Comment: When you write, you are silent.

My Response: You speak, there is an inner conversation going on within you.

Question: Is there power in silence and writing?

Answer: Yes. Writing is a very effective tool. I would say it is necessary to use it too, perhaps less often. Look how much is written! Everyone is scribbling.

Comment: Splashing out their ego.

My Response: Yes, but in reality, of course, it is necessary to restrain ourselves.

Comment: You once said that all sorts of romance novels and so on, were written only 300 to 400 years ago. Before that, there was a constant search for the Creator and only that was written about.

My Response: Yes, they wrote only about connection with the Creator. People were searching for a way to get connected with the Creator. Then all kinds of technology came along, and people started to travel more, to communicate more, and to lose their inner voice.

They began to pay attention to the connections between people, especially connection between men and women. Throughout the history of mankind there were no novels, novellas, or such genres when it would be possible to talk about or write about it. It all started somewhere with Shakespeare and beyond.

In Judaism, there was none of this at all. And there were no songs about love. Who there even thought of singing about love?

Question: What is “Song of Songs” then, which speaks exclusively about love?

Answer: But it is directed only toward the Creator! That has nothing to do with the retelling of some gender-related feelings.

Question: Was the “Song of Songs,” which was written by King Solomon, his declaration of love to the Creator?

Answer: Certainly, there is genuine love from the soul to the source of the soul, the Creator.
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Question: Communication should be through feelings, internally, through silence. Why talk? What are words for?

Answer: Words are in order to get in touch in conversation, in order to tune in to each other. Musical instruments also are tuned before they are played together. It is the same here. But in principle, if you know a person, then you can come to him, sit down next to him, and be silent.

Question: In general, can we say that a few words can be spoken in order to be silent?

Answer: Yes. If people know each other, even married couples, they are silent. A woman, however, needs to speak, express, and listen a little more. This is how they are built because they are adapted to looking after small children and so on. But men do not. It is good for men to keep quiet.

Question: So do you see that in the future, maybe the distant future, that the transmission of information will be through silence?

Answer: Sure. This will not be like our TV nowadays.

Question: Will it fall silent as a result?

Answer: I think so.

Question: And what do you say about hermits who move away to be silent?

Answer: There are good periods in a person when he does not want to communicate with anyone except with himself and with the Creator. And he has this communication going on.

These are good states, and they are very strong. They are very thoughtful and generate a lot in a person.
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Igor writes:

Dear Michael Laitman,

I never thought that this would happen to me! I had a misfortune. My closest friend lured my wife away from me! It is a primitive triangle, but I can no longer breathe and live!

You say: “We must accept the situation.” But how? I now understand what hatred is and what despair is when one gives up and tears flow uncontrollably. I am crying for the second time in my life: the first was at my mother’s grave and the second is now. How can I survive this?

Answer: I do not know what to advise a person in this case. I think that you need to think about others and not about yourself. Was she happy with you? Apparently not so much, and that is why she left.

What could happen now? Suppose you force her back or in some fantasy you make her feel bad so that she comes back to you, throws herself at your feet, cries, and all that. I do not think that would reassure you because the very action when she left for someone else is already irreparable.

The best thing, of course, is to change the environment, get married, and start a new family.

Question: That is, let it go? She was a part of me, my “I,” that is why Igor is suffering, and you say: “Let it go”?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: A part of his “I” was cut off and you say…

My Response: This is generally a huge loss and a very strong defeat, of course. Let her go!

Question: Let her go? Do you even say: “Let her be happy there”? And do you think that at that moment he will begin to feel a relief if he comes to this thought?

Answer: I think so. It is very difficult to change your hatred to some kind of love, that you love the person with whom you were maybe even happy, and everything was good. But she did not feel good, and she exchanged you for someone else.

And you make it so that despite the fact that you were happy with her, you raise yourself here and think: “But if she really did not feel good, and now she feels good, can I be happy because she is happy?” Here you have to answer this for yourself.

That is, you must rise above your egoism, above your jealousy, ambition, above all this, and say: “If she is happy, then I am happy.” Otherwise you will not fix it.

Question: You will eat yourself up as a result. Will you feel much worse?

Answer: Yes. And if you find out that she is happy, and you will feel happy because of this, then you resolved this problem.

Comment: This is beautiful! But how hard this is! How difficult!

My Response: It is very hard in feelings.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/16/23

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Question: What does the eruption of all our verbal information mean for the world?

Answer: We pollute the entire world.

Question: Why did the upper one need us to talk all the time so that we have TV and everything would be talking all the time? What is it for?

Answer: Have you heard kids screaming and running around at a playground? That is the same kind.

Question: But we use words differently, we humiliate, lower. If we are talking about TV, this is our way. We give such power to speech. What does it produce in the world?

Answer: It produces new corruptions over and over in the world. We cannot escape it unless, we begin to transform ourselves.

Comment: It happens that one can kill with a word, but it is unlikely with silence.

My Response: You can never make it worse with silence. It is better be silent.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/21/23

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Comment: Antoine de Saint-Exupery, author of The Little Prince, wrote a prayer that begins

Lord, I’m not asking for miracles and visions, I’m only asking for strength to get through the day. Teach me the art of small steps.

Please share your comments about it.

My Response: It is very good. That is, do not make for yourself any grandiose plans or any big upheavals in life. There is no need! On the contrary, do precisely small steps, but so that you know exactly what they are, and that this is your real skill.

Question: Practically, does a person take a step and then need to check whether this step is the one he was thinking about, and how to finish it?

Answer: Yes, absolutely.

Question: What is next? How does the thought about the next step come?

Answer: According to what he has done, he can already continue to work.

Present me with the sense to be able to judge whether something is important or not.

My Response: This is very important when it seems to a person that there are many kinds of tasks, problems, solutions, and so on, and he makes a certain order in them.

Question: How do I understand whether something is important or not?

Answer: Because it includes everything else, and nothing else can be solved without my solving it first. That is, this is the key to solving everything else.

Question: What is important for a person?

Answer: To understand what he wants from life in general. We can say in another way, to understand what the Creator wants from him.

Save me from the naive belief that everything in life has to go smoothly.

My Response: In fact we cannot plan steep, difficult turns; we still want it all to be smooth.

Question: But he writes, Save me from the naive belief. Why should I be saved from it?

Answer: This will stop a person if he imagines such obstacles on the way.

Question: Are you saying that a person should think that it would be better if everything were smooth?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What if steep turns start?

Answer: If they start, I want to run away.

Question: What should I do if all these ups and downs start?

Answer: We need to increase the importance of these steep turns within ourselves. Then it will be possible to overcome them with pleasure. The steeper the turn, the more significant it is.

Question: Is there a law “the steeper the turn, the steeper the ascent”?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Send me the right person at the right moment, who will have enough courage and love to utter the truth!

My Response: Of course, everyone would like to have such a person. Some do succeed.

Question: So is this combination—enough love to utter the truth—the right combination?

Answer: It helps a lot.

Comment: Usually, during our conversations, you have said: “Why are you spilling your truth on a person? It is your truth. It is like you are spilling your ego out on him. Here, however, you say that this combination, when you say it with love, is a different deal.

My Response: This is a great help!

I know that many problems solve themselves, so please teach me patience.

Comment: This moment is always very difficult for me to understand.

My Response: Although it does not look heroic or correct, the wisest thing, in fact, is to go with the flow.

Question: That is, not to take fortresses by storm, but to go with the flow?

Answer: Yes. It will come to you anyway. Everything is in the hands of the upper, and we need to agree with this.

Question: Is this the most difficult moment, this agreement?

Answer: Yes.

You know how much we need friendship. Make me worthy of this nicest, hardest, riskiest, and most fragile gift of life.

My Response: It is really very difficult. The fact is that being worthy of friendship means giving everyone around such a state.

Comment: In my opinion, this is impossible.

My Response: This is practically impossible and can be interpreted as your weakness. But this is the real strength.

Spare me the fear of missing out on life.

My Response: Yes, a person is afraid of missing out.

Question: How can one not be afraid?

Answer: It can be either absolute relaxation, it is what it is—or it is a pursuit of what should be, but it still will not be.

Question: How can one get rid of this regret that I missed something?

Answer: I think that this passes too. If I missed something, so be it.

Comment: This is what you say, but a person beats himself up all the time, thinking: “I missed out.”

My Response: Well, how long can he do it?

Comment: “I had to do it.” How does he know? Thoughts come, and one cannot escape from them. “This is what I had to do and I did not do it. Why did I not do it?! It was so easy; I could have done it all easily.” And so on. All these thoughts bother a person so much! I know it for myself.

My Response: Dreary.

Question: Dreary, yes. And a person thinks: “Why am I sitting on this thought?!” Can you advise how to cut it off?

Answer: My advice is to relax. Because you do not really determine anything.

Do not give me the things I desire, but the things I need.

My Response: This is right and good. But these are such requests… You will be given what you really need.

Question: Do you proceed from this line?

Answer: I proceed from the direct line of a person’s coexistence with the Creator.

If a person wants to somehow awaken this coexistence between himself and the Creator, to somehow change it for himself and his philosophy—I believe that this is not necessary. By this you tell the Creator that you are not worthy to take from Him what He gives, and nothing else.

Question: Do you mean that our brain and our thinking stand between us and the Creator? If we cut off this part, would we cancel the brains?

Answer: Then we would become animals. This is what makes us humans, but such humans who are always looking for ways out.

Question: What is your advice after all these prayers?

Answer: My advice is to continue searching, rushing, screaming, asking, and advising the Creator on what to do.

Admit to Him that I do not like His governance, then eventually, try to reach a state where I agree with His governance and do not try to do anything, not because my strength has run out, but just because I understand that I cannot think of anything new, and everything that I have experienced and felt was all given to me by the Creator in order to help me completely relax and leave my control of the world. And that’s the end of it.

Comment: I expected you to say, “To agree with the Creator.” But you said: “Go through all the disagreements, go through all your jumps and hops, and come to an agreement.”

Answer: Yes, our entire life is in this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/3/23

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Question: Benjamin writes:

As long as I can remember I have been in pain! Pain when I was beaten in the courtyard. Pain for the dog that was poisoned by neighbors. Pain that I cannot take revenge. Pain from divorce. Pain, pain… All of life is pain! Is it really impossible to live without pain? Is it possible not to feel pain?

Answer: No, it is not possible to be without it. Each of us feels pain, and everyone has their own reasons for it and their own memories. We cannot do anything about it until the full correction of the world.

Question: And why is such pain given to a person—until he screams?

Answer: It is so that a person realizes that he must break away from it. Pain helps us. Just like pain during illness. It indicates that something is wrong with you, and that is why you rush to the healers. Otherwise, you would put your hand in the fire and sit calmly while it burns.

Question: In other words, our destiny is to be in pain?

Answer: Yes. Pain is a very good quality, a sense of malfunction in a person.

Question: Are you even suggesting now that it is possible to try to love pain?

Answer: To love, I do not know to what extent to love, but to love the manifestation of pain that pushes you toward healing.

Question: And how can I come to conclusion during the pain that it is a correction, that it is pushing me? Here he talks about inner pain, and about soul pain, and about such pain… He combined everything.

Answer: Any kind of pain.

Question: Are you also combining everything into one pain?

Answer: Absolutely, it does not matter whatsoever. And then you start to feel that this pain is for your own sake.

Question: How can you draw the right conclusions during pain? When you are in pain, you only feel pain.

Answer: All you feel is pain, but you begin to understand that it is meant to remind you that you are not okay, that you have to do something to get rid of it. In other words, pain is designed to get rid of pain. And this is your salvation.

Question: Then the question is: how to actually get rid of it?

Answer: Discover the cause of the pain and distance from it first of all. And then explore and understand that maybe the very cause of pain is for you, for your benefit, and you should be content that it exists.

Question: Can you name the main cause of pain?

Answer: The main cause of pain is that a person does not want to feel pain. If he was to tell himself that I am ready to feel pain, then by moving in that direction, he would cease to feel it. It is not easy, but it is possible.

Question: It means that if you as if approach it and accept it, then it begins to subside?

Answer: Yes. Then you start to feel its opposite side.

Question: This is his second question: “Is it possible not to feel pain or to rise above it?”

Answer: It is possible to rise and it is possible not feel pain if a person wants it. Everything depends on the awareness of evil. If a person senses evil, then he is ready to endure any pain in order to get rid of this evil to the extent of the awareness of it.

Question: When you say “awareness of evil,” it is awareness of what—my nature or…?

Answer: My nature or the pain it evokes in me. I am ready to endure. And so much so that I do not feel pain.

Question: So it is like surgery, where this evil is cut out from me?

Answer: Yes, and it needs to be cut out, I am ready for it! I cannot live with it.

Question: How can one come to this sensation of evil?

Answer: It is coming. When it is necessary, it will come.

Question: But are we being guided to this?

Answer: We are being guided to a realization that pain is salvation. It indicates what is bad in us. And we must agree to the removal of the cause of pain in order to achieve good.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/19/23

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Question: It often happens that the higher the result, the more it does not promise anything good during the stages of growth.

The sourest fruit becomes the most delicious, and you already thought of cutting down the tree. The genius was failing at school; they wanted to kick him out of school, and he became Einstein.

The beautiful swan was once an ugly duckling. We know this story. The question is why is this so? Why is it necessary to be an ugly duckling first?

Answer: It is because such is the path of development of opposites that nothing can develop in a straight path but only as it is written, “through its opposite.” That is, there is a direct phenomenon, but its opposite consequences occur before it.

We need to respect a person in any of his states because they all do not mean anything. How many such examples have we had in history when completely useless, unnecessary children grew up to be geniuses and vice-versa.

Question: Then the question is how to recognize them?

Answer: There is no way! You cannot recognize it in any way. We just need to give everyone the opportunity to develop.

Question: Where can a person get the patience from? He sees that nothing will grow out of it. Nothing will grow out of this weed. Where does one get patience?

Answer: How does he know that nothing will grow out of it?

Comment: But you say yourself that we cannot know.

My Response: This is why he has to stop himself. Because nothing is created in vain, and every object in our world has its purpose. It is not up to you to decide what it should be now, and what it should be in the future. Therefore, just stop yourself.

Question: What if we give such an opportunity? Let’s say we restrain ourselves and let everything develop.

Answer: Give everyone the opportunity to develop correctly. Let him develop in him all the qualities that the Creator embedded in him, and you will see.

Question: Thus, it turns out that I am changing—the one who wants to destroy all this. Is this my ascent above my nature?

Answer: Absolutely right.

Question: Is this the most important thing by and large?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Now the question is, is our world today like an ugly duckling? A lot of people also have this state. The Internet is full of these phrases: “May it burn down! Yes, I wish that this world would not exist! Yes, we all need to start over!” And so on. What is this ugly duckling developing into?

Answer: To the fact that we recognize evil, our evil, what we have brought the world to, and give it the opportunity to develop correctly with our new attitude to it.

Question: Is that why we see this world so corrupted?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So are you saying that I am the one who is corrupted?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Does everyone have to come to this?

Answer: I do not know about everyone. But basically such a thought and such an attitude should be dominant.

Comment: But I see that they do not come to this. Quite the opposite.

My Response: They will come to this.

Comment: You are an optimist here saying that we will come to this.

My Response: The fact that we will come to this is definite. But the question is through what kind of blows.

I think we need to understand that the world is ready for the best state. We need to think about why we do not let it be like that.

The fact that we see it so sour and bad today is the result of our attitude toward the world.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/21/23

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Timur writes: I have listened carefully several times to your explanations of what the Torah is. I realize that the Torah is instruction for correction. I realize that the serpent is in me, and it is always egging me on. I even feel that I cannot stop and therefore I spoil the relationship with my wife and friends even though I do not want to do that. My first question is: How do I crush this serpent?

Question:  He understands that it is his ego, his pride, that is spoiling his life. Can this serpent be crushed?

Answer: In general, a person himself can try to do this all his life and fail. Although a lot of people are doing this and want to be better, but it does not work out directly this way.

It will work only in one way; if we create an external environment, that is, a human society, that will put pressure on everyone, impose on everyone in the right way, in a good way, how to behave with each other, then it will work.

But so far, it has not worked anywhere. So, of course, everything is fine, but for some reason it always turns out very badly.

Comment: You just said this: it will not work individually if I just want to crush it in myself. You think this is doomed to fail. But if we want to sort this out, then you say that such an option is possible here.

My Response: “We” means the group, a society. Let’s try.

Question: Will it, this serpent, our egoism, be crushed? What will happen to it?

Answer: Such a “tapeworm” lives inside us.

Question: Will it keep living?

Answer: There is nothing we can do to it.

The only thing we can do is just agree among ourselves that we will all oppose it and thereby strangle it in ourselves.

Question: But not to death, you are saying?

Answer: No, it is impossible to strangle it to death. This is no longer our work. We just have to want it to quiet down so much that it kind of ceases to exist. So that it does not speak but huddles in a corner somewhere and stays there.

Question: Timur has a second question: “Is there something good about the serpent? After all, I know that in our world snake venom is used as medicine.”

Answer: There is a lot of good in the serpent and, in principle, there is nothing bad about it. Nothing! It is only to the extent that a person cannot fight his serpent that he discovers that the serpent is evil. But he detects this only in order to work with it correctly.

In general, the serpent is a creation of the Creator. It was created in order to correct a person and lead him to absolute goodness.

A person cannot fight the serpent; this is clear. But he can ask the Creator for this.

Question: How did humanity figure out that it is possible to use snake venom for medicine? This is some kind of reverse thought. Poison on one hand, on the other hand, medicine.

Answer: Any poison is a medicine. There is nothing bad or evil in the world. Nothing! Moreover, the venom of the snake, which seems at the first glance designed to kill everything, is precisely a great medicine.

Question: Timor’s third question is: “Is it possible to live in peace with the serpent?”

Answer: If we manage to control it, the serpent that is in us, that evil (envy, jealousy, hostility, and pride), then, of course, we will be able to use the whole serpent for good. It will be with us in an embrace, as with Adam and Eve.

Question: His fourth question is very interesting: “Why do we see the serpent in the Bible only at the beginning, in the Garden of Eden, and then nothing is said about it? After all, it exists. You said that it is in us until the very end.”

Answer: It is an eternal creature, an eternal being, an eternal nature, that will be with us all the time until we correct it at the end through our serious, long–term work.

Comment: But really, when reading the Torah (the Bible), we see that the word “serpent” ends there.

My Response: Yes, it is at the beginning, at the very beginning of the sin, at the foundation.

Question: But where is it later? Are all these, roughly speaking, evil heroes its personification?

Answer: Everything evil that happens in people and between people, all of this is the consequence of the serpent, called by other names, but this is it.

Question: Let’s finish about the serpent globally. The serpent, what is it?

Answer: It is not the serpent we imagine. It is what lives inside us and is our egoism that wants to exist only by itself, in spite of others, hates everyone and everything, and wants nothing but to rule over everyone.

This serpent is in us. There is no other serpent in principle. Its future lies in the fact that we will define it as the only evil inclination of the entire nature, which we must necessarily exterminate from ourselves.

Question: Exterminate, after all?

Answer: Yes. To exterminate it from ourselves means that we must understand where it is, in what form, and how we can deal with it. That is, the serpent is a purely spiritual substance.

Question: When you say “exterminate,” does it mean to conquer, put in a cage, or what?

Answer: Do whatever you want. Tie it into a knot and do not let it stick its head out of you.

Question: Recently you said that it is necessary to project warmth and love. When you say that we should approach each other with kindness and warmth, does it mean that we are going to conquer this serpent?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Will it at the same time become stronger?

Answer: After all, we must understand that the fight against the serpent is a work for all times until complete correction.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/18/23

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I grew up my whole life among sages, and have not found anything good for the body besides silence (Masechet Avot, 1:17).

Question: Why does silence have such a height, I have not found anything good besides silence?

Answer: Because a person, in principle, should talk to himself. When he talks to himself, he begins to transition to the Creator.

Question: Prayers are written in words after all, and are said three times a day when necessary. There is a time for saying prayers. Why?

Answer: This is for those who do not know how to be silent. It is for those who need to say something, cry out, and so on.

Usually, if a person can express it all within himself, it is the best and strongest. It is a screaming silence.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/21/23

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Dear Michael Laitman,
Trouble has brought us together again. We are again confident that the people are united, we will defeat any enemies, we can, we are strong, and we defend our home. I agree with all this, but where is the Creator now, the one you keep talking about? Or is it implied that He is inside this unity of ours?
Ilya

My Response: We can say that we are close to misfortune. It is our enemies who have silenced us relative to each other.

Question: Do you mean that there is still a lot of work to be done?

Answer: Not only that still needs to be done, but we need to do the work! We were forced to forget about some internal quarrels. But we must understand that we must do serious work on a mistake. The mistake is mutual hatred, revealed in us by the Creator who specifically awakens it so that we ask Him to make peace and love between us.

Question: Do we still have to come to this?

Answer: Of course! And come in what way? We have to recognize and feel that there is mutual rejection and hatred between us. We have to rise above it.

This work is constant! It is not something that will pass in a couple of weeks, and that is it. This hatred will not go away. We have reached a level of connection between us, which is called mutual hatred. We have to suppress it from above with our love for each other. It is through hatred that we can reach love.

Question: You just said a very interesting thing. Is this a level of hatred? This level is already very high. Should love have the same level?

Answer: It should be even more, above the hatred.

This love is not ready, and it is not there so that you can take and replace one with another. It must be born out of ourselves! Precisely, in such serious labor pains. I think it is not easy, this work is for many years to come.

Question: Now everyone is thinking and talking, of course, about victory. Tell me, please, what do you call victory?

Answer: By victory, I mean the victory of a person over oneself. When one realizes that to win, he must defeat himself because besides him there is only the Creator. Here, nothing can be otherwise.

The only thing we need is to truly understand that we have always behaved incorrectly. Now is the time to understand, realize, and admit who is to blame.

It is us. By hating each other, we have led ourselves and the country to the fact that it cannot exist in this way. We must give a clear answer to this and proceed with what we must do to make this country Jewish and viable.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/12/23

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