Fulfill the Highest Law of Nature

Question: As a rule, you do not recommend telling people about yourself and your family during round tables, especially if they are strangers. They should try to speak only from the level of their commonality and unity and not go into any stories. Why? Can’t personal information somehow unite and increase the connection between people?

Answer: I don’t think it’s necessary. I do not know what questions you are going to solve in your circles, but I mean that questions of attainment of the upper world will be resolved. By combining the desires and aspirations of the participants of the round table, a new spiritual platform will be created above our world to solve the problems of spiritual connection, above our desires and ordinary aspirations. In this way we will come to their solution and to the revelation of the upper world in our feelings.

Remark: But we’re talking about people who aren’t working right now. They are stressed, feeling some uncertainty, and have come to our course in order to improve their lives.

My Comment: Then they need to be told that the next stage in the development of human society is to unite people, which will save them from stress and help them go the right way. In the end, we must fulfill the highest law of nature—the law of global connection.

After this explanation, it will become clear to them that we are getting together to conduct workshops on connection and we will gradually come to it.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20

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Question: What can close the gap between generations?

Answer: I hope that the past generation will be wiser and kinder to the new generation and the new generation realizes that it faces a very serious task to decide what the meaning of life is. They need to decide on their own, because the past generation will not be able to show them the way, but will support them.

We are at a stage when a new generation must acquire a new methodology, a new ideology, a new attitude to the world and to life. I wish them that.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Question: Can a married couple of the same sex provide the right education for children?

Answer: No. A child must have two different people, opposite in their natural attributes.

Question: Is a family with a robot an option? Is there such an option in the near future of humanity?

Answer: I do not think so. That would not be a good family.

Question: Can we say that there are conflicts at the basis of a strong family?

Answer: Sometimes.

Question: Does online connection strengthen the family?

Answer: Not based on today’s Internet, no. I hope it will be the case in the future.

Question: Is there a future for the virtual family?

Answer: A virtual family cannot be the future. A family is not beyond the boundaries of the home.

Question: There is a whole section in family life called “expectation.” What should we expect in a spouse?

Answer: Mutual understanding, mutuality!

Question: Do we need to choose a partner according to the equivalence of attributes, or quite the opposite, the more different people are in their character, the stronger the unity between them is?

Answer: A couple needs to be opposite from each other and they need to understand their oppositeness, that each of them has a mind and the desire to complement each other.

Question: Is it a good idea to build a family today in the first place?

Answer: It is impossible without a family. A family needs to exist for our sake, for the sake of the education of children. A person without a family is not a human being, but half a body.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Time for Adaptation

Question: There are clear rules and principles of the round table under which you can achieve a positive result.

First, external conditions: participants turn off their mobile phones and make sure that nothing distracts or interferes with them. They do not leave their seats during the discussion, only when necessary. It is very important that they are not joined by unprepared people.

Second: everyone discusses one common topic chosen in advance and carefully listens to the questions of the moderator without deviating from the topic of discussion.

Third: each participant expresses his or her opinion, and this contributes to the common decision. On the other hand, there are people who passively participate in these processes. Naturally, we cannot make them talk. How should the moderator and all other participants react to his silence?

Answer: We’ll have to get his opinion out of him somehow or not consider him present.

Question: Can he be given some time to start with?

Answer: Time is given to everyone for adaptation, for mutual inclusion, for understanding the problem, for correctly expressing their opinion, etc. These are problems of internal and external organization of each one and everyone together. But, in general, a person must understand that they must participate in this experiment, and we need to bring them to this with all seriousness.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20

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Stages of the Round Tables

Remark: Before applying the round table methodology, you need to hold a workshop. Its goal is to create a warm, safe atmosphere, raise the importance of the discussion itself and the importance of the participants.

My Comment: Indeed, this is very important. After all, we take simple, egoistic people who are trying to solve some problem from the point of view of egoism. And we need to convince them that they can solve the problem only by being integrally connected with each other above their egoism.

The main thing is the task itself, not who solves it because everyone is involved in this process. Participants need to reach a joint decision because it is the right one, and not because it is someone’s individual decision, no matter how brilliant it may seem.

In other words, before making any decisions, it is important to connect in feeling.

Remark: The second stage: Each member of the circle conducts a self-analysis of how much they are willing to participate in strengthening the connection of the entire group.

The third stage is a sense of community and connection between the participants. Even if I haven’t achieved it yet, I artificially show it to everyone else. They do not know I’m playing.

The fourth stage: everyone tries to talk to the best of their abilities about the benefits and advantages of unity and interconnection because each individual would not be able to achieve the results and solve the tasks set.

My Comment: The most important thing is that everyone agrees that a joint decision will be the only correct one.

Question: And the fifth stage—in a state of fullness of feelings, participants start directly discussing the topic and solving problems using the round table method. This is the difference between the integral method and the others because they immediately start solving some issues without first establishing communication. And without it, it is impossible.

How long do you think this process might take? Is it possible to tune in like this in half an hour?

Answer: Hardly! I can’t imagine that this could be done in a few months. But we must strive. We need to work on it. It depends on what people are talking about, on what topic, in what state they are initially.

Let’s say they are surgeons who have performed many operations. But now they have a patient with a seemingly unsolvable problem and they come to deplorable conclusions about their past attempts to solve it on their own. Then they realize that only by brainstorming together will they obviously be able to find some new solution.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20

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Question: Is there a punishment for the sins of a generation? Is there a concept that children should pay for the sins of their fathers?

Answer: In general, yes. After all, we do not exist by ourselves, as we think. Usually, people believe that they can do whatever they want without realizing that they are within the framework of nature, which has its own laws.

We gradually reveal these laws at the inanimate, vegetative, and animate levels. But at the human level, we cannot reveal them. We can only assume that they exist.

The fact is that we look at inanimate, vegetative, and animate nature from the top-down, and therefore, we can understand it and somehow manage it. And we can only look at other people at our level. We do not have a “second floor” from which we can look at them. Therefore, on a human level, we constantly make mistakes. We have nothing to compare with, we do not have a second floor  to look from above to below.

According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, we must rise to the next level, called faith above reason, from which we will correctly see our earthly level and understand who we are and how we should behave.

Question: Where did the term “descent,” “decline,” or “coarsening” of generations come from?

Answer: We see that each generation develops in its own egoism, which is becoming more sophisticated, multileveled, and complex. Therefore, it pulls us down. We must necessarily balance it by striving upward.

We do not understand this yet. But in our time, we have already come to a state that allows us to understand how we can balance egoism and more or less influence our existence.

Question: Can we say that it is precisely the different level of egoism that is the cause of conflicts between generations?

Answer: Naturally. We are all selfish, but each one in one’s own way.
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From the TV program “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/2020

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A Round Table Is a Serious Psychological Training

Question: The circle methodology consists of three parts. The first part is educational. It is necessary for understanding the entire process, the final goal, and means. This can be a mini-lecture, watching a movie, reading sources, and then discussing it.

The second is the discussion itself. It is also divided into different parts: games, reflection, and a workshop.

And the third is practice, that is, the application of skills acquired in the circle, in everyday life. Should we then implement in our lives, at work, and in our families, the attitude we received from the round table?

Answer: A round table—or the concept of raising a person above his egoism in order to get closer to others, not just learning information or getting impressions from each, but connecting among us in understanding the problem and its solution—is a whole set of joint actions. I do not think this is just a small introduction to the concept of the “round table.”

People should accept this, acquire practical skills to understand when they can rise above themselves or bend themselves before others. To understand what kind of communication should be between them, I bend before others, or I am on par with them, or I am above them. How can all this be correctly oriented, etc.

I consider the first educational stage the most important, it is very strong and includes a large number of varied exercises. This is a serious psychological training where people understand where they are and what they should do.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20

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Question: Our entire life is based on a game. Russian sociologist Vladimir Ilyin wrote, “The game is a different life, acting as a man-made oasis inside the chaos of real life.”

If the game is our entire life, how can a person distinguish what is real life and what is a game?

Answer: There is no need to distinguish, you need to turn life into a game. This will be good.

Question: How can you not remain a small child?

Answer: Let me be a little child. I should feel like a little kid. What does it mean that I am big? What am I so big in? Nowhere and in nothing.

On the contrary, let me feel that I am small in comparison with the entire universe, with all the huge cosmos, and there are things for me to comprehend, to receive, and to be filled with to live with my eyes and my mouth open.

Question: The first function of the game is to compensate for the unused energy in the struggle for survival. A person accumulates energy, often negative, which he must somehow throw away, realize.

How can a person realize this negative energy today, so that it does not lead to fatal outcomes? How can a person use the negative energy that accumulates in him or her for constructive causes?

Answer: You must show a person the meaning, that this meaning is directly connected to him, and what can be the reward for realizing this meaning.

Question: The game ensures the preservation of the qualities given by nature, but are not required in the real life of an individual. How can a person reveal and recognize the hidden qualities, the hidden opportunities, that nature has implanted in him?

Answer: Only in a group. In a particular group of people when all of them are engaged in discovering their internal, unused, potential opportunities in order to rise above themselves. Above themselves is only in the society.

Thus, we need to gather together into a group where everyone wants to rise above themselves to reach such a connection between them when they will rise together into something common. Let us say ten people come together and become one. This “one” will consist of all of them, but together they will feel that this qualitative change in themselves that everyone became ten times smarter, ten times stronger, ten times more perspicacious, and so on.

Question: In an imperfect world with a hectic life, the game creates temporary, limited perfection. This is always some kind of a short cycle. Can the game be turned into an infinite game so that it does not end?

Answer: Yes, this is what a game is. A real game is one that can be turned into an endless game, an endless activity. However, only if there are many of us.

You cannot play the game alone. When there are many of us, we create completely different combinations through the game, as in a kaleidoscope. Have you ever looked through a kaleidoscope? When you turn it the pieces of broken glass inside it move into some kind of structure. So, do we.

When we make a kaleidoscope out of ourselves in this way, we get such pictures! We begin to discover ourselves as joint, compatible in such a form that in the end we receive one single whole, we become Adam (Man), that is, a combined element.

Question: What is a real game that is a win-win for everyone?

Answer: This is when a person reveals the true universe and begins playing it for real. In earnest!

Question: What does it mean to play in earnest?

Answer: It is when one plays above life and death, not for life and not for death, but above them for connection with others and builds perfection together with them. Only perfection can fill a person with meaning.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/12/20

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Question: Some social networks help people become kinder. In this tense time, when the pandemic is raging, politicians fight for votes, and protesters demand racial justice, human communication is becoming more important.

Researchers at Carnegie Mellon University have developed an automated method to make communication more polite. Scientists are sure that politeness and kind communication will do good for us. Now they have developed an automated method to make communication kind.

Can such algorithms really teach a person a different way of communication and a different line of thought?

Answer: In principle, they can, to a very small extent. It depends on how seriously we will relate to such a communication model, how much we would be able to follow all these rules: sorry, please, thank you—and all the time instill positive emotions in each other, and so on.

This can soften society in some way. But to a very insignificant extent because by this we deviate from the purpose of creation.

The purpose of creation is to bring a person to the awareness of his nature as evil. Therefore, we need to understand that no matter how good, white, and fluffy we are externally, outside of ourselves, inside we will still remain nasty, black, dark, and evil. So, it will not change us from the inside, but it will help us quickly understand who we really are inside. Just like when you turn on the light in a room, you can better see how dirty it is.

Question: Is it that all kind messages, all kindness, and politeness only help to reveal the negativity that lurks inside?

Answer: Of course.

Question: What happens to a person further?

Answer: We begin to feel who we are within ourselves.

Question: Is it necessary to have both internal negativity and external kindness, external politeness, a positive attitude toward each other? Or should there be only kindness, grace, positivity, and harmonious communication?

Answer: We must constantly struggle with our greedy egoistic nature, and not just manifest all this on the outside in a beautiful form in relation to each other, like all the methods—both those you are talking about and others.

We must understand that everything lies not in beautiful outer packaging, wrappings, bonbonnieres, but in changing ourselves, our nature. Only then can we really achieve a state when humanity will become different. It will become different from within itself—giving, loving, and sympathetic.

Question: What help does this evil in man bring? Why is it given to us at all?

Answer: This evil is necessary in order to reveal our nature to us. This is our nature, this is us, not something artificial, external, extraneous. This is how our nature is revealed.

It is not easy to reveal to a person how evil he is. Talk to people and you will see how they react when you tell them who they are. They will hate you; they will beat you. They will not agree with you. How can you accuse them of what is allegedly wrong?!

A person does not like it when it is pointed out to him. We need to reveal it—to reveal it each to himself and to others, and to help everyone together come to the conclusion that we are terrible beasts and have no other choice but to correct ourselves as soon as possible; otherwise, we will eat each other alive.

Remark: You had an interesting tweet that said it is hatred that gives knowledge of how to fill the desire of another person. Therefore, the basis of life is self-love and egoism and the rest is its spice.

My Comment: Yes. So, it is written: “I created the evil inclination, and I made the Torah as its spice.”

Question: Why does hatred help fulfill the desire of another person?

Answer: Because it turns into hatred of its nature, and thus inversely in the opposite direction, toward love for another person. It turns out that by turning my hatred inside out, I can hate it in myself and love another person.

Question: Can we say that this hatred, this evil that is in a person, should be treated as a sparring partner that helps us become better?

Answer: Yes. This is called help against Him.

Question: What would you say to all people who really expect kind attitudes, warmth, and harmony in communication from others?

Answer: Do not wait. Do not expect anything good from anyone. Just understand that everything depends on each of you. Change yourself—and the world will change.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/1/20

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Purpose of Round Tables

Question: In ancient times, our ancestors gathered around the campfire to discuss conflicts, resolve serious issues, and simply to strengthen social bonds.

More than 2,000 years ago, during the Sanhedrin, the sages continued to solve state-level issues in a circle.

In the 5th – 6th century according to legend, the leader of the Britons, King Arthur, also used a round table to make the knights who gathered at it feel equal.

In the modern sense, “round table” has been used since the 20th century as the name of one of the ways to organize the discussion of certain issues.

What is the main purpose of using round tables?

Answer: The main goal of the round tables is to show that all participants are equal; each of them has their own opinion, which they can freely express.

Question: In which cases can a round table be used to resolve state-level conflicts, and in which cases can it simply be used to strengthen bonds?

Answer: If there are serious prerequisites, it is possible to organize round tables at the state level.

However, in the political environment it is very rare to gather people who feel equal corresponding to the concept of a round table. This is usually done to show that everyone seemingly aims for the same thing, although this is almost impossible between politicians.

Remark: When working in a circle, a special effect is formed that allows us to say that the circle is larger than the sum of its participants. This effect can be compared with such concepts as “wisdom of the crowd” and “collective intelligence.”

My Comment: The fact is that here the sum of effort is more than just the sum of the components. Since the participants who make up the round table must rise above their egoism, humble themselves in some way, and agree with the opinions of others, their joint efforts add up and sum up.

It turns out that the round table effect is not just an arithmetic addition, but much more. If the participants’ contradictions were very serious, then if they want to rise above them and reach the “round table” state, they achieve a major effect of connection, communication, and integration.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20

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