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Burning Books Will Not Change Anything

273.02In the News (National Post): “A book burning held by an Ontario francophone school board as an act of reconciliation with Indigenous people has received sharp condemnation from Canadian political leaders and the board itself now says it regrets its symbolic gesture.

“The “flame purification” ceremony, first reported by Radio Canada, was held in 2019… . Some 30 books, the national broadcaster reported, were burned for ‘educational purposes’ and then the ashes were used as fertilizer to plant a tree.

“’We bury the ashes of racism, discrimination and stereotypes in the hope that we will grow up in an inclusive country where all can live in prosperity and security, ‘says a video prepared for students about the book burning, Radio Canada reported.

“In total, more than 4,700 books were removed from library shelves at 30 schools across the school board… .”

Comment: I see that humanity has recently wanted to solve the problems of equality in this way.

My Response: But it is easier than educating.

Comment: You see, schools went for it. That is, those places that are designed to educate burn books.

My Response: Nothing can replace education. Because it changes a person, in the end it sets the goal of changing a person. And everything else is different, external.

Question: So hatred of these writers, of these books, is a departure from correct upbringing?

Answer: Of course. They wrote everything correctly for their time, once they were progressive people. These people were held in reverence, as the torch of humanity.

Comment: In general, each generation destroys what was built by another generation.

My Response: This is the problem, what must be destroyed correctly in order to build correctly. And what did they build on the fact that they destroyed slavery? Everyone became slaves. All are slaves.

Question: Then what do you call correct upbringing?

Answer: When a person is taught to love his neighbor. Teach everyone to love each other and there will be no talk of slavery.

Question: By doing so, you remove the basis of inequality?

Answer: Yes. What are you doing with this? You reveal hatred for each other between all strata, estates, and so on, and you also kind of develop it. And what’s the use? Has slavery stopped? No.

This is a camouflaged slavery, it is still here today at all levels. Man in his nature wants to subjugate his neighbor. So where is this eradicated?

Question: Education should be aimed not at erasing all the pages of history we used to have? Do not burn anything, do not break monuments? Do not remember anything, and from this moment start, as you say, the line of trying to love your neighbor?

Answer: Yes. And then you don’t have to break anything old.

Question: How is the old seen if we reach this level?

Answer: It was like that. We were all small and soiled diapers. That’s how we grew up. We did stupid things, broke dishes. We’ve all walked this way of growing up.

Question: And should have passed it?

Answer: How could it be otherwise? This is humanity, these are its natural stages of growing up. Objectively, this happened, and therefore we must not forget about it. And today we have nothing to be ashamed of and accountable for the past, nothing!

We just have to realize why nature has done it to us. This is a huge egoism that we still have today. But how can you really fix it? We must get rid of the bondage of selfishness in ourselves! Each one and everyone together. That’s all.

Comment: Then we will even be grateful for these pages of history that were. They led us to this decision.

My Response: Yes! And we will definitely have to properly possess this egoism. And if we destroy it, we remain hanging in the air.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/23/21

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Inner Fulfillment And External Needs

120When engaged in integral education, a person should understand why he is doing it. His most important task is to bring the world to an integral state because in this way we raise it to the upper force, to the upper purpose.

This is the key difference between our organization and all the others. This point is the very first and the very last. The very first because we start our own internal preparation from it, and the very last because we come with it and want to grow it within our listeners. Therefore, it is always present inside the flow in which we conduct workshops, discussions, answer questions, and so on.

This is a clear direction to make the students into one single whole because in this form they will connect to us, and they will be balanced with all of nature. This is the most important task that defines our methodology and the desired result.

By participating in this, people pass the upper energy through themselves and feel how it fills them, they live by it.

Question: Does it mean that in an ordinary enterprise the motivation is mainly financial, but here it is spiritual?

Answer: There can be no financial motivation here. A person should receive enough in order not to feel any special needs. If his head and all his life are dedicated to the spiritual goal, then it is enough for him to provide his family with a normal living standard.

When he works in a good team and his family does not put pressure on him with any increased demands, then this should completely satisfy him and even give him a feeling of happiness. Inner fulfillment will extinguish external needs.
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From KabTV’s “Through Time”

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The End Of The World—Kabbalah Will Explain Everything To Us

559From a Reader: I am writing to you in confusion. We have a very close-knit family, three children, and already five grandchildren. The youngest is 13 years old, and I would like to talk about him. He is a very talented boy, he grasps everything on the fly, he has a sharp, analytical mind. That’s the problem, we’re told. He is sure that the end of the world is approaching.

He analyzes all the information he receives from the Internet, from newspapers, and television. He understands politics, economics, everything. And it all comes down to the fact that there is a need to prepare for the worst. We took him to the doctors, they say that he is absolutely healthy. We took him away to the country for three months, we don’t have the Internet there, but he takes it out of thin air. My wife and I are very afraid for him. We kindly ask you to help us.

My Response: You should  give him Kabbalah books, let him study. Then he will see that everything is controlled by the upper force, that everything is programmed, that everything comes down to a single governance, and so on. If he has a good analytical mind, he will grasp it, for him it will be a system of internal balance.

Question: So he will understand where everything is going and what harmony is?

Answer: Sure. And he will not be afraid that the sky will fall.

Question: Can the wisdom of Kabbalah be introduced at school, taught, and so on?

Answer: Why not? It’s talking about the world we live in. Nothing else. It does not frighten us with anything; on the contrary, it calms, and explains the system.

Question: And why does a person have this fear, and he lives by it, meaning that fear already controls him? Is this human nature?

Answer: A person does not feel this upper, single force of nature we exist and revolve in. And that’s why he needs to hold on to something. And on what? That’s where all sorts of beliefs and so on arise.

Question: But if it is harmonious, if it is kind, why does a person have such a crisis and think about the end of the world?

Answer: This happens to every person, and many times during one’s life so that a person realizes his instability, uncertainty, rejection from this life, and he looks for a way in which he can cope with this life and find this force that controls everything. This is especially given to us.

Comment: So your advice is for the boy to read a bit of a book about the laws of the universe?

My Response: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/4/21

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What To Do If Your Boss Is A Dictator

962.2From a Viewer: Igor writes:

Dear Michael Laitman, I am asking you for advice. My boss is a dictator. For five years now, I am trying really hard not to tell him to go to hell.

I love my job, but I hate him. He watches my every move. All his requests are not requests but orders, all conversations are only his preaching. There is nothing human or warm about him. I tolerate it only because I know I will not find such a job anywhere else. I do not know how to endure it. Dear Michael, what would you do if you were me?

My Response: I would try to change myself so as to love this person. Then everything will work out for him a thousand times better.

Question: Is it possible in such a state? As you see, the letter is really “burning” with “I just hate him.”

Answer: I think that on the contrary, it is in such a state that it is possible. After all, he may suddenly see that there is nothing terrible here, he just convinced himself about this, he sees this in such a way. He prepares himself in advance to hate his boss.

Question: Are you saying that if Igor makes an effort, a terrible, difficult, real effort to love his boss, then it will turn out that he is not a dictator at all?

Answer: Not a dictator at all. It all depends on Igor.

Question: How will the boss see this love? Will it look like adulation or like a game?

Answer: No. Igor does not have to show it at all. He should work within himself.

Question: Internally? Does it mean that he can repeat to himself: “I want to change, I want to love him, no matter what”?

Answer: Yes. I want to actually love him. Then everything will change. How else can we reach love for our neighbor? Do not think that later someday it may happen. Try to do it now, in this particular case. If there is a person I hate, this is the biggest opportunity to change myself.

Question: Is this your main advice?

Answer: Of course. There is nothing else. The Creator gives this to him specifically so that he can change himself and thus reach some spiritual degree.

Question: Can he also reach a comfortable state?

Answer: Of course!

Question: At work and everywhere else?

Answer: Undoubtedly! This will have the best consequences.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/4/21

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Both Medicine And Poison

938.05Question: What topic can immediately capture people at the first lesson on integrated education?

Answer: If people want to discuss something in accordance with the integrality of nature, then first they need to learn the rules of the workshop, compliance with the rules of behavior in the circle. After becoming somewhat similar to this nature, they will only gain from proper interaction with each other.

At the first workshop, they are usually given questions for discussion to reveal the nature of man. “What is the basic essence of a person?” “Why do I love someone and not someone else?” “Does it come from your inner qualities or because I am so bad and he is so good?” And so on.

Through discussion people themselves come to the conclusion that each of us is an egoist. This is a statement of the fact of our nature. Although physiologically we are all animals, there is an additional component in us, our egoism, which is evil in everything. So, this is already a diagnosis. But is there a cure for it? What do we get if we get cured?

Maybe, thanks to egoism, I’m rushing forward, ascending, rising, exploring, my eyes are burning, I want this dish, this partner, this vacation, etc. And without it, what is the taste in life? Which means, the ego has positive and negative sides, and they need to be balanced somehow.

At the same time, we do not destroy egoism in any way, but only use it correctly in order not to lose. Where it harms me, I will make an inversion in using it and rise to a better outcome. And where it helps me, why not? If, looking at you, I envy that you are so athletic, then I also start running in the morning. Or, looking at someone smart, I start learning. In these cases, egoism is our helper.

Our attitude is neither yogic nor anything similar to that, where everything is put on the suppression of the ego. We do not suppress or annul it, but only use it correctly. And then it turns out that there is a medicine inside egoism, like in a snake: both medicine and poison.
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From KabTV’s “Through Time”

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New Life 1321 – Constructive Love, Destructive Love

New Life 1321 – Constructive Love, Destructive Love
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Love without any conditions destroys a child. The child comes to feel that the world will give him or her everything without having to do anything in return. Instead, a child should come to know that an appropriate response is expected from them: a thank you, a kiss, or an effort to help out. A child needs to be willing to take part in the family. A common mistake is to do for our children what they could be doing for themselves. We should compliment children for their efforts rather than for their natural talents or qualities. We should teach children to acknowledge what has been given to them by contributing in turn to others’ benefit.

Constructive love draws an appropriate response from the child, while destructive love doesn’t take the child’s actions into account. The goal is to educate children so that they know how to receive and how to give in a balanced manner.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1321 – Constructive Love, Destructive Love,” 10/24/21
This summary is written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

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Books To Replace Jail

583.05In the News (The Guardian): “‘UK judge orders rightwing extremist to read classic literature or face prison’

“A former student who downloaded almost 70,000 white supremacist documents and bomb-making instructions has avoided a prison sentence ‘by the skin of his teeth’ after being told to read classic literature by Dickens, Austen, Shakespeare and Hardy.

“Ben John, 21, from Lincoln, a former student at De Montfort University in Leicester, has to return to court every four months to be tested on his reading, Judge Timothy Spencer QC said. He also sentenced him to a suspended two years’ imprisonment plus a further two years on licence. …

“Sentencing him at Leicester crown court, the judge concluded his crime was likely to be ‘an act of teenage folly’ and an isolated incident. …

“After making John promise not to research any more rightwing material, the judge continued: ‘Have you read Dickens? Austen? Start with Pride and Prejudice and Dickens’ A Tale of Two Cities. Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night. Think about Hardy. Think about Trollope.

“’On 4 January you will tell me what you have read and I will test you on it. I will test you and if I think you are [lying to] me you will suffer.’”

Question: How do you like such a way out of the criminal code, such a decision?

My Response: The judge can do it. Such a human approach, instead of putting a person in jail, launch him into reading.

Question: Do you think it can change a person?

Answer: He still has to read and analyze for a long time. This engages your mind, activates completely different parts of the brain. Therefore it can accomplish something, pull him out of it. He will move into a completely different understanding of history, geography, himself, and the country. He will fill himself with different values after all.

Question: And how does Kabbalistic literature work when we read it?

Answer: This is already heavy artillery. This is a very serious thing. From the first reading, depending on what he’s been given, he can be taken to a whole different place.

He will discover such things for himself! After all, where does Kabbalah begin? With discovering the structure of the world, the human being, and everything else. Here, completely different desires and their combinations begin to work. They will take him far away from a bomb.

Question: So you personally would advise a person to read gradually from easy to difficult texts?

Answer: Yes. “Here, my friend, within a month you have to work on, for example, a book about the structure of the spiritual worlds, about the five worlds between us and the world of infinity, how they affect us, and we affect them. Make a brief summary of the whole thing. And draw everything as you understand it.”

Question: And he won’t even notice how it starts working on him internally?

Answer: Naturally! I would advise it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr.Michael Laitman” 9/9/21

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552.03In the News (San Francisco Examiner): “San Francisco thinks it may have an answer for its rising gun violence problem: Paying people to not pull the trigger.

“The idea is to provide the small number of San Franciscans who authorities believe are most at risk of shooting someone — or being shot — with an incentive to get help and stay out of trouble. It’s a solution that proponents say already has shown promise preventing gun crimes in other parts of California. …

“Participants will be able to earn up to $200 more a month by hitting milestones in the program, such as landing a job interview, complying with probation or consistently meeting with a mentor.”

 Question: Do you think this might work?

Answer: Psychologically it can work. After all, $200 means that a few times a week he can go to a bar to drink beer. To celebrate his exemplary behavior.

Question: Why, in principle, are such terms given to petty criminals?

Answer: To provide a non-committal reply. It is clear that this does not correct anything.

Question: That is, you would not convict a person, would not put him in jail?

Answer: According to the Torah, this is absolutely prohibited. According to the Torah, a person is not imprisoned.

Comment: Yes, but according to the Torah, a serious criminal is still isolated.

My Response: This is a different matter. He is alienated from society, isolated from society. But not in the form of imprisonment. There is no such thing in the Torah.

Question: But if such criminals are not imprisoned, what can be done with them? How to educate them?

Answer: Very simply. Establish schools and universities and instead of sitting in their cells, they will sit in classrooms and study. Teach them everything that they have not learned. They should write, make reports.

After the bell rings they all have a meal. Then they come back and have another lesson. There they must repeat the material, raise their hands, and answer questions.

Question: Would you send police officers to stand near the classrooms?

Answer: Police officers should be teachers.

Comment: That is, if you put this petty criminal in school for two years…

My Response: You will receive professors.

Question: And this is the best system that can ever be?

Answer: The only one. Only education. Only serious studies. Moreover, according to their interests; someone perhaps will go for music. There are a lot of people interested. Music, art, construction, activities with animals, they will want something like this.

That is, we should reveal their talents. It will be much cheaper than maintaining all these establishments.

Comment: It seems that there are a lot of talents hidden in criminals. Even more than in the rest of the people.

My Response: This is basically why they become criminals. Because they cannot realize themselves in something normal. This is how our world was created. It is necessary to find this bud in a person, to reveal this talent in him, and he will flourish.

Question: It would be nice if it could be like this! But how to do it? Where will you find such judges, educators, and police officers?

Answer: “Who are the judges?”
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/9/21

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Children Can Not Be Made Rich Dummies

565.01In the News (CNBC): “‘James Bond’ actor Daniel Craig says his children won’t be receiving his multimillion-dollar fortune.

“Daniel Craig may command eight-figure Hollywood paychecks…but the 53-year-old actor isn’t planning on sharing much of it with his children.

“In the most recent issue of Candis Magazine, Craig detailed his philosophy on inheritance, saying he doesn’t plan to have much money left to give to his children by the time he dies.

 “’Isn’t there an old adage that if you die a rich person, you’ve failed?’ Craig said in the interview, according to the Times of London. …

“Craig says that he finds it ‘distasteful’ to leave heirs massive amounts of money. …

“’My philosophy is get rid of it or give it away before you go,’ Craig said.”

Question: What do you think. about his solution? How does it feel for children to hear this? Here they are, sitting and listening and dad says: “You will not get anything from me.”

Answer: No, “nothing” does not mean “nothing.” This means that everyone will have a house, some kind of bank account, a couple of million.

Comment: There will be a launch pad.

My Response: Yes, this is the correct approach. That is, paying for university, a good wedding gift, and so on, that’s okay. But nothing more.

Question: That is, everything is not transferred to the family, everything to the estate? Just what is needed? What does this do to a young man?

Answer: It prepares him for life. He understands that he must prepare himself for the basis of life. He must work, study, and acquire a specialty, perhaps create some kind of enterprise with the money that his father will give him that will help create this. But not that he will be a rich dummy all his life.

Question: That is, if he gets all the money at once, as you say, and becomes a rich dummy, what does that do to him?

Answer: It kills a person. There is nothing worse.

Question: He will not be able to start at some pace, continue, and so on?

Answer: Only if he is squeezed.

Question: Do you think that proper parenting includes pinching too?

Answer: Absolutely! Without this, absolutely nothing sensible will come of a person. It is written in the Torah that in no case show your children that you are rich, and much less that you are preparing to leave something for them.

You promise to help them prepare themselves for a good, normal, intelligent, productive life. And that’s all.

Question: You mean you should not spoil your children?

Answer: No way!

Question: Help them a little and let them go?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So you are in favor of what Daniel Craig says?

Answer: Yes, I agree with him!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/19/21

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World Kindness Day

627.2Comment: World Kindness Day was celebrated on November 13th. According to a study by researchers, people who do good deeds every day feel better physically, feel their life more harmonious, have better immunity, get sick less, and live longer. Finally, responsiveness is accompanied by uplifting, the hormone serotonin is produced, which regulates our mood.

My Response: Kindness presupposes such an attitude toward another.

Comment: This was the first time this day was introduced in Japan, in Tokyo. And indeed there is such a warm attitude toward each other.

My Response: Warning, I would say.

Question: Why can’t we treat each other like that? We kind of invite you to do good deeds: this will make you feel good physically. Why don’t we invite you to do good deeds, because the other will be fine, the other will be happy, he will feel warm, wonderful? Can’t you get to that level? Or is it possible?

Answer: No, it is impossible in a natural way. In a supernatural is possible. Our nature will not allow us to treat each other kindly, you see. Give me examples of kindness to each other in the world. Only between relatives to some extent. And that’s all.

Comment: But there is friendship.

My Response: But only when a person needs it. Here’s the problem, am I kind to others because they need it or because I need it? If I need it, then it is not considered that I am doing good. I do something because I need it.

Comment: But for many people it is hidden. A person has a feeling that he is doing it for the sake of others.

My Response: Yes, I understand. We do not even give a report about this. But in fact, real kindness should be against its will. I must overcome myself and do good to others. Then it’s really kindness.

Question: That is, I don’t think for a second that it’s good for my health, for my mood?

Answer: I think that nothing will come of it, but I just want to make such a gesture of goodwill to someone else. Otherwise it is not kindness. Otherwise, something just presses on me and I want to get rid of the internal pressure.

Question: And I feel better when I do good to another. And this “I feel better” is ahead?

Answer: Of course. This is the reason.

Question: Will we ever get to this ideal definition of kindness?

Answer: No. We will never reach it with our nature. It will be necessary to rise above our nature, when we are convinced that we simply cannot exist for so long, we eat each other, fangs will suddenly begin to grow, the jaw will become larger.

Question: Will it be revealed to us that we are not doing good?

Answer: Not only. It will be revealed to us that we are only doing evil to each other precisely in those actions that before seemed good to us. And then we will have to really remake ourselves. It will be necessary to create in ourselves such an internal tool for analyzing our motives and intentions, which will show us exactly what we really want: ourselves or others, good or evil.

Question: That is, one way or another, the start will be from this negative point?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is it possible to move positively?

Answer: This is not in our nature! What can be done? It is said about this: “Go to the Creator who created you.” And we will go to the Creator. We will go and beg that we really want against our will, against our nature, in which He created us, to be different, to be kind to others. And then He will gladly do it.

Question: That is, by the same token that He turns us around like this, turns us around now, He wants us to turn to Him?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/8/21

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