Two questions I received on love and relationships:
Question (from a woman): Why is it that before we find our match, we have to go through so much pain and disappointment?
My Answer: It is because you use the wrong criteria to look for a partner. Your spouse should be someone you understand, someone similar to you, with a similar upbringing and childhood, and you should remind him of his mother. Everything else will fall into place throughout the process of living together. Mostly it will happen when you forgive one another and compromise with each other.
Question: There is a couple starting out their relationship. Both study Kabbalah. They now have the opportunity to create the right connection between them. How should this occur? How can they aim their relationship toward the goal?
My Answer: Tune into the studies together, discuss them, and read articles together. This is what Rabash advised for couples.
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Lectures at the Educational Center “Nekuda Shebalev“: Unconditional Love, Lesson of December 23, 2004