Question: If we want to lower prices, then why don’t consumers simply boycott the expensive food products? Why go through such a long and circuitous route through the unification of society? Thousands of years will pass until we merit that the capitalists will be ashamed because of the influence of the general atmosphere and agreement of society to establish greater equality.

Answer: I am going out according to the wisdom of Kabbalah, which explains that the world must advance towards unity and connection. And to push the world towards unification,  prices of food products essential for life are rising in Israel.

So we are forced to act because of the expensive price of yogurt for children, but essentially, this yogurt is only a pretext to push us towards unity and connection between us. That is how the general law of all of creation works.

There is an old joke about how a Jew immigrated to Israel from the Soviet Union and took a portrait of Lenin in a heavy gold frame through customs. The customs officer says to him that it is forbidden to take gold out of the country. But the Jew answered, “Well, I am taking the portrait of Lenin with me!” And they let him go through. When he reached Israel, then they asked him, “What did you bring the portrait of Lenin for?” So he answered, “I brought gold.” This is to say, everything depends on the angle from which we are looking at things.

Question: Three years ago there was a campaign of social protest to reduce prices and a broad social consensus was reached. Why was this not effective?

Answer: This social consensus was not based upon connection. Connection and unity are the main things that nature is demanding of us. It is only the lack of unity that causes all our problems, including the cost of living, the intifada, illness, divorce, conflicts with children, and problems in education.

Today, it has become clear that the reason for all human problems is the lack of unity and connection in society, meaning a good connection and unity, not on a fascist basis but on a communistic basis.

Do you want to lower the cost of living? I have a plan for this: unity. If we unite, then the prices will lower.

Question: I don’t believe it! We already tried to do this three years ago, so why didn’t this work out?

Answer: There was no real unity then. Unity doesn’t mean gathering a crowd of thousands of people, going out to the public square and shouting. Unity like this is created for destruction, not for the sake of unity and love. It also creates a negative force instead of a positive one. We wanted to break the capitalists, to make a revolution, to cause a fire in the nation, but this is not the proper method.

Nature, according to its tendency, is drawn towards connection. We see that the world has become global, united in commerce and international relations. And the moment this connection is torn, conflicts and wars immediately appear. In other words, nature places us before the need to unite, and in particular, before the proper unity and connection.

Modern technology and techniques all work for the sake of connection and it is only human society that acts in the opposite way and yearns for greater and greater separation. Each one is concerned only about himself and everyone else doesn’t interest him. Everything should burn, since the main thing for him is that things will be good for himself.

Human intelligence has not developed in parallel with nature. Nature that surrounds us, the world of the still, vegetative, and animate, is more developed regarding general integrality and connection than the human society that lives within this sphere.

People are not in harmony with nature, so separation, conflict, and anger dwell among us. This is how human society exists, and in such a form, nothing is waiting for us other than total destruction. The only thing that can save both the Jewish people and all of humanity in general is the right connection and mutual cooperation. Only with this can we correct the situation.

There was a time when this didn’t succeed for us, but this is because we didn’t yearn for unity and connection. We went out together against someone, but not for the sake of the unity that we must reach according to the program of nature.

Human society seems like a cancerous tumor on the body of the rest of nature. It is completely mangled, like a rotting, disintegrating body. And that is what we must bring to unity so that everything will work out wonderfully.

The problem is specifically in this, whereas the inflated price of yogurt is only the result. If we want this result to disappear and the price of yogurt to be a few pennies instead of a few dollars, this is absolutely possible, and we only need to reach unity for this to happen. Nature demands only this one thing from us.

Now, along with this yogurt, health, separation in the family, children’s education, and housing are problems in Israel and are worse here than in any other place in the world. This is because this is the central place where balance must be restored first.

And the whole world, which is suffering from imbalance, blames us for not having stabilized the balance. They cannot express this clearly, so they just blame the Jews for all of their troubles.

So unity and connection within society are the only methods for resolving all of our problems. And this doesn’t just affect the price of yogurt but everything in general, including typhoons, tsunamis, the intifada, and social and natural disasters. Everything depends only on balance, and in particular, balance in Israel.

For each person, it is possible to reach the good life all over the world only through connection and unity of the people of Israel. We are instructed to carry out the major operation, which determines the fate of the world. We began with the price of yogurt and we will finish with bringing the whole world into balance.
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From a Talk 4/13/14

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The People Of Israel Must Carry Out Their Mission

Baal HaSulam, “Introduction to The Book of Zohar,” Section 69: But if, God forbid, it is to the contrary, and a person from Israel degrades the virtue of the internality of the Torah and its secrets, which deals with the conduct of our souls and their degrees, and the perception and the tastes of the Mitzvot with regard to the advantage of the externality of the Torah, which deals only with the practical part …by that one dishonors and degrades the internality of the world, which are the children of Israel, and enhances the externality of the world—meaning the nations of the world—over them. They will humiliate and disgrace the children of Israel, and regard Israel as superfluous, as though the world has no need for them, God forbid.

Furthermore, by that, they make even the externality in the nations of the world overpower their own internality, for the worst among the nations of the world, the harmful and the destructors of the world, rise above their internality, which are the righteous of the nations of the world. And then they make all the ruin and the heinous slaughter our generation had witnessed.
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Question: What can you say about the ecology of the world; after all, it isn’t just being violated, but is threatened with disaster?

Answer: As of now, the ecosystem of the Earth is collapsing, being crushed, shattered, and annihilated. Our incorrect relationship to nature causes terrible problems. We have already reached the North and South poles, where they are getting ready to drill for oil.

But on its own, planet Earth possesses an amazing characteristic of renewal under the influence of positive signs that descend from above. So a person’s task is to invite these signs, not to clean the Earth of garbage. This won’t work. As much as we clean it, it becomes filthier and filthier, for chemical and biological cleansing damage the ecology even more.

Rather, the idea is that everything found on the levels of the still, vegetative, and animate nature can regenerate and recover at an amazing speed. And this is possible only if a higher spiritual level brings positive signs.

The moment that humanity becomes harmonious through integral consolidation, the entire ecology will, in fact. immediately become balanced and the world will begin to blossom and spread a pleasant fragrance. It is not necessary to be concerned about it in particular, just as it isn’t necessary to be concerned about anything that is found below the spiritual level. If we make a correction on the spiritual level, the corrections will pass down and immediately cause changes on the physical level.

Everything will be changed such that it will be restored to its original divine form. Even those violations that have happened on the face of the Earth for the past twenty or thirty thousand years will be balanced and all the species of animals that disappeared will be restored.

There is nothing imaginary about this because all of nature is mutually connected and all of its levels are found one under the other. The Upper Light passes hierarchically from above to below and arranges everything through a higher harmony.

So, the blossoming of planet Earth depends on our changes and internal education. It is not necessary to do anything besides correct ourselves. Through re-education we begin to look at nature differently, and this time it will begin to come back to life.

Gradually we will stop working with it according to the previous trend, because we understand that all that is necessary is to bring the whole world to a state of balance. And for this, it is necessary to receive from nature only what will reasonably fulfill all of humanity through it, and no more than this. We are connected through millions of connections between us and with all of nature. So thanks to the restoration of the inner ecosystem of humanity, the ecosystem of planet Earth will begin to be restored.
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From KabTV’s “Short Stories”, 10/23/14

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Question: You suggest contending with the rise in prices with the help of connection and unity of the society so that it will become more equal and balanced? How can the thoughts of people lower the prices in practice?

Answer: In a society, if the general opinion prevails that it requires more equality and balance, this will influence even the capitalists, that this is apparently beneficial and profitable for them. This is because they are also found under the influence of society, and these thoughts are also conveyed to them.

It is not even obligatory to talk about this; they will feel the general desire. This is called the influence of the environment on a person. The main thing is that in the face of this example of lowering prices, each one will understand the principle that is to be used to solve various problems. If we attain unity in society, then we can not only lower the cost of living, but also strengthen security, health, education, and reduce unemployment.

We have a mechanism in our hands which acts in every realm of life. Social consensus is a unique power that makes it possible to solve all problems in society. It even removes the external threats that don’t seem to be directly connected to our inner unity, such as from the intifada and anti-Semitism.

The idea is that here the same principle is at work. All of humanity is nourished by the people of Israel. And the other people feel this and blame Israel for their problems. If the people of Israel unites within itself, then it will be good for all of humanity.

And this must be a good social consensus, and not as it is with the nationalists and the fascists. The agreement is based upon love, concessions, equality, closeness, and warmth.  “And you shall love your friend as yourself” is the basis for the people of Israel. The time has come to remember that “All of Israel are friends.” This is part of the culture of our people that is always concerned about mutual help, although it seems that now we have forgotten this.

Once this system of mutual help was based upon religious tradition, but for some time it hasn’t existed in this previous form. We only need to revive it, return to that form in which the people of Israel always existed.

Question: Do you think that society is ready to have such a strong influence on a person?

Answer: There are many studies that prove that a person is fully found under the influence of the environment. Even apes on an isolated island suddenly begin to behave identically as apes on a neighboring island. We are found in a system of natural laws.

Journalists complain that without coordination between them, they give identical titles to articles that come out on the same morning in different newspapers. Thoughts roam the world and are passed from one to another, for all of us are connected to a single system.

The world has become global and interconnected, like a small village. And this is not thanks to the Internet, but because we have developed to such a state that our desires, thoughts, and inner feelings are connected with all people in the world.

This also helps in the development of external connections: McDonald’s, Coca-Cola, the Internet, and the English language are in every corner of the world. This unification fulfills all the hard work for our unification. As a result of this, we are beginning to understand and feel each other to a greater degree, and to have more influence over each other.

And here the crisis erupts; the ego doesn’t let us maintain good connections, rather only bad connections. If in general there were no connection, this wouldn’t be so bad since there wouldn’t be any dependence on each other, neither good nor bad. But today, a connection is created between us and this connection is bad, causing a general crisis throughout the world.

And the Jews, the people of Israel, are responsible for the emergence from the crisis. Only they can change the general manner of connection. These connections are already impossible to rend, and it is possible only to correct them into good connections.

We must gradually get used to unity and connection being the mechanism, the means, for any changes. And the changes can take either a good direction or a bad direction, for unity can also be Nazism. “Fascism” is translated as unification, but such unification is not for the good of society. If we don’t want the world to unite on the basis of fascism, we must present it with an example of a good connection.
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From a Talk, 4/13/14

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Question: The Torah tells us that Isaac found two wells in the land of Grar that had been dug in Abraham’s time and had been covered afterwards. These wells caused many quarrels with the local shepherds and after a while a new well was dug that caused no disputes.

Then Avimelech, the king of Grar, offered Isaac a treaty. Why did the nations of the world become so nice all of the sudden and want to make a treaty with the Jews?

Answer: It is because Isaac had begun his corrections.

A well is a hole in the ground, in a land that is full of water. A hole that is full of the water of life is called a well of life. Water is the essence of the attribute of bestowal that is hidden in the land, which means in the desire. In other words, your desire begins to flow so that you receive the water of life through it, which is the attribute of bestowal that brings life to everyone.

Basically, the story of the wells shows us that if we begin to fulfill our mission to organize the Israeli nation in order to correct the world, it is enough. We actually don’t have to correct the world, but only correct ourselves.

In chapters 66-67 in the “Introduction to The Book of Zohar,” Baal HaSulam says that the moment the Israeli nation begins to correct itself, which means it adapts itself according to the Creator, the Light will immediately begin to flow from it like water from a well, and this Light will correct all the other nations. This way the whole world will become a better place. After all, the world cannot correct itself nor can it do anything.

Just imagine there is a nation that totally controls and manages the world and the other nations cannot do anything and simply wait for this nation to do something.

The problem is in the way it is revealed, and the interruptions can be great. At the moment, we can still somehow escape those who oppose Israel. But what if this picture is revealed and suddenly everyone would see that there are seven billion people in the world and there are about ten million on whom everything depends?

I would say that the seven billion are like a body that runs on life software, and this software is the Jewish people. Its mass doesn’t belong to the actual body of the world, but rather to the software, and it operates on a different level.

On the whole, the actual software is merely a virtual component with regard to the matter. It is a schema, a system. We can say that the software of the protein material is Israel and the actual protein material is the nations of the world. If this software is incorrect, just imagine what diseases and problems are caused in the material!

The whole history of mankind is basically the continuous cooperation between the world and the Israeli nation, just like two coils in the DNA chain. The nations of the world and the Israeli nation are in continuous communication, contact, and effort between them. Israel wouldn’t be able to reach the state of the third well without the pressure of the nations of the world upon it. There are those who dig the desire and others who cover it up. This development is necessary in order to reach the water of life, the attribute of Bina.

The first well basically refers to Abraham, the second to Isaac, and the third to Jacob. When Jacob connects, he becomes the middle line and then we reach the water of life.

Question: What does that have to do with life today? Do we have to discover this well now, this water of life?

Answer: Yes. We begin to spill out the bestowal, and this depends only on the connection between us. The unity of the Israeli nation is the key to everything. It is the only thing that can dig a well for the world.

To dig a well means to delve into our desires. They are negative, bad, and they reveal all the negativity that is concealed within a person, his nature, and his distance from the Creator. But we have to do it. We have to create strong feelings of the deficiency of the Light within us, the attributes of love and bestowal. This is called an empty well or a hole. By the way, there is a difference between these two concepts. What a person looks for depends only on the person himself.

When we dig a well, we attain the state, the depth in which we feel the greatest pain with regard to love, bestowal, and connection. Then the water that is the source of life appears.

Just like animals who feel where there is water, so did people in those times feel where they had to dig and how deep in order to find water. By the way, there is plenty of water in the desert because there are huge subterranean lakes. We only need to know where to dig and there is nothing to fear. You can go anywhere since you will always find water.

Question: Is this self-search the closeness and the connection between us?

Answer: Yes. It exists to the extent that we make efforts in order to discover the attribute of bestowal called water.
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From KabTV’s “Weekly Torah Portion” 11/14/14

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The People of Israel Must Carry Out their Mission

From Baal HaSulam’s article, “The Writings of the Last Generation.” Additions and drafts, Section 2, of the Introduction: 

I already presented the essence of my opinions in 1933. I also spoke with the leaders of the generation, and my words were not accepted then, even though I shrieked like a crane and warned then about the destruction of the world; this made no impression.

But now, after the atomic and hydrogen bombs, I think that the world will believe me that the end of the world is approaching and coming in rapid steps; and Israel will be burned first before the other nations, as it was in the previous war; so today it is good to awaken the world to accept its only remedy and continue to live and exist.
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It would seem that the cost of living is not a subject that grabs the heart and compels it to beat strongly. But in fact, for some this could even be more meaningful that an intifada.

If I wake up every morning and am tormented with the thought of what to feed my little children, how to finish the month without a deficit, without new debts and additional bank loans, then this becomes a subject of great concern.

Essentially, the blame does not lie with the bank nor the company that makes children’s yogurt and who inflates the price. Not one of them is guilty. For they are all acting according to their egoistic nature. But if we want to influence them by convincing them to make the price of food for children four times lower according to the basic price of such products and they will still be left with a large profit, it is necessary to change the foundation of their thinking.

It is possible to do this through the influence of the environment; so come, let’s change our environment! And this is not through shouting, protests, and demonstrations; rather, it is done through connection and unity between us.

With the help of the force of our unity, we will influence the makers of children’s yogurt in such a way that they themselves will want to lower the price. And the same thing goes for the price of apartments and everything else. Let’s fix everything through the connection between us.

Question: Why would a company suddenly want to lower the price?

Answer: Because society will influence it through its singular opinion.

Question: Why wasn’t this successful before when we got together in a general protest?

Answer: This didn’t work because before we wanted to crush the companies and didn’t seek general unity. This is not the same force that acts within the system of nature. If we were to want to unite and achieve good relationships in society, then we would influence everyone.

Certainly this wouldn’t happen immediately, for this is not aimed precisely towards the goal of creation, but even so, we would see benefit. If we just try to annihilate someone, then there is no constructive message in this and we will never succeed in this way.

We don’t unite to go out together against someone, but rather for the sake of unity itself; that will help lower the cost of living. Unity is the means for correcting the situation.

And there was no unity in the general protests. The demonstrators wanted to break the companies. Whereas, through the unity of society, we want to bring it to such a good state that the prices will go down by themselves. This is the difference between all the previous protests and revolutions. This is unity not against someone, but rather for the sake of the positive force.

Everyone clearly sees that if society were good and corrected, this would influence even its most wealthy members. This is because they are also human and are found among the people. All of our thoughts in the world are connected and influence each other, and people influence each other without even uttering a word simply by way of the atmosphere. We are all found in a single field of thought and desire.

Question: What must that woman do who doesn’t have enough money until the next paycheck and doesn’t have anything to feed her children?

Answer: She must understand that only through connection and unity can she influence the entire society and herself. We always think that if we can change someone’s opinion only if we grab him and convince him. In fact, it is possible to influence him only if we create a large force in society that will begin to think as we do, and then this thought will penetrate into him.

Come, let’s do this, so that our society will begin to think about good changes, about balance in society and about warm relationships. And as a result of this, the prices will decrease. If our society were to become one big family in which everyone thinks about balance, connection, unity, and equality, then our thought will begin to act and be influential on all levels and all sectors of the population.

And then this will begin to work. This is because readiness in mind and heart will appear in everyone, making everything more balanced, social, and shared, as in a single commune. From this, all systems will become balanced. The gap between the rich and the poor will be greatly reduced, from thousands of fold to only a hundred fold. That is how it works; everything becomes regulated in this way.
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From a talk 4/13/14

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Question: Today, Israeli Arabs to some extent feel that they are second-class citizens. How exactly does the union among all Jewish citizens of Israel and the correct relationships between them help the Arabs get rid of the sensation of being harassed?

Answer: At the end of the “Introduction to The Book of Zohar”, Baal HaSulam writes that if the people of Israel correctly unite on the basis of mutual guarantee, in accordance with “do not do to others what you hate for yourself,” and “love thy neighbor as thyself,” then the force of unity will overflow from them as water from a full vessel and will spread to all the nations of the world. They will feel where the force of perfection comes from and will join the people of Israel.

We have to understand that it is about the only feasible influence of one part of the system upon the other and the impact of the people of Israel upon the nations of the world as a result of which they will stop considering themselves as “second-class” nations.

Every nation has certain needs and desires. We see people’s actions, but their feelings are much more important.

Many people want to be as Einstein, but I do not. I am not fascinated by him. However, I want to be as strong as my neighbor and not a titan of thought or power.

It’s not about internal sensations, nor whether or not other nations will be jealous of the fact that we have a special task in this world. No, they won’t. Will Arabs continue feeling that they are disadvantaged? Not any longer.

Today, they feel discriminated against because they don’t receive from us what they are supposed to. By blaming us for all their troubles, they in essence confirm that they depend on us, since we are entitled to do things which they are incapable of. However, we don’t play our role, and  thus we rob the world of benevolence.

All nations reproach us for the same reasons. Will we really be so surprised when a United Nations Organization Assembly comes to a consensus that Israel is guilty of all world problems, is a source of numerous international disasters, and has no more right to exist? In their eyes, the state of Israel is a wound that poisons the existence of the whole of humanity.

Our enemies feel the same way when they oppose our having weapons, such as machine guns, knives, and other armaments. In their minds, there is no other way out except to fight us. They think we have to be murdered and that only then, will all disasters stop.

At the same time, they don’t know that their whole future depends on us. They are not aware that we are the ones who can guarantee successful prospects to them. Nobody teaches them these things; we never convey this information to them since we are not aware of it ourselves.

So, we have to correct ourselves.

Let me reiterate. The nations of the world will consent to our actions when we start taking care of the general process of world correction. They will immediately agree to this fact.

Let’s fantasize that if today the Jews of Israel launch a good, benevolent connection among us, all disasters will immediately disappear. By connecting, we’ll involve the general system of humanity and will neutralize the evil forces inside it.

Then, those who are currently planning to run over innocent people at bus-stops will suddenly feel that everything is just fine with them, that something has changed, that they feel benevolence, and that good forces are acting within society.

Accordingly, they would suddenly feel a desire to make friends with the Jews: it happens that it is quite possible to have peaceful interactions with those people. Besides, aren’t we cousins? Why can’t we get along with them?

Question: From where will potential terrorists receive these thoughts?

Answer: The new approach will come from the same source from which an idea to murder the Jews showed up. It will emerge because of the overall unbalance in the world that we (the Jews) cause in the general system. The people of Israel don’t synchronize the two opposite forces, the plus and the minus. However, this nation is the only one that is capable of achieving stability.

To begin with, all Jews have to unite with each other until they become friends as it is stated in the principle “love your neighbor as yourself.”

Then, the intensity of our unity will overflow, just as water spills out of an overly full vessel. They will accept this fact naturally and won’t feel that they are second class citizens any longer. In a wholesome, perfect, healthy system, it’s not possible to have more or less important or more or less dignified parts. An ankle cell is equal to a brain cell.

Question: So, how will this appeal penetrate the hearts of those who are ready to commit acts of terrorism?

Answer: All humanity is interconnected through their hearts, and thus, we are united with each other. That’s why there is nothing we need except unity. We won’t even have to explain this idea to them. The same system that now demonstrates that we are the ones who bring the evil to others will also serve the purpose and convey the sensation that we have started bringing them benevolence instead of evil.

These impulses cannot be stopped. They are the ones that influence humans and not the other way around, since these impulses flow from the head to the body.

Let’s turn into a unity named Israel (ישראל), meaning the head for me (Li Rosh – לי ראש), directly to the Upper (Yashar-El). This means directly to perfection in which we have to live together with the rest of humanity and the entire reality, as the whole universe in unity with the Creator, the general upper force.

Let’s exert ourselves to achieve this state. Then, the entire world will follow us. As soon as we begin acting as a head, the rest of the world will support us.

Stop blaming others. The Torah and other Kabbalistic books and all original sources state that we are the only ones who have the ability to really make changes. Only we are entitled to translate the overall human development from the bad path to the good one.

In the end, this is what we actually are obligated to do. This is something the nations of the world are expecting from us. Let’s fulfill our duty.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/13/14

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In the News (from Psychologies): “Observing for 40 years how a couple communicates with each other, psychologist John Gottman can with a 100% probability predict whether they will be happy together years later or their relationship has no future.

“Happy couples see the positive in each other, something for which they can say ‘thank you,’ hug and just be happy that life has brought him or her with such a wonderful person.

“They purposefully build a relationship of respect and gratitude. Unhappy couples, on the contrary, are looking all the time to find faults with a partner, catching his or her every mistake.

“Future unhappy couples look calm when talking about their relationship, but their heart rates were quick, their sweat glands were active, and their blood flow was fast.

“Couples who maintained a happy marriage years later, from the beginning demonstrated low physiological stress. They felt comfortable and confident, which was expressed in a caring, loving attitude to their partner. Even during an argument they can create an atmosphere of trust, warmth and love for each other.

“The main reason for divorce is disregard for the partner. Those of us who are looking for the slightest excuse to criticize and not become used to responding to partner’s requests with respect, miss 50% of the positive things that are created for them, but see the negative where there is none. They kill love. Anger and indifference mean the death of relationship.

“Compassion is the most important indicator of the stability of marriage, and the more we are practicing it, the stronger it is.

“It’s not about gifts, but how we communicate with each other every day: to actively look for a reason to be grateful for anything during the day, not to focus on the negative, not to think badly about the partner if he or she made a mistake.

“The problem of unhappy couples is often that they cannot be happy for each other. To be together and share the joy, the success of a loved one, is as important as to be close during the time of difficulties.”

My Comment: It is puzzling: Is it only in the 21^st century that we have begun to understand family relationships? And in the past, was this wisdom not known to our ancestors?
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In general, our developmental process is about expansion and consolidation (“breathing”) that combines both forces. They oppose each other and at the same time preserve mutual harmony.

The same natural mechanism can be applied to human relationships. We too feel detachment and closeness, cooling down and burning.

Thus, we go through the same developmental forms as the universe. The difference is that we are at a higher level of consciousness. It is obvious that we cannot “devote ourselves” only to one of these major forces since we won’t survive by only inhaling or only exhaling.

Life is a contrast of opposites. If everything is good and wonderful, if sweetness is not punctuated by at least a drop of spice or bitterness, we lose the sense of taste and fail to find the essence in life. It is an unbearable condition.

Only a combination of both forces (positive and negative) gives us a correct sensation and then a spark of life surfaces between them. Otherwise, everything vanishes, dissolves in monotony.

Question: How do both forces, the processes of expansion and consolidation, manifest in the history of humanity?

Answer: On one hand, we settled throughout the world, we are separate and detached from each other, we hate others, and fight with them. We go beyond the former boundaries of the previous limitations, no longer wishing to observe them, we break our agreements, contracts, unions, thus “liberating” ourselves of our responsibilities.

The force that pushes us towards this kind of behavior is egoism. The higher it is, the less we are willing to be connected with anybody or anything. Nor do we want to owe anything to anyone.

On the other hand, the force of consolidation and togetherness also impacts us, making us connect and group together, promoting a feeling that we need each other, forcing us to look for the reasons to unite, find parallels, and experience closeness.

There is a reverse opportunity: the force of expansion opens our hearts to the entire world, whereas the force of consolidation comes out of the egoism and makes us seek personal benefit in connecting with others.

Everything depends on which one of these two forces form our world outlook: bad or good.

One way or the other, it is the interaction between both forces that originates a sensation of life in us. That’s why it is very important to balance these energies out so that both of them are oriented toward the right direction.

For example, we are prone to idealizing our fantasies about a “correct” couple that resembles two “doves.” However, in the real world, families are usually based on conflicts. They need “spice” without which their marriage becomes bland; it is about “logs” that should be added to the fire of love.

So, both forces have to be fully implemented; although, both of them should lead to achieving one, unified goal. Their combination has to be based on equilibrium and provide maximal effectiveness that comes from a joint power.

Question:  How can we create and maintain the balance between the two forces?

Answer: We should settle on one goal for both of them.

In essence, they are the forces of bestowal and receiving, attraction and repulsion. It is not important, at which level or in what sphere they are implemented—whether it is mechanics, electricity, or other fields of human activities.

At this time, we are talking about the influence of both forces inside us and among us, at a sensual level. Accordingly, we should balance out the intensity of our egoism with the altruistic force of bestowal.

Initially the force of reception dominates us: We want to attract and have in our possession everything that might be beneficial for us. Moreover, we don’t want others to have anything that is good for us. This is our original, genuine state. We should find ways to balance this bad force.

Our efforts to equalize the bad force within us will lead us to a system in which we maintain an internal harmony as a healthy cell of an organism. Together, vigorous cells replenish each other and take good care of their neighbors. If this happens, we are allowed to receive so that we can further benefit others.

Thus, we are forming a general organism, all parts of which are integrally connected. We generate a new “body,” a new life at the speaking level, above the inanimate, vegetative, and animate.

In other words, the human level is not about us the way we are today. At this time, we only occupy the top of the animate level. When we build a correct system, it will be called “a Man” (Adam). To the extent it contains both forces that are balanced with each other, we’ll start sensing nature in more depth and breadth.

Question: What do we lack today to be able to create a system that is adequate for the human level?

Answer: There is a deficiency of the bestowing force. At this time only the will to receive is acting in us.

Currently, we are transitioning from the animate level to a human level. However, it is only a force of receiving that we cultivate. Any of our bestowing actions are meant only to receive more and more. If not for that, we would not be able to give away anything at all.

So, no matter what we do, everything about us is just receiving, whether it is obvious or hidden. The will to receive rules everything, whereas we don’t have the force of bestowal at all.

However, if we find the way to generate a force of bestowal among us, to balance out the energy of receiving with the power of bestowal and then maintain the balance between both forces, they will turn us into a new creature called a “Man.” A new type of consciousness will grow in us. It will be built on both forces that allow us to form a system of bestowal above the receiving structure. When we manage to build both systems, we’ll sense the upper level of nature, the speaking level.

Today, we haven’t yet reached this level. We lack the second part of it, the force of bestowal. As a result, we cannot actually be connected and now we resemble a bunch of nuts in a sack that are held together only with the help of the external pressure; otherwise, they would just scatter.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 3/2/14

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