Comment: On one hand, you say that you need to live by the laws of nature, and on the other, you welcome that everyone has finally stopped producing unnecessary things and they can stay at home with their family.

My Response: This is a temporary phenomenon. I don’t think people can spend all their time at home. In principle, this is not necessary because it is an unjustified waste of time and life. It is necessary to do what is useful for society, for nature, for maintaining homeostasis.

Question: How do you think household responsibilities should be distributed among family members?

Answer: In a natural way. A man should help a woman, and a woman should maintain the home.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Question: Can we assume that the instinctive love for children that nature instills in us can be used as an example of our relationship to other people?

Answer: It would, of course, be wonderful. This is what the science of Kabbalah calls for: a person should treat everyone as his family because the whole world is one family. But we are still far from that.

Question: Do you think that the family unit was created by nature in order for a person to receive at least some example of the instinctive love that is inherent in us and then he or she could go through life with this example?

Answer: In principle, in the beginning, the family was a unit in which several generations lived together in close connection with each other. This was how nature intended if man, with his or her egoism, which is constantly developing in him or her, did not break this connection and did not build something from the original good family unit that turned into mutual enmity and hatred.

We see that such examples are already embedded in us. Cain and Abel, although brothers, had enmity toward each other. In this example humanity shows how deep and kind family ties can produce a completely opposite result.

Question: Why is there no instinctive love between spouses? Then the family would be stronger and the upbringing would be better.

Answer: Because people feel a huge gap between themselves. They have a desire for each other based only on the sexual instinct. Therefore, one should not associate the reproductive instinct with the instinct of attraction. These are completely different levels of relationships.

Question: But why didn’t nature create such an instinctive love between partners as the love of parents for a child?

Answer: In order for us to create it ourselves. We must constantly learn this.

And our instinctive love for children is very weak. We also need to develop it and talk about it all the time. There should be normal examples around us. Unfortunately, this is not in man. Everything is suppressed by our personal egoism.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Question: Currently there are preparations to reopen the schools and the kindergartens. Parents are afraid that their children will get infected and bring it home. Teachers are afraid that children will infect teachers and they will bring it home. Do you think that perhaps it is really possible not to open the schools, not to open the kindergartens?

Answer: I would not open anything now; I would just transfer all classes to the Internet. Children take it very easily. They browse all sorts of virtual pages all the time anyway.

Give them assignments and teach them via the Internet. There are great materials, whatever you want. Give them assignments, and at the same time prepare these assignments together with them. Have tests every day and so on. In short, everything depends only on us.

Question: What about the physical communication of children with each other?

Answer: Physical communication of children can be exactly like that, in order for children to meet and communicate physically with each other. They do not need this for the classes. Each one studies on his own with a notebook, with a blackboard, and with a teacher. All this they have on their computer.

Question: What should we do with kindergartens and nursery schools? After all, mothers do go to work.

Answer: It should be done very simply: teach children to exercise via TV or computer, to do some kind of homework, to communicate with virtual animals, people, and so on. That is, cultivate skills of virtual communication in them.

Question: Would you also put the children of kindergarten age in front of the screen?

Answer: Of course. Imagine a boy who you put inside an airplane! He sits in front of these switches, and the pilot sits next to him and teaches him how to operate them. What prospects opens up for him! Do you have any idea what you are doing for a child?

We can do the same with a ship, with submarines. This is not a movie that you show them about other people, but he, himself, interactively participates in it. He can even become a surgeon if he wants: he listens to the heartbeat and how it all happens.

Make it all interactive, make it so that it becomes his life! Then when he becomes an adult, he understands what this is all about.

Imagine yourself as a boy, how it would capture you!

It is up to you to choose what profession you want. You can go with them through all the professions this way. Show them everything there is! Make it interactive, as if they are in the forest running after a wolf or catching something, communicating with someone.

Question: Would you replace all these games of killing and capturing with the positive and educational ones?

Answer: Of course! You develop a person! He goes through all this and learns from this.

Question: Would you cancel all these wars that fill the Internet?

Answer: Absolutely! Absolutely everything that existed before today.

Question: Do you think that their effect is terrible?

Answer: There is nothing good about them! We need to make only interactive programs for children so that they would feel that they are entering life. These programs would have to be correct.

Then you would raise people the way you want them to be. I would show the girls how to take care of a baby, with diapers, and so on. How to take children for a walk. Here she goes for a walk with a baby, and she looks at herself from the side. Or even not from the side—she looks as if from within herself and sees all this. This is life!

Question: Then let us touch on the third factor, nursery school. Up to what age  should a mother stay with a child? Should she be paid for it, not to go to work, not to be sent anywhere? We usually send a child to a nursery school from the age of six months, if not earlier.

Answer: To the age of 12 to 13 years.

Question: Should we pay the mother to be at home with the child until he turns 12 or 13?!

Answer: Yes.

Question: To be with a child who is already an adult?

Answer: Yes. If it is a girl, she will be with her mother, will be helping her, and will know how everything is done. Then, when she becomes a young lady, a bride, a woman, she will be fine, she will know what needs to be done and how it is done, and she will not be calling her mother, “Mom, how do I make porridge?”

Question: Is it the same for a boy? Should he also stay with his mother until a certain age?

Answer: There will be a little bigger problem with a boy because he has to learn a profession.

Question: But it can be done interactively?

Answer: Interactively, yes. However, he should devote most of his time to this.

Question: Still would you also keep a mother with the child up to 10 to 12 years old for both boys and girls.

Answer: Yes. But they would still have, say, three days or even half-days allocated for walks. It should be when a person comes along and picks up the boys and takes them for walks, to a museum, or a sports field, etc.

Question: Should it be a coach, an instructor, or a teacher who picks up boys from an area and takes them to show the real, corporeal world? Does he also teach them how to communicate with each other?

Answer: Yes. Once a day, a walk for two to three hours, and another two to three hours of some games at the sports ground, and so on.

Remark: You have just painted a beautiful world.

My Comment: Why can’t we do that? What is there?! We do not need to build anything for this. We just need to reorganize ourselves and that is it. It is easy!

Remark: What you have just painted is so beautiful! But I do not think it is easy.

My Comment: It is not easy because of our character, because of our egoism, but it is in our hands.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 5/25/20

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Question: Currently, suicides among young people are becoming more frequent. Against the backdrop of mass layoffs, income decline, and social isolation, young people suffer greatly. They feel very strongly the growing pressures on the family. Scientists say that after the pandemic ends, there will be an increase in suicides.

What is the reason for such a rather desperate step—ending one’s own life at a young age—for a generation that is just entering life?

Answer: We live to feel pleasure. The moment we do not feel pleasure, that very second seems as dead to us, worthless. If these moments continue one after another, we simply do not know what we exist for.

If we stop receiving pleasure, we do not know what we are living for.

Therefore, it is quite easy for us to understand people whose connection with good times, with a profession, with pleasure from some actions, people who could create, build, be in the circle of friends, loved ones, and ones who love them, and so on, is broken. Then indeed, if all this is lost, what is there to live for? After all, the very essence of our nature is yearning for fulfillment, for pleasure.

It turns out that there are very few pleasures in our life today. There are no fulfillments. That is why so many young people are just trying to end this life. Why should they suffer?

Question: How can they compensate for previous pleasures when social contacts, connections, and communication were one of the main tools for releasing energy?

Answer: And today there is none of that. Do not make a comparison with the youth from 20 to 30 years ago. They were much more primitive than the youth of today that has a huge number of connections around the earth. Modern young people understand how everything works and see not only on themselves, but on the young people around the world such examples in life because of which they do not want to live. What is the point?

Our egoism goes through the roof, it asks for some new, special fulfillments, but we cannot give them it, and thus emptiness appears. But you have everything! Take an interesting book and read it! He does not even want to open it: “What book?” Who has read a book lately? He would check some things on his computer a bit, nothing interesting either. And so on.

In other words, people are overfilled with opportunities, but these opportunities are not the ones that can fulfill them.

Question: Youth is the age when nature pushes a person to constantly develop. That is, the driving force from within pushes a person to develop. Why does this movement stop abruptly now both from within and without?

Answer: We are in a transition period between two very serious paradigms, phenomena, periods of human development. Until our time, all of humanity developed by the growing egoism. This growing egoism pushed everyone forward. It was interesting to grow, there was something to grow for. My innate egoism accompanied me all my life and pushed me further and further. Therefore, there were very few suicide attempts.

Today, our egoism stopped pushing us forward. It does not show us a bright future in its development. Therefore, I do not see what I should live for.

Question: Then what is man born for?

Answer: This is the question! Have you ever thought about it?

Question: Could it be that the lives of young people are interrupted exactly at the moment when they ask themselves this question and do not find the answer?

Answer: And do not find the answer. This is absolutely right.

Remark: Extreme games are actively developing among young people today.

Answer: This is because they do not feel satisfaction in ordinary life and they still need to feel themselves. A person has a feeling of himself when he is on the brink of something. When he reaches the edge.

Question: How can you not bring this borderline you are talking about to a critical outcome?

Answer: But they want it.

Question: Isn’t the aspiration for the extreme, for reaching beyond the boundaries of ordinary life, an aspiration to find something more?

Answer: I do not think that it is just because of that. They just need a feeling that they are alive. Living! And it does not exist in ordinary life.

Our life is over; our world has reached its limit for us. A person comes to a state called “reaching the edge”; he has reached the boundary. What is beyond it? Nothing!

If he does not end up with us where we will teach him how to get to the next level of the universe and not through death or some games, if he does not come to us, then there is nowhere to go. Then they resort to suicide.

Remark: I still want to find the rails on which a person, despite the fact that he is now in quarantine during the pandemic, when everything is collapsing and he feels that his life is also collapsing, would see these rails, stand on them, and go forward like a train.

Answer: No, For this he must come to us to study. You cannot just ride a train. There is a train, but you need to board it, hang on to it, and ride forward together with the others.

Question: How can people pass this tipping point?

Answer: They will not pass it until they discover the meaning of life, which is not in this egoistic life. Otherwise, there is no need to exist. They will kill themselves more and more.

Question: And where is this meaning if not in this life?

Answer: It is above it. You do not have to die for this, but you must rise above this life from our egoistic life into the altruistic one.

Question: Doesn’t that also mean death, in a way?

Answer: No, we do not kill anything. On the contrary, we are developing. Therefore, we need to talk about it a lot, explain a lot, gradually enter this area with our feelings and minds. However, in general, it is what gives us the answer to the question of the meaning of life and how to continue this meaning from our small egoistic world to a huge, open altruistic space.

Question: British social services say that in April, about half a million calls were received from teenagers and young people who were on the verge of committing suicide.

What would you say to young people who are just starting to live now? What do they need to do? Where to turn in order not to hit a dead-end, a limited path that ends after a certain amount of time, but to walk an eternal, endless road?

Answer: We need to convey to them as quickly as possible the method of revealing the upper integral world. Then they will understand what is worth living for. That is all we can do for them. They do not need anything else.

Question: What will they receive in this integral world?

Answer: Eternal meaning. Eternal existence in eternal attainment, in eternal fulfillment in unlimited form.

Question: Will they not feel stressed or lonely then?

Answer: Not at all! On the contrary, all this stress, loneliness, everything they have experienced, everything that has formed in them, this vacuum, this emptiness will be filled with the real meaning of life.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/12/20

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Question: Do grandparents have a special function in the development of their grandchildren? How does this compare to the parenting function?

Answer: Parents provide corporeality for their children. Grandparents support their grandchildren more spiritually.

Question: Today it is difficult for adults to keep up with young people. What can they teach children? Therefore, we see that children neglect their parents. If in the past parents passed on some skills to their children from generation to generation, today a child can earn his living by himself.

Answer: You speak from the point of view of absolute egoism: A child can earn money. But he needs more than that. He needs emotional, mental, spiritual, and psychological support. Without parents and even without grandparents, he cannot find this in himself.

Question: What skills can parents pass on to their children today, besides emotional support?

Answer: When children begin to have children of their own, then parents can give them what the children feel necessary for themselves.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Question: How not to pass suffering on to others? Should suffering be hidden?

Answer: I think that it is advisable not to convey negative feelings to people. To do so because it makes it easier for you is super-egoism. Therefore, we must try, on the contrary, to play in front of people and put on a “good face”.

Question: Is it despite the fact that you are suffering and feel bad yourself?

Answer: Yes. Then you will get out of it quickly because when you show others that you are in a good mood, you will enter it yourself.

Question: Do you kind of get out of your suffering and enter a good mood in order to convey it to others? This in fact is high aerobatics. What about a Kabbalist when he suffers?

Answer: A Kabbalist, suffering, laughs at himself. Really laughs at himself. Because there is no reason for suffering at all! Except for our petty selfishness.

Therefore, if you laugh at it, you can quickly get out of it. I saw it on my teacher. This is, of course, an excellent example of how a person can rise above suffering.

Question: But is the suffering itself felt at this moment?

Answer: Of course. This he cannot remove. He can only try to rise above it. In principle, according to Kabbalah, it is forbidden to destroy suffering, eradicate it, or erase its source, but it is necessary to rise above it.

Question: So there is both suffering and my rise above it?

Answer: Yes. Then, in the difference between them, you begin to feel the greatness of the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 5/18/20

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Question: Do you personally have enough time to complete your plans? Or are you one of those people who at the end of the day say: “If I could just add a few more hours, it would be good.”

Answer: No. I have come to a state where everything that I want works out and things that I don’t want, don’t work out. And to me, the things that I could not do are as normal as the things that worked out.

Question: I know that you are a very busy person. You have a busy schedule throughout the day. But I have never heard you say that you are running out of time.

Answer: No. I have plenty of it.

Remark: I am always running out of time.

My Reply: So, you are a bad organizer.

Remark: But I am trying.

My Reply: Trying is one thing but performing is another.

Remark: I always want to do more. It does not work.

My Reply: It means that you are taking upon yourself too much, and that is why you do not have time. And even if you had time, you could make a mistake. You can not do it this way. You should leave time for everything, for rest, for thoughts, etc. and not be like a driven horse.

Remark: By the way, my rest is fine. I always have enough time for rest, but for work, I realized that the indicator is agreeing with what is.

My Reply: Agreeing with the passing of time and with what is happening.

Remark: Probably, if I had more time, I would have done some needless nonsense.

My Remark: Undoubtedly.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills“9/2/20

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Question: One of the rules of time management is the need to instill good habits. For example, exercise, never be late, put a thing in its specific place after using it, etc. What would you advise to acquire as a habit that helps in life?

Answer: Work by a schedule.

Question: Why is that so important for a person?

Answer: In order to have time for everything, to set the right priorities, what to leave time for, what not, and not to drive yourself into those frames that you cannot fulfill.

Let’s say today I plan to read a book, film a clip, work on Twitter, and hold meetings with my group. All this must be sorted out somehow.

Question: If someone looks at this life, they would say: “What for? This is not freedom! You work like a robot.”

Answer: I believe that by doing this I fulfill my mission, and because of that I am happy and free. What does freedom mean? Running down the street like a dog?

Comment: No. Isn’t freedom doing what you want?

Answer: That is not freedom. What are you going to do if you do not know what you want? If you do, then you make up a schedule of upcoming affairs for yourself and fulfill it.

A person should be puzzled by how full his schedule is and how well he is doing it. In addition, the day planner should indicate the time allotted for rest, and, perhaps, for physical exercise, sports. In general, everything should be considered when planning. Otherwise, you will not be able to do anything.

Question: So, do you think that rest is necessary for a person?

Answer: Of course, and first of all, a change of scenery.

Question: How much time should you spend on yourself?

Answer: As much as needed to be ready for the necessary work. Maybe I need to rest five hours for this, and another one needs half an hour.

Question: How long does a person need to be alone with himself?

Answer: This is also determined by each person, depending on the essence of his spiritual, sensory, and creative work.

Question: Do you recommend putting this into the plan?

Answer: If a person needs it. How else is a schedule drawn up and a person’s life rhythm set? Only from those needs that he considers necessary to fulfill.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/2/20

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Comment: There is an opinion that a person should not have free time. Everything must be planned in advance.

My Response: If everything is planned in advance including rest, this is not called “free time.”

Question: Does it mean that a person should take care that he does not have free time?

Answer: This is in order to avoid doing nothing when one simply does not know what to do with oneself.

Question: So, should free time also be planned? You are a person who strictly adheres to a plan.

Answer: Let’s say I can write in my diary that I will lie on the couch for five hours straight, looking at the ceiling and thinking. In principle, this should be planned. And if not, then I always have some store of the things that need enhancement.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/2/20

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Question: You say that new values should include knowledge of the global laws of nature and their observance in family relationships, in particular, in cases of conflict between generations. Can you name at least one such law?

Answer: This is the law of mutual completion. For example, in a family, one exists in a certain volume on a natural level: the smallest are the most important. And the older and stronger a person is in the family, the more he owes the rest. This type of law should also exist in society.

Question: For thousands of years, there have been conflicts between women and men, between fathers and children, between nations and countries. What does nature want to show us?

Answer: Nature wants to demonstrate that we must rise above these conflicts to become one family. And in the family, there is mutual completion. Everyone makes their own feasible contribution to the common piggy bank: a small child with his participation and warmth, the adult with his greater participation, greater contribution.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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