Answer: It is a force directed from the person outward. The attribute of bestowal, the force of bestowal, is the power of love.
When I value something that is outside of me, higher than me, it is called love for this state, for this desire, or for this person, no matter what we call it.
Question: According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, love is the revelation of love and hate at the same time, unlike in our world, where there can be either love or hate?
Answer: When states of “love” and “hate” exist separately from each other, they are unreal, contrived by us. They are given to us only so we can go through them and reach the real state. It is like the laws of physics: there can’t be minus without plus or plus without minus.
There is no love without hate, and no hate without love. They are built on top of each other, and we use them as states given to us by the Creator.
These are very realistic qualities that we must absorb into ourselves and exist with them both together. In this state I understand all the minuses and pluses in me and in another person. I understand that they were set for us and given to us by the Creator. We put the Creator between us and only then achieve mutual balance in this system: me, the other person, and the Creator between us.
Then, present, past, and future mutually complement each other, as in the system. The state in which I find the complete balance of all opposing properties is called “love.” This is a very special state of the ideal balance of the system.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/6/17