Entries in the 'Man and Woman' Category

How To Find Your Soulmate

560Question: Dating sites are very popular in the world nowadays. How can you find your soulmate and not lose him or her?

Answer: I do not think that there is much romance in our time. I believe that we can find our soulmate correctly only if we clearly know who we are, who suits us, and if we do not turn to matchmakers and even more so to soulless sites.

Therefore, to find one’s soulmate, a person must first clearly determine for oneself who he or she is and only then search more purposefully.

Question: How can we help them discover who they are?

Answer: A person should be engaged in self-improvement, self-education, and self-development. It may take a few years but only then will one be able to properly assess and understand what kind of partner he or she can live with. And one’s life will truly become beautiful.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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Woman—A Mystery To Men

627.1Question: Many men complain that they do not understand women. What is the most important thing a man should know about women?

Answer: Please them and respect them. You do not need anything else. A woman feels it very much.

If you want to treat her nicely and with respect, then a woman will always be your friend. You will be able to gain her trust and build a proper relationship with her. Consider her more as a friend than a woman, and then everything will be fine.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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A Mother’s Heart

623A mother’s heart is located at the central point of the entire universe, both corporeal and spiritual. After all, it is from this very point that spiritual and corporeal birth occurs. There is nothing stronger than a mother’s heart; it is the most sensitive, most important point in all of reality. The Creator created a desire, which is the basis of a mother’s heart.

Therefore, if women begin to think at least a little about unity, they will already touch this central point of the entire universe from where the birth of all of humanity, the common soul, began. The world will come to correction only through a woman.

A woman has tremendous power that gives birth, develops, and organizes. And vice versa, if a woman does not participate in this correction, then she turns into a cause of contention, into a place of estrangement and evil. Therefore, I really hope that women will unite and bring peace, tranquility and unity to humanity.
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From the Women’s Lesson 8/29/20, “Bnei Baruch Rule Toward Humanity”

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Intimate Relationships Have Become State Treason

627.2Remark: North Korea has declared war on intimate relationships between teenagers. The head of North Korea Kim Jong Un declared intimate relationships in adolescence was treasonous and announced plans to make it a punishable offense.

According to the head of the DPRK, sex between teenagers is “immoral sexual deviancy,” and it is caused by “decadent capitalist influences.” Control began in schools.

My Comment: Good education is not built on violence. In addition, today young people between the ages of 14 and 15 are such teenagers, if you can call them teenagers, that in our time people were at the age of 20. Of course, it is very difficult to keep today’s youth from all kinds of sexual relationships because everything is open. They have the Internet, but people are still people..

Question: What should replace their fervor that naturally pushes them toward each other?

Answer: I think that it cannot be replaced because the desire for sexual satisfaction is very strong in a man, especially in a teenager. Of course, I would give them a very serious education.

Question: What would you teach them?

Answer: Everything! Anatomy, physiology, psychology, sexology, what a man and a woman are, what birth is. I would definitely teach and show everything through all sorts of movies. There is nothing to hide. That only makes it worse. They will be busy with it even more, and they will acquire all kinds of misconceptions. The forbidden fruit is sweet. I would definitely open all this.

Question: Where would they come to as a result?

Answer: Where they are now, but in a normal form, without any distortion. They would know how they are built, what nature requires of us, what our psychology is, so that we behave correctly, that we are pleasant people for ourselves and for others, so that we are not ashamed of all this.

Just raise it from the level of secrecy to the level of frankness. You will see that all this has a completely different taste, a completely different attitude.

Question: Would they come to the correct connection?

Answer: Yes, there must be a correct connection. It still does not exist today. Still today sexology, anatomy, physiology, and psychology of correct sexual intercourse are not taught correctly.

Question: Would you include into this understanding what friendship is and what love is?

Answer: Yes, it “clothes” in this. Then both friendship and love will be human components. Human, not animal! If I am hungry, should I eat? So, I should have this as well. This is what my body requires, what can I do?! I think only about this. Food and then sex, that is all.

Question: Would friendship and love then clothe in this base?

Answer: This does not relate to physiology that much. Then you need to understand how to put it together.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/13/20

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips About The Family – 5/21/20

560Question: Can a married couple of the same sex provide the right education for children?

Answer: No. A child must have two different people, opposite in their natural attributes.

Question: Is a family with a robot an option? Is there such an option in the near future of humanity?

Answer: I do not think so. That would not be a good family.

Question: Can we say that there are conflicts at the basis of a strong family?

Answer: Sometimes.

Question: Does online connection strengthen the family?

Answer: Not based on today’s Internet, no. I hope it will be the case in the future.

Question: Is there a future for the virtual family?

Answer: A virtual family cannot be the future. A family is not beyond the boundaries of the home.

Question: There is a whole section in family life called “expectation.” What should we expect in a spouse?

Answer: Mutual understanding, mutuality!

Question: Do we need to choose a partner according to the equivalence of attributes, or quite the opposite, the more different people are in their character, the stronger the unity between them is?

Answer: A couple needs to be opposite from each other and they need to understand their oppositeness, that each of them has a mind and the desire to complement each other.

Question: Is it a good idea to build a family today in the first place?

Answer: It is impossible without a family. A family needs to exist for our sake, for the sake of the education of children. A person without a family is not a human being, but half a body.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Live By The Laws Of Nature

959Comment: On one hand, you say that you need to live by the laws of nature, and on the other, you welcome that everyone has finally stopped producing unnecessary things and they can stay at home with their family.

My Response: This is a temporary phenomenon. I don’t think people can spend all their time at home. In principle, this is not necessary because it is an unjustified waste of time and life. It is necessary to do what is useful for society, for nature, for maintaining homeostasis.

Question: How do you think household responsibilities should be distributed among family members?

Answer: In a natural way. A man should help a woman, and a woman should maintain the home.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Why Is There No Instinctive Love Between Us?

294.4Question: Can we assume that the instinctive love for children that nature instills in us can be used as an example of our relationship to other people?

Answer: It would, of course, be wonderful. This is what the science of Kabbalah calls for: a person should treat everyone as his family because the whole world is one family. But we are still far from that.

Question: Do you think that the family unit was created by nature in order for a person to receive at least some example of the instinctive love that is inherent in us and then he or she could go through life with this example?

Answer: In principle, in the beginning, the family was a unit in which several generations lived together in close connection with each other. This was how nature intended if man, with his or her egoism, which is constantly developing in him or her, did not break this connection and did not build something from the original good family unit that turned into mutual enmity and hatred.

We see that such examples are already embedded in us. Cain and Abel, although brothers, had enmity toward each other. In this example humanity shows how deep and kind family ties can produce a completely opposite result.

Question: Why is there no instinctive love between spouses? Then the family would be stronger and the upbringing would be better.

Answer: Because people feel a huge gap between themselves. They have a desire for each other based only on the sexual instinct. Therefore, one should not associate the reproductive instinct with the instinct of attraction. These are completely different levels of relationships.

Question: But why didn’t nature create such an instinctive love between partners as the love of parents for a child?

Answer: In order for us to create it ourselves. We must constantly learn this.

And our instinctive love for children is very weak. We also need to develop it and talk about it all the time. There should be normal examples around us. Unfortunately, this is not in man. Everything is suppressed by our personal egoism.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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The Vaccine Is Already There In Every Heart

284.01The main thing in the fight against coronavirus is to understand the disease itself. Until we understand what state we are in, we will not be able to move forward to the next stage toward healing. After all, nature is not going to give us a miracle cure that will allow us to end the virus and forget about it.

Nature’s purpose is not to guide us through the disease and cure us. Nature wants the suffering from the virus to compel us to reveal the human factor in it, that is, our disconnection and unkind relations with each other.

And then we will correct the attitude of one to another, in order to start worrying about what other people think and feel, we will understand what is in their hearts. If we do not establish such a relationship, we will continue to suffer from the coronavirus or other viruses that are behind it in a long line. The epidemic will not end because we are in a new era and are obliged to correct the peoples’ attitude toward others.

Every bad state is the result of our hatred for each other. The very realization of this already serves as the beginning of the treatment. If humanity hears this message, this is already half of the cure. We don’t need all these vaccines. Every country is now trying to be the first to release a vaccine against the coronavirus, not in order to cure humanity, but to make money on it.

This is exactly the opposite action. Every country wants to sell a vaccine. It is not proud of the fact that it can save all of humanity, it does not offer everyone: “Take our vaccine and be treated!” No, it says, “Buy this.” That is, here we are acting exactly opposite of how this blow directs us. And so the vaccine will not bring any improvement.

But we already have a cure for the coronavirus, we have a vaccine. And it is very simple: a kind attitude toward each other neutralizes all viruses. Did you want a vaccine? You have it! Everyone has a cure for the virus in their hearts. Use it! Nothing is needed other than this.

This antivirus in the heart is love, unity, closeness of the heart. It is the most reliable medicine that destroys all viruses. Let’s run clinical trials like trial vaccines are being tested now. We will organize a group in which people really start to get closer to each other, and make sure that they are not affected by the coronavirus.

And in this a woman with her mother’s heart has a special role. If women really wanted to get rid of the coronavirus, and realized that this was possible due to their joint efforts, they would do it.

Otherwise, the epidemic will grow, because the summer is over and children are returning to school. And then the time will come for holidays, festive gatherings and prayers. If we leave everything as it is, there will be no end to the blows. Nature will not yield.

We are in a new era called the “last generation,” and we must come to love our neighbor as ourselves. Only this can be a cure for all diseases that are now awaiting humanity, in all forms. We don’t even know where to expect blows from, but they will come.

We hope that women all over the world will hear us and understand that in the heart of every person, and especially women, there is a power that can save everyone. It seems that the relationship between people has no connection with the virus, with chemistry and biology, but in fact it does. Our relationship has the highest, hidden power, and therefore, only by correcting them, can we cope with viruses. Otherwise, we will all suffer, and above all, women.

Understanding that the virus appears as a result of an egoistic connection between us, and good relations destroy the virus and serve as a medicine—this very knowledge will already begin to heal us. Good relationships are the source of all good, and the lack of such connection is the source of all evil, and the coronavirus is meant to prove it to us.

A woman as a mother should direct the whole family to treat others kindly. Do you remember how our mother instructed us, sending us to school or walking in the yard: “Be a good child, do not fight, and then they will not hurt you either. Cross the street only along the proper passage. Take care of others, help them, and then they will help you too.” This is called being a “good kid.” So let’s all be good kids. And women, mothers, must tell us this. After all, we do not lose anything by it!

Why do we teach children to behave well on the street and are confident that it will do them good? Because we know that kindness evokes kindness in return. And it’s the same here, let’s become kinder to each other and see how it helps. And if it suddenly does not destroy the coronavirus, then what do we lose by limiting our selfishness a little, which brings us so many troubles?

It is worth trying the medicine that is already within us. It already exists, we don’t need to invent anything. And I am sure that if we use this medicine that is in our heart, we will defeat all viruses.
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From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 8/30/20

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Criticism In The Family

959Question: Do you think it is correct to criticize your partner for any actions and shortcomings, or should we try to treat them as if from the outside, as a doctor treats a patient?

Answer: Not as a doctor treats a patient, but gently and lovingly show that you expect something a bit different from him. Then it will affect both you and him.

Question: Do you think it is necessary to criticize?

Answer: Criticism is when I express dissatisfaction, disregard, and suppress my partner by this. And when I show him that I want to get something different from him to demonstrate our mutual relationship, then it is not criticism.

Question: Is it worth using such a practice when you can speak frankly with your partner without leaving any secrets? Or is it better to build boundaries, mark them, and not cross them?

Answer: I believe that there should be no boundaries! As a result of the correct interaction between partners, there should be absolutely no secrets because spouses transform into one whole.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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According To The Law Of Mutual Completion

95Question: You say that new values should include knowledge of the global laws of nature and their observance in family relationships, in particular, in cases of conflict between generations. Can you name at least one such law?

Answer: This is the law of mutual completion. For example, in a family, one exists in a certain volume on a natural level: the smallest are the most important. And the older and stronger a person is in the family, the more he owes the rest. This type of law should also exist in society.

Question: For thousands of years, there have been conflicts between women and men, between fathers and children, between nations and countries. What does nature want to show us?

Answer: Nature wants to demonstrate that we must rise above these conflicts to become one family. And in the family, there is mutual completion. Everyone makes their own feasible contribution to the common piggy bank: a small child with his participation and warmth, the adult with his greater participation, greater contribution.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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