Question: Why do you always say that you don’t envy your children or your students?

Answer: I love them and therefore am happy for their advancement. There can be no envy here because I invest in them and, as it were, continue my life in them.

Question: So, if a person loves someone, he can’t be envious of them?

Answer: No, at least not evil envy for sure and not even kind envy. I’m just happy with what he has.

Question: And if our goal is to come to love our neighbor, then it turns out that without envy we will not develop?

Answer: The fact is that love will encourage us to invest even more in each other. When a person who is close to me starts to achieve great things, I will not envy him but will be happy for him. I’ll sort of participate in it.

Question: Is there envy for the Creator, the original source who created us?

Answer: No. Maybe only at the beginning. This is the feeling you get when you think of the Creator as something foreign. When you begin to realize, understand, and feel that this is something above you, embracing everything, and you are in Him, and there is no one else besides Him, then there is no envy.

This is something so voluminous, beyond all possible sensations or possibilities of comprehension, that I can’t envy Him.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 8/7/20

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Question: How can we combine the main goal in life, for example, personal growth, with such desires as family and work?

Answer: These are two degrees: animate and human. At the animate level, a person needs this world: food, family, children, and so on. On the other hand, he also needs the spiritual world. Therefore, he should devote time for both.

Both degrees should mutually complement each other but in different proportions in each person.

Our basic desires do not contradict the spiritual ones. We need to realize them as well, but all of are subjugated to the upper desire—to attain nature.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/2/20

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Question: In the new school year, hundreds of millions of children went to school like in “battle” conditions: they have to sit with masks, separate from each other, not play with each other, and not get close to each other.

It is the same tragedy both for teachers who have to restrain the children and for the parents.

What would you wish for teachers?

Answer: To learn from children how it is incomprehensible to children that they cannot get close to each other, it is so incomprehensible to us how to relate to each other correctly. We do not have these properties, these sensations. How can I feel the other so that I can approach him correctly, so that by my correct approach I destroy this virus?

Question: What else would you wish for teachers?

Answer: To understand the nature of this virus, where it comes from, and accordingly, to educate children to have the right attitude toward each other, and the virus will disappear. Explain to children that we can fight this virus only by our good relations.

We do not lose anything by this! We win for sure! Let us try!

Teachers have always taught children to be good, to be close to each other, to interact with each other correctly. So, explain to them that the virus comes as a result of improper interaction, distancing,  and harming each other.

Let’s try to make the virus go away. Let’s eradicate it.

Question: What would you wish for parents?

Answer: In this case, I would like to wish parents to learn from their children.

Question: That is, children come from school and teach their parents?

Answer: At least they could tell their parents what is going on. First, in their relationship with each other. How the virus trains them to act this way. And then, as a result of this, perhaps we will indeed see good statistics.

Question: What else can you wish for parents?

Answer: To undergo the same education as the children. Everyone needs to be trained. Everybody is the same.

Question: That is, a parent should feel almost equal to the child?

Answer: Of course.

Question: What would you wish for children?

Answer: I do not know what can be asked of children at all. To listen to what their elders tell them, at least in this respect because otherwise, there will be still bigger problems, still bigger restrictions in their playing with each other, in visiting each other, in getting close to each other, and so on.

That is, let’s make it so that we stop thinking about what distance should we keep between each other, stop walking around with muzzles like vicious dogs, shying away from each other.

To do this, we just need to change our attitude toward each other and make it good. Let’s start getting used to it. It’s not that hard. Let’s set an example for each other. And we will see how it goes.

Question: Do you want this message to be heard in the classroom, in the teacher’s room, and at home?

Answer: And in the world.

The message is very simple: Everyone should be friendly to everyone like they are to themselves. After all, it is written: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Take an example from this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/31/20

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New Life 1284 – Family Connection Above Any Disagreement
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

It is impossible to grow unless we embrace conflicts, ascend above our egos, make mutual concessions, and feel love for others. Love has to be more important to me than my own opinion and any competition between us. I concede my truth and do not demand the same from others; I only set a good example. It is impossible to demand love. If we touch delicate issues, it is only an opportunity for me to show the extent to which I am ready to pay for the connection. The outcome is that I feel a warm embrace, a sense of giving and closeness. If we do so, no disease will break out.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1284 – Family Connection Above Any Disagreement,” 10/16/20

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Question: What advice can you give about how to force oneself to listen to someone else? Let us say that as a boss, I understand that I have to listen to my subordinate, but I do not want to. Can I force myself to do this?

Answer: Only if you love him or are afraid of him. You must receive either positive or negative feelings from him, but positive ones are best. In other words, either you are afraid of him and it is more profitable for you to listen to him, or you love him and listen to him because it is agreeable to you.

Question: Psychologists advise managers to listen to their subordinates for a few minutes a day. A worker needs to be listened to; this is even more important to him than the salary. But to listen to someone for a long time is against our nature. What is the solution here?

Answer: We must correct ourselves and then it will work out. “Love your neighbor as yourself” is the general correction of all of mankind and of each of us. If we yearn for this, then we will naturally feel it in all relations between us.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 8/14/20

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Question: It is believed that the inner world of a person includes his thoughts and experiences as well as various feelings and emotions. These make each person an individual and define his character. What does our inner world include from your point of view?

Answer: Everything that originates inside of a person. Once he becomes a part of the world around him or has a connection to a higher source, everything that he absorbs and generalizes within himself is his inner world.

Question: The development of feelings is a conscious process. What should we do with emotions that arise unconsciously as reactions when interacting with other people? Can they be managed?

Answer: I believe that the most important thing is to stick to the right society that studies our inner world and its development, and to advance along with it. Otherwise, a person has no basis for moving forward.

Question: Do you think that there is a technique by which a person can control their own qualities and feelings, and change themselves?

Answer: No. No way! A person cannot develop correctly on his own.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 8/7/20

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Question: There is a law in nature: the general and the particular are equal. It also manifests itself on the corporeal level between people. How can I verify that the advancement of other people depends on my connection to the whole world?

Answer: This is determined by how much you annul yourself before the higher governing power. This awareness is an indicator of progress because by annulling yourself, you come to the fact that you are in control of the world.

Question: Can the feeling of confidence in achieving the goal, which comes from the environment, also be considered an indicator?

Answer: The goal does not come from the environment; it passes to you through the environment. And therefore, if you associate with it, you come closer to the goal.

Question: My ability to check to what extent in each action I can abstract from my personal gain and act for the sake of this mini-society, mini-model of humanity, can this also be an indicator of progress?

Answer: Yes. Exactly to the extent to which you connect yourself not with yourself but with the environment, with humanity, or with higher systems.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 02/07/20

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Question: There is a trend today in the world, whether one is in first grade, completing a doctorate, or taking an advanced training course, you need to constantly study. What happened to our world? Why does a person have to study something all the time until he retires? This was not the case before.

Answer: Technology and electronics are constantly changing in the world, programs are changing, and thinking is changing. We are very closely connected with consumers. If in earlier times, products were developed and manufactured within 10 to 20 years; today it happens very quickly. Modern equipment and technology are based on software management.

Question: What is the essence of this phenomenon? Why do these changes occur?

Answer: Because we have moved from developing products in matter, for example: in casting, smelting, forging, to computer development. And this is very dynamic. Therefore, we all need to know program management, program development, etc.

Question: Is it somehow connected with internal changes in man?

Answer: Of course. As we change, the world around us also changes. We see it differently and adapt it to ourselves.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/24/20

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Question: Baal HaSulam writes in the article “A Speech for the Completion of The Zohar: “The proof is that anyone who is drawn to the secrets of the Torah is also drawn to the land of Israel.” It is interesting that many non-Jews by nationality are drawn here. Where does such a strange desire come from?

Answer: They subconsciously feel that this is a special land, a special place with a special atmosphere. In principle, this has always been the case for years. Religions and all kinds of beliefs are connected to the fact that it is a holy land.

In addition, even complete nonbelievers feel some kind of attraction to this place on the geographical map inside themselves, and they rush here.

I know many people from Russia who instead of going on vacation, say to the Maldives, want to visit Israel, Jerusalem, these ancient places. They feel that there is some kind of mystery here, some source of special energy for all mankind.
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From KabTV’s “Systematic Analysis of the Development of the People of Israel” 11/25/19

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Question: Emotions are a subconscious reaction to a situation such as fear, irritation, anger, or laughter. They appear quickly and can disappear just as quickly.  Feelings can also arise slowly, live for a long time, and give completely different sensations. Feelings can be developed. For example: feelings of love, friendship, gratitude, and loyalty.

It is interesting that a quality such as humor is characteristic only for people; animals do not have it. Where does it come from and how can it be used for advancement and self-identification?

Answer: In each of us there are two completely opposite entities: me and something opposite to me. This makes it possible to feel, understand, and even enjoy things that are in conflict with each other. Thus, a sense of humor appears in a person from his reverse side.

Internal contradiction expands the understanding of the world and that is why it is inherent in developed people.

Question: Do you think that one can develop a sense of humor?

Answer: Maybe it can be developed a little, but people with some mental disorders do not have it.

Question: So humor is given to people as a gift and it is almost impossible to develop it?

Answer: Yes. This is based on the fact that man was created to perceive his own kind in the opposite way and put up with it.
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From KabTv’s” Communication Skills” 8/7/20

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