Leader In The Family

565.02Question: Now, when people are in lockdown, they begin a subconscious struggle for leadership. Psychologists say that people who are together for a long time try to be assertive in this way.

Who should be the leader in the family during the quarantine period?

Answer: The virus. It should determine the extent of our closeness.

We need to be very clear that it all comes down to our egoism. The virus appears together with egoism and disappears with it. Therefore, a couple should try to behave in such a way that this egoism, that is, the virus, is as far away from them as possible.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/27/20

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In Isolation At Home

570Question: During the first quarantine, there was a surge in domestic violence. Now the second quarantine is on its way. It has already been introduced in Israel. Public organizations are sounding the alarm.

What should spouses do during home isolation?

Answer: I would advise them to keep their distance to the extent that they can be on good terms. Regulate physical closeness with each other depending on the spiritual disposition toward each other.

You cannot do anything here; we are people. It is very difficult for us to control our egoism, our nerves, and our habits. We need to understand each other, talk about this topic within the family, and try to manage it.

Remark: It is interesting that the principle “the closer—the worse, the further—the better” works here.

My Comment: This is because we are egoistic. We are used to running into each other for half an hour in the morning before work, a half an hour or an hour in the evening, perhaps when we have dinner together, and somewhat when we go to bed, although this is more likely communication not between people but between the sexes.

Based on this, our life, of course, is rather poor.

Question: So, the main thing is to talk to each other more often, to communicate more?

Answer: Of course. But this does not mean that we should impose something on each other. We need to discuss everything as frankly as possible, not hide anything, so that the other understands what I think, what I want, etc. I, in turn, should try to express my personal opinion and not the one that I caught from some television series or from somewhere else.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/27/20

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To Love Is To Rejoice In The Success Of Another

285.02Question: Why do you always say that you don’t envy your children or your students?

Answer: I love them and therefore am happy for their advancement. There can be no envy here because I invest in them and, as it were, continue my life in them.

Question: So, if a person loves someone, he can’t be envious of them?

Answer: No, at least not evil envy for sure and not even kind envy. I’m just happy with what he has.

Question: And if our goal is to come to love our neighbor, then it turns out that without envy we will not develop?

Answer: The fact is that love will encourage us to invest even more in each other. When a person who is close to me starts to achieve great things, I will not envy him but will be happy for him. I’ll sort of participate in it.

Question: Is there envy for the Creator, the original source who created us?

Answer: No. Maybe only at the beginning. This is the feeling you get when you think of the Creator as something foreign. When you begin to realize, understand, and feel that this is something above you, embracing everything, and you are in Him, and there is no one else besides Him, then there is no envy.

This is something so voluminous, beyond all possible sensations or possibilities of comprehension, that I can’t envy Him.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 8/7/20

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New Life 474 – Disconnection Between The People And Their Leaders

New Life 474 – Disconnection Between The People And Their Leaders
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Today, governance is bought for money. There is no relationship between leaders and the public but only between the public and the media. The media don’t do their job to connect people in a positive way.

In the animal world there is a king, a leader, and a pride. It was also the same at the beginning of human history. Everyone used to be ruled by the king, but the idea of monarchy gradually declined and then sages became the representatives of the upper force. Now, people no longer believe that there are representatives of the upper force in this world. What is needed is a deep, comprehensive process of social education that will guide all of us to value connection and unity.

When we aim ourselves toward connection and unity, we will be able to choose the right person to lead us in this direction. We will elect a group of leaders who will emerge from the people who adhere to the principle “love thy friend as thyself,” wise people who will lead the nation of Israel toward the fulfillment of their destiny.
From KabTV’s “New Life 474 – Disconnection Between The People And Their Leaders,” 12/16/14

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The Most Precious Gem

562.03Confucius: “The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.”

Man must polish himself. Moreover, polish to such an extent that sometimes he literally rips off layers, egoistic layers. If only one would be able to endure. This is very painful.

Question: Can a person do it at all?

Answer: There comes such opportunity, such contempt, when you feel that anger and aversion to egoism is greater than the pain, and you want to erase it from yourself.

Question: Is this how the precious gem is revealed?

Answer: Yes.

Question: If man were able to go through this state, what would he reveal then?

Answer: He reveals the Creator within him.

Question: When you say “To reveal the Creator within yourself,” what do you mean?

Answer: I find Him there. It turns out that He was within me. I thought that there was some kind of egoism in me, an animal. But in fact, it was the Creator!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/27/20

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Preparation to the Lesson

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Lesson on the Topic of “Work with Faith Above Reason”

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Study of the Ten Sefirot, Histaklut Pnimit, Vol. 1, Part 1, Chapter 5, Item 22″

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Lesson on the Topic of “Noah”

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Selected Highlights

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