Question: I agree that human nature is arranged so that a person constantly lies. But let’s imagine that we live in a world where there are no lies and each one tells others everything he thinks about them. This would be just awful and we would cruelly hurt each other! Does it mean that lies are exactly what allow us to coexist?
Answer: We would teach our children how to reach the degree of truth. Instead of lying to each other; we would build a real connection between us, that is; we would change our qualities from deceptive to true ones, and we would begin to treat each other genuinely.
After all, we see that our entire life is deceitful from beginning to end. We are developing in the direction of ever increasing lies—around us is complete deception: education, culture, relationships between spouses, parents, and children, all our occupations, industry, and armament.
Question: If spouses told each other everything they really think about each other, they would divorce immediately. Does it mean that a lie is useful because life would be impossible without it?
Answer: Lying is the basis of our life. It is a lie and not the truth. However, the lie is given so we can correct it, that is, correct ourselves. It is clear that if we do not correct ourselves, we cannot exist side by side without lying. Yet, if we begin correcting ourselves, we will see that the need to lie gradually disappears.
Question: What is this correction?
Answer: This is the correction to love one’s neighbor as yourself. If I love someone else, I do not need to lie to him. How can I deceive the one I love? I can open my whole heart to him and there will be nothing that can hurt him. When I really love another, I like everything in him. Otherwise, it is not love.
Even if I see something wrong in him, I can say it and he will understand. After all, he knows that I speak out of love for him and not from a desire to offend him.
Question: If we ourselves constantly lie, why do we hate it so much when someone lies to us?
Answer: It is because we do not get out of lies and do not know where the truth is and what true love is. Truth and love are hidden from us.
We hate others’ lies because we want everybody to love us and to tell us good things sincerely. However, we ourselves do not want to treat others with such love.
If another one lies to me, then it humiliates me because he does not accept me as an equal. This is why others’ lies hurt us so much. If they lie to me, then they do not love me. If they loved me, then even a lie would come from love. Love would cover all the lies because it is above everything.
We lie to children, but we do it out of love, and therefore, this lie does not harm them. This is called a lie in the name of truth because we know the truth, but we understand that it will be better for a person to hear something different.
Everything should come from love; it must lie in the very foundation. Then it will oblige me to treat the other well and to do everything for his and not for my benefit. I rise above myself and do everything for him, and then, if necessary, I can even tell him lies. Education is impossible without some concealment of the truth.
From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/16/17