How To Become A Good Father?
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection (Sigmund Freud).
Question: Do you think this statement is correct?
Answer: It is correct. For a child the father is everything! For a boy, yes. It is biological, it is natural. This is an example!
Question: How can this be connected with the fact that we do not feel our father? Humanity does not feel the Creator, the upper governance, and this is why humanity is like it is. Can I say that?
Answer: Of course! If we felt the Creator as the upper force that generates and defines us at every moment, then naturally we would be different. But that is not possible. Otherwise, we would have no freewill.
Question: So if we felt the Creator, would we feel all this love and goodness and be overwhelmed by them? And that is why we were given freewill?
Answer: Of course.
Question: Were children who either did not have fathers or their fathers were rough given freewill?
Answer: No a child cannot be blamed for anything. He gets into a certain situation and that’s it.
Comment: That is, you adhere to the hard line that for example: if there is a divorce and there are children, especially if they are boys and the father leaves the family, then.
My Response: That is even worse. It is a lifelong trauma.
Question: And we receive questions, mostly from women, who write to us all the time: “What, is it better to have such a cruel father?”
Answer: Not if there is such an atrocity, of course. But a normal, demanding father, even if he goes a little too far is still better than being fatherless.
Question: And how can someone become a good father?
Answer: One must be educated.
Question: Fathers?
Answer: Fathers, from childhood. It is necessary to take people, I would say young men, and try to explain to them what fatherhood is, what taking care of another means, and make good fathers out of them.
Question: And also explain to them that the future of children depends on it?
Answer: Explain everything! Of course! Otherwise it will not work without defining the goal.
Question: So you think it is necessary to create such a school for fathers?
Answer: Yes, it is necessary.
Question: And then, we can correct the future of humanity?
Answer: Of course! We will determine the whole future generation by this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/7/21
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