Becoming Strong And Independent

908Question: What advice can a Kabbalist give to build a successful connection between parents and children?

Answer: It depends on the situation in which the child is being raised. He should not be in antagonism with his environment. A child should know that the family supports him as much as possible, gives him confidence, protection, and will always be behind him.

Then he will become a strong person. Surprisingly, exactly when he feels that a good family and love are behind him, he grows up to be brave.

This is a paradox that is especially noticeable in Israel: Here children are brought up very gently and later they are not afraid of anything, not in the army or during the war, which cannot be said about Arab children, who are brought up extremely harshly. This is how the psychology of the various layers of society manifests.

Give children maximum love and sensitivity and you will see that they become strong and independent.

Question: Wouldn’t this turn them into little egoistic bandits?

Answer: No, love and softness are not permissiveness. This does not mean that children do not have any framework. After all, you educate them, give them everything necessary for education, but at the same time you support them and they clearly know they have support behind them.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/29/2018

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Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 8/29/18

Lesson Preparation

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Lesson on the Topic “Rosh HaShana

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Talmud Eser Sefirot,  Vol. 2, Part 7, “Histaklut Pnimit,” Item 9

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar

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My Thoughts On Twitter 8/28/18

Dr Michael Laitman Twitter

The world is a projection of my egoistic qualities on the background of white light, which is opposite to them
Instead of showing us our flaws, the Creator shows them to us outside of us, as if they are foreign to us.
We criticize them egoistically, until we ask to see the truth!

Egoists care about life/earnings, while Kabbalists annul these goals and even themselves, existing because it’s the Creator’s will.
It’s written: Egoists’ reason is opposite to Torah—Kabbalists’ reason.
Egoists’ reason is in fulfilling life, while Torah’s reason is negating life.

Inasmuch as I immerse in the group, I’m in adhesion with the Creator.
The group is the degree of my adhesion with Him.
If I include myself in the group, annulling myself, I’ll discover that it accepts me and the Creator dwells between them.
The group is in a state of full correction!

We can’t measure our relationships directly, but we can do it relative to a foreign object: how different your feeling of it is from mine. Likewise in our world we use a standard to measure various phenomena/degrees. The group is the average between me and the Creator!

I can reach equivalence with the Creator only by reaching equivalence with the group—in this way, the Creator and I coincide. The group is the place where the Creator and I are together. My entire spiritual work lies in clinging to 9 friends and completing them to a 10.

Entering the ladder of merging with the Creator starts with the desire to be an “embryo” in the Creator and total submission to Him, as an embryo is in full charge of the mother. So the restriction is met: want nothing but being in the Creator i.e., all thoughts/desires—about Him.

Kabbalah: To motivate the Jews to unite, Israel must produce an educational program about the role of unity of the Jews in the unity of the world. #Trump should demand from #Israel to unite and thereby compel the whole world to follow, so he can get the Nobel Prize and relax.
From Twitter, 8/28/18

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Preparation For Spiritual Work

281.01Question: What is the difference between the spiritual work being the goal and the work through which we achieve the goal?

Answer: There is the work of preparation and there is the spiritual work itself. The preparation work is when I still cannot perform the correct actions, that is, in conjunction with the group and with the Creator; while I am still learning, I listen to all sorts of wisdom about the science of Kabbalah.

This preparation is the same as in life: I study in school for at least 15 years until I start working and getting paid, to see the fruits of my labor. This is the difference.

In spiritual work, preparation takes at least 10 to 15 years and maybe more. We see that people have been engaged with us for at least 10 years, and I would say that this is not enough. According to my calculation, it takes about 20 years to really move from preparation to work.

The difference is that then a person feels that he must depend on the Creator; one is constantly working on “There is none else besides Him” in everything that happens internally and externally and apart from one point of unity, there is nothing that is not the Creator, and this point is given to him so that he could connect it with Him.
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From a Conversation in Iceland, 5/18/18

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The Request And The Answer At Once

laitman_284.03It is impossible to judge a state until you have been in it. In the evening, it is difficult to believe that in the morning you will not have power to get up and that sleep will be so sweet because in the evening we are attracted by completely different pleasures.

Therefore, it is written: “Do not judge your friend until you are in his shoes.” The other is you, so do not judge yourself in vain. To judge the place, you need to be in it with all your desires, thoughts, and feelings. This means that “the judge has only what his eyes see.”

The spiritual path presumes that a person judges himself, looking at himself from aside, in every state, until he reaches the middle line, and then he can become a real judge.1

What’s most important for advancement on the spiritual path is prayer, a request. It does not matter what happened, what state we are in—all this is given and arranged by the Creator. And we can only appeal to the Creator, all together, with one request, from one heart. This is what’s most important.

If a person treats the request to the Creator correctly, he immediately receives an answer and by this he can sharpen his request and again receive an answer, again sharpen the request, and again receive an answer, etc. So, it goes in circles all the time: “I am for my beloved, and my beloved is for me” until we adhere to such an extent that we work together. It is not that I ask and the Creator answers or that I react to the Creator’s response, but the request and the answer occur simultaneously.

Later on, we will see that the answer lies in the request itself. This is determined by the measure of adhesion between us. One does not need to wait for an answer because the request itself already contains the answer.2
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/20/18, Lesson preparation
1 Minute 6:11
2 Minute 8:00

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Higher And Higher And Higher!

laitman_248.02The most important thing is to rise to the level of Lishma on which the whole spiritual ladder is built. That is, one has to gain the power of faith, the power of Bina, which is the power of bestowal above reception and the desire to enjoy, which the Creator, the upper Light, constantly awakens in us. Thus, the Creator advances us, awakening darkness in us, and we have to hold on to the Light of faith, the Light of Hassadim, bestowal above darkness.

This means that one has to advance by faith above reason. The gained knowledge becomes a level on which we build faith. And the faith that one gains above knowledge becomes new knowledge, and one has to rise above it to an even greater faith. And so, every time, a new level of bestowal and faith turns into a new level of reception and knowledge, over which one has to rise again.

One ascends because he does not pay attention to his feelings inside the desire to enjoy. Of course, one feels darkness, helplessness, and desperation in everything relating to egoism. But despite this, one has to act as if he is in bestowal, the property of Bina, in faith and unity, as it is said: “They have eyes and see not.”

We have to work on two levels that do not cancel each other. I know exactly in my common sense that I am in egoism and that I do not want to connect with anyone and give to anyone. I am not attracted to all the conditions that the science of Kabbalah recommends. One feels all this in his egoistic desire, and he gives himself a full account of this without turning a blind eye to the truth and deceiving himself as if he has already been corrected.

I stand with both feet on the ground because “the judge has only what his eyes see.” And with it, I lift my head above the clouds, that is, I imagine a spiritual step as if the upper Light has already come and filled me and given me the power of bestowal, unity, merging with the group, and within it, with the Creator.

This becomes my new, second stage, which does not cancel the first. I am on two levels at the same time; they do not cancel each other, but exist each by itself. Thus, I build the level of faith above reason: There is reason, which is Malchut, and above it—faith, Bina.

I live so all the time. If I manage to hold on to faith above reason, putting a full measure of effort in this, then I will feel how my state will change. The former level of faith gradually turns into knowledge, and then I need a new faith and a higher level of bestowal.

I thus climb the ladder. What was faith turns into knowledge; Bina transmits its power to Malchut and Malchut swells and grows. One rises above it to a new level of Bina: higher and higher and higher!

This is the whole secret of the spiritual ascent. The most difficult thing is to stay on two levels simultaneously: in Malchut and in Bina so that they do not cancel one another. Do not be small children who can only be in one state. The adult stands firmly on the ground in this world and keeps his head high in the future world.

One has to practice this a lot because the whole ascent upward until the end of correction happens only in this form. The faster we can realize it, helping each other, the more we will succeed. We are close to this state. It is very important for the group to support everyone. Our destiny depends only on adopting this principle: how to rise from the level of reason to the level of faith. Spiritual ascent and acquisition of the soul are built on this principle.1
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/14/18, Lesson on the Topic: “From the Bottom of the Ladder to the Permanent Dvekut
1 Minute 0:20

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The Times Of Israel: “Today’s Challenges To Jews And The Lack Of Leadership”

The Times of Israel published my new article “Today’s Challenges to Jews and the Lack of Leadership

The future of the Jewish nation is at stake. Has the time come for a “modern-day Moses” for the Jewish people—a leader, a group, or a movement that will pave the way to unity in the face of the current divisions and conflicts? A type of advance-squadron leadership who addresses the most pressing issues affecting the Jews in the Diaspora and Israel, and bridges the gaps between them?

Internal fragmentation and divisiveness, apathy, assimilation and anti-Semitism are only a few of the Jewish world’s challenges. These problems are clearly evident, but no one is stepping up with solutions or feasible plans to effectively address these issues, which could rapidly escalate and threaten our very existence. We are too busy squabbling with each other while our enemies unite forces against us.

In Europe, anti-Semitism has reached such levels that Jews have been warned not to wear kippot in public for fear of being violently attacked. In Britain, anti-Semitic incidents hit record highs for the second consecutive year with over 100 new cases being recorded every month by watchdog groups. In Germany, a country that previously enforced among the toughest legislation in the world prohibiting the use of Nazi symbols, recently lifted that ban for computer games. The sale of neo-Nazi merchandise and neo-Nazi gatherings at music festivals are no longer taboo. In the US alone, 3,023 incidents of anti-Semitism were reported in 2017 – 2018, the highest level in two decades, according to the Anti-Defamation League (ADL).

Meanwhile, there is a growing rift between American Jews and Israelis. A significant shift is taking place in the younger generation of American Jews’ views about what it means to be Jewish. Thus, one of the greatest concerns of American Jewry is maintaining the Jewish identity of the next generation, and the memory of the Jewish people, to help avoid existential risks to the Jewish people.

In order to champion these challenges, we need leadership capable of renewing our ideological foundation as a united people. Such leadership should elevate us to the level of unity and mutual responsibility that was once achieved and taught by our patriarch Abraham to the small group called “Israel” before we descended into unfounded hatred, the source of all our troubles and miseries. Very simply, when we unite—not erasing our differences, but rising above them—we succeed and flourish, and our leadership should be predominantly concerned with realizing this principle.

We should aspire to a new leadership capable of learning the principles of the ancient wisdom of Kabbalah, and which can explain how humanity is connected as one integral system. We need leadership that will demonstrate how the Jewish people is a microcosm of the world, a small replica reflecting the whole of humanity, and which can guide us step-by-step in making significant positive changes toward connection and mutual understanding.

The 20th Century’s most renowned Kabbalist, Rav Yehuda Ashlag (Baal HaSulam), wrote in his “Introduction to the Book of Zohar“: “Bear in mind that in everything there is internality and externality. In the world in general, Israel, the descendants of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, are considered the internality of the world.” That internal force can be activated in the Jewish people through our connection. It is what the nations of the world subconsciously want from us, dwelling deep within as the core reason behind every expression of anti-Semitism.

Rav Abraham Isaac Kook also emphasizes the importance of our role in his writings Orot (Lights): “Israel is the essence of all existence, and you have no movement in the world, in all nations, which you will not find in Israel.” As our sages convey, our Jewish role is not optional. We are responsible for everything that happens in the world, for better or for worse. It is difficult to understand because we don’t immediately feel it, but with the help of wise leadership that knows how to make this reality plain and accessible to everyone, we will come to see that this is how the system of human connection is structured at a deeper level. Instead of the current state of reacting with knee-jerk responses to hardships and dangers, a wise leadership would prevent such situations from developing in the first place, establishing our unity as our inviolable safeguard.

With the High Holidays approaching, we have a tremendous opportunity for renewal. Now is the time for a leadership that will guide us to achieve the level of “love your friend as yourself” and by doing so, become a “light unto the nations.” This will require a massive educational campaign calling for unity and togetherness. At the time when we achieve the goal of connection, instead of more divisions, conflicts and threats, we will be able to proclaim a true Rosh HaShanah, the beginning of a new year of unity, peace and tranquility for all.
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