New Life 1326 – Trust Between Parents And Children
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Building children’s trust in their parents provides them with a firm foundation for confidence later in life. Trust must be taught by example through telling the truth, keeping one’s word, and cultivating love and respect within the family.

Sometimes a parent is faced with a dilemma and must choose between keeping their word and doing what is right. In such a case, it is necessary that the child understand and feel the dilemma they faced and the parents’ pain from breaking the trust between them and that the parents love for her or him was greater than their word. We are connected as if in a single body in which we can approach life together.
This summary is written and edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1326 – Trust Between Parents And Children,” 12/5/21

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Comment: In one of the clips you said that sports should become different. Competition should be directed toward unity.

Vladimir writes: “In order to be better, and especially to be the best, it is necessary to suppress everyone and be stronger both physically and psychologically, and particularly mentally. I am talking about sports as a former athlete and an acting coach.”

My Response: This is true in the sports that exist now because it is the result of the egoistic world. However, if we are talking about a new world, then sports should be different there, only in order to improve the health of a person and create correct and kind connections between people. The competition will be in this.

Question: Then who is the strongest?

Answer: The one who can most influence the world in a good way in order to show how it is possible to change the world for good. He is the champion.

Question: Will there be envy and competition here, the way it exists in sports?

Answer: It exists everywhere. Competition is about being really the most effective in creating a good connection between everyone.

Question: Do we need to radically change the entire system of today’s sports, the Olympic Games and all the championships?

Answer: Yes. Even all the games between people that are based on competition or on one team being against another should be in the completely opposite direction; everything should be inverted.

Question: What are two teams competing with each other for?

Answer: They do not compete with each other. They compete in order to help each other clearly express themselves and their aspirations for unification.

The team that played more consistently and correctly together wins. The score is not based on points, who scored and who did not, but on how one team played together against another.

Question: Nowadays popular sports are martial arts, boxing, and fights without rules.

Answer: I do not think it is possible to explain here in a simple way what the future of these sports is. All these are Greek and Roman things that have reigned in the world for thousands of years. I think they have no future.

Although in the ancient Olympic games a friendly attitude was welcomed. At least, there was no talk of pills, injections, and other things. Not because they did not exist, but because the spirit was different.

Question: How can I win in a clean way?

Answer: Practically, it is not to win, but to demonstrate the beauty and capabilities of the human body.

Question: What will we come to?

Answer: We will come to the fact that we will be demonstrating that the actions of the Creator were kind, good, and we want to support Him in this. The way a father looks at his children and they show him that he made them externally and internally beautiful.

The beauty of sports will be in the fact that we want to demonstrate our good intentions, our kindness, and our inner beauty. It absolutely will not be about being fastest, strongest, and so on.

Question: Is this just because our father is looking at us, and he wants to see us like this?

Answer: Yes, this is the most important thing: how can we give Him pleasure from His creations with completely different thoughts, completely different intentions, and completely different results. Everything is different. Everything will exist, only in a different way.
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Comment: Many studies show that girls are more attached to their fathers while boys are more attached to their mothers. And you say that, in principle, boys after the age of three should be raised by their father and girls by their mother.

My Response: This is not yet the practice in our time. I have in mind a corrected society where boys can be with adults, take right examples from them, watch their fathers spend their free time after work, and so on.

I am talking about a society in which a person works several hours a day because he does not produce useless, unnecessary, harmful products, and the rest of the time he engages in his spiritual elevation. And next to him are his children: boys next to boys, girls next to girls, who take correct examples from their parents.

In principle, Kabbalah talks of a time that undoubtedly must come. I think we are getting closer to it. I hope we will come to it in a good way.

By the way, we see this from ancient customs of various tribes where boys up to two years old were in their rearing period, then for another two or three years shifted to the female half, and then completely switched to the male part and took examples from their fathers. They were interested in it, they were proud of it, and so they gradually became involved in life.

And the opposite is true today; boys are raised by women both in kindergarten and at school. Almost throughout their lives they are surrounded by women. We cannot imagine how subconsciously they absorb their attitude to life, and then against their will, they enter this life like a woman. Therefore, there are few real men in our world.

Question: What is a real man according to Kabbalah?

Answer: A real man is one who assumes the responsibility to be the master, the head of the family, who can lead—lead forward. Moreover, to do this not for career reasons but from the fact that he understands the importance and the need for this.

That is, he is a man. There is very little of this personality in men today. There are careerists, there are all sorts of petty crooks in science, in art, everywhere, but there are no personalities. And it is all because they have not received the correct upbringing.

They were raised by women, and they did not receive proper education for the masculine character, the masculine way of life, sight, and perception.
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In the process of integral studies, people change, they become a little closer to connection with each other. Imbued with the fact that nature is integral and we are a cancerous tumor in it, they already understand that there is no use holding on to the past and that it is impossible to manage today with the old methods they were taught; therefore, everything in the world is falling apart.

Why do we have such discord in the family, at work, between countries, and even in nature itself? Because we do not know how to behave correctly inside what is called society and nature.

The most comfortable state that a person can have is being in balance with the surrounding nature. That is, there are two systems here: one system is me, within me, which must be in balance; and around me, there is the second system, nature, which itself is in balance.

I induce destabilization in it, and therefore it turns out that it gives me negative feedback and presses on me. As a result, my entire internal system (health, psyche, etc.) goes beyond the norm.

In addition, we affect nature negatively; climate, pressure drops, and everything else depend on us. We do not even know what we are affecting. There are a lot of parameters in nature that are unknown to us. Most importantly, because of evolution we ourselves change and reach a state in which we do not want anything. This is the problem. To solve it, we need to get in balance with nature.
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Comment: Once you answered a letter to a person who wrote that he was used to speaking the truth in person and therefore ruins relations with people. You explained that by giving the truth to a person’s face, he just wants to remake him, and this should not be done.

Gulmira writes to you: “We are not a flock of sheep to be silent, with our face down. Yes, there are problems when you speak the truth, but if everyone is silent, keeping their opinion to themselves, there will be no sincerity, which means love.”

My Response: If she is a grown woman and has children, then I don’t think she delivers the truth to them all the time. She speaks to them in a language that makes them understand. So that they would be pleased. In order to gradually understand how to behave, how the world works, and how to properly tune others, yourself, that is, to be gentle with people. It is written “love your neighbor” and not “correct your neighbor.”

Question: Are you suggesting that you treat the other as your child or someone very close, take care of him?

Answer: And in this way we will be able to remake the world, and in the end we will all be fine. And if I deliver the truth to others, then I will do so with my egoism. What else? And what good will it do? None. I will turn all people against me and set a bad example for them.

Comment: By this a person is working very seriously with himself because any person wants to give out the naked truth, and here he has to think all the time.

My Response: Don’t do it, close your selfishness! Who do you want to show your truth to? Firstly, it is not true, it is your egoism, only your egoistic desire.

Question: If a person wants to naturally tell the truth to another, how should he behave, should he suddenly restrain himself? What should he do?

Answer: It is best to be silent.

Question: Is this the beginning of all good things?

Answer: Yes. And in general, if you want to talk about something, then speak about abstract topics that do not directly affect the other person, allegorically maybe or speak but not about him in plain text.

Question: The main thing is not a direct defeat of a person’s I?

Answer: No way! He must do this himself. The realization of one’s own evil lies with the person himself. This is a task that the Creator gives to a person. This is the only thing that He wants from us, for us to understand and realize the nature in which He created us, that we realize this nature as evil!

And the person who always tells the truth to another must realize that this comes from his evil, because all nature is evil, selfishness. And if I reveal it, then I reveal the evil in myself. And the other does not understand this, he hears what I say, and therefore draws very wrong conclusions from this.

Question: How does one communicate with another person if you want to tell him something?

Answer: Through your own example! Only! And the rest it’s better to be silent.

Question: Don’t you need to teach anyone?

Answer: No. Or if you teach, then only what the science of Kabbalah says about how to properly understand oneself, people, and the world, that is, the actions of the Creator. It’s true. And we don’t need the rest.

We need to make the world a good, fulfilling one. Let us change the world not by our usual methods, but through the Creator. The Creator is nature. That is, the impact on nature itself.

Question: Will we be able to rise above this selfishness after all?

Answer: We will be obliged. The whole question is, when? It already depends on us.
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Question: Children at school see that everyone gets new things and they also want to buy new things. How can we educate children and raise them from the level of the world of consumerism?

Answer: It all depends on how important we see things. We need to educate children in advance and work with them so that they will know that the important thing in life is—their internal property. After all, I get no pleasure from buying a new washing machine since I internalize it and swallow the pleasure from buying it. So I can receive pleasure from things that I don’t need to pay for like books that I read or things that I see.

Question: How do you define an internal property, what does it include?

Answer: Games in general, sports, and friendships, anything that not related to purchasing with money. All these things fill a person much more than shopping.

Question: Will one’s internal property fill the internal need to buy or to receive something new?

Answer: We live from impressions, from the sense of the filling. If I am in a mutual relationship with someone and we fill each other through conversation, we acquire knowledge, a mind. We are filled by watching a movie together, by listening to music. I don’t have to pay for an object in order to enjoy.
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Question: What does practicing Kabbalah give a person?

Answer: A person falls under the influence of completely different, higher forces.

By practicing Kabbalah, we attract upon ourselves what is called the surrounding light, a certain force that begins to shape us. It makes a man out of a man, and woman out of a woman, but gradually because this is a lengthy process.

We live in a transitional period now. For the first time we are trying to put the Kabbalistic methodology into practice. I hope that already in this generation we will be able to make such an ascent to the next degree where men and women will attain nature and be in harmony: men with the male part of nature and women with the female part of nature.

Then they will be able to give their children, the next generation, the correct upbringing based on their corrected nature.

We need to educate people. Now they receive education, but not upbringing. We do not educate a person; we do not give him any concepts about proper social, family, or personal life.

I often give the example of how as students we went to the maternity ward for the first time and saw childbirth. I was seventeen and a half years old at the time. I was shocked! My attitude toward women changed. Forever! After that, us boys started relating differently to everything.

We need to make upbringing right for both men and women. It will change the world.
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In the News (National Post): “A book burning held by an Ontario francophone school board as an act of reconciliation with Indigenous people has received sharp condemnation from Canadian political leaders and the board itself now says it regrets its symbolic gesture.

“The “flame purification” ceremony, first reported by Radio Canada, was held in 2019… . Some 30 books, the national broadcaster reported, were burned for ‘educational purposes’ and then the ashes were used as fertilizer to plant a tree.

“’We bury the ashes of racism, discrimination and stereotypes in the hope that we will grow up in an inclusive country where all can live in prosperity and security, ‘says a video prepared for students about the book burning, Radio Canada reported.

“In total, more than 4,700 books were removed from library shelves at 30 schools across the school board… .”

Comment: I see that humanity has recently wanted to solve the problems of equality in this way.

My Response: But it is easier than educating.

Comment: You see, schools went for it. That is, those places that are designed to educate burn books.

My Response: Nothing can replace education. Because it changes a person, in the end it sets the goal of changing a person. And everything else is different, external.

Question: So hatred of these writers, of these books, is a departure from correct upbringing?

Answer: Of course. They wrote everything correctly for their time, once they were progressive people. These people were held in reverence, as the torch of humanity.

Comment: In general, each generation destroys what was built by another generation.

My Response: This is the problem, what must be destroyed correctly in order to build correctly. And what did they build on the fact that they destroyed slavery? Everyone became slaves. All are slaves.

Question: Then what do you call correct upbringing?

Answer: When a person is taught to love his neighbor. Teach everyone to love each other and there will be no talk of slavery.

Question: By doing so, you remove the basis of inequality?

Answer: Yes. What are you doing with this? You reveal hatred for each other between all strata, estates, and so on, and you also kind of develop it. And what’s the use? Has slavery stopped? No.

This is a camouflaged slavery, it is still here today at all levels. Man in his nature wants to subjugate his neighbor. So where is this eradicated?

Question: Education should be aimed not at erasing all the pages of history we used to have? Do not burn anything, do not break monuments? Do not remember anything, and from this moment start, as you say, the line of trying to love your neighbor?

Answer: Yes. And then you don’t have to break anything old.

Question: How is the old seen if we reach this level?

Answer: It was like that. We were all small and soiled diapers. That’s how we grew up. We did stupid things, broke dishes. We’ve all walked this way of growing up.

Question: And should have passed it?

Answer: How could it be otherwise? This is humanity, these are its natural stages of growing up. Objectively, this happened, and therefore we must not forget about it. And today we have nothing to be ashamed of and accountable for the past, nothing!

We just have to realize why nature has done it to us. This is a huge egoism that we still have today. But how can you really fix it? We must get rid of the bondage of selfishness in ourselves! Each one and everyone together. That’s all.

Comment: Then we will even be grateful for these pages of history that were. They led us to this decision.

My Response: Yes! And we will definitely have to properly possess this egoism. And if we destroy it, we remain hanging in the air.
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When engaged in integral education, a person should understand why he is doing it. His most important task is to bring the world to an integral state because in this way we raise it to the upper force, to the upper purpose.

This is the key difference between our organization and all the others. This point is the very first and the very last. The very first because we start our own internal preparation from it, and the very last because we come with it and want to grow it within our listeners. Therefore, it is always present inside the flow in which we conduct workshops, discussions, answer questions, and so on.

This is a clear direction to make the students into one single whole because in this form they will connect to us, and they will be balanced with all of nature. This is the most important task that defines our methodology and the desired result.

By participating in this, people pass the upper energy through themselves and feel how it fills them, they live by it.

Question: Does it mean that in an ordinary enterprise the motivation is mainly financial, but here it is spiritual?

Answer: There can be no financial motivation here. A person should receive enough in order not to feel any special needs. If his head and all his life are dedicated to the spiritual goal, then it is enough for him to provide his family with a normal living standard.

When he works in a good team and his family does not put pressure on him with any increased demands, then this should completely satisfy him and even give him a feeling of happiness. Inner fulfillment will extinguish external needs.
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From a Reader: I am writing to you in confusion. We have a very close-knit family, three children, and already five grandchildren. The youngest is 13 years old, and I would like to talk about him. He is a very talented boy, he grasps everything on the fly, he has a sharp, analytical mind. That’s the problem, we’re told. He is sure that the end of the world is approaching.

He analyzes all the information he receives from the Internet, from newspapers, and television. He understands politics, economics, everything. And it all comes down to the fact that there is a need to prepare for the worst. We took him to the doctors, they say that he is absolutely healthy. We took him away to the country for three months, we don’t have the Internet there, but he takes it out of thin air. My wife and I are very afraid for him. We kindly ask you to help us.

My Response: You should  give him Kabbalah books, let him study. Then he will see that everything is controlled by the upper force, that everything is programmed, that everything comes down to a single governance, and so on. If he has a good analytical mind, he will grasp it, for him it will be a system of internal balance.

Question: So he will understand where everything is going and what harmony is?

Answer: Sure. And he will not be afraid that the sky will fall.

Question: Can the wisdom of Kabbalah be introduced at school, taught, and so on?

Answer: Why not? It’s talking about the world we live in. Nothing else. It does not frighten us with anything; on the contrary, it calms, and explains the system.

Question: And why does a person have this fear, and he lives by it, meaning that fear already controls him? Is this human nature?

Answer: A person does not feel this upper, single force of nature we exist and revolve in. And that’s why he needs to hold on to something. And on what? That’s where all sorts of beliefs and so on arise.

Question: But if it is harmonious, if it is kind, why does a person have such a crisis and think about the end of the world?

Answer: This happens to every person, and many times during one’s life so that a person realizes his instability, uncertainty, rejection from this life, and he looks for a way in which he can cope with this life and find this force that controls everything. This is especially given to us.

Comment: So your advice is for the boy to read a bit of a book about the laws of the universe?

My Response: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/4/21

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