Question: In order to make a correct decision, do you need to detach yourself from feelings and emotions? Is it better to try to find a logical solution to the problem?

Answer: You need both. Man is a complex system that includes the heart and the mind. We cannot be guided only by the mind neglecting the heart, and vice versa. We simply need to balance these two systems in the middle line, and then we will make the right decisions.

Question: A person should try to connect all decisions with the laws of nature. Can you give an example of how to make such a decision?

Answer: There are only two laws in nature, either reception or bestowal.

The law of bestowal is faith above reason, the quality of universal connection and love. Come to this level, connect yourself to this law, and then you can correctly solve the problem.

In other words, before making a decision, you must understand how the law of reception and how the law of bestowal works. And the harmony between them should become your compass when making a decision.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 6/11/20

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Question: I read that goodwill  toward people depends 45% on genetics. It turns out that there are people for whom it is naturally easier to build relationships and connections. And there are those who are doomed to fail. Why has nature designed it that way?

Answer: This is done specifically to create the illusion of freewill in us, freedom of choice (as if I decide everything), freedom of perception and actions, to show us a world in which there seems to be complete freedom.

Question: What is the scale of values upon which you define good or bad connections between people?

Answer: This is very difficult to determine because it depends on the person’s intentions. And we do not see one’s intentions; they are concealed from us.

This is why Kabbalah is called the hidden wisdom; it deals with intentions and not forces like physics, not properties like psychology, but intentions that are higher than forces and properties.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 7/30/20

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Question: The Mishnah, which dates back to the 3rd to 5th centuries AD, describes various types of relationships: “mine is mine and yours is yours,” “mine is yours and yours is mine,” etc.

“Mine is yours, yours is yours” is a righteous man and “mine is mine and yours is mine” is a sinner. But the worst is when “mine is mine, and yours is yours.” Why?

Answer: Because it pushes people away from each other and does not connect them together even with negative qualities. And since they have no way to understand the relationship between them, all that is left is to reject them. At the same time, they make the world freeze and do allow it to come to any common state.

Question: It turns out that even the state of “mine is mine and yours is mine” is more advanced?

Answer: As a result, it leads to a rapprochement.

Remark: This is difficult to understand.

My Comment: No, we can see it in families. While the couple are figuring things out and even fighting, there is contact and communication between them. And in families where they decide that’s it, no mutual contacts, nothing can be done. They move away from each other, and therefore a divorce is necessary.

Remark: This means that nature’s trend is that we are developing toward greater rapprochement and connection; therefore any kind of contact is welcome.  Indifference and rejection are naturally against nature.

My Comment: Yes. The main thing is contact and then its correct implementation.
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From KabTV’s “Communication skills” 7/30/20

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A Game as a Model of the Future State

Question: You say that playing helps create a model of a future state. Could you describe what this model is? What forces are we invoking by this?

Answer: If we play correctly and strive to come to the only correct decision, then we bring balance to the forces of nature. It turns out that we are playing out our perfect state.

Question: Let’s say we want to make a decision. To do this, we imagine what the optimal solution should be and try to come to it. We try to present our organization one step higher and play in this state. What happens then?

Answer: You practically pull yourself up to it. You invoke forces that will then develop you to this state.

Question: It turns out that there are some secret forces in nature that are established in it in potential?

Answer: Everything is established in nature, all our future states. Thus, through a game, we call upon them.

Question: How do people know what their future state is? Should they imagine how they would like to perceive it?

Answer: It doesn’t matter how they play; the main thing is to play. As children develop when they play, so do we develop, but we do not realize it. The whole life is a game.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20

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Question: In order to resolve a conflict, it is necessary to carry out the following operational steps: analysis and assessment of the situation, collection of information, selection of a conflict resolution strategy, formation of a plan for an exit from the conflict, and its implementation. Then we give an assessment of to what extent we have reached a common point in resolving the conflict.

Do you agree with these steps?

Answer: In general, yes. But we need to see the goal in advance, the final state we must achieve, the connection above the conflict situation so that it no longer divides but unites us.

Question: Let us say, a group of people who are taking an integral education course is at the initial stage. Will they be able to come to a decision on their own without a moderator?

Answer: Only if they have a clear understanding of how to resolve this issue.

Question: Does it mean that they themselves can come to the resolution of conflicts without the intervention of a third party?

Answer: If they have a correct step-by-step methodology with explanations and clarifications, then they can do without a moderator. In principle, in the future, by applying this technique, people will be able to resolve conflicts in the family, at work, no matter where.

Question: Suppose in our community there is a conflict situation between several people. The whole group is engaged. It splits into two sides that begin to clash. How can this conflict be resolved?

Answer: They must get together and imagine the correct end state of the already resolved conflict. Then from this final state they must look for methods of reaching it.

Remark: This is very interesting because, in principle, two people cannot find a solution until a third party intervenes, which, if there is luck, can resolve the conflict.

My Comment: These are all egoistic, non-integral, completely wrong decisions. After all, they will not be able to rise and grow above conflicts.

Question: Will the precise help of an experienced instructor help?

Answer: Only guiding questions that enable them to be implemented correctly.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/16/20

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Question: What should a manager think about?

Answer: A manager must think about how to properly organize a team to complete a task, to obey him, carry out his assignments. A manager should not suppress others.

If subordinates understand that it is possible to complete a specific task in some other way, let them come to him and advise.

Question: What advice would you give to a manager who is in a bad mood and realizes that he can pass it on to his subordinates?

Answer: He should be more human with them, showing that he is human like them, and changes of mood are not alien to him.

Question: Are there any techniques so that a manager can rise above his feelings and mood?

Answer: It is very difficult. I don’t think this can be applied in all cases. It is necessary to educate the team so that they understand that you are a human.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 6/11/20

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Question: Should everyone consider themselves responsible for a conflict that arises in their community?

Answer: It doesn’t matter who is to blame. We must resolve the conflict in such a way as to formulate the right solution that would absolutely satisfy everyone and would not be based on concessions.

First of all, you need to start the process of connecting between the conflicting parties so that there will be nothing related to me or to you, only “our.” And then proceed to resolve the conflict.

There should be a preliminary stage, do not immediately rush to solve the problem, but first establish relations between people on a different, higher level.

Remark: It is believed that you should never look for conflicts yourself. They will open by themselves with close interaction. You need to be firm in solving the problem and soft toward people. You should put yourself in the place of the opponent, pay attention to their interests, and not to their positions.

Answer: That’s right.

Remark: One of the principles says: offer mutually beneficial options and do not look for a single solution to the problem.

Answer: No, the solution must be one that satisfies both sides.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/16/20

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Question: Can a good feeling after making a decision indicate that the decision was right?

Answer: No. This is not an indicator at all.

Question: Does one’s physical health affect his decision making?

Answer: Yes, it does. A person should be more or less physically, morally, and mentally healthy. Only then can he make the right decisions. So if he is ill, it is better to postpone serious decisions until a later date.

Question: How can one become more decisive and faster in making decisions?

Answer: I think it is impossible. A person who thinks that he can do that is simply stupid. Fast decision making is only possible with the help of the group.

Question: What is the meaning of doubt when making a decision?

Answer: Human ignorance of the clear laws of nature.

Question: You often say that the main thing is a common decision and that it is better to be mistaken together than to be right on your own. Why?

Answer: Because the Creator will do it anyway according to everyone’s needs.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 6/11/20

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Question: Why is it so hard for us to stop ourselves when a conflict is in full swing? How can you set it up in advance so as not to reach such states?

Answer: We do not need to delve into a state of conflict. We just need to understand that there is a higher, more important, necessary state for each of us, and try to rise above the conflict.

Question: What is better to do: take all the accumulated anger out, knowing that a conflict may arise, or endure and keep everything to yourself?

Answer: Neither one nor the other. You just need to calmly clarify all the points and then begin to solve them toward the ascent to the next common level.

It is important to recognize a critical situation before a conflict arises. Thus, it is possible, as it were, to go through this conflict at the level of thoughts and forces, and not when people are already yelling at each other or a fight begins.
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Remark: According to Kabbalah, two forces exist in nature: the force of bestowal and the force of reception. The force of bestowal emanates and develops. The force of reception differentiates, it is responsible for diversity. The collision of these two forces in man is the essence of conflicts.

My Comment: Yes. But without this it is impossible. If there was no egoistic force in each of us, then that single altruistic force that would act on us would be very monotonous. It would not be able to develop us. We develop from opposites.

Therefore, on one hand, the force of breaking is necessary. And on the other hand, the force of unification, integration is necessary.

Question: Does that mean that conflict is a natural state?

Answer: The most important thing is what we want to achieve through conflicts. If these conflicts are proper, if they are organized by us in such a way that we develop correctly and learn from them how by rising above them it is possible to exist in a better way, then we would see the positive force in them, a positive force that breaks us down so that we rise even higher above them.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/16/20

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