except personal egoistic pressure. I would say so; he must be impatient with his egoism. For everything else, maximum patience.

Question: Does he have to be patient with other people?

Answer: In everything!

Question: And impatient with himself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Why are the roots bitter in this case according to this proverb? Is this so from the point of view of Kabbalah?

Answer: The root is actually bitter, but the fruits are sweet.

Question: Why?

Answer: Because everything starts from the roots. Until you find out, see, get acquainted, take them on yourself, grow a trunk with them, and reach the fruit, until then of course, it is all bitter.

Comment: That is, the trunk grows from very bitter roots.

My Response: Yes, and the trunk itself is also not very pleasant.

Question: What is it when sweet grows out of bitter? Is this my attitude to what is happening to me?

Answer: No, this is the revelation of the purpose of creation, which gradually is manifested in such a sequential chain of events, when, in principle, everything is considered bitter. Like a baby who is born and cries, and then through his awareness, consent, support, justifying the Creator’s actions, coming closer, connecting, and adhering with the Creator comes to a sweet fruit.

Question: The conclusion, the quintessence of this proverb: what should a tree be and what does it represent according to Kabbalah?

Answer: A tree is a tree of life. This is where a person begins his journey on earth, and how he should finish it.

Question: Is a person personified with a tree?

Answer: Yes. A person is a tree that grows and develops with the help of all sorts of possibly bitter, unpleasant sensations, without knowing how or what. He is at the inanimate level, at the level of earth, and then gradually grows and gives birth to a fruit that already reaches its maturity.

This is very complicated, we usually study this in lessons on the holiday of New Year of the trees, Tu B’Shevat in Hebrew. This is when we study it all.

Question: What is a sweet fruit to which the tree, that is, a person, should come?

Answer: It represents the fruit of the Garden of Eden. Heaven is the revelation of the Creator.

Question: Does a person reach heaven?

Answer: Yes. When the Creator is revealed in some form before him, he already sees this field in which the Creator is revealed before him, and then the tree and its fruits.

Question: Is this when he kind of produces a fruit?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What is the fruit?

Answer: The fruit is the attainment of the upper wisdom, eternity, perfection and complete connection with the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/4/22

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Question: We have to make many decisions every day. The Romans, for example, tossed a coin. They even had a saying: either a ship or a head. In other words, all or nothing. In 1845, the coin solved the question of the name of the city of Portland, Oregon, which was originally meant to be called Boston, but the coin showed otherwise and it instead became Portland.

Scientists conducted a study. People who needed to make a vital decision were told to “toss a coin.” They tossed a coin and when they checked them after six months, they saw that people felt good about their decision about tossing a coin.

Scientists believe that this is the choice of the golden mean. How do you think we should make decisions: with a coin or in another way?

Answer: I believe that if we are talking about serious things, for example, the choice of the name of the city, then we need to conduct a general survey. If this is some kind of private problem, but you still have a family and so on, then solve it in connection with others.

Question: Does it mean that I do not make the decision myself, but I need to take into account everything and everyone?

Answer: Of course. You cannot decide everything.

Question: What if I have such a character that I make decisions myself?

Answer: It means that you have not received enough blows yet, from family, children, parents, surrounding people, country, from anything at all. You still have to take everyone into account.

Question: What should happen when the head of the country, the leader, makes a decision?

Answer: If he makes a decision alone, then he is not a leader. He must understand how he needs to make decisions so that they are approved by the majority of the people, and that they may speak well of him.

This suggests that he made the right decision, not in order to respect himself, but to confirm that he made the right decision.

Comment: That is, when people say: “What a blessing that we had such a leader. We really felt good under his rule.”

My Response: Yes, that is the way he has to make his decision so that people talk about him like that. Not because he wants people to talk about him like that in order to be proud and so on, but because he is pleased that he has made the decision in agreement with the people. It is very important.

Question: What does it mean to make a decision in accordance with the Creator?

Answer: It means to be among such sages who would help you understand the thought of the Creator and make a decision in accordance with it and with the Creator.

Question: What decision does a sage who is in connection with the Creator make?

Answer: How to move people to the Creator, there is nothing else.

Question: That is, when we say “fateful decisions,” for the sage are they only those which involve bringing people to the Creator?

Answer: Only in this. After all, there is nothing else in the world. Everything else is just covered with all sorts of different words, but practically it is the same desire.

Comment: That is, if for example the leaders of our world are deciding how to carry out economic reform, how to build something…

My Response: It is always the same question: “How to take a step closer to the Creator?” It can be the economy or healthcare, or whatever!

Question: They just do not feel it, right?

Answer: They do not feel it, but the sage does. The solution is always in this: to be closer to the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/4/22

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Comment: An anonymous quip is circulating on the Internet.

How do children treat you?
Like God.
How is that?
They almost do not listen to me; they do not fulfill my requests. Sometimes they pretend that I do not exist, but when they need something, they immediately cry out.

Answer: That is right.

Question: Our lack of feeling even toward a parent, what is it? We are talking about the Creator here with you.

Answer: When we need egoistically, then we appeal to them. And when we have no need, it is better that they do not exist. This is very clear.

Comment: As your teacher used to say: “Close your mouth, open your pocket.”

Answer: Yes, that is the attitude of children.

Question: You always call upon the fact that a person, one way or another, must attain the force that controls him. How can this happen? Only in the state, as it says here: “When they need something, they call you right away”?

Answer: When you are pinned to the wall, then no one will help you—only the Creator. And then you will turn to Him. And you will try to find a connection with Him.

Question: So, the revelation of the Creator can only be under pressure?

Answer: Of course! Man is an egoist.

Comment: It strikes me that only under pressure, only from hunger, only from fear, only from this can our governance be revealed.

My Response: Only from suffering.

Comment: Such is our simple body…

My Response: The Creator created it this way. What do you want? Go to Him and complain.

Question: Go to Him? I see. One way or another, definitely, after all the pressures, will the revelation happen?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And what will we reveal?

Answer: That everything He did He created on purpose, out of good intent, insidiously, in order to eventually lead us to such a development that we would justify His entire creation, that through creation we would justify Him and find our rest.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/7/22

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