Question: For spirituality, the men are responsible for connection and I can simply work with dissemination without wasting time on corresponding with the groups of ten. I have not succeeded in finding a reason why women need to be connected between them apart from the men. And in addition to that, it’s very difficult to find the time for it.

Answer: This is right, but from where will a woman find words and power to convince others if she doesn’t participate in connection? The vast majority of women listen to all our classes, the program “A New Life,” participate in workshops, and read the blog regularly. I cannot imagine what would happen if a woman didn’t participate in all of these things.

If there wouldn’t be all of this, how would she go out to the public, how would she tell people what to do, and with what would she go out to them? All this needs to live in her and she needs to enter into all of it. After all, when women act, they truly do it from the heart.

Besides this, they have greater ability to convince others than men do. If the woman goes out to disseminate together with a man, then she does the main part of the work of disclosing and the explaining to the masses. Before women all the doors are opened, they are accepted better because they are softer. All this must be taken into account. After all, this is based on the works of nature.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: I am responsible for a “special unit” for dissemination in Russian. From the start, we chose a number of people for this with the ability to express themselves nicely and with characteristics required for dissemination.

Ultimately the unit reorganized. It turned out that the greatest success rates were by people who never opened their mouths. Some kind of miracle happened.

Answer: Quite right. The ability to express the material nicely doesn’t indicate anything. Sometimes it happens that quiet and humble people, who don’t even know how to enter into connection with others, go out to disseminate and are very successful. It’s really amazing that it’s specifically through them that the Upper Light passes and not through someone who knows how to speak well.

Therefore, all members of the group need to engage in dissemination, otherwise this will not be a group, because only through dissemination is it possible to reach connection between us. This is a completely new method of connection that appears as a result of the need for connection so we will have the power to persuade and correct the external world. The group is called only when an external danger forces everyone to mobilize in order to convince the public.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: After growing up, a son can understand why his father was strict with him. However, how can we understand the Creator at the moment when He sends us suffering and not wait for some time to pass?

Answer: I, myself, am not able to justify my father being strict with me. Initially, I am immersed in my “animal” life and if I feel bad, the source of this evil is automatically bad in my eyes. I don’t like it to the point of hatred.

Hence, the question is, how can I evaluate it differently? In principle, it is impossible. I am created this way. The egoistic desire forces me to run from suffering and seek pleasure. So, what do they want from me? How can I show a goal-oriented attitude toward troubles and, in essence, objectively assess the one who sends them? How can I realize that He works on my nature, desiring to grow something greater within me so that instead of an “animal,” a human being would come out of me?

To do this, I need a new mind and a new sense in addition to the old ones that measure only pleasure and suffering. Up to now, like all the egoists of this world, I have been learning only how to achieve pleasure and extract profit from it, and conversely, to run away from suffering as far as possible and to protect myself maximally. These are the egoistic norms of our world. Here, success is achieved by those who are stronger, richer, and more cunning, and those people are proud that they have succeeded in life just because they know how to avoid the bad and reach the good.

So, I have no strength to grow something greater within myself. For this, I need a spark from the degree that is called the man (Adam) so that I can develop toward a new level in the relationship with the Father. He sends me troubles and I must be aware of their focus.

In our world, my father is strict in relation to me so that on the material level I learn to get pleasure and avoid suffering. This is nothing more than “animal” coaching.

On the other hand, for spiritual progress, I need a spark from the next higher degree. This spark is called the “point in the heart.”

In addition, I need people who will convey this message to me: The environment that will help me on the path, support, and reinforce my understanding that my troubles are goal-oriented. Then, I will not fall into blind rebellion under the burden of suffering, I will not blame the Father Who sends them, and at every step, will interpret our relationship correctly. I will understand that He does this to constantly direct me at the goal and it does not matter what He sends, troubles or pleasure.

Thus, the relationship between the Creator and the created being is built at the level of the still, vegetative, and animate nature, and then, higher on the human level. For this crucial stage of development, we need:

• The initial spark – the point in the heart.
• A teacher who can explain why the Creator treats me so badly on the material level and toward what goal He directs me, like a father who takes stringent measures to prepare his son for the university.
• The environment that will constantly raise the goal in my eyes telling me how important it is to enter this university and how much my father loves me, sending troubles out of his love. In this environment, I see examples of my friends and can follow the path together with them. We are moving forward, making up a group of students of the same Father and the same teacher, one for all of us.

If all these conditions are met, a person really can understand what is happening. With the help of the group, he tries to relate correctly to everything that he gets in life, and he sees that everything is for his good. Although, with the advent of troubles, he feels disagreement at the animal level but, if he immediately rises to the level of human being (Adam) within himself, he feels gratitude, and so continues on his way.
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From a Talk on the Importance of the Gathering 5/10/13

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We advance only because of falls, crashes, disappointments, and the revelation of unpleasant states that are experienced in our desire to enjoy. First, we believe that all these troubles give us various strengths in this world, then we attribute them to the Creator.

It all depends at what degree a person is, in what disclosure. Perhaps, he has found himself in such concealment that he has completely lost sensation of the Creator and blames the world thinking that it is people who have caused him different problems, both internal and external. All problems are shown on the background of the material world, that is, affecting his needs for food, sex, family, money, power, and knowledge.

A person rises after that. If he is connected with a group, then he can rise by the path of Light, and if he is not able to become included into it, then at least he does so through mechanical participation in the studies, in all sorts of actions. He gets new blows to his ambition and starts to link them with his attitude, to blame himself. First, he accused only others and saw them as the cause of his state. But if he advances, he also begins to blame himself, attributing to himself what has happened.

He beats himself up, experiencing a lot of stress, and this state may take a very long time. Everything depends on a person’s inclusion in the environment. If he is not included in the group enough, then he can experience different conflicts in it and not learn from them. If he manages to achieve a strong connection with the group, he gets the Light that Reforms through it and begins to attribute all the actions to the Creator. The approaching Light gives him this feeling.

Then he sees that all of these misunderstandings, problems, and obstacles have been the revelation of his internal properties. The culprit was not the cruel world and not even his bad nature but just desires that need to be corrected. There is no need to apply them to oneself. They really belong to him, but they are given to him to work on them.

It is desirable to realize that the evil that is revealed to us does not apply to our personal account but is given to us just for correction, as working material. And if we do not want to accept this evil and breaking and strive to unite with Israel and the Creator that are one, then we begin to demand and ask for help to rise out of these states. So we raise all our shortcomings upwards  with the help of the screen and the Reflected Light, which can be clothed in the Direct Light.

All the way from this world to the world of infinity, we will constantly disclose the breaking and the evil. Our goal is to turn this evil into the tools for the revelation of the Light through our work. We have to add our correct attitude, our efforts, to these shortcomings, which are exposed by the Light, and then we will reveal goodness inside them.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/13/13, Shamati #33 “The Lots on Yom Kippurim and Haman”

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On the still, vegetative, and animate levels, the desire to enjoy acts instinctively by virtue of its nature. But the human being can act in the opposite way unnaturally because he is guided by his attitude to the host, by the feeling of his oppositeness. And thus it produces a contraction in his desire to enjoy as a guest, shrinking in shame at the sight of the loving and generous host.

Shame does not awaken in response to gifts on the still, vegetative, and animate levels, but if the human degree has started to develop in a person, he feels that shame, uncomfortableness, the duty to respond to the host’s love—to respond not to the feast but to the one who gives it! And this makes him contract.

You have to withstand the fulfillment you received and fill yourself with the feeling of the Giver, that is, the quality of bestowal and love from your side, or at least to wish it to such an extent that you would lose all taste for receiving the pleasure itself.

Pleasure remains in you, but you suddenly lose its feeling. It’s as if being in a strange place, you went into an empty room and saw a piece of delicious cake and thinking that nobody could see you, you picked it up and took a bite. And at the moment you’re enjoying its amazing taste, suddenly the host enters.

You are going through a variety of feelings … First, you are overcome with shame from what you took and you freeze with a piece in the mouth. But the owner suddenly says, “No, no, help yourself; I left it especially for you, knowing that you would come! Everyone wanted to take this most delicious piece with a buttercream rose and cherry, but I saved it for you.”

Now, instead of shame that you stole, took what did not belong to you, you are ashamed because you know how the host was thinking about you and deliberately saved the treat for you. He took care of you as the dearest person, letting everyone know. You feel his generosity and love and a different shame awakens in you, not that you stole, but for your oppositeness to the host who loves you.

The first shame was caused by your feeling yourself as the receiver relative to the host, and the second shame, by the feeling of the host as giving, loving, and this produces many new feelings in you and makes you contract and expand, that is, gives you the breath of life.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/11/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam

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Question: When the dissemination phase passes, will you once again start to talk about unity?

Answer: The dissemination phase cannot end. Baal HaSulam writes: “I am glad that I have been born in such a generation when it is permitted to disclose the wisdom of truth.”

The wisdom of Kabbalah is the revelation of the Creator to the created beings in our world and not revelation only to those who are now sitting in front of me. Revelation to us is the realization of the Creator’s plan in our world because we are just His guides, mediators, an artificial element. Therefore, the revelation by us is not Kabbalah, but only a prerequisite.

When we are talking about the revelation of the Creator in our world, it means His explicit revelation to the 99% of humanity. This is called Kabbalah! The desires of the entire 99 % are your soul, your Kli, your vessel. Thus, you begin to attain the Creator!

But today, when you are doing it within yourself, sitting in a closed room, you just prepare yourself for realization, but you won’t reveal the Creator this way. Our task is to take the desire of the masses, raise them to the Creator, and ask them to be fulfilled. Then the Upper Light will not pass you by, but will pass through you to the masses in order to reveal itself in the form in which they wish to do so. And then you begin to reveal the Creator.

But the Creator will not be revealed to the masses, they will just feel that they feel well due to unity and will advance further and further. Gradually, within the feeling of the usefulness of unity, they will start changing their attitude toward it: “Unity breathes life into us, helps us, and gives the opportunity to better organize ourselves and our families. Unity is great.”

They will begin to admire unity itself, to respect it and the force that is manifested in it, not the result, that is, not the fact that I have recovered but the means by which I have recovered, through unity and with the use of this force that is revealed in it. I now respect this force, I love it, I seek it.

Thus, longing for the force of unity emerges, that is, the point in the heart! After all, I felt good with it. And now I want to identify with it because it brings me good. Let it be egoistical (and in us, in the beginning it happens the same way), but I am already connected with this force and seek it further. And it’s already starting to affect me differently and transform me into an altruist. This is how it works.

But the masses are one degree below ours, so they start with a simple selfish Kli, vessel, in which later the point in the heart appears. And we start with the point in the heart and a simple egoistic Kli, vessel. The lower level, the people who are below us, are as such so that we have to process it through ourselves, and only then we will rise. This special condition is given to us!
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: You keep speaking about the importance of dissemination. What can we do if we are not certain that our method is right and that it’s good for people? For example I don’t want people to go through everything I have been through along the spiritual path. How can I disseminate whole-heartedly?

Answer: The people we disseminate to will not go through the same path since they don’t have a double nature: the coexistence of the spiritual embryo, the point in the heart, and the ego. They will not go through all the twists and turns, the problems and the searching, that we have been through. They have a simple unfulfilled ego and we have to explain to them how they can satisfy it. That’s all. We simply bring them a remedy and they only have to take it. The remedy is called unity. So let’s unite and solve our common problems and then everything will be good and simple.

“How can it be good and simple? We know what it was like living in the communist Soviet Union.” Here you explain to them that it’s a different kind of unity, of their own free will, when by uniting according to a special method, we begin to feel the force of unity that is above us, since this kind of unity is the next phase, our next level, when we become one unique whole that resembles nature.

We begin to feel nature to the extent that we resemble it and this force will help us solve all our problems, let’s try. After half an hour you will feel elated and impressed and will also feel the reviving force in the proper connection between us. Thus, they don’t feel demoralized and they don’t go through the same painful phases that you go through. You could also go through them differently if you fulfilled the options that you have.

You are not certain and not confident that our path is the right path since you don’t know it. I want you to know this as clearly as possible. You have to clarify it thoroughly and then decide if you are certain and confident or not. Now you should feel uncertain about what you know and not uncertain about the actual path. This is why you should study.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: Must we look at the feedback of people, for instance when disseminating on the Internet; or is it enough simply to prepare the material?

Answer: It’s necessary to look not only at the feedback of people on the Internet, but also these people in front of you, physically, and their serious reaction to your message. Only then do you begin to be integrated in their desires.

You subconsciously flee from being integrated with the rest of the world all the time, you weaken yourselves. Ultimately it follows that you will not absorb anything from the general desire, from the fear, from the desires of people; you don’t experience feedback from them. In fact, it won’t matter to you what hurts them. So nothing will happen.

In which desires do you think you will discover the Creator? It’s said, “I dwell within My people.” Where are the people? In you? In general you are detached from people. You don’t belong to this world. Those people who have an inclination and yearning for the Creator don’t belong to this world. They are physically found in our world in order to come in contact with the others. But according to their inner structure they belong to the spiritual world.

Therefore you need to go out to the people, mix with them, and feel their desires. And you raise these desires up to the Creator. These are called MAN. MAN is the elevation of the desires of the people through you to the Creator.

And so you will transfer fulfillment from the Creator to others through you, and the people will receive what they want: health, success, and all that they require. And together with this, you will get spiritual Light. For by passing through you, the Light will be realized both in your desires and in the desires of the people.

But if you don’t accept the most primitive and egoistic yearnings from the people, you won’t have anything to elevate. If you want to elevate something from yourselves, then you are still big egoists even more than the people. You won’t get anything!

Question: What is the difference between MAN for the friends and MAN for the nations of the world?

Answer: The difference is very great. MAN for the friends is the creation of the Kli, vessel, and MAN for the nations of the world is its realization, the action.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: It has become clear that dissemination is an irreplaceable element of our spiritual advancement. How can we strengthen ourselves in it?

Answer: Dissemination is not simply an element but the foundation of our spiritual advancement.

In order to strengthen ourselves in it everything should be directed toward it. It is necessary to talk, discuss, take our example, and come to conventions. In general, we have to do everything possible. Otherwise there will be no advancement.

This is the way your egoism works on you. It wishes to mislead you: “There is nothing bad, sit in your office in front of the computer, study by yourself or with your friends. Everything is nice, that’s the way it should be.” This is completely wrong! Nothing will happen. This is the way you are thrown back.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: What is the thing that the Klipa (shell) wants most?

Answer: The Klipa wants most to confuse us so that within this confusion we will want to turn to the Creator, to make us feel that we need faith, devotion. The Klipa brings us to these states, to such confusion, that it’s impossible to bear. And in the end, you agree to give up on everything. You are confused to such an extent that then you will understand that it’s worthwhile to be completely annulled in order to just cling to the Creator and not in order for the confusion to end, but because the Creator is the higher one, the source of everything.

The system of the Klipot is very sophisticated. It needs to be the exact copy of divinity and is actually composed of a mixture of holy forces and forces of the shell. This is so since it cannot confuse us if it’s only bad and shallow. Thus, it must be very sophisticated and diverse so as to teach us also what is correct and what is not correct according to the sensation and the intention.

In holiness, there are no forces of the shell that are revealed. They are already there in the inverted form through our preparation, which enables us not to ever be wrong. And then we are allowed to work with the Light. But all of this is on the condition that we have already included within us all of the impressions of the darkness and the Light, as it is written in The Book of the Zohar: “Whoever inverts darkness into light, the bitter to sweet, then enters the Palace of the King.”

This means, from the beginning we must equip ourselves with the whole system of the Klipot as a result of the inclusion of the opposing situations, a Kli (vessel, desire) emerges which is ready to be divine. The work of divinity is very simple in comparison to the study of the Klipa. Thus, the time of preparation takes a very long time.
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From the 2^nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/13/13, The Zohar

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