Question: Vladimir writes: “My friend, who works in a bank, told me about a global reform. The bank’s managers have replaced all men from the cash desk with women. He said that the bank conducted an analysis of many years of monitoring. It turned out that ten percent of male cashiers, working with money, cannot resist and start stealing. And among women, this tendency is much less than one percent.

He asks: “Why can’t men resist having a lot of other people’s money in their hands? After all, it is believed that women love money more. What is the weakness of men?”

Answer: First of all, women are more disciplined. They are more responsible. They have less craving for theft compared to men. They are more loyal. So it is natural.

Question: Why can’t men hold back?

Answer: Men are like children. I can now steal a little something somewhere, buy myself something special, some kind of toy or something else, I will do it, I cannot resist.

Question: So at that moment does the money stick to one’s hands?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And in a woman is there some inner shame to steal?

Answer: Women are very independent and sustained. A female thief is nonsense.

Question: What is at the root here? You keep saying that a woman is a greater desire to receive, egoism can be bigger. And at the same time, you are now justifying them in this way.

Answer: This depends not just on the desire to receive, it depends on independence. Women are more independent. They feel responsible for themselves and for their future. And they feel themselves in a relatively threatening world.

Question: Will she also be afraid?

Answer: Yes. Man does not have this feeling. Again, not from intelligence and not from physical strength or courage, but because he is like a child. Because men lack internal, hormonal development like women, they feel like children.

Question: What is “hormonal”? Do you mean adulthood?

Answer: Yes, adulthood. And that is why they do not have it.

Question: You mean the responsibility to give birth to a person?

Answer: Of course! They can sit on a bench and drink beer, chat with each other, and do something else of that sort. In general, it does not matter what. A woman always has some kind of responsibility for herself, for her relatives, for her mother, for her children, and so on.

Question: Can you say anything good about men?

Answer: Nothing. What can you do? That is who we are.

Question: Then what can be done with a man who has money sticking to his hands?

Answer: This is a problem. He needs to run away from this job. That is all.

Question: So this is the advice: stay away from work with money? So that he is further away from money?

Answer: Yes. This is the first call to prison.

Question: And in the upper root, what is it with the male and female parts?

Answer: The male part just needs a big correction and immediate one, and the woman needs a softer and non–urgent one.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 5/18/23

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Question: Does jealousy have a root? Where does it come from?

Answer: In our world jealousy comes from the egoistic feeling of “I have this, it is mine, and I receive pleasure from this, but no one else does. Do not take my bone, or I will bite you.”

But as soon as I become indifferent to this object, let others grab it, take it, and tear it apart into shreds, then I am no longer interested in it. And if it does interest me, then it is only from my point of view so the other person will not feel better than me.

Spiritual states are built only on the combination and mutual participation in receiving the upper light. The female part cannot be without the male part and the male without the female one.

Question: Is there no such thing as jealousy in spirituality?

Answer: What is jealousy? Jealousy of whom or what? There is jealousy only of the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What Is Jealousy?” 18/5/11

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Question: Are there any restrictions in mixing the souls, i.e., in spiritual mixture? We often talk about mutual integration when one person accepts the desires of the other. But on the corporeal level, everything is kind of determined: here I am, here are my wife and children.

Answer: This comes from the fact that the husband, wife, and their children are one spiritual cell. It is just that in our world it was divided into a male part and a female part, but in the spiritual world it is one Partzuf, Aviut (thickness), and Zakut (purity, subtlety), desire, and Masach (screen), which work together.

Therefore, in spirituality, there are no separately existing female and male parts. Their joint work generates the next state called children.

Therefore, in our world, we are arranged in such a way that we are grouped into families. In the spiritual state, there can be no confusion with husbands and wives, and everyone will find their other half.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Promiscuous Sex” 5/14/11

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Question: Scientists have proven that a woman retains information about all the partners that she had in her life and this later manifests in her children. Why does this happen? Why does the information remain although there is just one father?

Answer: This is why a woman as belonging only to a certain man is valued so much, it is because she carries the genetic information about all her previous men. Up to the fact that children can look like the men who she had affairs with many years before the conception of a child. The body remembers this.

Question: Does it have any spiritual information?

Answer: I would not say it is spiritual information, but it is a record.

We, humans, are very complex, multi-layered beings, so the transmission of spiritual information occurs even through our communication. There are many kinds of spiritual activities going on during our conversation right now.

The information that you receive from me is transmitted through the network through which you are connected with a great number of people, with those whom you knew and with whom you will have contact in the future. We are interconnected in this way.

Can you imagine what a huge communication system we are talking about, what is happening every second in the world? The way we all intertwine! We are moving forward because of this. Humanity is getting increasingly connected by these networks until it reaches complete unity.

Now we are moving toward a state of greater unity with each other. But it is negative. We must turn it into positive or it will tear us apart. There is egoism inside of this unity. Therefore, two opposing forces, unity on one hand and egoism in it on the other hand, will tear us apart.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Casual Love Affairs” 4/30/11

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “If your spouse has become too demanding and controlling, what can you do about it?“

Kiss him.

It comes from the principle, “love will cover all crimes.”

Similar to Eastern martial arts, we need to use our opponent’s strength. Therefore, when your spouse bursts into complaints or throws accusations at you, kiss them. By so doing, you disarm them. However, unlike martial artists who wish to defeat each other, you have to act from the bottom of your heart.

You find love by building it atop the hatred and impatience you feel in such situations.

Based on the video “This Martial Arts Wisdom Will Better Your Relationship” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
Photo by Pat Whelen on Unsplash.

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Question: Why is such a thing as sex so hidden? What is sex?

Answer: Sex is a fusion of two opposite qualities that connect with each other in order to rise to the next level.

Initially sex was conceived in nature as a connection of creation with the Creator. Creation is a feminine principle that wants to receive fulfillment from the masculine principle, from the Creator. And when the Creator gives it fulfillment, this fulfillment develops in the feminine principle and generates their next, mutual, middle stage.

The purpose of all creation is to come to such a combination with the Creator. This act of spiritual copulation of the one creation with the one Creator is described in the “Song of Songs” by King Solomon.

Since the state of fusion of creation with the Creator is the highest, it gives the greatest pleasure in our world. Therefore it is said that love and hunger rule the world as two basic instincts.

Hunger is understandable to us; it also exists at the animal level. And sex on the animal level exists instinctively in the same way as food does. The animal needs sex and does it according to the program at certain times of year.

But man does not, because it is precisely in this that he has freewill to come and merge with the Creator. Therefore this feeling in a person is not dictated by nature, but is given to him in perfection so that he can control it himself.

Since we are in an egoistic state, we manage it completely wrong. And if a person comes to a spiritual state, then, on the contrary, he begins to correctly control his sexual impulses.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What Is Sex?” 2/27/11

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Comment: A student who watches almost all our videos, writes: “Dear Michael Laitman, My beloved husband, my soulmate, passed away a month ago. I try to ease my pain with thoughts and hope that our souls are connected and that I lost the body, but not the unity we had when he lived. Has a part of my soul gone with him? How can I feel a part of his soul in me? Maybe you can answer me. It is very difficult to live without him.”

My Response: Yes, it is difficult to answer such questions, moreover, obviously to a lonely elderly woman.

I think that the main thing is that we should not blame anyone for anything. The upper force moves all parts of nature including us. We need to look at this in a completely practical, pragmatic way. Let us prepare ourselves for the state when we will know and see everything and feel our world from above.

Question: Could you tell what state she should be in? He is gone, and there is no physical body in front of her.

Answer: She must be in a state of submission. What is there, let it continue. Time will change, and fate will change, and then we will feel a new life.

Question: If you pass all this obediently?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: That is, to return to this all the time and torment yourself with it…

My Response: No, none of this is necessary. Torments are not needed.

Question: And what to submit to in this case? To fate, to the upper providence?

Answer: To both. It is the same.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/20/23

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Question: How can you explain the birth of the next degree?

Answer: The birth of the next degree is a continuation of the relationship between the male and female parts on the next level. Moreover, this level is usually higher.

A child is born from a man and a woman. But his basis is the next state.

The spiritual man and woman or a man and woman in our world are just the external reason that a child is born. Suppose a child is to be born, so a couple appears who have a craving for each other, they unite and conceive him because a certain number of souls in their bodily expression must be born in our world.

They themselves do not know why they suddenly start flirting with each other, start some kind of relationship. A desire is aroused in them when it is necessary to give birth to someone from within, from nature itself. Are we doing something on our own? Although it seems to us that these are our personal desires, they in fact come from the need to develop a common system.

We are inside this field like peas. What needs to be realized is aroused in us, and we involuntarily realize it, and we can realize not involuntarily, but based on our attainment. Kabbalah leads to this.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What is a Man and a Woman?” 2/21/11

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Question: What is a family?

Answer: A family is a few related souls who appear to be closer to me than anyone else.

The role of the family is similar in its form to close cells in the body. It is mutual involvement, overcoming obstacles to help each other, and so on. There is nothing else, and as a rule it is not on the spiritual, but on the animal level of help and destruction.

On the spiritual level, only the group operates—friends who are similar to me in striving for the goal.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What is a Family?” 2/21/11

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Question: What is a “woman” in spirituality? What is a woman in your understanding?

Answer: This is the most difficult question because a woman is a mysterious part of the universe, Malchut, meaning desire, which is the only thing that was created by the Creator. In our world, the personification of the Creator is a man, and a woman is a representation of creation, of the created being.

Basically, if we are talking about man and woman, we mean two parts of a person created by the Creator. Both parts complement each other and only together can come to correction.

The female part is more passive and is inclined to fulfillment, reception, to being approached as a companion, because she helps and accompanies correction. Indeed, women resist the process that humanity must go through less.

A man represents the part of creation that needs to be corrected first. He actively corrects himself (if he is engaged in it, of course), and therefore it is more difficult for him. He needs women’s support. He does not agree that he needs correction as a woman does. In this respect, he is disobedient to the Creator, that is, to the force of nature that shows him that it is necessary to move toward the goal.

This confrontation with the Creator is impossible for a man without a woman’s help.

A woman is a great helper in terms of correction. She gives strength and support and provides security. She was created in such a way that without her a man is not able to correct himself. But the main correction is on him.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. A Woman” 1/23/11

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