Everyone Has Their Own Happiness

535.01Question: The famous psychologist Viktor Frankl wrote “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” Some research today says that a person becomes happy not from having meaning, but depending on how easy, pleasant, and free from problems life is.

What is happiness?

Answer: Happiness depends on what level a person is at. In principle, happiness is when all your desires are not satisfied, they are waiting for fulfillment, and everything is in anticipation, like a child who has a birthday soon.

When you feel as on your birthday, something will be given to you, it will be something good, i.e., you anticipate a reward from life, that is happiness. Everyone has their own.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 11/6/20

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Calculation Without Poetry

552.03Question: The formation of moral principles is greatly influenced by religion, spiritual teachings, culture, education, and personal beliefs. By adhering to moral standards, a person does not let himself sink to the status of a wild animal and keeps his instincts within the frameworks settled in this society.

Do you agree with this statement or will all these moral norms not work in extreme situations?

Answer: It depends on which standards, who fulfills them, and from whom they are required. But in principle, a person always acts according to the norms he has absorbed into himself that will guide his behavior.

Question: But if some kind of extreme situation happens, for example, a crisis, then isn’t it clear that a person will behave in a completely different way.

Answer: No. These norms will still guide him. Nothing will change in him.

If I really love someone, then my love values this person’s life more than my own. And that is why I treasure his life more than mine. This is all a strict calculation, there is no poetry here.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 10/9/20

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Building Bridges In The Connection Between Us

 202The main question that should trouble us is how to restore and rebuild the general vessel of the soul that was shattered by the egoism that entered it. Just as water flows from a mountainous area and fills the valleys between the mountains, the egoism that was revealed filled the voids in the connection between us and began to divide us and draw us further away from each other. Since then, the problem of how we can build bridges above our egoism arose.

Egoism will not disappear. It is impossible to fight it, and there is no need to do so. It is a force that was created by the Creator that governs us. It is impossible to do anything with it,  to erase or destroy it in any way. The only thing we can do is to balance it.

It is due to the fact that egoism divides us that we will begin to ascend above it more and more and build large bridges that will enable us to connect the “valleys” that separate us, so that the water, the sea, the ocean, will remain below and we will be able to build a second floor.

When we build these bridges above the water in order to connect with each other, we will feel a totally new integration in each other. We will need to take our egoism into account, because on one hand, we will not be able to build these bridges without it, and on the other hand, we need to raise the connection between us to the next level.

This is a very interesting level. We are all different and opposite from each other. We don’t understand each other and cannot agree with and join with each other so much so that we draw further away from each other and become strangers more and more.

See how young people today cannot connect anymore in order to marry, to raise children together, and maintain a home. Consequently, the foundations of many institutions in the world are being destroyed: villages, traditions, whatever, are actually disintegrating and crumbling.

Egoism grows continuously and the distances between us are filled with more and more water and bring us to a state where we can no longer exist in this world, especially today.

There is no longer a global integral world in which everyone is connected to each other to some extent, at least by egoistic forces. The 20th century was typified by unity between people in order to reach mutual gains in the fields of banking, commerce, politics, and international relations. But this era has passed and the state of estrangement is here again.

This is the reason that we have to learn to build the right bridges between us on top of the previous states, above the divisiveness we feel today, as it says: “love will cover all crimes,” which means the intentions against others, and thus, we should build bridges of love.

We will have to realize and understand how we can do that. What kind of connections can there be between us if each one sticks to his own views? If each one can switch his view to the view of another, what will happen then? A dictator will emerge and everyone will begin to obey him? This also cannot happen.

On the whole, the correction of the world is about taking all the gaps and the attributes each one has into account so that we can unite correctly. But how is that possible if each of us has a different view? What is more, the more developed we are, the greater the polarization between our different views, desires, understanding, and concepts.

The wisdom of Kabbalah, on the other hand, calls us to connect above our attributes, our understanding, and our concepts. How is it possible for two individuals to fulfill their needs, their goals, and operate in mutual understanding? This is a problem.

There is nothing we can do about this. We cannot understand the world that operates on two totally opposite dimensions at the same time.

On the lower level each of us is within himself, and we understand that we can come in contact with each other only above something distant and external, like different countries that maintain a relationship of “you are for me and I am for you,” and nothing more than that. But the plan of creation pushes us forward toward absolute connection.

Here we are in an increasingly growing contrast to the Creator who wants to connect us at any cost and thus pushes us toward each other in an egoistic manner. But the closer we get to each other, the more we feel like sworn enemies and that we cannot get closer. This means that the Creator constantly invokes and summons wars, conflicts, competitiveness, rivalry, etc. between us.

We see that even in our childhood and our youth, and also as adults and in old age, we cannot reach agreement on any level. Egoism grows and we become increasingly opposite from each other. Even the nations of the world feel this estrangement today and disperse in every direction.

A person doesn’t feel that he has to live among his nation, in his state, on his land, because compared to his ego, the nation, the state, and the land are lower levels. So the personal ego overcomes.

Statistically, today masses immigrate in search of new places to live. They don’t care if they live in their homeland or not, as long as the language barrier is not too great, and so they try to change their home place every way they can.

However, we are under the influence of the general force of nature, the Creator, who crushes us together no matter what, and pushes us closer and closer to each other by a force field. This is the reason that we feel increasingly worse and scared to be with each other.

Of course, we cannot connect on this level since it will bring us to another explosion. What can we do? According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, we need to build another level of bridges between us, but we need to know how to build them.

This is an attribute of Bina, which does not exist in our world. We must therefore begin to engage in creating tens in order to build within the tens the connections between us on the second floor, on the second level.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 2/6/19

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How To Express Your Feelings Correctly?

632.4Question: There are seven basic emotions that are accompanied by facial expressions: sadness, anger, contempt, disgust, fear, surprise, and joy. Charles Darwin also considered love as a basic emotion, although it has no facial expression.

How can you properly express your feelings, including love?

Answer: It depends on the character of the person. Everyone expresses emotions in their own way. Certain expressions correspond to certain types of people.

But, in principle, you don’t have to think about how to express them. You just need to be more frank with others, try to make them feel good near you, and then any of your facial expressions will be read correctly.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 11/6/20

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Which Future Will We Choose?

961.1Comment: Bill Gates says that the coronavirus pandemic has taken us twenty years back, if not more. He also says another very interesting thing that does not go along with what you say at all. In a New York Times interview, “Nonetheless, Mr. Gates was optimistic that the lost ground would be recovered ‘in two to three years.’ The pipelines of money from tourism, remittances, World Bank loans and other sources would begin flowing again as soon as the whole world was vaccinated, ending the pandemic; he expected that to be accomplished by sometime in 2022.”

This means that he wants to restore the past.

My Response: Well, what can we do? He is like a small child confused with all his economic calculations. He has probably also lost quite a bit of money or perhaps the opposite, maybe he has made more money.

Comment: He is an optimist and he calms the world by saying that it is possible to return to the state we were in before, yet you are saying that the world will never be what it was before.

My Response: Never.

Comment: You don’t calm the world.

My Response: No! I tell the world, “things will be much worse for us.”

Question: Can you elaborate on that? What is so optimistic about that? Why does the world have to hear this?

Answer: They need to hear that unless people correct themselves and the relations between them, all people will feel bad. All people will feel bad! This means that we have to correct ourselves. There is nowhere you can escape to and there is no other choice. What am I saying that is so bad?

Comment: I personally don’t think there is anything bad about that, but people want to return to the world in which we flew around and went on holidays all the time and visited people.

My Response: You can fly wherever you want to, but you will not be able to restore the old world in any way.

Comment: People don’t want to erase the old world from their memory.

My Response: You know, there are movies like that in which a person leaves a certain place, abandons it, and then within two or three years everything there simply disintegrates, everything falls apart.

Question: So you believe that this is very superficial thinking and that the correct thinking is that we will not return to the past and we need to think about the future?

Answer: There is no going back! Show me even one historic event, one case in which people went back. There is no such thing. Even if they did go back after a war, after restoration, it was totally different. There were new cities and new relationships!

Comment: This is the most important thing for you, a new relationship.

My Response: It is not for me. It is the most important thing for nature and this is the reason nature puts us in such states.

Question: It isn’t about tourism, not cities, not industry, not food, nothing, only relationships?

Answer: It is about bringing a person to the state of one whole.

Question: Is this what nature wants and will attain no matter what?

Answer: Of course, and we choose the good way or the bad way.

Question: Can nature whisper to us, “Choose the good way?”

Answer: Nature constantly whispers to us, but we don’t want to hear. It constantly suggests this to us!

Question: Does this mean that we don’t hear this voice of nature?

Answer: We don’t hear it.

Comment: We hear ourselves and only shout, “Take us back. We don’t want to live like this!”

My Response: That’s the only thing we do!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/21/20

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Overcome Prejudice

627.1Question: The halo effect is a phenomenon that occurs when people evaluate each other in the process of communication. In a negative sense, this effect manifests itself in the downplaying of the merits of one person by another, caused by some kind of prejudice.

This is very important in the course of integral education where people of different social levels, nationalities, and gender identity meet. Such differences initially suggest some kind of bias. Where to start? How do you come to a common denominator?

Answer: This is a purely psychological problem. But gradually it becomes spiritual. Therefore, we need to talk about this with each other, control ourselves, and feel where we are coming from in order to make some decisions, views, and opinions.

Question: Is not dealing with prejudices that have been around for thousands of years a big problem?

Answer: It all depends on the environment. If it constantly shows you an example of how to be objective, you can overcome these prejudices.
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Ask The Creator For Help

562.02Comment: Kabbalah says that when a person does not ask for help from the Creator, it is a transgression.

My Response: People who are aspiring for the goal of creation and want to reach the correct state should understand that their aspirations consist of two directions.

One is moving toward each other. The other is the realization and understanding that it is impossible to do this because our nature does not allow and will not allow us to do it. The Creator stands in the way between us and does not allow us to get closer to each other, and causes all sorts of problems so that a person understands that without the participation of the Creator, he cannot get closer to others.

Neither man, nor a nation, nor a country, nor the entirety of humanity will achieve anything unless they begin to move toward getting closer to each other with the help of the Creator.

This is when the action such as a commandment, that is, a good action occurs when I try to get closer to others and ask the Creator to participate in this. Then I can definitely count on success.
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From KabTV’s “”Spiritual States” 11/19/18

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Mass Discommunication Media

Dr. Michael LaitmanFrom My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 12/8/20

Mass communication has always played an important role in shaping public opinion and the perception of reality of society, but in recent years it has transformed into a critical controversial force.

With only a few exceptions, the US mainstream media has crowned Biden as the winner of the presidential election, while President Trump’s legal team is contesting the results with allegations of fraud. A total of 220 GOP members of the House and Senate—an overwhelming majority of Republicans in Congress—will simply not acknowledge Biden’s win before everything is cleared up, according to a Washington Post poll.

The US example, and quite frankly the prevailing tendency all over the world, shows how the biased media is not carrying out its role to objectively report on current events as it is supposed to do. The free world should be characterized by a robust independent media that acts as a watchdog of the people’s interests, instead of being a mouthpiece for a specific sector with a particular financial or political agenda. Otherwise, we lose any semblance of democracy, which by definition is the rule of the people, where all voices are equal and have the right to be heard and taken into account.

When the media distorts its role and becomes a ruler, censoring ideas or speeches of public officials that do not correspond to their own views, democracy cannot exist either. Limiting pluralism diverts people from deep thought, discussion, and understanding. Instead, the populace is pumped full of low-level communication packed with gossip, lies, and one-sided information. In such a scenario, there is no search for in-depth analysis, only an attempt to advertise and profit, mislead, and confuse the audience.

Beyond the political dispute about the results of the US election, what does the state of the media say about American society? It says that all the voting laws and procedures set by the states throughout the years—which leave room for people’s doubts and dissatisfaction about election results and generate dubious interpretations by special interest groups including the media—need to be carefully examined and updated to the new world’s reality, as some analysts propose. This is not only true in America but also in the rest of humanity which is starting to understand that there is a need for a serious change of direction from old structures and frameworks.

It may not be clearly apparent and obvious in daily life, but this development in needs is a consequence of humanity’s evolution. The forces inherent in nature are obliging the whole world to fix the distortions revealed before our eyes. If we see society in a state of separation and confusion, it should make efforts to recover balance through connection.

It is the media that sets the general public tone and atmosphere. As public discourse stands now, one point of view is raised and another lowered. Therefore, a renewed media that will serve the people’s interest must strive to establish a common, middle ground that will connect and balance the pluses and minuses, pros and cons and guarantee everyone a voice for pluralistic opinion. A healthy media can illuminate society by becoming a connecting force for everyone’s benefit and progress.