Question: You have reiterated that a man and a woman are by nature completely opposite to each other. They are two different perceptions of the world. Then how do they communicate with each other?

Where is the point of connection?

Answer: It is above them, in the Creator. Between husband and wife, the point of connection is the Creator. “Husband and wife, Divinity between them.”

Question: When you say the Creator, can you simplify it a little?

Answer: This is a common property of reciprocity, mutual support, love, and connection, created by a man and a woman. It goes particularly in this combination—a man and a woman.

Question: Do they have to understand this in advance before they start their relationship?

Answer: In general, yes. This must be the purpose for which they bond together.

Question: What is the purpose of these two different, polar people—a man and a woman?

Answer: The purpose is that through mutual assistance between them, they reach such a state, such a connection when they will “revolve” around each other and at the same time create a special form of existence—”I am for you, you are for me, and both of us are for the Creator between us.” As it is said: “Husband and wife, Divinity between them.”

Question: So that the Creator becomes the highest property of love, bestowal? And it grows, and grows, and grows?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/14/22

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Question: What is love?

Answer: Love is when you perceive the desires of another person above your own and strive to fulfill them.

Question: But isn’t classic love when there is a burning sensation in the heart?

Answer: I do not know about the burning in the heart. We need to ask the physiologists what can burn there. You are talking about some suffering, maybe bad feelings and experiences.

I, however, am talking about the fact that love is the desire to fulfill the desire of the other person by yourself at the expense of and above your own desires. It does not matter at all to you what will happen to you from this, because the most important thing for you is what will happen to him. This is earthly love, and not the one Kabbalah speaks about.

According to Kabbalah, love is an adhesion of two spiritual objects: the created being (man) and the Creator. Or rather, the soul and the Creator. Such adhesion is reached by the similarity of qualities when the soul and the Creator bestow to each other, fulfill each other, and therefore merge together and absolutely complete each other. This state is called love.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Love” 1/19/11

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Question: If we talk about the family of the future, what kind of agreement do they make when they get married?

Answer: An agreement that he or she should, first of all, think about the children, then about the spouse, and then about himself or herself. In general, this is very simple. I do not see any problems.

When they think in such a state and are guided by such thoughts, they will have no problems. Even if they will not live relatively closely together, because everything happens in life. I have seen many families who are happy and at the same time do not have close contact with each other.

Comment: So, they follow this formula if there are children.

My Response: They are good friends.

When we first of all demand love and devotion, it is wrong, it quickly leads to defeat. We even see in our lives that it does not work out.

Question: How does the Creator then make all these turns?

Answer: Because there is a difference between the level of an animal and the human level. We definitely should be ascending to it.

Question: What is the human level in this?

Answer: The human level is when I think of my spouse as a friend.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/14/22

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Comment: Psychologists say that one of the factors to prevent divorces and quarrels is to sleep in a shared bed, necessarily under the same blanket where you must either settle the relationship or improve it. You have no where to go. They say that there should not be, in the literal sense, a gap between husband and wife, different beds, rooms.

As far as I understand, this is a modern view, it somehow differs from our forefathers. The male and female halves were separated then.

My Response: There has always been a separate male and female bed. They didn’t sleep together.

Question: Tell me then, why, from a spiritual point of view, should the male and female each have their own half, their own part?

Answer: Because initially we are two halves.

Question: And in us, in a person, is male and female also divided?

Answer: Of course!

Question: In every person?

Answer: Not only in every person. In every atom, in every piece of information. There is no such thing that the nine Sefirot and the tenth Malchut are connected. Only after they are ready for this, and on the basis of mutual collision does penetration occur. A new life is born out of this. But all this is only temporary. It is an act and nothing more.

Question: Now the basis is clear, why they should be separate. Then the question is will they ever be connected?

Answer: In no way, never! This will be a clear and correct interaction between creation and the Creator.

Question: Is this the union of male and female, where the Creator is male and creation is female?

Answer: Yes. This is the same as the question: Will egoism ever disappear? It won’t disappear. It will be used correctly in our connection.

Question: Then the Kabbalistic question is: “And what is the final correction?“

Answer: It is when egoism and altruism interact with each other correctly and maintain a clear balance between each other.

Altruism is male, and egoism is the female inclination. They understand that one cannot manifest without the other.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/4/22

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The male and female parts of the group are two mutually opposite forces that must act in a certain harmony and connection.

When they have one goal, they can really achieve a lot. Without the development of a female stabilization system, a man will rush forward and only tear everything apart, just as it happens in our world.

The male part or man can move forward correctly and receive help from above only when he has a special, developed stabilizing part that holds him back, and gives his striving forward the right direction, the right pace of development.

A man must understand that he cannot develop alone, he needs a stabilizing female part, and in order to move forward together, he rushes forward, and now he is alone.

The female part must know that she is doing everything to stabilize this common part, but not to prevent a man from moving forward, but rather to be ready to be for him, to really be the part that supports and protects him, like a mother of a little son.

In some ways such a relationship remains for life: the wife is a little to the side of a mother, and the husband in the aspect of a little son.

Question: What is the ideal combination of female support for a person who follows the path of Kabbalah?

Answer: The ideal combination of female support is when a wife studies with her husband, understands his occupation, his movements, aspirations, his flare-ups, falls, weaknesses, strengths, and his peculiarities thanks to which he can develop spiritually, and her exclusivity in supporting him, to prevent him from going beyond the boundaries of the correct “path” along which he must move toward the goal.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Women’s Friendship” 10/27/12

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Question: What parallels can be drawn between the relationship of a man and a woman compared with the Creator and the creation?

Answer: All the movements, connections, rapprochements, and distancing that exist between the Creator and the creation happen between a man and a woman because these states in spirituality are the source of gender separation in our world.

In the beginning, there was no world at all, no humanity, and no separation of people. They appeared precisely because the Creator created the creation—something that receives from the Creator.

The Creator is considered a masculine force, creative and developing. Creation is a female force, receiving, multiplying, and expanding, which, by its development, comes to the perception of the Creator and the desire to become one with Him. It is in the purpose of creation.

In the corporeal world in our biological protein bodies, this is realized on the earthly level. Correct implementation at the protein level is also necessary for the entire creation at all its levels in order to come to the correct state. There is nothing beyond this unity.

Therefore, Kabbalah, studies this unity in forces and understands everything that happens in nature at all levels—between people, between parts of nature, and in human society—and that a person, based on his nature, creates all kinds of political, economic, commercial, family, and other systems.

Kabbalah is a universal wisdom because it operates with the most universal things: two forces, the Creator and creation. It explains how they gradually, through a hierarchy, descend through the four worlds, form our world, and in it, reach the same realization. Everything is very simple.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. A Man and a Woman, an Eternal Orgasm” 6/16/12

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In the corporeal world we very often observe the beginning and the end of relationships between a man and a woman because our world is built on an egoistic basis. This cannot happen in the spiritual world because there is a constant continuity, an “eternal orgasm.”

Question: What is the ideal use of spiritual rules for a person’s protein life?

Answer: It is to become like the relationship between the Creator and the creation! This is the purpose of our existence here—to learn about the eternal, great, and powerful contact with the Creator and build it at all levels from the world of infinity to our world. This is the final correction of man. And the rest of nature is also included in man.

The ideal relationship between a man and a woman will happen when they begin to complement each other correctly so that the Creator, the force of bestowal and love, is revealed between them. This cannot happen if there is no upper attainment.

Therefore, nothing can be solved at the level of our world.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Man and Woman – Eternal Orgasm” 7/15/12

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Question: What satisfies a woman?

Answer: You need to say good words to women all of the time and nothing else. She doesn’t require much. Show her your affection, care, and love, and she will do everything for you.

I’m not talking about a woman like she is some kind of a pet. The female nature is such that she is ready to do everything for a good attitude from you. But this must be taught.

Question: What attracts men to women?

Answer: Care, affection, and warmth attract men. A woman can easily manage in life because she serves him; that is, she replaces his mother.

Question: What does it mean to love a woman?

Answer: Loving a woman means to feel that you need her and to show her that.
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From KabTV’s “Blitz Questions and Answers” 1/6/23

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Question: Is a family needed in the modern world?

Answer: I think it is impossible to live without a family, although today millions of people in the world do not create families and do not give birth to heirs and the next generation. I believe that all this is wrong and temporary.

Question: Does it make sense to have children if you do not know what will happen tomorrow?

Answer: Of course it does. If you do not know what will happen tomorrow, it does not mean that there will be no tomorrow. So we need to give birth. And tomorrow will come and already establish some of its own specific relationships, laws, and values, and you will understand that you did not give birth to children in vain.

Question: How can a couple maintain a relationship if both live in different countries?

Answer: I do not think it is possible. If this is a couple, then there must be some joint actions for them. It is the tactile sensations that are important.

Question: What if one of the partners in the couple is an energy vampire?

Answer: Divide this role into two.
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From KabTV’s “Blitz Questions and Answers” 1/6/23

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Question: Why does a relationship between a man and a woman end?

Answer: People do not know how to value their relationships; they have not been taught.

Question: How can you keep the intensity and passion of sex?

Answer: I think this is a very complex, multifaceted question. If they are healthy partners, they will find how to keep the intensity and passion.

They should appreciate each other, think about how to please the other, and then they will succeed.

Question: But according to Kabbalah, a person’s desire is fulfilled, and that is it. We see that many couples face a problem when in the course of life they lose some kind of sharpness, brightness of relationships, including sexual ones.

Answer: It is necessary to bring a game into the relationship.
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From KabTV’s “Blitz Questions and Answers” 1/6/23

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