Question: My wife does not study Kabbalah. Would it be better if we studied it together?

Answer: Yes and no, it depends on how you coexist together. It is probably more peaceful for you that she does not study Kabbalah, but supports you.

Why? Because sometimes a man and a woman can enter into a very strong resonance.

The Creator gives each person the appropriate conditions according to their soul, and you must accept them as the best and most optimal for progressing toward complete correction.

So there is no need to complain about anything except your own lack of participation in the group. That is where your progress lies.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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Question: What is the role of a woman in Kabbalah?

Answer: It is the same as the role of a man. Nothing changes.

In our world where we exist in physical bodies with material desires and family responsibilities, we are very different from each other.

But in the spiritual world, the work of men and women is the same. Kabbalah says a lot about the role of a woman and how she rules the world. Our world is also secretly ruled by women.

Malchut is the female part of the Kli, the soul. It determines everything. In our world, we always see men as producing something, doing something, but in fact there are women behind them who silently, even without words control them.

That is why women’s groups are very important to us. We would really like them to develop even more. The main role of a woman in Kabbalah is to push a man to fulfill his spiritual mission. As a mother pushes a child: “Do it,” trains him, stands behind him, so women need to manage men.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/19, “Questions and Answers”

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The female’s craving for the male makes a soul. And also, the male’s craving for the female and his adhesion with her produces a soul, which includes the soul from the craving of the female and takes it. Thus, the craving of the lower one, the female, is included in the craving of the upper one, the male, and the two souls become one, without separation.

And then the female contains everything, taking both souls and becoming impregnated by the male in them (Rashbi, Zohar for All, Lech Lecha, “Like an Apple Tree among the Trees of the Forest”).

The male’s craving for the female and vice versa are two different cravings, two different copulations.

The Book of Zohar explains which of them is the first and which is the second. Depending on this, one or another type of soul is born.

But this is not important. The main thing is that they merge together. Of course, the Nekeva conceives since it accepts the male part of the soul (Zachar). Therefore, it turns out that they get included in each other and become one whole.

Question: And yet this intercourse differs depending on who was striving for whom?

Answer: Yes, this is what determines who is born: a boy or a girl.

Question: In what case does this happen? Suppose a boy is when a man longs for a woman, and a girl is when a woman longs for a man?

Answer: Yes, it seems so.

Question: Why is it that precisely the Nekeva is decisive? As it is written: “And then the female contains everything, taking both souls and becoming impregnated by the male in them.”

Answer: This is how nature created it.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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Question: In our world men do not need much, everything is much simpler for them than for women. Women are so different and multifaceted. What is the reason for this complexity?

Answer: A woman is like the whole world. The female gives rise to life for any organism. It is the most complex organism in our world.

Question: Is the Nekeva (female) so multifaceted in the spiritual world too? Or is it still some kind of one desire, one state?

Answer: In spirituality this is absolutely not felt, since the female part suppresses itself in relation to the male part there, and the male part prevails in everything.

Question: Does she suppress herself deliberately and consciously?

Answer: Of course. After all, in principle, she should only give the sex of the child and some earthly properties and the higher properties come from the husband.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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Everything is mingled with each other and when the souls come out, male and female are mingled in them as one (The Book of Zohar, “Like an Apple Tree between Forest Trees“).

Question: Why is both masculine and feminine included in each of us?

Answer: It comes from nature. Our body is designed in such a way that it cannot have only one property; it has both male and female hormones, all kinds of properties. Even in the human psyche there is a masculine side and a feminine side.

Question: What is the function of the second half, which does not seem to apply to me, I am a man. Why do I need female hormones?

Answer: Without it, you would not understand a woman. Such one-sidedness would manifest itself in many things, and you would not be able to develop because the female component also takes part in your development. Conversely, there are some masculine qualities in a woman.

Question: Does it happen that masculine qualities prevail in a woman?

Answer: Yes, it can be detected even by appearance and not only by matching properties.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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Question: Is there any hierarchy in women’s advancement? Is it built in a special way?

Answer: There is no hierarchy at all. Women are not like men who have to constantly rise up and forward.

Question: It turns out that a woman is focused on herself: home, clothes, etc. Is that why you often say that women’s work is to put some kind of pressure on men?

Answer: Yes, not only to put pressure on her husband, but also to raise children, especially boys, to encourage them to study, and so on.

This, in fact, is her spiritual work despite her down-to-earth nature.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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Question: Have you experienced situations where your wife’s opinion was very important to you and you listened to her?

Answer: Of course. There are moments in family life when, first of all, I see that I cannot make certain decisions without my wife. On the other hand, her opinion is necessary, not only because she is knowledgeable and understanding, but because she is your other half. It would cost you dearly if you do not listen to her. So I believe it is essential to consult with your wife.

Question: You beautifully said that she is the other half and she is even more precious. It feels like male and female parts come together into one whole. That is very beautiful! Did you ever see such a relationship between your teacher Rabash and his wife that you could take as an example?

Answer: No, in this regard, he was very private. Although I was always around, I did not see any particular external display of their connection.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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Question: We talk a lot about the need for connection. With men everything is clear, there is a lot written about it in the Torah. But what about the connection of women? Because the Torah says nothing about it.

Answer: A woman, in general, does not connect with anyone. Of course, she can have friends both in childhood and when she grows up. But for her, there is a period when she gets married, gives birth, and takes care of her children and family. This is her whole life. So there cannot be much else here.

Question: It turns out that her main function is still the home.

Answer: Yes.

Question: I can say from my own experience that this fills me very much. I feel like a queen in the house. This is mine!

But what is the function of a man? To give a woman this feeling? Not to interfere or to help?

Answer: It is to give a feeling, not to interfere, to help. That is true.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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My husband and I both do not understand how we chose each other. We are so different—like water and fire. And when I remember how it happened, I remember that I did not choose him for his beautiful eyes, there was no “at first sight” between us. And not because he is handsome or strong.

I chose him by smell. But it was not the perfume; it was the smell of my childhood. I don’t even know how to explain it. That is why I ask you, please explain it to me: how could smell conquer everything: character, beauty, everything? (From a Letter to Dr. Laitman)

Answer: It can be so because smell is a very natural sensation that attracts and binds a person so much that one cannot get away from it.

Question: Why is the smell of childhood a decisive factor?

Answer: Because childhood leaves a pleasant impression on us.

Question: Forever? The smell of childhood?

Answer: Basically, yes.

Question: After all, a person lives with another person who has his or her own character, his or her own appearance, his or her own, as we said, peculiarities, thorns, and so on. And you say that after all, above all this, above all this is the smell?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What happens? I inhale. Is it something in the nose or in the heart?

Answer: You have a part of the other.

Question: And this cannot be done any other way but by smell?

Answer: No other way.

Question: Please tell me, is it connected to the heart? After all, they became a couple, they continued to live together. The smell, how is it connected with everything: with the heart, with the soul, with the brain, with everything?

Answer: It leaves you with an impression that explains to you that this person relates to those sensations that you once experienced in connection with this smell.

Question: Good ones?

Answer: Yes, therefore, you cannot so easily leave this behind.

Question: If we understand it, is it possible to maintain the smell?

Answer: Of course.

Question: It is possible? Although in fact it probably disappeared.

Answer: It doesn’t matter; we are animals in this regard. Smell is purely an animal thing.

Question: I wonder how can one maintain the scent if it disappeared? That is it, this smell is gone, but still.

Answer: It is in you. It is the Reshimot (records).

Question: The records?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/12/24

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Question: Many women have been studying with you for many years because they have a desire for spirituality. What qualities should they choose so as not to remain stagnant, not to cool off, not to pass through all this, but to truly progress toward the Creator? What should they focus on?

Answer: If a woman wants, then we have courses for both men and women, general classes, and so on. In principle, it is the same information, the same curriculum as for men.

When this course ends and it can last from three or four to ten or fifteen years. Depending on how you study, the person continues studying according to a different plan.

Question: And yet, what will help a woman the most in her spiritual progress? A man, or her personal effort in something specific?

Answer: Generally, a woman does not strive for spirituality in the same way as a man. She is much more involved with herself and her family: children, clothing, comfort, and so on. All of this is very important to her. For a man, if he truly desires spirituality, it becomes everything for him. Everything else makes up only about five percent of his concerns. For women, it is the opposite.

Therefore, her progress depends on the man, on her husband. We see this in life although there have been only a few examples in history—like the wife of Rabbi Akiva or the daughter of Rashi. Generally, a woman cannot progress in the same way as a man. Such women have been very rare.

Question: Did these women have a special soul?

Answer: Yes, but it was still a female soul.
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From KabTV’s “Men and Women” 8/20/24

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