Question: Can we say that the family is needed only so that we learn to give correctly? This is selfish giving, but at least I get some models of correct behavior.
Answer: Yes, there is something like that. At least, the family demonstrates the condition that if a person feels them as close, then I am ready to treat him as myself.
Remark: You said that there are five kinds of desires in us. So it turns out that I see part of my desires outside myself and feel them as strangers, and I see part of my desires as mine and so I naturally care about their fulfillment.
My Comment: The whole world—all I can see are my desires. I see myself inside myself.
Question: But I see part outside myself and part inside?
Answer: Yes. Only those desires that are outside of me are like strangers, but they are the most important for me.
Question: Where is the family in this?
Answer: The family is in the middle, on the border between the “I” and the outside world. It is a transitional link from the awareness of the external world as yourself.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 1/1/19