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Who Will Be The Breadwinner In The Family Now?

laitman_962.6Question: Isn’t the new world you describe closer to the past when it was based on barter, mutual aid, and was more family-oriented? That is how it once was.

Answer: I don’t remember when it was. Back in the days when primitive people sat around a fire? 🙂

No, the correct world is universal participation in human society where we believe that we are one common family and understand that we need to reduce [consumption].

Let’s say I have a family, a wife, and children. My wife has no opportunity to go back to work. We decided that she would stay at home, I would work, and the children, naturally, would go to school. Now let’s go from one family to many families, unite them as one family. What will we get?

Most women will stay at home. We must support them, provide them with a normal existence so that they get used to staying at home. Though the coronavirus has already taught us a little about it.

How can we make sure that the family is still able to exist normally? How can this be distributed among all the others? We must take into account that in most families only the husband works and receives one salary. We need to somehow average this for everyone.

In general, we need to see the world community as a single whole, in which we must come to a balance. Otherwise, we will not be able to live. The next virus will come and still knock us out and make us shrink in our production.

Comment: Many believe that it is still unknown who the breadwinner in the family will be: a man or a woman.

My Response: It doesn’t matter. You can decide as you like. I’m not saying it’s going to be exactly this way. But in principle, even less than 150 years ago, the percentage of working women was very small. Mostly men worked.

The woman was responsible for maintaining the house, the man for providing for the family. So it was in all countries, as is customary in humanity. Look at the history over tens of thousands of years. The man went hunting, the woman supported the family hearth, and took care of the children.

Why should I open your eyes to the obvious?

Comment: It’s just that in some families, it’s the woman who’s left with a job, and the man who’s lost it.

My Response: Naturally, there are different cases. But in the vast majority, a woman earns less than a man, her earnings are considered secondary, while the home and family need her much more than a man. It is destined for us from the point of view of nature.

Question: But would you like to live on a minimum?

Answer: We are not talking about a living wage. No need to make all sorts of conclusions from what I say.

I’m saying there should be fewer jobs, less employment, because it really is twice as much as necessary. Hence the pollution of the atmosphere, water, environment, etc.

Let us engage in education, mutual connection, and give women an opportunity to unite and nurture. This is what she will be able to do once freed from all unnecessary work.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 5/3/20

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If Women Do Not Unite, The World Is Doomed

laitman_567.04Women must understand that if they do not unite, then the world is doomed. This should be the inner sensation of a woman. Men cannot help in anything here. The woman must fulfill her female role: she gives birth, takes care of the home, the children, and the future.

A woman must understand that if she does not connect with other women and does not take care of the world with them, then the world will be finished. No need for revolutions. Women only need unity and it will already change the world. In addition, no action will be required: the unification of women will eliminate the entire global crisis.

The whole crisis is between women, not between men, due to the fact that Malchut alone broke into many small Malchuts. If we put them together, this will be the correction. Women must know this well, and then we will have a real chance at achieving the correction of the world.

Only if we reach the stage of Bina, bestowal, can we acquire this quality called “mother.” After all, a mother gives, cares, feeds, and looks after the whole world. We must all find this power of bestowal—both men and women—and with the help of this power, we can unite among ourselves.

A man with a man and a woman with a woman can spiritually unite only to a certain height. But then we need to connect with the acquired force of Bina, and here we need women too.

Therefore, in our world as well as in the spiritual world, a perfect connection is needed between all men and all women so that we all come together, so that a perfect man, Adam, is born in whom there are male and female parts acting together.

We are already in a very advanced stage of pregnancy as a fetus, and we should be born soon. I cannot say exactly which month of pregnancy Malchut is now in. She really wants to start giving birth, but we are not ready yet. After all, to be born means to have the right desire for unity between us. Then we will break out of Malchut and be born in a new world, the spiritual world.

When we leave Malchut, exit the uterus, we immediately find ourselves in the spiritual world based on bestowal. We are not ready for this yet, and therefore, it would be a premature birth.

When the unification of women into one single woman takes place, everyone will feel that the power of women reigns in the world, like a mother who takes care of a child. So, all men will feel that this force of a mother, a woman, Bina, dominates them and that through her comes the power of bestowal, the inspiration to which all bow and are ready to listen to the voice of the woman who will begin to rule the world.

However, so far, each one of you individually has such a power of desire, but you cannot combine them together to make an impact. Try your best to unite. It all depends on you!

I really hope that we are entering a new era, a new humanity. If women’s strength grows more and more, men will feel how much they need female strength, and so we will move forward together. I wish you and your family health and happiness!
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson on the Role of Women in the New World, 5/9/20

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The Era Of Women Is Coming

laitman_294.3The coronavirus epidemic showed us how important the home and the family, which are the center of our lives, and the role of the woman on whom it all rests are. The coronavirus united us.

On one hand, it laid bare the contradictions that exist between us in the modern world. Nevertheless, it showed all men that the woman is the central point of our whole life, and therefore, we must try to build around the female part, the Malchut, the new reality of the post-coronavirus era.

Baal HaSulam writes in the book Ohr Bahir:

Ima [mother] comes from the word Omenet [nursing] and rearing, since the drop comes from the father, and the mother nurses and rears the drop, and divides into parts and organs, flesh and skin. All this work and multiplication is only from the mother, for the father gave her only a tiny drop, and with her craftsmanship, she fashioned it into a complete human being. It is for this craftsmanship that she is called “mother.”

A mother has a truly unique mission. Indeed, a drop of semen actually comes from the Creator and does not require a lot of work from the father. The mother divides it and distributes it into organs, and it grows until out of this drop a person develops who is the result of the work of the mother’s body.

This is how it works in physical bodies. But also in the building of the soul where the father and the mother participate together, most of the work falls to the mother. Everything comes from the paternal drop but thanks to the maternal work.

Pregnancy begins with a drop of the father’s semen, but the mother grows the fetus, gives birth, and then feeds him, cares for him, and takes care until he becomes old enough to live independently.

This is why all mothers, all the women of the world, should perceive the process we are undergoing today as an opportunity for humanity to be born like a fetus on a new spiritual level. If all women unite together, they will be able to raise humanity through labor pains. This is difficult work, but it is women who will be able to give birth to a new humanity and direct it to fulfill its mission.

The whole development of mankind is divided into two stages. Until today, men have ruled the world and it has been a time of wars, problems, conflicts, the power of money and violence. Women were almost invisible through the whole history of mankind, the path of violence and wars.

But now comes the time when it is the mother, the woman, who must take on the role of the educator of the world in its future form. This is the era of women, and therefore, she must know how to unite with other women for the sake of correcting the world. It may be difficult, but there is no way out. This must be done.

All women, the whole Malchut, are obligated to unite, and thanks to this unity give birth to a new humanity. But this is only possible provided that women can unite despite their reluctance, can step on their egoism and rise above it by faith above reason. Women will demand men and the whole world to unite to establish the right connections between all and thus lead the world to correction.

On the corporeal level, it is the woman who brings up and raises a new generation. And also in the spiritual system, only a woman is able to strengthen, give birth, and raise a new humanity.

No one but a woman can fulfill this role. As the mother develops the fetus, gives birth, grows, educates, and shapes a future person, so must women, united together, fulfill their role as mothers of all mankind.

The image of a unified woman should become the central force in the world. In this way we can save humanity and give birth to it in a new form. After women unite and come to one common, strong opinion, they will be able to demand everything from men, and the Creator will be on their side. Thus, women will be able to defeat everyone and establish the right order of human development.

But this is only possible after unification. The whole problem is that there is no unity between women, and therefore, no one perceives them as a serious force and or accepts their demands. Demanding spiritual advancement is possible only if you have spiritual strength, and spiritual strength is in unity.

Unite at least a little and see the power you have. Then you will demand and receive everything you desire. The Creator will do it. There are no obstacles on your path: as soon as you women begin to unite, the Creator will take care of you.
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From a lesson “The Role of Women in the New World,” 5/9/20

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 3/8/20

laitman_255Question: Is there a mutual guarantee between a husband and a wife?

Answer: Marriage is a state of mutual guarantee to help each other through life in order to achieve the revelation of the Creator between the spouses. It is very important.

Question: If a couple has adopted children, is this considered a whole family?

Answer: Yes. If a couple has adopted these children, it is considered a whole family. But this is indeed a special family, and they will receive special help from above.

Question: How can a woman fight viruses in her head, the foreign thoughts? Is this possible in Kabbalah?

Answer: Kabbalah says that all those thoughts that you consider to be viruses are just like any other thoughts, and they intentionally come to us from above. You must acknowledge them, understand them correctly, connect to their source, and then you will correctly position and work with them. But you should not negate or discard those thoughts.

Question: Should spouses connect the male and female parts in them so that their relationship would be balanced and harmonious?

Answer: Yes, each one needs to connect them so that the male part would give the Tzimtzum, Masach, and the reflected light, and this is what we call the corrected state. The female part, on the other hand, should provide the desire, the ego above which it is possible to build the correction. And both parts will interact harmoniously in every individual.

Question: There are quite a few good female members in our group who have been studying Kabbalah for a long time and are not married. How should we care for them?

Answer: You should do everything in your power to have them married as soon as possible. Then you will have many more good members. Start engaging in this seriously. You will be doing two good things at the same time: you will marry the women and you will acquire new members in the group.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20

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The Coronavirus Identifies Social Problems

36Question: The coronavirus has revealed another problem. On the one hand, nature separates us from each other, and on the other hand, we have to spend more and more time with our loved ones. As a result, divorces began in China after the epidemic ended. What does nature want to tell us?

Answer: I am not very familiar with China, and I can only say one thing. If previously people worked 12 hours a day or even more, which is natural for the Chinese, and during the epidemic they had to spend 24 hours a day at home, then perhaps this turned out to be an overwhelming burden for them.

The Chinese are workaholics; they cannot live like Europeans. I can’t imagine a Chinese men sitting at home all day and switching television channels. They are very attuned to some goal, to profit. And if suddenly it all disappeared, then, of course, it brings either divorces or suicides, but something should be here.

Question: It’s not even about China. A huge number of social problems arise precisely in the family. Nature has separated us from strangers, but now I spend all day with my loved ones and see them all the time. Maybe this is some kind of hint that I must first correct relations with loved ones because it is simpler, easier?

Answer: First of all, we should just understand what to do.

Today, man does not know why he is participating in this whole game of nature. He does not understand what it is doing with us, what the purpose is. He sees that we have long been following a certain chain of events.

And why these events? He does not understand what is happening to him; he does not know. He sees that we are developing technologically and at the same time we are developing family, social, and state relations. But he does not realize the intention of nature, he does not see why and what it’s all for.

Man needs to have his eyes opened and be told where our development leads us. After all, this is not just a stupid development of nature, which is supposedly evolving according to some kind of mechanical laws. There is a plan in it, and it is impossible to take any action if you do not initially imagine it in some more or less finished state.

It seems to us, as young children: “So I will do something, and something will work out.” There is no such thing in nature. Its ultimate goal is in the original intention.

It consists in bringing all of nature to an integral form in which the beginning, all actions, and the end would appear as absolutely complemented, interconnected with each other. Nature seeks to become integral, completely connected in all its parts and at all its levels. We are developing toward this.

And when we enter into a break with the law of nature to bring everything to equivalence, integrity, interdependence, we begin to feel nature as directed against us. Therefore, all kinds of viruses appear, volcanoes wake up, forests burn, hurricanes develop, etc.
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From KabTV’s “Coronavirus Changes Reality,” 3/19/20

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The Last Generation—The Time Of Women

laitman_294.4For many generations, women have been in the shadows. But in our time, they are beginning to awaken and come forward because we live in the last generation, the last stage of development of humanity, which must bring unity among all men and all women and then unite men and women together with the Creator.

Kabbalists wrote about the coming of the last generation and all its signs are confirmed judging by the global coronavirus pandemic as well as other events that are yet to happen in the near future.

The progress in the 21st century brought us to a state where there is nothing to do but unite with each other and rise to the spiritual level. And here, in the birth of a new humanity, women must fulfill their irreplaceable role.

What is the difference between a woman’s work in the new, post-coronavirus world and the old one? We still do not really understand and feel it, but we can already see how the coronavirus has locked us inside our homes, inside our families, leaving us alone with our husband or wife, with our children, with all our problems.

We start to look at life in a completely different way because the future is covered with uncertainty. And even now, with the easing of the quarantine and seemingly returning to normal life, we do not know what will happen, and we are afraid of a new wave of the coronavirus. It is possible that there are many other dangerous viruses besides it.

We must understand that all this comes in order to make us one humanity. And most importantly, to organize women to unite and lead the world. If people now spend more time at home, it means that women receive huge power.

Many will lose their jobs completely, others will work from home via the Internet, meaning, men will be at home most of the time. And if everything is concentrated in the house, then, of course, a woman will have a more important, high, and decisive position. The house is run by the woman, not the man.

And so, if we act wisely and delicately, women can gradually draw men to the correction of the world, which is already bound to come and is approaching. We have no choice. We need to explain this to our men and convince them to participate in it.

A woman should, as a mother, take care of her children and her husband in order to guide them in the right direction toward correction. And then, we will definitely be able to achieve peace in the family and peace in the world, as well as rise to connect with the Creator.

So, the last generation will be the time of the woman if she can fulfill her role. If not, we will have to move toward correction through blows and suffering.
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From a Kabbalah Lesson “Women in the New World,” 5/9/20

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The Spiritual Role Of A Woman, Part 10

laitman_622.01Who is more corrected: man or woman?

Question: Can one say that initially a woman is more spiritually corrected than a man?

Answer: In part, yes. But on the other hand, a man in relation to this is given greater opportunities to correct himself than a woman. So in a specific state it cannot be said that a man has more conditions and opportunities than a woman.

Women have a much more balanced egoism and much fewer states. And in men, the contrary. But among men and women there is a huge difference, a whole palette of egoistic states.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20

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laitman_628.1How does fate lead two people to marriage?

Question: Who is a woman for a man and vice versa, a man for a woman in the spiritual? How do they identify each other? Are there any patterns in family and spiritual life?

Answer: Do not think about it. There are certain spiritual conditions between husband and wife, but nothing more. There is no need to consider everyone else.

Question: But still there are some active interactions provided for between the spouses?

Answer: Yes, of course. We do not just meet and get married. Although sometimes we make a lot of all kinds of mistakes, however, if we conceive children, then this is already a family. And then, in accordance with this, the score is already relative to the relationship between a man and a woman.

Question: If there are no accidents, how is the combination of souls for the needs of their correction connected with how fate brings two people to marriage?

Answer: It seems to you that fate, who is allegedly blindfolded, leads you and pulls one out of the crowd, the other out of the crowd, and brings them together. Nothing like this!

These are all spiritual forces that act in accordance with the initial state of breaking up the soul and with the final state of uniting all the broken parts together. Between these two states, all the souls go through their rearrangements, combining, combining, and giving birth to children and so on. All this happens gradually, until we come to the general correction.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20

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Laitman_632.2How to save a marriage?

Question: It is known that one of the reasons for divorce is the selfishness of spouses. In the process of studying Kabbalah, egoism increases in both husband and wife. How can they avoid divorce with the inevitable growth of egoism under the influence of the upper world?

Answer: They should always help each other in spite of any disagreements.

The spouses understand that everything that happens between them is the egoism of everyone, which is very difficult to fight. It is difficult to endure so many years of living together with adult children or even grandchildren. Therefore, we must somehow adjust ourselves to the fact that their marriage is for life. No more options.

After all, if you have children first in one family, then in the second, in a third, then you make the children miserable. They will never forgive you for this. The child whom you left for another family will still feel that you have betrayed him. We must be prepared for the fact that you stay for life with this child. Not with your wife, with whom, perhaps, you would gladly part with, but with the children whom you brought with her.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20

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laitman_621May the Creator Decide Everything

Question: How do earthly women’s difficulties affect the development and acquisition of the spiritual property of bestowal? For example, does the inability to start a family, get married, have children, etc. somehow interfere with this or help?

Answer: If some conditions prevent you from starting a family, and you think that this pushes you to Kabbalah and not immersing yourself in raising children and serving a household, then, of course, this will happen.

I believe that regarding this we do not need to build any plans because we do not know the plans of the Creator. We should just go ahead.

There is an opportunity to get married, go ahead and marry. There is an opportunity to engage in Kabbalah, do it. When you are married and have a family, devote yourself to the family. If besides this there is an opportunity to also listen to lessons, continue to study.

But one does not have to decide: “That’s it, I will not get married, I will only deal with Kabbalah.” You cannot do it this way. Staying in our animal world, we must trust the Creator. May He decide what we should be.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 3/8/20

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