Question: Some psychologists list basic conditions needed for the happiness and health of a child. The first condition is that the parent should be a source of information for the child, and not a tablet or a laptop.

I cannot imagine how it is possible today for a parent to become a source of information. Do you think this is possible today, in our era?!

Answer: Today I am 75 years old. If I do remember something, it is not from school, but from what I heard from my parents. Some pieces, fragments of words, sentences, some of their comments. For some reason, this pops up in my mind.

Moreover, I already was not a little kid. Starting somewhere from the age of six or seven and up to 16-17 years old.

Question: Do you think that even today, the information that comes from parents is much higher than any computer information?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: The next condition: Teach the child to express emotions. Does he not know how to express emotions? What does it mean to teach him?

My Response: It is necessary to show him how he can unite with other people, connect with them, influence them, and perceive them, and so on.

Question: With other children?

Answer: Yes. But I am not thinking about children, but rather about teenagers.

Comment: Next, Do not buy off the child with new sneakers, tablets, and toys. How should you buy a child?

My Response: By showing him that you are his friend and that you are supposedly on his level. How much you have to remake yourself for this, and to change yourself…

Question: Yes. It is me who has to change. What do you mean by the word “friend”?

Answer: You understand him, you are ready to help him, to approve of him. The main thing is to understand.

Comment: Another is not to overdo with the developmental courses, sections, and groups. Let the child live his childhood organically.

What does it mean to live childhood organically?

My Response: Basically, yes. The child should do what he wants.

Question: To that extent?

Answer: After all, he receives a desire, an opinion from his friends. So, it is not his personal opinion. But we still need to encourage him.

Comment: But you said that you were surrounded by composers, music.

My Response: It did not give me anything special.

Question: It gave you an ear for music. You have a musical ear, of course. So, do you think a child should be given freedom of choice?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Next is to keep your word. Say it the first time, do it the second time. Maybe it is better not to promise anything to the child at all so as not to deceive him?

My Response: No. But if you want to demonstrate education, then you must both promise and fulfill.

Comment: Another principle is to allow the child to make mistakes. Some scientists go as far as to say that a mistake is wonderful. And if a child makes a mistake we can even say to him: “Well done. You made a mistake.” Is it even possible to use such a move?

My Response: Not to say, “Well done,” but, “Find this mistake and correct it. You have a mistake here.” But this is not a claim and not an accusation of him.

Comment: The next condition is to not be afraid to love your child too much.

My Response: There is a problem here. In general, all these questions are very difficult.

Question: What does it mean to love too much?

Answer: Not to show excessive love, especially where it can cause harm.

Question: Can it cause harm?

Answer: Of course, everything should be dosed and in balance.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/9/22

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In the spiritual world, as well as in the material world, there is also a state of “sleep” during which a reboot happens. The lights that existed in the full Partzuf manifest in the most minimal form. And there can be many such states during the day.

After all, the states that you experience during the day can return to you at night in some distorted form. Since they are in separation from reality, they are included in all sorts of fluctuations in our brain activity, and it turns out that we suddenly see such unusual things in a dream that you will not see in everyday life.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 6/28/22

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Our life is twofold; Sleep hath its own world,

A boundary between the things misnamed

Death and existence: Sleep hath its own world,

And a wide realm of wild reality, (Lord Byron, “The Dream”)

Question: People have long been interested in the nature of dreams and dreaming. What is a dream from a spiritual point of view?

Answer: I have been studying Kabbalah for many decades and have not seen anything that coincides with what ordinary people say and think about dreams.

A Kabbalist has spiritual states, which are called VAK—incomplete attainment of the spiritual world. They can be called a dream. But the dream of an ordinary person in our world has nothing to do with this.

Therefore, Kabbalah does not deal with dreams, nor does it interpret dreams. All sorts of things are attributed to it, but in fact, there is nothing of this in Kabbalah.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 6/28/22

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Question: The Creator does not change His attitude toward a person depending on his actions. This is indicated by many sayings from Kabbalistic sources; for example: “I do not change My Name” (“Ani HaVaYaH lo Shiniti”), that is, I do not change the laws of nature.

What does it mean that the Creator is constant and does not change His attitude toward us? How can this be?

Answer: Initially, the Creator is a single property of bestowal and love for all His creations. Therefore, no matter how they change, His attitude toward them remains unchanged.

And although it seems to us that we can change the Creator’s attitude toward us by our actions, this is all only relative to our own actions because the Creator is in absolute goodness with respect to us, and that is all.

Nevertheless, Kabbalistic sources say that the Creator punishes us for some actions. But this is only so that we can improve, straighten up.

Question: It is said that the Creator wants us humans to unite and create a Kli (vessel) in which He can manifest. But if we don’t, doesn’t His attitude toward us change?

Answer: Of course it changes because we do not fulfill the program of creation. In other words, His attitude toward us changes according to our actions because we must constantly improve.

Question: So why is it written that it is permanent?

Answer: But His attitude toward us is absolutely kind and loving, and in this it does not change. That is, actions change, but the attitude remains unchanged.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 6/7/22

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In the News (Financial Times): “‘Japanese start-up wants to cause real-life pain in the metaverse’ 

“H2L’s technology replicates the sensation of touch by using electrical stimulation to manipulate the arm muscles and mimic sensations… 

“’Feeling pain enables us to turn the metaverse world into a real [world], with increased feelings of presence and immersion,’ said Emi Tamaki, chief executive and co-founder of the Tokyo-based company.”  

Question: How do you like this idea?

Answer: In principle, of course, controlling a person with pain is a thing as old as the world.

Question: But to create reality, meta reality, as if taking a person away from this pain into another pain? In pain again?

Answer: Naturally. We can’t do without it. Otherwise, we cannot define ourselves —where we are, who I am, and whether I exist at all. If you remove sensations of pain from a person, everything will disappear.

I’m sitting in an armchair right now. The armchair presses on me, I feel pain, pressure. And the pressure feels good to me. But this is, in principle, a small pain.

And if I pass a certain pain threshold, then I begin to feel that it is unpleasant for me. Then I have to move away from this object, from this source.

And so I am controlled everywhere and in everything: from cold and hunger, heat, pressure, everything! That’s how I’ve been led primitively from pain to non-pain in every dimension, in every relationship.

Question: So you think what they are doing is right? Is it necessary to introduce pain even into virtual reality?

Answer: Otherwise it will not be a reality, even virtual.

Question: You are always talking about the passage of a person into the spiritual spheres, into the spiritual world. Is there pain there?

Answer: Yes, of course. If there is a feeling of “plus and minus,” then there is pain and pleasure. The pain of being far from the Creator and the pleasure of being closer to Him. It’s very simple. But, in principle, the parameters are the same.

Question: Can we say that this is the root of all the pains in our world: my remoteness from the Creator or my closeness?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Question: And what we are going through here in this world is our withdrawal from the Creator?

Answer: Yes, it teaches us how we can approach Him.

Question: And all these crazy wars, are they all from the same sphere?

Answer: Yes, of course. Inevitably. This is the only way to teach a person.

Question: How can we make all this turn into different pain in our world?

Answer: In our world, we can do it very simply. Each of us has to put ourselves in a very clear direction. If I get closer to others, and through them to the Creator, then I have to imagine it as pleasure. If I move away from the connection with others and thus from the Creator, I feel pain. That’s the state I need to come to. This will be called the revelation of the spiritual relationship.

Question: In principle, is this a way of revealing the Creator, which means the gradual disappearance of wars, suffering, tragedies, so to say, from me, from this world?

Answer: I don’t even think about it. I think about how I can get closer to others and through them to the Creator, so that it will be my pleasure.

Question: Then reveal the secret, please, how to get pleasure from connection with others?

Answer: Ask the Creator, there is nothing else. There is no other action that will help you.

Question: There is only prayer in this world so that I can get closer to others and so get closer to the Creator. Maybe there is another way?

Answer: No, you can’t. It won’t do much here. You’ll be turning as if you’re in a frying pan but not going anywhere.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/7/22

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Comment: Supervised drug injection sites have opened in New York City. Here drug addicts can legally inject drugs and seek help from a doctor.

Basically, their model is that if you are still going to use drugs, let us teach you how to do it safely. This is what the organizers say.

We are talking about intravenous administration of serious drugs. People do not have to hide, they will not be arrested. You can take a shower, wash your clothes. And everything is free. How do you like this solution of not banning, not putting in jail, and not catching them?

My Response: Prohibitions have no effect. All sorts of punishments have no effect. Only love.

Question: Does it mean that by allowing them to do all this, we can slowly explain something to them, talk about something?

Answer: They will even quit these drugs for you, from the fact that you provide them with these conditions. They will feel your attitude toward them. This removes half, even more, of the reasons to have an injection.

Question: Can it be that this is how we can solve the world drug problem?

Answer: No, you cannot solve it that easily. For this we need to rebuild society. But as society becomes more and more gentle, understanding, and accepting all people correctly, all negative problems will be disappearing.

Love is a powerful thing, you just need to awaken it correctly. And the body will give us a reaction. Not immediately, but if there are large groups of people with this common approach, then you will see what happens. People will fight with their hands and teeth for such a government that treats them in this way—with love.

Question: How can we grow such a government that will treat people with love?

Answer: This is only through Kabbalah. So that a person will understand nature, study it on himself, how impossible and difficult this is, how much he can influence himself through others. This is a process.

Question: Do you think that the path to the love that you radiate for the other is only through the wisdom of Kabbalah? Why is Kabbalah engaged in radiating love?

Answer: Because Kabbalah itself is the science of love, the science of the Creator, of His influence, attitude to creation, to a person. So far it is being studied by small groups here and there, the masses still do not understand anything. But when this enters into the mass, into the stream, it will blast everything with love! The way a mudslide descends from the mountains.

It will be an enormous force. There is nothing higher, bigger, or stronger than such love.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/9/22

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Kabbalah is the wisdom of connection of all people into one single image called “Adam.”

Comment: You are aiming to spread this wisdom as widely as possible. But there are 1% of people who are predisposed to it and 99% who are not predisposed but kind of sympathize with it.

My Response: They sympathize involuntarily because otherwise they feel bad.

There are people who feel bad outside of the image of Adam. There is a so-called “point in the heart” in them, the yearning for this image, for this connection. It can be very distant, unconscious, and in a completely wrong direction.

Personally, it was not this at all that compelled me at the time, but knowledge and desire to possess the upper instrument. And in the end, I came to the conclusion that it is necessary to connect to “love one’s neighbor.” This is so contrary to my nature.

I heard about it, but I perceived it as supplementary to something. They say something beautiful; okay, everyone says it! We grew up in a society where we said a lot of beautiful things, but did everything the other way around.

But in the end, when we reveal this system, we discover the need to connect with others, merge with them, completely annul ourselves, and join together into one single whole. Mutual inclusion should be of everyone into everyone to the state of the world of infinity.

Infinite, unlimited inclusion into each other; this is what the world of infinity means. Then we feel a special force of unity in it, which is called the upper light or the Creator.

For me, on the one hand it was something unpleasant, it repelled me, and it was not sitting right with me for a long time. But then I accepted it! How can you get away from this if this is nature?! This is how it is arranged!

Eventually, life forced me, as they say. I was very much the opposite of that. By nature, I am a “lone wolf,” I can stay in my room all my life. Voluntarily! I can see not a single person all my life, books and a computer are enough.

And suddenly I need communication, I need to exit somewhere?! For me, every exit…I do it involuntarily, out of necessity. Nature remains nature. I do not want fame or power. I do not need any of this! Not because I am such a big person, but because this is how I was created.

Suddenly, when I discovered that everything, apparently, is realized in connection with others, it was just an incredible turning point! I had to break myself. Slowly. It all happened somehow, with pain.

I am sure that it will come and pass over everyone.

If you see that this is the truth, this is nature, you begin to understand that you are against it, you are really an egoist, and your egoism, which does not want this, is the help against you. Then everything falls into place.

Question: Are you talking about those people who are predisposed to spirituality or about every person in the world?

Answer: I think that this exists in any person to a greater or lesser extent. No one wants to unite, embrace, annul themselves, or suppress their egoism.

But eventually, people will do it. Some will come to this consciously, like me, through reading, seeing, feeling, insight, and then just revelation. And the rest of the people will be forced by vital necessity, the desire for a better life. We need to live somehow. Involuntarily, you will unite driven by a stick to happiness.

And here by studying and yearning for understanding, for the truth. If you see that it is like this, it begins to change you, and you move not with a “stick from behind,” but with a yearning forward.

These are two groups of people who, one way or another, will come to the goal. The entirety of humanity is divided into those who rush forward, of whom there are few, only thousands in the world, and all the rest who are driven from behind.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Get Hooked on a Spiritual Needle” 11/3/09

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The altruistic-egoistic system of our world is built in a very interesting way: altruism within egoism. The ego dominates everything, but there is a small altruistic system inside it; thanks to which, egoism is constantly developing. Otherwise, it would remain at the same level.

Were it not for the quality of bestowal within egoism, we would be the tiniest primitive particles of inanimate matter. Actually, egoism would not have existed either. That is, the force of giving must exist side by side with the force of receiving.

The force of bestowal develops nature from inanimate to vegetative, to animate, and to human. It contributes to growing and developing systems built on mutual inclusion, contribution, and sharing of information. Were it not for the quantum of light that fell into matter, into desire, then matter, being inanimate, would not have developed by itself.

And if we take this quantum of light, akin to a spark that exists in us, and attract the surrounding light by properly studying and interacting together with the help of the science of Kabbalah, then this would stimulate and develop our system.

The outer light descends on our system, giving it a sense of itself and shaping it in its likeness. As we are working together to unite, the light literally sculpts it before our eyes. If we strive for similitude with the light, even while we realize that we don’t know how to succeed in this through our aspiration, the light then brings its form into the system.

Through our efforts, by trying to do something like children, we evoke the corresponding influence of the upper world. This is how it works.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What does the Creator wants” 11/3/09

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Question: How often do you yourself have to act as if you have the importance of the goal when you do not feel it, meaning you are in a certain state?

Answer: It sometimes happens to me that I am in complete disgust from everything, I am ready to give it all up, and then I come back to this again.

Question: But how do you implement it?

Answer: I am watching from the sidelines. I have my own system when I am outside of egoism and outside of altruism, and use myself as an instrument. By being exactly in the middle of these scales, egoistic and altruistic forces, I make out of myself a middle force.

Therefore, when I feel hatred, love, rejection, attraction, the need for connection, the need for separation, I feel it all in a desire with which I do not identify myself.

I position myself with a thought that is above that. This is called “faith above reason.” From there, I see myself as a patient, as if I were lying on the operating table.

Question: How do you achieve this?

Answer: It comes with time because you cannot do anything by yourself and now. This has been carried out for many years under the influence of the upper light.

Therefore, it is a pity that some people are engaged in some of their methods or leave us for something else. I pity their efforts. After many years you meet this person and, not wanting to stir him up, you ask:

– “Well, what’s up?”

– “You see, I am working now, I am busy now …”

– “Well done, good. Good luck! Be well!”

This is how thousands of people slide by. But let’s hope it becomes less and less common.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How to Play the Importance of the Spirituality?” 11/3/09

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